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Coolsat(m): 9:49am On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I got your point.


I will reach out to my cousin this evening when I am back from work.
That's good and the right thing to do. In the long run you'll be glad you did and your cousin will forever trust and love you more. Also the lady will realize later in life that it was wrong to have dated your cousin after dating you and she'll appreciate you for doing the right thing and even respect you more.

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EreluRoz: 10:09am On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I got your point.


I will reach out to my cousin this evening when I am back from work.
Also you see that voice telling you to keep it secret ehn it's the voice of the devil kos he's already aware of the implications it'll cause in future, you will notice some kind of inner freedom and peace after you do the needful and overcome that voice, come back here and tell me you didn't feel a great burden left your heart after revealing the truth to your cousin. I know what I'm saying.
Whenever I intend doing anything that's not good I'm always loud about it and in the end I don't always do any of them, it's the secret ways I've kept my heart at peace. Once you reveal a dark secret you've defeated some devilish purpose and there's this unexplainable peace and joy that comes after it.

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lebron7(m): 10:30am On Sep 10, 2024
Lol
Now she has the advantage, because one day she will surely tell him and there will be bad blood between you and your cousin.

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Coolsat(m): 10:39am On Sep 10, 2024
lebron7:
Lol
Now she has the advantage, because one day she will surely tell him and there will be bad blood between you and your cousin.
She never get the advantage for now till she succeeded in deceiving both of them and getting married and by then she now has upper hand over op. If op reveal the truth to his cousin now it'll save him a lot from this trap. Sometimes I'm amazed how some guys can't easily spot out the games women play, imagine this woman boldly playing two cousins and she already has op by his balls except he do the needful fast. Women are brutal ooo

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manmade(m): 12:10pm On Sep 10, 2024
MrBrownJay1:
the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk... KAI!!!
just exactly my thoughts, even there is a portion of the marriage oaths that required you to either talk when it's still permissible or keep quiet forever.

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Coolsat(m): 12:22pm On Sep 10, 2024
manmade:
just exactly my thoughts, even there is a portion of the marriage oaths that required you to either talk when it's still permissible or keep quiet forever.
He can still talk, it's not yet a marriage, not even engaged but still boyfriend and girlfriend. That babe is using two men's head to achieve her aim. Did you read she's still telling op she loves him more and wants him but his cousin was the available one for marriage and she ruthlessly grab him without even thinking it through if it's right to date two cousins
1gbdata: 7:59pm On Sep 10, 2024
No
AfeezShomorin(m): 8:02pm On Sep 10, 2024
Xscape1993:
Did anything serious happened between the two of you?

If you are asking whether he has fùcked the lady before the answer is yes grin
Akinpresident: 8:02pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

If una dey nack, no allow your bro marry her. Tell him no matter how pained he'd be.
That girl will see two of you finish. Endless comparison. And anytime she's not cool with your bro, she'll come for dicking for your side and your mumu no go gree you ignore her unto say na your former territory.
somtochukwu161: 8:02pm On Sep 10, 2024
She is a jealous type still tell ur bro about if he can deal with it good for them but don't hesitate to o tell him
MisterGrace: 8:07pm On Sep 10, 2024
I think you are stvpid. Why did you keep quiet when you were supposed to address issues?

Please fvck off and let them be.
Tendd: 8:10pm On Sep 10, 2024
I had a relationship with a girl who later on got married to an acquaintance.I told an elderly cousin about my affair with the lady but my cousin advised me to close my mouth and never say anything to anyone.He said according by our culture one is supposed move on and not say anything about the affair to anyone.Well,l learnt and never said a word until l am writing this now.
This was many years ago before the social media frenzy when things were different.l am glad l never uttered a word about it to anybody.
Orlu13: 8:10pm On Sep 10, 2024
if u know wat is gud fr u better tell ur brother


After u don knack d gal wetin no good u now want ur brother to enjoy leftovers... better tell him

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FuckSilly: 8:12pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.
SACRILEGE
TABBOO


MANY WAYWARD AND OLOSHO GIRLS HERE WILL TELL YOU TO SHUT UP AND MIND YOUR BUSINESS

MANY SENSELESS LOWLIFE BOYS TOO WILL TELL YOU IT DOESN'T MATTER...


DON'T HIDE SENSITIVE INFORMATION
DON'T MIND YOUR BUSINESS
YOUR COUSIN IS YOUR FAMILY
TELL HIM EVERYTHING AND CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE

IF HE NOW LATER DECIDE TO GO AHEAD, THEN THAT'S HIS BUSINESS.

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EreluRoz: 8:13pm On Sep 10, 2024
Before you type the keep quiet rubbish I hope you all read where she still insists she loves the cousin more and will choose him over the other one if he wants. When has it become normal for a lady to boldly date two cousins. What is wrong with these generation
EreluRoz: 8:16pm On Sep 10, 2024
MisterGrace:
I think you are stvpid. Why did you keep quiet when you were supposed to address issues?

Please fvck off and let them be.
he can't let them be, they are not married and still operating on boyfriend and girlfriend level. What is not right can never be right.

This is why incest is now common and becoming normal because some careless and foolish parents started sleeping with their relatives and it's now in the genes of their offspring
Shawarmagirl: 8:16pm On Sep 10, 2024
OP you are jealous. Just take it like that.
FuckSilly: 8:17pm On Sep 10, 2024
Thundafireseun:
You must have a low mentality ….

