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CyrusVI:
Thats correct
But dont u think 500k is too small as most couples tend to fix dates ahead and that affords the lady enough time to save more


Thing is,Most working class ladies have more than that in their sef. And i dont know why you would wanna marry a lady that isnt working or have a proper job

So you cannot marry a student or recent graduate?

Oracleee:


Small boy? I suppose because I don't see things from your school of thought, na small boy dey do me. Lol, all this religious folks them. So Solomon that have over 1000 female he copulated, he's destiny was truncated blah blah blah. Africans and defying logic for religion. Not surprised we are still backward in all ramifications.
You don't know the end of Solomon? Anyway I pray you find truth and light soon


I'm not a small boy like you said. I just emanicipated myself from mental slavery. And, I don't need religion or a fear of afterlife to be a moralist.

1Sharon:


I have no issue ing my husband financially (not 50/50) but when it's time to the woman with childcare and domestic tasks, you guys are quick to say it's a woman's job, isn't that hypocrisy?

I don't know what you mean woman's Job, I my own father helps out to cook for the family when he is chanced, I myself I learnt cooking at early age primary 3 , domestic chores it's nothing understanding matters , I myself I love cooking my meals I don't think anything can stop me from doing that , let's not deviate from the topic.

MartinsD12:

I don't know what you mean woman's Job, I my own father helps out to cook for the family when he is chanced, I myself I learnt cooking at early age primary 3 , domestic chores it's nothing understanding matters , I myself I love cooking my meals I don't think anything can stop me from doing that , let's not deviate from the topic.

OK now. If you want women to contribute financially, it's also fair to assist domestically. Because usually the child rearing and running of the home is often on the woman and I'm sure you know that. 50/50 should mean 50/ 50 in everything, not just finances.

Rapmoney:
Nigerian men compromise too much in relationship and marriage. A man who is educated and financially stable can marry an uneducated and financially handicapped girl but the reverse can never happen. Only in the dream or Nollywood movies can a financially stable and educated Nigerian lady marry a broke and uneducated man.

If Nigerian men follow the same pattern women employ in relationships, then many women will clock 45 in their parents' homes.

Ladies should have up to 500k in their bank s for a start before they dive into marriage. At least, such can serve as backup so that they don't depend on their partners for every little thing they want. And they should also be working or doing business. No man deserves a liability as a wife. If you don't have up to 500k and above, then go and work or start a trade and leave marriage alone. You are an adult and not a toddler that should be spoonfed.

Don't crucify me. It's my opinion.

500k na money for this APC regime?

When you say ₦500k, I suspect you're talking about Nigerian girls.

Like this em bro, just change the headline to "99% of Nigerian girls to remain single if they don't have ₦500,000"

TrustNone:
How much my PovertyStricken papa get wey my sister no fit marry broke man?

Lol

Rapmoney:


What is sauce for the goose should also be sauce for the gander. No double standard.

Okay boss. Sadly, life doesn't play by our rules. It's the other way round. I rest my case.

AndrewTate:
This is invalid in a realistic assessment.

Women don’t need to be worth a dime in riches or bank to get married to anyone they would, the criteria for a woman is how well-groomed they are from the onset, which would result in how well she can cohabit with a provider male to build/take care of a home and ensure a completely orderly and serene environment for her children, husband and every other person who enters her space to thrive in…

When I saw your name I smiled and said no wonderful. Very well said my brother.

Some people will just think of an idea from only one angle, and decide to go public with it.
The reason why there is so much broken marriages/homes is because the world has decided to go against the natural order of things, like the almighty Creator intended.

Men have become lazy and so afraid of hard work and ambitiousness, constantly worrying about why they should cater financially for their wives and family, and are continually demanding for the so called nonsensical 50/50
idealogy. Forgetting the role each gender has
to play in the family. Men have only ONE job, Provide/protect!! The hulkulian task of raising decent human beings and being a soul er for both the Man and the rest of the family has been so minimized that women don't pioritize it anymore cuz they are out in the jungle chasing money to bring to the table.

What a wretched state of affairs. We live in a failing world I tell you

Sapasenator:


So you cannot marry a student or recent graduate?

I have never dated that category before and I will never do that

Angelfrost:
Lol... How many men even have up to 500k in their s (savings o) as we speak, whether married or single?!!

I can tell you for free that most Nigerians (at least 70%) have never saved or seen half a million in their lifetimes.

I don't even stand to be corrected!

Since when did this become the standard for happy and successful matrimony?!!


Whoever use money take swear for una for this Country did a perfect job!

This your stats is backed by CBN, only that the percentage is higher than 70

Firefly2017:



When I saw your name I smiled and said no wonderful. Very well said my brother.

Some people will just think of an idea from only one angle, and decide to go public with it.
The reason why there is so much broken marriages/homes is because the world has decided to go against the natural order of things, like the almighty Creator intended.

