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I'm having serious problem of acute performance anxiety.

I find it difficult to sustain or even get an erection due to anxiety as my heartbeat increases, sometimes my hands begins to shake.

But the moment I am able to penetrate, the anxiety reduces as I will now be able to maintain the erection. Though not strong enough of which sometimes not even for long.

Now I just found a girl I'm planning to take serious, but this anxiety is killing the relationship. On two occasions we were supposed to have sex but I couldn't make love to her because my di*ck will not rise. No matter the level of pre-intimacy.

She has to come around to spend a week with me to help me relax but all to no avail, as my heartbeat increreases during the pre-intimacy. Causing my di*ck to remain flaccid.

I do have morning erections, and intermittent erections when I'm alone and all that but not with my babe or any other lady.

whenever she comes around my heart always pants. Infact, having the knowledge that a girl is coming to visit, makes me too anxious that when it's now time to perform, my heartbeat increases and all that that comes with anxiety.

I have had to take a can of bullet to calm my nerves down but didn't work for me.

I don't know what triggers the anxiety; maybe fear of under performing, spiritual indoctrinations as I grew up in a religious background/environment.

Anyone has experienced this before?
what can one do?
Are there medications for it?

All the exercise, diet etc suggestions, I've been following them for a while.

Though my background may have played a role as I was more of the churchy type. But there are exceptions.

Hope you don't engage in masturbation

How about you deliberately not have sex and still invite her over. Cook, movies, play, do everything except the DO.

And see how your body reacts.

2special:
Hope you don't engage in masturbation

Actually I do. But it's been a while now.

Starboytwo:
How about you deliberately not have sex and still invite her over. Cook, movies, play, do everything except the DO.

And see how your body reacts.

She's been around and we've been doing all that. Which I normally get erection intermittently. But if it's time for the actual intimacy, everything jumps up. Like fear or anxiety. Can be depressing atimes

Have the feeling you must eat these soup at your back and stop masturbation completely. You will get well

Columbine:


Actually I do. But it's been a while now.

I believe with time you will be fine....you just have to stop masturbating.

Columbine:
I'm having serious problem of acute performance anxiety.

I find it difficult to sustain or even get an erection due to anxiety as my heartbeat increases, sometimes my hands begins to shake.

But the moment I am able to penetrate, the anxiety reduces as I will now be able to maintain the erection. Though not strong enough of which sometimes not even for long.

Now I just found a girl I'm planning to take serious, but this anxiety is killing the relationship. On two occasions we were supposed to have sex but I couldn't make love to her because my di*ck will not rise. No matter the level of pre-intimacy.

She has to come around to spend a week with me to help me relax but all to no avail, as my heartbeat increreases during the pre-intimacy. Causing my di*ck to remain flaccid.

I do have morning erections, and intermittent erections when I'm alone and all that but not with my babe or any other lady.

whenever she comes around my heart always pants. Infact, having the knowledge that a girl is coming to visit, makes me too anxious that when it's now time to perform, my heartbeat increases and all that that comes with anxiety.

I have had to take a can of bullet to calm my nerves down but didn't work for me.

I don't know what triggers the anxiety; maybe fear of under performing, spiritual indoctrinations as I grew up in a religious background/environment.

Anyone has experienced this before?
what can one do?
Are there medications for it?

All the exercise, diet etc suggestions, I've been following them for a while.

Though my background may have played a role as I was more of the churchy type. But there are exceptions.

Will help you as I have been thru this has nothing to do with Masturbation
First whats your age?

The anxiety whatsoever is the reason will subside with time if only you're consistent and the girl sticks around till you overcome. It's a psychological issue as a result of not being used to women

It has nothing to do with masturbation

motionarena:



Will help you as I have been thru this has nothing to do with Masturbation
First whats your age?

stop asking for his age just give help if you can and categorize it according to age bracket

It's guilt for the sin you're committing. You still no wan hear. Premarital sex is wrong. Please repent

cybernaut:
stop asking for his age just give help if you can and categorize it according to age bracket

So if u going to pharmacy to get a drug for a child and when the Pharmacist ask u for ur child age u will tell him it does not matter abi.