What is wrong in marrying your ex …. The only wrong thing is if she is still secretly nacking you while planning marriage with your cousin….

Do you think you will meet your own wife a virgin??

Every body had an ex Oga …. So rest
Weyrey
Just because you olosho and leftover girls are what you can afford doesn't mean everyone will stoop low for the same.
Nobody force LEFTOVERS down your throat
If the guy wants to marry a virgin, he will.
And you must have a very low iq not to know that the poster brought this issue up because he has slept with that girl countless times while dating so he has to be concerned now since it's his family - cousin that's involved

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EreluRoz: 8:17pm On Sep 10, 2024
FuckSilly:

SACRILEGE
TABBOO


MY WAYWARD AND OLOSHO GIRLS HERE WILL TELL YOU TO SHUT UP AND MIND YOUR BUSINESS

MANY SENSELESS LOWLIFE BOYS TOO WILL TELL YOU IT DOESN'T MATTER...


DON'T HIDE SENSITIVE INFORMATION
DON'T MIND YOUR BUSINESS
YOUR COUSIN IS YOUR FAMILY
TELL HIM EVERYTHING AND CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE

IF HE NOW LATER DECIDE TO GO AHEAD, THEN THAT'S HIS BUSINESS.
Chiagozien hope you're reading comments From sensible people with core family values.

Thank you for this, I'm glad there are still people who frowns at taboo

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messenger4891: 8:18pm On Sep 10, 2024
MrBrownJay1:
the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk... KAI!!!
Well said.
EreluRoz: 8:21pm On Sep 10, 2024
manmade:
just exactly my thoughts, even there is a portion of the marriage oaths that required you to either talk when it's still permissible or keep quiet forever.
They are not yet married why are some of you responding as if they are married? They are still in the boyfriend and girlfriend stage and he should stop the nonsense from happening
EreluRoz: 8:21pm On Sep 10, 2024
messenger4891:

Well said.
not well said please. He needs to talk now kos the relationship is still boyfriend and girlfriend stage
EreluRoz: 8:24pm On Sep 10, 2024
manmade:
just exactly my thoughts, even there is a portion of the marriage oaths that required you to either talk when it's still permissible or keep quiet forever.
They are not married but still boyfriend and girlfriend so why are some of you responding as if they are already married
LDaVinci: 8:25pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

Both of them did the decnt thing by asking you first, and you gave both parties the all clear, so case closed. Free them.
LDaVinci: 8:28pm On Sep 10, 2024
Orlu13:
if u know wat is gud fr u better tell ur brother


After u don knack d gal wetin no good u now want ur brother to enjoy leftovers... better tell him

Whatis this mentality of leftoevers? How is a human being leftovers? Are you leftovers when you have sex with any woman?
EreluRoz: 8:30pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


Both of them did the decnt thing by asking you first, and you gave both parties the all clear, so case closed. Free them.
Free them as if they are already married? See it is guilty conscience that made him do this post which means what he's doing to his cousin is not right and it'll hunt him for the rest of his life if he fails to reveal the truth to his cousin now. That evil lady's placenta is not tied to that family. See as one evil lady is using two cousin's head and sad thing is some men like you can't see through this lady smh. Did you also read she's still telling this op she loves him more and will always choose him over his cousin and that if he's ready to be with her she'll leave his cousin for him? Read and digest and stop ing evil
EreluRoz: 8:32pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


Whatis this mentality of leftoevers? How is a human being leftovers? Are you leftovers when you have sex with any woman?

Can you marry a lady your cousin has slept with several times and even dumped her? Will you be happy your cousin kept such secret from you? It's always easy to type move on and keep shut because you don't wear the shoes
LDaVinci: 8:32pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
Free them as if they are already married? See it is guilty conscience that made him do this post which means what he's doing to his cousin is not right and it'll hunt him for the rest of his life if he fails to reveal the truth to his cousin now. That evil lady's placenta is not tied to that family. See as one evil lady is using two cousin's head and sad thing is some men like you can't see through this lady smh. Did you also read she's still telling this op she loves him more and will always choose him over his cousin and that if he's ready to be with her she'll leave his cousin for him? Read and digest and stop ing evil

They BOTH sought his permission and the truth from him and HE TOLD BOTH parties its OK.
Anything after that is double talk.
achimendy(m): 8:36pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

You'll watch that girl say it to your cousin's face one day wen dey have issues and insult will follow suit, then your cousin and the entire family will get mad at you for not telling them b4 the marriage.

Brothers like you are not to be trusted and also need to be avoided. I can't watch my bro make wrong choice wen I fully know well about it.

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EreluRoz: 8:37pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


They BOTH sought his permission and the truth from him and HE TOLD BOTH parties its OK.
Anything after that is double talk.
He said he didn't know he'll take her serious. You guys should stop downplaying things like this please. This is how some of you men allow evil ladies come into a family and create permanent enmity. The relationship is still in the boyfriend and girlfriend stage and as such he should reveal the truth to his cousin, that lady's placenta is not tied to their family. Which lady of good morals will date two cousins and won't even feel odd about it? Same lady is still telling op she loves him more than his cousin and you still don't see anything wrong in it? Ikegwuru
Miramonica: 8:37pm On Sep 10, 2024
Oga, if you don't fvck the girl before, just tell your cousin.

I don't think it's right for your cousin to marry a girl you have test-run her kpekus.
Samogloby: 8:37pm On Sep 10, 2024
Hope you are not from akoko? Sound like you are from Ondo State! Anyway,here to read comments

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