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Veetee(m): 3:55pm On Nov 11, 2024
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

I would make this story brief. A friend of mine though married was trying to get a side chic for himself.
He met a girl on instagram and they have been chatting for sometime. He shuttles between canada and nigeria, since his family lives abroad.
We both had a man to man discussion where he talked about getting tired of doing runs girls that you would have to pay money to nack

The girl is a student of unical. So while he was in canada they both got talking, doing video call and the rest.
Once in a while he sends her money, 250k, 100k from time to time.

Then he said he noticed something, the girl travelled to zanzibar in Tanzania on a pleasure and vacation trip. He said during that period she doesnt respond to calls and text messages. he was wondering how a student could afford such an experience trip out of the country. In my mind I was like these young yahoo boys must have sponsored such trips.

After he returned from canada to nigeria, back to his base in lagos. they got talking and he asked her to visit him in lagos from calabar

He sent her 320k for her flight ticket. she requested for some other money which he sent 100k.

Omo after she got the money she didnt book the ticket because according to her the network was bad and she doesnt want it to het stuck.

They started going back and forth of this booking issue. my friend got frustrated along the way , that was when i got to know about the story.

sometimes he would call she wont respond, claiming she is in class. At the end my friend asked her to return the money to his travel agent
somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.

My own conclusion in this story is if you are dating a beautiful girl in nigeria, you have a lot to do. The competition is very fierce.

These young yahoo boys at the moment have so much money to lavish on these ladies. If you are a young man doing legit hussle, my advice for you is just focus on your hustle.

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advanceDNA: 4:00pm On Nov 11, 2024
Veetee:



somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.


So ..baba did u get ur money back or u just simp for nothing??

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Veetee(m): 4:02pm On Nov 11, 2024
advanceDNA:


So ..baba did u get ur money back or u just simp for nothing??

She sent back the money and said she isnt interested in seeing him anymore

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advanceDNA: 4:13pm On Nov 11, 2024
Veetee:


She sent back the money and said she isnt interested in seeing him anymore

She should go to hell naaaa.....So all the other money nko?? Otilor?? Sigh!!

Btw..why u just sending money anyhow to a girl u met online and hasn't proven to valuable or loyal to you....u just opening urself to easy exploitation..... Do u just feel u have to pay a woman to make them think u are serious...? Paying makes them think u are mugú

Make a women like u first, see that she's really into you, before u start being nice with your urgent 5K

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phorget(m): 4:19pm On Nov 11, 2024
Imagine what a side chick is making your friend go through, sending 320k + 100k for a side chicks flight while millions are out there in need of s. I really wish men could prioritize giving to the needy instead of wasting money on some side chicks.

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Veetee(m): 4:23pm On Nov 11, 2024
phorget:
Imagine what a side chick is making your friend go through, sending 320k + 100k for a side chicks flight while millions are out there in need of s. I really wish men could prioritize giving to the needy instead of wasting money on some side chicks.

This aside the money he has been sending her while he was still in canada, sometimes 250k, 100k etc...

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Starz825(m): 4:32pm On Nov 11, 2024
I say women dey enjoy....

Dem go just siddon pretty dey collect money.... without doing nothing

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Lalami3232(m): 4:35pm On Nov 11, 2024
cheesy

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phorget(m): 4:46pm On Nov 11, 2024
Veetee:


This aside the money he has been sending her while he was still in canada, sometimes 250k, 100k etc...


It's so heartbreaking sir, sidechick that one will need to compete with so many other contenders.

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EmperorCaesar(m): 4:46pm On Nov 11, 2024
cheesy
Your friend no be saint too

I believe cheats are coward MFs that are too weak to walk out of the union or take a second wife for themselves. I detest cowards



That aside, your guy just dey burn burn money and wetin hin dey get in return? just the P***y? embarassed

Well, you guys overprice and overvalue all these girls, and na una make dem dey get entitlement mentality.

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Talkisneeded(m): 4:58pm On Nov 11, 2024
Your married friend?? We should start from there first...
Cheating on his woman and expecting truthfulness from his side-chick..
Corny man die, corny man bury am...

I sell herbs for sexual enhancement tho

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BItt: 5:00pm On Nov 11, 2024
This is perhaps the easiest money to get back... Simply speak to some of your friends in the police force if you have any. Or even walk up to and explain everything without hiding anything...
Let her explain herself...
What she played on you is obviously a romance scam.
She nursed you to the extent of sending upkeep and flight billing... My nigga grin no be only Oyinbo Dem dey bill for flight

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Sp1ritHusband(m): 5:16pm On Nov 11, 2024
Good for him

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Reverseng: 5:35pm On Nov 11, 2024
Like attract like, opposite repels

You attract what you are not what you deserve and what you are is a product of all your current and past lives you've lived so far.