He might just be an 18 year old teen trying to have sex for the first time so his solution will differ from that of a full adult

Avoid watching porn!

motionarena:



Will help you as I have been thru this has nothing to do with Masturbation
First whats your age?

29 bro.

All these introvert, churchy kind of person with little or no exposure. Never imagined being in this shoe

Nicoddemus:
The anxiety whatsoever is the reason will subside with time if only you're consistent and the girl sticks around till you overcome. It's a psychological issue as a result of not being used to women

Exactly! But for how long?

Columbine:


Exactly! But for how long?

As long as it takes your brain to rewire. The only thing you can do to help it is to keep on exposing yourself to the "danger" until the brain begins to accommodate it. Secondly you need to maintain an open mind and don't try to bottle up your vulnerability.

However have it at the back of your mind that this present configuration is not your natural self. It's a stranger and will go with time.

What is happening to you is one of the dangers of trying to live an upright life without adequate water

Everybody with their problem. I have the solution, but not in the mood to talk.

Columbine:
I'm having serious problem of acute performance anxiety.

I find it difficult to sustain or even get an erection due to anxiety as my heartbeat increases, sometimes my hands begins to shake.

But the moment I am able to penetrate, the anxiety reduces as I will now be able to maintain the erection. Though not strong enough of which sometimes not even for long.

Now I just found a girl I'm planning to take serious, but this anxiety is killing the relationship. On two occasions we were supposed to have sex but I couldn't make love to her because my di*ck will not rise. No matter the level of pre-intimacy.

She has to come around to spend a week with me to help me relax but all to no avail, as my heartbeat increreases during the pre-intimacy. Causing my di*ck to remain flaccid.

I do have morning erections, and intermittent erections when I'm alone and all that but not with my babe or any other lady.

whenever she comes around my heart always pants. Infact, having the knowledge that a girl is coming to visit, makes me too anxious that when it's now time to perform, my heartbeat increases and all that that comes with anxiety.

I have had to take a can of bullet to calm my nerves down but didn't work for me.

I don't know what triggers the anxiety; maybe fear of under performing, spiritual indoctrinations as I grew up in a religious background/environment.

Anyone has experienced this before?
what can one do?
Are there medications for it?

All the exercise, diet etc suggestions, I've been following them for a while.

Though my background may have played a role as I was more of the churchy type. But there are exceptions.

Psychologically-induced performance anxiety is the easiest causative root of Erectile Dysfunction to cure... Don't be able afraid OK. You'll grow past it soon.

Firstly use the the toilet before beginning any act of romance.

Secondly both of you should get undressed before any act commences. Glance and play through her body or tell her to caress your body while focusing on your sensitive areas like the n!pple so as to allow excitement to build.

Thirdly focus on pre-intimacy for few minutes (5 max) as it'd help you relax your nerves with in mind-your own satisfaction first.

Forthly observe when you're hard and penetrate.

Lastly enjoy your every inch of the trust with your own satisfaction the utmost (you can even moan to increase the excitement)

Follow these processes repeatedly for one month then you'd have gotten your psychology reconfigured.

iLegendd:
Everybody with their problem. I have the solution, but not in the mood to talk.

Help a bro, brotherly

Well I think I experienced this nervousness some years back I cured mine by eating the right diet, travelling, communicating more with people it builds the confidence , spend some time quality time alone doing different stuffs, communicate or find yourself a friend you can trust. don’t just put your mind on your relationship treat it as a second option. And most importantly I think you’re not yourself yet spend more time then find what’s really gets your interest and FIND YOURSELF. You’d be definitely be fine permanently within a month.. most importantly don’t be scared of your partner too be able to discuss whatever with her any given time!!!

