NewStats: 3,261,762 , 8,175,056 topics. Date: Friday, 30 May 2025 at 12:46 PM 2t3s5s

There is someone you love so much and she loves you too. You both agreed to get married but things aren’t just falling in place in of financial stability. You both are getting older let’s say 31 and 29 respectively, and you know the pressure from the girl’s side. Pressure aside, women age faster than men. So in this condition what will you do? Would you allow her to go so she could find some else ? Do you feel you are wasting her time though not intentionally? What would you advice be to someone facing such situation?

Damnnn niggar

Ogbeni go huzzle so that things can fall in place for you

My man go hustle and marry that girl if she be loyal girl because nothing dey outside, wife material no reach 30% again o, almost every girl they run things even when you give her money every day, I can't even find a girlfriend right now

No hurry in life.Nor go marry without planning/financial stability . Nor go born children wey go suffer.If she leave,that doesn't mean u won't get somebody else.
Don't go rent house u can't afford to pay.Landlords aren't smiling now.Ur story won't moved them..

The worst thing that can happen to anyone is to settle down with the wrong person, it kills faster.
Who told you guys you're old? I saw a couple that recently got married for the very first time in their lives. The man is 60 years of age and the woman is 50 years old.
For the records hustle together get a stable income and do a small wedding.
Na to conceive be the matter? When there's IVF and surrogacy.

Leave her and find someone else. Time is no longer in her side. Women marry who is ready and cannot hold on to any poor dude!

Henryfocoyo:
My man go hustle and marry that girl if she be loyal girl because nothing dey outside, wife material no reach 30% again o, almost every girl they run things even when you give her money every day, I can't even find a girlfriend right now

so true. She is so loyal. I feel like crying actually

Love800:
Leave her and find someone else. Time is no longer in her side. Women marry who is ready and cannot hold on to any poor dude!

it is not as easy as you think

MrAmbrose:
The worst thing that can happen to anyone is to settle down with the wrong person, it kills faster.
Who told you guys you're old? I saw a couple that recently got married for the very first time in their lives. The man is 60 years of age and the woman is 50 years old.
For the records hustle together get a stable income and do a small wedding.
Na to conceive be the matter? When there's IVF and surrogacy.

this is encouraging. We are actually trying our best!

MaziObinnaokija:
No hurry in life.Nor go marry without planning/financial stability . Nor go born children wey go suffer.If she leave,that doesn't mean u won't get somebody else.
Don't go rent house u can't afford to pay.Landlords aren't smiling now.Ur story won't moved them..

the aspect of house rent has been settled already. Just stable income that can guarantee at least daily meal and other daily necessity

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

Ogbeni go huzzle so that things can fall in place for you

can you suggest any hustle? I used to have a salon around ugbowo axis of Benin but because of lack of sincerity from employees I have to close it down

Erimusk:
can you suggest any hustle? I used to have a salon around ugbowo axis of Benin but because of lack of sincerity from employees I have to close it down

Face it, you are not ready. You should stop acting like a woman that only operate emotionally and see what is right in front of you.
Your feelings is not important here the facts are.
Love will die when you have children that are hungry, a wife that will spend most of her time working overtime to supplement the little or nothing you will bring forward.
What is love when you can't provide for your family and live up to your responsibilities as a man of the house?

Only marry when you are ready, women have a different biological clock, that's a fact. But if LOVE is what that is controlling you, then by all means marry her, borrow money (or if possible swindle people to get the money), and make your fantasies come true and live happily ever after.

Mumu, stupid SIMP, go and make and leave that stupid girl alone

What is not easy, for the fake love they have been practising!
Dont you know her friends, relations, brothers, sisters and parents will tell her that there is no time! And that she should marry that rich mr dayo or mr ifeanyi that is asking after her! That will ginger her to leave you. She is already getting older day by day.

By the way, 90percent of we humans dont actually marry who will really want to settle with. Because by the time we were ready for him or her, the other person is not ready or not available again, due to changes and time!