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Sp1ritHusband(m): 5:44pm On Nov 11, 2024
Maga don pay, shout alleluia!

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dkidd: 5:46pm On Nov 11, 2024
advanceDNA:


She should go to hell naaaa.....So all the other money nko?? Otilor?? Sigh!!

Btw..why u just sending money anyhow to a girl u met online and hasn't proven to valuable or loyal to you....u just opening urself to easy exploitation..... Do u just feel u have to pay a woman to make them think u are serious...? Paying makes them think u are mugú

Make a women like u first, see that she's really into you, before u start being nice with your urgent 5K
faceland: 6:43pm On Nov 11, 2024
If he told you N250k that means he don give her N500k. Playing long-distance.

From experience, if it doesn't work out and she is broke again, she will come back briefly.

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faceland: 6:48pm On Nov 11, 2024
EmperorCaesar:
cheesy
Your friend no be saint too

I believe cheats are coward MFs that are too weak to walk out of the union or take a second wife for themselves. I detest cowards



That aside, your guy just dey burn burn money and wetin hin dey get in return? just the P***y? embarassed

Well, you guys overprice and overvalue all these girls, and na una make dem dey get entitlement mentality.


Imagine young student getting N250k regularly. She would upgrade hee lifestyle and by default meet bigger men.

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Zonefree(m): 6:56pm On Nov 11, 2024
Imagine spending thousands of Naira on a side chick that will still give you infection undecided

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flokii: 9:37pm On Nov 11, 2024
@OP We know you're that friend but continue mixing the zobo.. those wey go drink am dey.

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ThaThinka: 10:07pm On Nov 11, 2024
Veetee:
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

I would make this story brief. A friend of mine though married was trying to get a side chic for himself.
He met a girl on instagram and they have been chatting for sometime. He shuttles between canada and nigeria, since his family lives abroad.
We both had a man to man discussion where he talked about getting tired of doing runs girls that you would have to pay money to nack

The girl is a student of unical. So while he was in canada they both got talking, doing video call and the rest.
Once in a while he sends her money, 250k, 100k from time to time.

Then he said he noticed something, the girl travelled to zanzibar in Tanzania on a pleasure and vacation trip. He said during that period she doesnt respond to calls and text messages. he was wondering how a student could afford such an experience trip out of the country. In my mind I was like these young yahoo boys must have sponsored such trips.

After he returned from canada to nigeria, back to his base in lagos. they got talking and he asked her to visit him in lagos from calabar

He sent her 320k for her flight ticket. she requested for some other money which he sent 100k.

Omo after she got the money she didnt book the ticket because according to her the network was bad and she doesnt want it to het stuck.

They started going back and forth of this booking issue. my friend got frustrated along the way , that was when i got to know about the story.

sometimes he would call she wont respond, claiming she is in class. At the end my friend asked her to return the money to his travel agent
somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.

My own conclusion in this story is if you are dating a beautiful girl in nigeria, you have a lot to do. The competition is very fierce.

These young yahoo boys at the moment have so much money to lavish on these ladies. If you are a young man doing legit hussle, my advice for you is just focus on your hustle.

Him or you? 🤔

By the way, I don't sympathise with whomever was involved. I don't see any moral in all of this. Plus, na people like una dey spoil these ladies with money so tey most other guys no get rep for dem eyes. undecided

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Wearetheugliest: 10:36pm On Nov 11, 2024
Veetee:
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

I would make this story brief. A friend of mine though married was trying to get a side chic for himself.
He met a girl on instagram and they have been chatting for sometime. He shuttles between canada and nigeria, since his family lives abroad.
We both had a man to man discussion where he talked about getting tired of doing runs girls that you would have to pay money to nack

The girl is a student of unical. So while he was in canada they both got talking, doing video call and the rest.
Once in a while he sends her money, 250k, 100k from time to time.

Then he said he noticed something, the girl travelled to zanzibar in Tanzania on a pleasure and vacation trip. He said during that period she doesnt respond to calls and text messages. he was wondering how a student could afford such an experience trip out of the country. In my mind I was like these young yahoo boys must have sponsored such trips.

After he returned from canada to nigeria, back to his base in lagos. they got talking and he asked her to visit him in lagos from calabar

He sent her 320k for her flight ticket. she requested for some other money which he sent 100k.

Omo after she got the money she didnt book the ticket because according to her the network was bad and she doesnt want it to het stuck.

They started going back and forth of this booking issue. my friend got frustrated along the way , that was when i got to know about the story.

sometimes he would call she wont respond, claiming she is in class. At the end my friend asked her to return the money to his travel agent
somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.