Men have become lazy and so afraid of hard work and ambitiousness, constantly worrying about why they should cater financially for their wives and family, and are continually demanding for the so called nonsensical 50/50
idealogy. Forgetting the role each gender has
to play in the family. Men have only ONE job, Provide/protect!! The hulkulian task of raising decent human beings and being a soul er for both the Man and the rest of the family has been so minimized that women don't pioritize it anymore cuz they are out in the jungle chasing money to bring to the table.

What a wretched state of affairs. We live in a failing world I tell you

…Hence the rising conflict between both genders, all leading to the continuous deterioration of society at large. The only way to make corrections is to instill the right orientation in the up coming generations or else there will untold chaos.

CyrusVI:


I have never dated that category before and I will never do that

You are a smart guy.

1Sharon:


OK now. If you want women to contribute financially, it's also fair to assist domestically. Because usually the child rearing and running of the home is often on the woman and I'm sure you know that. 50/50 should mean 50/ 50 in everything, not just finances.

A woman with 50/50 mentality would most times ruin her marriage . Marriage is supposed to be 100/100. both partners do what is necessary to make sure the family runs smoothly and gives their 100 percent, doing what is in the best interest for the family .
Marrying a woman with the right perspective about money is as important as any other thing. One could marry a millionaire wife that wouldn't contribute 1 naira to running the family. One could marry a millionaire woman that contributes but rubs it on your face and disrespects you.
Men that have sense ought to aswell run away from any entitled and ungrateful woman.

For your own respect as a woman, you really should have a job and some money in your before marriage. This way you avoid financial abuse where you cannot have any rights because you depend on the man. You avoid verbal abuse coming all because you cannot make the same money the guy does. You avoid being controlled because you yourself don't have a dime. You even give yourself some dignity by having some money and a job or business. No man will rubbish you anyhow when you enter marriage with your money you made yourself, business or job that you got for yourself.

That's why I wasn't impressed by the other thread where the guy said he gives the girl 2k. Why the hell is a girl that earns 2k even in a relationship? What will she do when she starts having kids and she can only depend on the man? Then it's whatever the man wants, she can't give her child what she likes as she has no money. Anybody dating without a stable financial background, male or female, is on a road to disgrace. The financially stable partner will abuse the helpless one, or their issues will be open to family, family will start 'helping'.

Well, if anyone enters a relationship without money or business, be ready for what you will see. Dating is not actually meant to be had simply for sex and fun. You people are supposed to plan your futures and make sure you're both ready.

Firefly2017:



When I saw your name I smiled and said no wonderful. Very well said my brother.

Some people will just think of an idea from only one angle, and decide to go public with it.
The reason why there is so much broken marriages/homes is because the world has decided to go against the natural order of things, like the almighty Creator intended.

Men have become lazy and so afraid of hard work and ambitiousness, constantly worrying about why they should cater financially for their wives and family, and are continually demanding for the so called nonsensical 50/50
idealogy. Forgetting the role each gender has
to play in the family. Men have only ONE job, Provide/protect!! The hulkulian task of raising decent human beings and being a soul er for both the Man and the rest of the family has been so minimized that women don't pioritize it anymore cuz they are out in the jungle chasing money to bring to the table.

What a wretched state of affairs. We live in a failing world I tell you

. I guess you are a Christian ..... What were the enumerated qualities of prov 31 woman? Nothing stops the woman to contribute in running the home and having her source of income.

purples25:
For your own respect as a woman, you really should have a job and some money in your before marriage. This way you avoid financial abuse where you cannot have any rights because you depend on the man. You avoid verbal abuse coming all because you cannot make the same money the guy does. You avoid being controlled because you yourself don't have a dime. You even give yourself some dignity by having some money and a job or business. No man will rubbish you anyhow when you enter marriage with your money you made yourself, business or job that you got for yourself.

That's why I wasn't impressed by the other thread where the guy said he gives the girl 2k. Why the hell is a girl that earns 2k even in a relationship? What will she do when she starts having kids and she can only depend on the man? Then it's whatever the man wants, she can't give her child what she likes as she has no money. Anybody dating without a stable financial background, male or female, is on a road to disgrace. The financially stable partner will abuse the helpless one, or their issues will be open to family, family will start 'helping'.

Well, if anyone enters a relationship without money or business, be ready for what you will see. Dating is not actually meant to be had simply for sex and fun. You people are supposed to plan your futures and make sure you're both ready.

These are wrong reasons to have a source of income in a relationship . The ones with this kind of mindset would also ruin their relationship .
However , it is normal expectation for every adult to have a source of income and be able to meet their needs and not having an unhealthy expectation of another adult to do that for them.
Why marry somebody that respects money and not persons?

optm:

These are wrong reasons to have a source of income in a relationship . The ones with this kind of mindset would also ruin their relationship .
However , it is normal expectation for every adult to have a source of income and be able to meet their needs and not having an unhealthy expectation of another adult to do that for them.
Why marry somebody that respects money and not persons?