Erimusk:
it is not as easy as you think

If she finds a man and and she will be happy, I let her go. I've done it before, it was hard but prioritize happiness and you will see it differently

If she is unwilling to go, by all means, get to do small thing on her head, maybe collect list and start your family. You will complete the process later

Collecting the list is important because in most culture, you collect list only once, if paraventure, the parent is late before you blow, relatives cannot add one naira to the list other than "Insult" in any event that you have a child or more

ITbomb:
If she finds a man and and she will be happy, I let her go. I've done it before, it was hard but prioritize happiness and you will see it differently

If she is unwilling to go, by all means, get to do small thing on her head, maybe collect list and start your family. You will complete the process later

Collecting the list is important because in most culture, you collect list only once, if paraventure, the parent is late before you blow, relatives cannot add one naira to the list other than "Insult" in any event that you have a child or more

hmmm

Erimusk:
There is someone you love so much and she loves you too. You both agreed to get married but things aren’t just falling in place in of financial stability. You both are getting older let’s say 31 and 29 respectively, and you know the pressure from the girl’s side. Pressure aside, women age faster than men. So in this condition what will you do? Would you allow her to go so she could find some else ? Do you feel you are wasting her time though not intentionally? What would you advice be to someone facing such situation?

Both of you are still young, but if you know you won't marry her later, please kindly let her go now so she can settle down while she still has time.

Also, since you can handle your personal shits and she can manage hers, why not marry her lowkey now and delay having kids until you're financially ready? It's doable.

Tallesty1:
Both of you are still young, but if you know you won't marry her later, please kindly let her go now so she can settle down while she still has time.

Also, since you can handle your personal shits and she can manage hers, why not marry her lowkey now and delay having kids until you're financially ready? It's doable.

very sensible. Thanks for your contribution

Not hard if she's the understanding type @29. As long as you can feed yourselves and one little baby, I will encourage you to go ahead. Gather money and do small introduction, tell her family "noise-making" wedding comes later. Depends on how you talk/carry yourself, they will agree. Don't wait till you have plenty money. As you're hustling, you child will be growing, and things will eventually fall into place.

TheFreshVanilla:
Not hard if she's the understanding type @29. As long as you can feed yourselves and one little baby, I will encourage you to go ahead. Gather money and do small introduction, tell her family "noise-making" wedding comes later. Depends on how you talk/carry yourself, they will agree. Don't wait till you have plenty money. As you're hustling, you child will be growing, and things will eventually fall into place.

thank you so much! I am making plans already hopefully next year

Only Blaizetrailer, a buffoon known as Nairaland's Mr Fool will think 31 is old

Erimusk:
There is someone you love so much and she loves you too. You both agreed to get married but things aren’t just falling in place in of financial stability. You both are getting older let’s say 31 and 29 respectively, and you know the pressure from the girl’s side. Pressure aside, women age faster than men. So in this condition what will you do? Would you allow her to go so she could find some else ? Do you feel you are wasting her time though not intentionally? What would you advice be to someone facing such situation?

Please leave her and don't cause problem for yourself,the love that is sharking both of you will wear off 1 year after marriage due to financial difficulty.
There are 4 billion women in this world and more are on the way every day,you will meet your spec anytime anyday after you are financially stable.
Ned nwoko married regina daniels when he was 59 years and they have two kids now, so you still have over 20 years to go and you will still be able to have children as a man.
find any hustle and hustle so that at 40 you have built your life then you will be able to pick any girl that meets your requirements.
Poverty will destroy that love and can even turn you as a man to a woman beater due to stress,if you like don't listen it is your life you are playing with.

What is LOVE?
you better face reality and let her move while you get yourself together. There are millions of LOVE and FOREVER out there when money is made.

OP, all what you need is DISCIPLINE!

This 2025 we are going into, Just tell yourself I want to make Like 1million in 6months.
And work hard to achieve it.

Then Rent a small Apartment, meet her Family and do only Introduction (Plead with them that Traditional and Wedding will come later).

With that, You guys are good to go.

Interesting comments depicting two different perspectives. It will be good to know which one the poster will go with and the outcome years down the line.

Why don't you borrow money to marry her😒😒😒