U are depressed...see a psychiatrist..u will be placed on drugs for life..this is a form of mental illness..ur brain does not process data it receives

You don't have any problem. It's normal.

Search for the book Lasticle. Read and practice what it contains and thank for the rest of your life. The book is not about anxiety, but lasting forever in bed. And when you have this handle, you become confident and even arrogant and the anxiety disappears by itself.

Your anxiety is because you fear you won't last long based on past history of masturbation, which you always cum fast.

So, this has created fear and anxiety in you, coupled with the fact that you probably like the girl and would want to impress her because in your chat, you may have bragged about how you'll teach her a lesson and if you don't perform, your reputation is at stake.

Columbine:
I'm having serious problem of acute performance anxiety.

I find it difficult to sustain or even get an erection due to anxiety as my heartbeat increases, sometimes my hands begins to shake.

But the moment I am able to penetrate, the anxiety reduces as I will now be able to maintain the erection. Though not strong enough of which sometimes not even for long.

Now I just found a girl I'm planning to take serious, but this anxiety is killing the relationship. On two occasions we were supposed to have sex but I couldn't make love to her because my di*ck will not rise. No matter the level of pre-intimacy.

She has to come around to spend a week with me to help me relax but all to no avail, as my heartbeat increreases during the pre-intimacy. Causing my di*ck to remain flaccid.

I do have morning erections, and intermittent erections when I'm alone and all that but not with my babe or any other lady.

whenever she comes around my heart always pants. Infact, having the knowledge that a girl is coming to visit, makes me too anxious that when it's now time to perform, my heartbeat increases and all that that comes with anxiety.

I have had to take a can of bullet to calm my nerves down but didn't work for me.

I don't know what triggers the anxiety; maybe fear of under performing, spiritual indoctrinations as I grew up in a religious background/environment.

Anyone has experienced this before?
what can one do?
Are there medications for it?

All the exercise, diet etc suggestions, I've been following them for a while.

Though my background may have played a role as I was more of the churchy type. But there are exceptions.

"Eunuch from God" 😊

Sex is a an art. Take it gradual. Be relaxed and be in control. U may need to adjust your lifestyle such as what u eat , exercise. Most importantly kill that anxiety.

I think the sexual attraction towards the lady is not that strong ..

If the konji hook you wella, performance anxiety no go show Face...



If I didn't know better, I would have said I once had this performance anxiety cause I couldn't sustain the erection but it was simply the sexual attraction towards her ..
Normally she no go nyash, she was just all over and wanted to fvck me , so I gave in ..


When I was going to get down with some big booty chic, I didn't get no anxiety . In short, I was overwhelmed with the konji , no space for any other kind of feelings ..

Try another girl op .. Someone that really tickles your fancy...

Chief na inglish u de speak. Stop watching porn and wanking. U de suffer ed Dey call am English name.

Columbine:


29 bro.

All these introvert, churchy kind of person with little or no exposure. Never imagined being in this shoe

Your BC and IC muscle is very weak, that’s why you can’t hold erection. It has nothing to do with anxiety. That’s why even when you achieve penetration and your anxiety goes down, you’re still soft. It’s cause your penis muscle is very weak.


Most people here don’t even know they have very strong BC and IC muscle. Everyone gets anxious before sex, but that shouldn’t make you soft.

There is a penis muscle and you have to train it very well and condition it so it’s not tense from over training (by doing stretches that affect the perinium). Or else you will have very strong erection but will be cumming fast (another problem)

Now, there are exercises that can reduce cortisol (stress) in your blood, which makes your heart to pound really fast before the act and puts you in a fight or flight mode ( which is not a good mode for sex. You need to turn that off to be able to have sex easily)

I’m not going to dive into that until I know you’re interested.

I had all your symptoms before, from A to Z. In fact I had to check if it was me that wrote it cause it’s carbon copy.

But I solved all of them by carefully studying my body in relation to other healthy men.