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Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

brotherly, na you dey fine trouble whr trouble no dey. Your roommate had every right to ask her to sweep. He can't see your girlfriend in arms way outside and walk past her, he will go for her rescue.

Your gf shouldn't even wait for your friend to ask her to do that, a clean girl will do it once she steps her foot into your house.

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Sorry to say, this ur talk na yeye talk. I dont pray to make some one like you as a friend. Lets be frank here, do you expect your friend to sweet the place for the both of you. Your gal in question, shey common sense no tell r say na her bf place be this and its dirty since na we go use here let me keep it clean. I dont think that guy over stepped his boundary but you are just taking little matters to heart because you feel she is gold. Wait oo shebi room mates are meant to be buddy and have each odas back. I grew up with men and during my service days anybody wey bring woman na d woman go cook and clean. In fact she go even dey play with my guys as if na there gf. I wonder why u own case kan different own. Besides women are known for keeping place neat and tidy better than guys,. You should be happy ur gf made d place neat

Your room mate is right.
Let's assume that it's your younger brother that is home, would you say he should sweep the room while your girlfriend is sitting idle?

ZACHIE:
If as a young school leaver you throw abuses at people you hardly know, your journey is far, sir.

calm your ego veins down. Learn about shared responsibility and communal living. it will help you, sir.

I tire for the guy!

First of all your girlfriend isn't suppose to wait for anybody to tell her before doing the needful. I don't see anything wrong with what your roommate did, though I don't know the tone he used to tell her.

* Jane please sweep the room.

* Jane please sweep the room!


The first sentence is very
gentle and respectful while the second is a command/disrespectful and could provoke someone.

Mandate1:
brotherly, na you dey fine trouble whr trouble no dey. Your roommate had every right to ask her to sweep. He can't see your girlfriend in arms way outside and walk past her, he will go for her rescue.

Your gf shouldn't even wait for your friend to ask her to do that, a clean girl will do it once she steps her foot into your house.

This is an elder speaking and not those children. God bless you sir

So u want ur roommate or you to sweep the room for her? What kind of spoilt gfs do u keep?

She should even wash the dishes.

Undilutedme:
Be ashamed for your useless father, not me

with this kind of pride and ego,you are living in a shared apartment,you don’t know people who live in flats during service year?.your room mate asked your gf to sweep the room,ordinarily a normal girl will see a room that needs attention immediately she enters.people are pointing out your errors and you are attacking them.you are still a very young guy and you have not even started life yet,this behaviour will take you no where I life.

Based on your report.
You overreacted: by coming here to complain.

I don't see anything wrong for your friend to ask her to sweep the room or do you want your friend to sweep the room for her?


Pray make baba God bless you with money, just get 3 bedroom flat, then let your friend (if he get mind) ask her to sweep the house again.


To my fellow Nairalanders, try and make money to avoid this same thread.

The OP is a boy. He will understand better later. Unfortunately you cannot delete topics on nl even if you edit your posts. Mumu boy.

What's this nonsense?! Why can't your roommate ask your gf to sweep the room,no be man like you?! Doesn't she make use of the space too ?! You never even make money yet you don get pride finish,dey form Simbad onto woman matter.

To me i did not see anything wrong with it.

You should pick the lines he used to tell your girlfriend to sweep the floor, if it is commanding, then he is wrong....

You have spoken to him, and as guys still call him to understand you or wait when his girlfriend comes, you treat her as he treated yours, with that a mutual understanding will easily be felt...

Moreso, pls condition your girlfriend to come when you are always around, is not good to leave a girl vulnerable to take decisions by herself when you are not around

I love the fact you are growing as well by getting a job, kudos, pls do and move out, life is more enjoyed in privacy....

Abeg, carry your matter comot here. She’s not your wife. She’ll leave you soon for reasons best known to her. With her gone, every experience you guys shared will become shit flushed down a toilet.

If she was your wife, I’d tell you to split the guy’s lip with your fist. This is a girlfriend. I’ll tell you to not waste your breath. You’ve done the best to your power. Let it go. At least the house was neat — it benefitted both of you. Her also.

This situation reminds me of when we lived eight guys in one house. An idiot out of the group decided to bring a live-in girlfriend who turned a six-day stay into two years. The bingo littered the whole house when she was meant to stay in one room all day and night. All seven of us decided on a means to make her useful. If she couldn’t clean due to her upbringing then she’ll cook for all of us. It worked for a while until she packed her load and ran because she found cooking for eight men challenging. Her man couldn’t do anything because majority wins in such situation and the bitch wasn’t paying rent. We continued this arrangement until all our girlfriends had turns cooking for everybody. I learned many women know only how to apply makeup and nothing else.

Truly, you have conscience. You want to keep both friends and avoid disrespect for your friends integrity.

Firstly, I like the courage of you approaching your roommate to experience your mind and anger towards his actions - you have being respecting your relationship with him according to your write up.

Secondly, I give kudos to you protecting what you have being nurturing. So don't bother yourself on someone who can't pay attention to matter like "Respect Boundaries". However, what had happened have bring out signs of many things - immoral values. You should understand better.

Thirdly, this is an opinion. Try to get your own apartment be it a one or two room. Let your own privacy be paramount to you. This is the only way to avoid see finish.

I am entitled to my own opinion.

Have a pleasant day ahead.

xtivin:
Op na Simp, it's written all over him. Girlfriend wey yahooboi don collect finish,odee. ur guy na correct bro....if na me she go wash my boxers.

Read this post of yours man and tell me where u input the advise he’s seeking for.

