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Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't be brining a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend... Maybe that's his own way of ing his displeasure with the whole thing... He might be uncomfortable with having a female visitor.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you!

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

DonBenny77:
You be mumu, wetin you dey do with girlfriend when you no fit rent selfcon for yourself?
Dirty livestyle.
Why would your girlfriend wait for you in a shared house when you're not home, tomorrow it will be your roommate hitting on your girlfriend.
You lack proper orientation.
As for the matter at hand your roommate has every right to ask her to sweep.
You're the problem

If you’re not a foool, you’ll notice that I said I just finished service and I’ll rent my room any time from now and we’ve been dating for a long time. It’s not your business if my room mate hits her. I only needed the last part of your comment, thanks for your input.

It's shameful how some of us do not have shame. Op, it's so shameful!

So your girlfriend has to wait until it takes another person to tell her to sweep or do some house chores? And you still get the effrontery to tell the world this? No!
Too shameful!

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Read!!! The rommie has a girl too. Always having an opinion without a deep understanding of the matter at hand.

psucc:
It's shameful how some of us do not have shame. Op, it's so shameful!

So your girlfriend has to wait until it takes another person to tell her to sweep or do some house chores? And you still get the effrontery to tell the world this? No!
Too shameful!

So if the girlfriend didn't show up that day, no sweeping. Are you lots that dirty?

Before you know it, next thing he would ask your Gf to do is Wash his Boxers for him.........Guy better act fast and pull some money together, Go rent ya own Room...... Privacy is Key.

Else one day, you would be ontop of ya woman knacking and your roommate would arrive knocking on the door that he need to change clothes, or he need to pick his phone charger........flimsy excuses wont make you enjoy your Knakana


Abi your babe wear shoe enta room come carry dirty enta on that day ni?

It is very disrespectful from either you or your roommate.

erniok:

Read!!! The rommie has a girl too. Always having an opinion without a deep understanding of the matter at hand.

Rest! He edited the post after my comment. I was the first to comment, so I know what he wrote originally. Oversabi 😒

erniok:

Read!!! The rommie has a girl too. Always having an opinion without a deep understanding of the matter at hand.

They're just blindly attacking me and not even handling the issue I brought. All I want to know is if I overrated or not.

GOFRONT:
Before you know it, next thing he would ask your Gf to do is Wash his Boxers for him.........Guy better act fast and pull some money together, Go rent ya own Room...... Privacy is Key.

Else one day, you would be ontop of ya woman knacking and your roommate would arrive knocking on the door that he need to change clothes, or he need to pick his phone charger........flimsy excuses wont make you enjoy your Knakana


Abi your babe wear shoe enta room come carry dirty enta on that day ni?

I’m leaving early next year. I just got a work and I should just use all my savings to rent a house without planning or I should break up with my girlfriend who’s been loyal and understanding because I am sharing a room? I wonder why some of you think this way.

psucc:
It's shameful how some of us do not have shame. Op, it's so shameful!

So your girlfriend has to wait until it takes another person to tell her to sweep or do some house chores? And you still get the effrontery to tell the world this? No!
Too shameful!

Oga oil dey your head, the kind of men we have these days are all mumu men. In those days, my girl friend will even respect my friends more than me, because these friends will be the one to stand for her if I try to leave her.

santaclaws:


Rest! He edited the post after my comment. I was the first to comment, so I know what he wrote originally. Oversabi 😒

I didn’t edit anything, oga. Shut up! I never modified anything, the only modification I did was in a place I spelt wrongly.

Undilutedme:
They're just blindly attacking me and not even handling the issue I brought. All I want to know is if I overrated or not.

Who has time to attack you? You that came online with girlfriend issue as a young boy sharing 1 room...

Anyways, it's your life...

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Try settle with your RM and advice your girl when she's around and the place needs to be taken taken of just assist and once he sees your girl doing this I'm sure he will also ask his girlfriend to start as well and with time things will normalize.

It's a matter of time both of you would have your separate apartment and this would be one of the things you would use to funny each other.

Some of my relatives live like this then, but now one of them is a lecturer with University of benin and the other is working with First Bank in Benin as well both Married with Children.

santaclaws:


Rest! He edited the post after my comment. I was the first to comment, so I know what he wrote originally. Oversabi 😒

Oga take your advise and hide your hide in shame. Lazy to read but quick to have an opinion. Any proof he modified his post or do we do the " trust me bro" thing?

erniok:

Oga take your advise and hide your hide in shame. Lazy to read but quick to have an opinion. Any proof he modified his post or do we do the " trust me bro" thing?

Hug your nearest transformer.

DonBenny77:
shut the Bleep up you did, you added the part that your roommate also brings his girlfriend.
You are a stupid liar, if I were you I'll take down this post shameless folks.
Animals in human body

Simply because you can’t read well. I’m done with you, bye🙂

You're SIMPly a mumu man

Next time she visits when you're not around, he'll ask her to open her legs for him

I rarely comment on nairaland because I love to conserve energy but listen and listen good,

I do not care if you have dated for 10 years, she's your girlfriend and not wife. He did absolutely nothing wrong or were you expecting him to sweep the room for you and your "girlfriend". If she even see am dey sweep she suppose collect the broom from em hand.

Apply common sense in everything you do, this isn't a big deal for you to get lost in thoughts and emotional to seek for advice cos wtf.

Channel that energy into bettering your life. A friendly reminder that Tinubu is your President and things will get madder, girlfriend no be investment my Guy.

Squash that shit like it's nothing and let your guy continue to be your Guy. Enjoy your girlfriend. 5 years from now you will understand especially if una no come marry.

If as a young school leaver you throw abuses at people you hardly know, your journey is far, sir.

calm your ego veins down. Learn about shared responsibility and communal living. it will help you, sir.

Mehn, this is beyond local man logistics

Bros op, your roommate no be real guy, a real guy go keep calm and see whether she go sweep am or not, when I squat with someone then, my roommate girlfriend go come, we go just gist talk small, then I go dey look whether she go do am or not, if she no do am, I go lock up... Asking your girlfriend to sweep looks more like a disrespect to me, dat kind person no dey happy say u get loyal girl, Omo I go advice you to get your own apartment as you talk.... Nothing good like having your privacy.. Even if is just single room....

Seriously your guy no try

My guy then know me nah, even if him girl no do am I go do am, nah so shame go dey catch the girl, before you know, nah she dey do am without bein told.

Normal level, make una settle am between una selves later. We can't and should not always agree... We must have issues...

Pls OP, Nairaland is a toxic place, just skip any useless comments and don't bother to reply them. Most people will comment rubbish. Na small OT I give you so.