My own conclusion in this story is if you are dating a beautiful girl in nigeria, you have a lot to do. The competition is very fierce.

These young yahoo boys at the moment have so much money to lavish on these ladies. If you are a young man doing legit hussle, my advice for you is just focus on your hustle.

Abeg your friend send you make you carry hin matter come here. Bro sorry you nor get work oo

Yeye grin

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motymop: 12:25am On Nov 12, 2024
Ooh, your friend is married but do not want a single lady to enjoy her own life grin

Una funny for this naija

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ruggedtimi(m): 4:10am On Nov 12, 2024
Nothing to learn here...Your friend never see person him dey send $200 steady. Yet he was complaining about spending much on runs girls. Maybe na him type dey pay runs girls 50k and above. .....No yahoo boy will send a girl on a vacation trip unless they are engaged or married. Possible a big calabar politician or business man.
Your friend is likely one of those lucky once workiñg for total or mobil, cos is now a norm for them to send their wives /children to Canada.

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ruggedtimi(m): 4:18am On Nov 12, 2024
Starz825:
I say women dey enjoy....

Dem go just siddon pretty dey collect money.... without doing nothing

you think dem investing on Iphone na for play. They quality pics to attract big customers. Different level girls, the once that mostly pics from local hanging spots/university enviroment you can try your luck, once posting pics only from nice looking lounge/restuarant just ready to pay steady uber and hanging out, the once posting in lagos,abuja ,port harcourt and Owerri just ask her how much when ever you notice she is in your city. But see those once posting pics from Santorini, london, Marrakech , Dubai and back to nigeria all in one month. Baba run oh.

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Sapasenator: 4:24am On Nov 12, 2024
Veetee:


She sent back the money and said she isnt interested in seeing him anymore

I don't believe this. Money was not sent back.

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Baronthecelebri: 5:25am On Nov 12, 2024
Hmmmmm
zed7: 5:48am On Nov 12, 2024
Cheating isn't really worth it, especially when you're married. The girl will always misbehave because she thinks she's doing you a favour. She knows all she'll get from the relationship is money and she'll bill you like mad. She'll always threaten to leave, especially if she's beautiful.

If you must cheat as a married man, get a mature girl who's in her 30's and has lost hope of marriage or a single mother. Those are the type that will be happy to have a man and will show some form of loyalty.

If you ask me, cheating is a waste of energy, money and emotions. It depletes you spiritually, physically, financially and emotionally. Avoid it!.

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9japride(m): 6:37am On Nov 12, 2024
Veetee:
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

I would make this story brief. A friend of mine though married was trying to get a side chic for himself.
He met a girl on instagram and they have been chatting for sometime. He shuttles between canada and nigeria, since his family lives abroad.
We both had a man to man discussion where he talked about getting tired of doing runs girls that you would have to pay money to nack

The girl is a student of unical. So while he was in canada they both got talking, doing video call and the rest.
Once in a while he sends her money, 250k, 100k from time to time.

Then he said he noticed something, the girl travelled to zanzibar in Tanzania on a pleasure and vacation trip. He said during that period she doesnt respond to calls and text messages. he was wondering how a student could afford such an experience trip out of the country. In my mind I was like these young yahoo boys must have sponsored such trips.

After he returned from canada to nigeria, back to his base in lagos. they got talking and he asked her to visit him in lagos from calabar

He sent her 320k for her flight ticket. she requested for some other money which he sent 100k.

Omo after she got the money she didnt book the ticket because according to her the network was bad and she doesnt want it to het stuck.

They started going back and forth of this booking issue. my friend got frustrated along the way , that was when i got to know about the story.

sometimes he would call she wont respond, claiming she is in class. At the end my friend asked her to return the money to his travel agent
somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.

My own conclusion in this story is if you are dating a beautiful girl in nigeria, you have a lot to do. The competition is very fierce.

These young yahoo boys at the moment have so much money to lavish on these ladies. If you are a young man doing legit hussle, my advice for you is just focus on your hustle.
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I doubt this story. How has he assisted his fellow man or even family ?
What's so special about that particular girl that he can't find in other girls?

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MarketDispatch: 6:56am On Nov 12, 2024
Veetee:
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

us on your hustle.

Your friend na Suegbe.....the girl was scamming him

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shortgun(m): 6:59am On Nov 12, 2024
I am very sure that girl didn’t refund any money to this guy. He's just saying that to save face. It's shocking that at this time men still do all the wrong things to lay a girl.
Nonsense angry

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francisbarrack(m): 8:00am On Nov 12, 2024
MarketDispatch:


Your friend na Suegbe.....the girl was scamming him

My mind is telling me that d said girl might b a man pretending to b lady... no loose guide

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