You all keep throwing the word “simp” around without knowing what it actually connotes.

Even if your friend no tell her to sweep she supposed know the right thing to do if she really came from good family,,,, you dey cra$e for that post wey you post you lack integrity go and

erniok:

Read!!! The rommie has a girl too. Always having an opinion without a deep understanding of the matter at hand.

Weyrey
Where in the post did it say the roommate has a girlfriend too?

Even if your friend no tell her to sweep she supposed know the right thing to do if she really came from good family,,,, you dey cra$e for that post wey you post you lack integrity go and

MuslimIgbo:

Weyrey
Where in the post did it say the roommate has a girlfriend too?

Another dummy. You should upgrade your comprehension skills.

Undilutedme:
Be ashamed for your useless father, not me

Oloriburuku ọdẹ
Lowlife illiterate wey dey carry woman.
If your useless papa train you well, you'll be ashamed of your in this situation

Esthered:
This thread is funny sha.
When I was counting my husband, I him doing the sweeping and never telling me to do it.
OP, please calm down as you brought the issue here to seek opinions and some people aren't nice here.

If you were the one courting him then I don't see why he shouldn't be the one sweeping.

Pussified men everywhere.

In the economy of that country, unemployed men are carrying girlfriends up and down?

And in one room?

Its like Tinubu hasn't shown you lot enough pepper, where your phallus wont even be able to stand at the sight of a naked woman.

Tinubu should do more, make una head correct

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

If the room was dirty when you girl arrived, were you expecting your friend to sweep and clean the room while she watched and then leave the room for both of you to knack yourselves afterwards... That one no be see finish abi?

Obviously, you don't know yourself as a man but your friend does.

Undilutedme:
Honestly. Why telling my guest to sweep? She’s supposed to do it if she likes. It’s our room and we’re meant to take care of it, I’m not of the opinion that a girl I’m not married to should do chores I’m supposed to do for me. The fact that I’m not the only one using the room makes it worse.

A girl that would come into a room, remove all her clothes and spread legs naim you dey call guest?

Girl wen dem done see finish naim you dey call visitor?

Man u didn't in anyway overreact. What he did was totally wrong and should be condemned. It's not in his place to ask your girlfriend to sweep, that's direct disrespect to u.
So expressing your displeasure is totally fine. You mentioned when you told him about it, he didn't see anything wrong with it- just let it slide but he should understand that shouldn't happen again.
Try get ur own apartment, privacy is key.

Undilutedme:
They're just blindly attacking me and not even handling the issue I brought. All I want to know is if I overrated or not.

You be real mumu uote author=Undilutedme post=132882212]Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?[/quote]

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

You lack manners bro

The way you talked here made me change mind, your replies to people dey awkward and bad for someone looking for advice and e sure me say u and your roommate insulted each other when you confronted him... you dey get gf when u no get work wey fit bring you reasonable money, Tomorrow now she carry belle,you go say she forced you to marry her or expenses choke,you go say na economy cause am, your guy have every right to ask her to sweep, she wey be woman felt comfortable in a dirty environment, it's a shared apartment so everyone has right to command or do anything... because you didn't exercise yours doesn't mean he shouldn't, and it's dangerous asking your gf to wait for you, when you are not around, what if konji hold am or what if he brought a woman in and asks her to excuse him. And she say something demeaning and he beats her or pushes her out? I wonder why ladies will be dating men without good source of income, verifiable source o... as I never dey comfortable, I've never asked a woman out, if conji hold me, I pay to relive myself and move on... your gf sweeping the house either she was told by you or your friend is not a crime,she staying in a dirty place comfortable says alot... a good lady will immediately tell your friend say ahh,see as una room dey sef,wey that broom make I help una sweep am

AND E SURE ME SAY YOU DIDN'T GET THE FULL GIST ABOUT WHAT TRANSPIRED, e fit be with play like, our wife our wife, abeg help me sweep here na,u know say we men are lazy and find it difficult to tidy up, eehn abeg help me na with smile o, and she agreed, obviously she'll say your friend asked her to do it, and you wey no fit afford to get your own,go carry shoulder to show you are a man and protecting your babe.... never allow your gf visit you when you are not around


I WONDER WHY PEOPLE DATE FOR MORE THAN 1YEAR BEFORE MARRIAGE, I BELIEVE 3MONTHS,6MONTHS SHOULD BE ENOUGH, RELATIONSHIP NO BE COURSE FOR UNIVERSITY, E NO BE DEGREE.... date when you are financially capable

Until person hear the friend side of the story, his reason for asking her to sweep, no comment.

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Try dey read nna.

Undilutedme:
But I should allow them insult me? Why’s Nairaland so toxic? If this question was to be asked on quora, you’ll only see mature responses and not useless comments like some of those above. I respect people and don’t tolerate disrespect in any form

So what's now the difference between you and the toxic nairalanders??

I was really shocked when you confronted your rommie with this shameless act of your girlfriend. Do you expect him to sweep the room for you and your girlfriend? Should your girlfriend not even take the broom from him if he decides to sweep it himself??
You invade his privacy, and as of thats not enough, you still had the guts to expect him to sweep the room for you and your girlfriend!!

Your room mate is not wrong to ask your girl to sweep your room except if the tone he uses is wrong but getting angry about that means you are going to make enough enemies from your friends and brothers alike when you get married eventually so learn how to endure when you get angry because people talk to your loved ones you don't even need to confront him because of this minor issue except there is something you are telling us. Please apologize to your friend and make peace with him girl friend may be for a while while good friend is forever.