I think we are saying the same thing. A person should have money so as to be independent and respectable on their own.

As for the bolded part, and all my points that you don't agree with, these are scenarios that come up in this life which is not perfect. I respect people as human beings even without money, but is everyone the same? Many people pretend during dating, so you can't know who is who as per character... and men who provide actually do abuse their partners who cannot also provide often. So what I'm trying to say is that it is better to be safe than sorry. To be prepared for the worst, because being abused as a woman due to lack of your own personal money is a common thing in this world for many women.

purples25:
For your own respect as a woman, you really should have a job and some money in your before marriage. This way you avoid financial abuse where you cannot have any rights because you depend on the man. You avoid verbal abuse coming all because you cannot make the same money the guy does. You avoid being controlled because you yourself don't have a dime. You even give yourself some dignity by having some money and a job or business. No man will rubbish you anyhow when you enter marriage with your money you made yourself, business or job that you got for yourself.

That's why I wasn't impressed by the other thread where the guy said he gives the girl 2k. Why the hell is a girl that earns 2k even in a relationship? What will she do when she starts having kids and she can only depend on the man? Then it's whatever the man wants, she can't give her child what she likes as she has no money. Anybody dating without a stable financial background, male or female, is on a road to disgrace. The financially stable partner will abuse the helpless one, or their issues will be open to family, family will start 'helping'.

Well, if anyone enters a relationship without money or business, be ready for what you will see. Dating is not actually meant to be had simply for sex and fun. You people are supposed to plan your futures and make sure you're both ready.

this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

1Sharon:


OK now. If you want women to contribute financially, it's also fair to assist domestically. Because usually the child rearing and running of the home is often on the woman and I'm sure you know that. 50/50 should mean 50/ 50 in everything, not just finances.

What do you mean child rearing and running it's on a woman that's is absolutely a wrong narrative it's not true except you don't have a husband, the thread is about husband and wife okay, most homes it's men that bears in the running of the family which was why this topic was created here

1Sharon:


OK now. If you want women to contribute financially, it's also fair to assist domestically. Because usually the child rearing and running of the home is often on the woman and I'm sure you know that. 50/50 should mean 50/ 50 in everything, not just finances.

What do you mean child rearing and running it's on a woman that's is absolutely a wrong narrative it's not true except you don't have a husband, the thread is about husband and wife okay, most homes it's men that bears in the running of the family which was why this topic was created here and besides the thread is for single ladies who are looking for husband they must be financially ok just as they want the men to be financially ok not the man carrying everything one sided as it used to be , stay on the topic.

AndrewTate:
this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

So what then is the solution to financial abuse from men who earn it all in the marriage? Men who will insult and control women because they don't have anything doing? Is it not best for a woman to have a job to avoid all these?

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Ennyjude:
If them never kill one motivational speaker,others no go learn

even the rich ones remain liability!!

I made my wife get busy, take care of bills together also and have though my Daughter well to have her own business at 18 .... she is to co-run her family, no liabilities.

purples25:


So what then is the solution to financial abuse from men who earn it all in the marriage? Men who will insult and control women because they don't have anything doing? Is it not best for a woman to have a job to avoid all these?

…you speak of these things like it’s the norm when it’s in-fact just a very small percentage of marriages/men that end up or “might” end up being that way. And this is as a result of the error of marrying the wrong person, this marriage you speak of, I’m sure it wasn’t or is not always like that before they get married. These are things that must not be overlooked by women before marrying to avoid single hood as most women marry for the wrong reasons thereby facing the consequences in diverse ways… marry who truly loves you and on your part as a woman DO NOT CHANGE after marriage!!! Cos that’s another leading factor for issues in marriages.
No man would get married to the love of his life and bear to make her uncomfortable in any way.

purples25:


I think we are saying the same thing. A person should have money so as to be independent and respectable on their own.

As for the bolded part, and all my points that you don't agree with, these are scenarios that come up in this life which is not perfect. I respect people as human beings even without money, but is everyone the same? Many people pretend during dating, so you can't know who is who as per character... and men who provide actually do abuse their partners who cannot also provide often. So what I'm trying to say is that it is better to be safe than sorry. To be prepared for the worst, because being abused as a woman due to lack of your own personal money is a common thing in this world for many women.

why should an adult woman not have her own money in this first place ? What i am trying to point out is that your reason for wanting women to have their money is to get respect from their husbands. Most women with this kind of mindset often go into marriages and start rubbing off shoulders with their man.
As per one not knowing the character of their partner in dating , most times the signs are there but you are not paying attention to them. If we say he is dating you and pretending to be what he is not to you, why don't you pay attention to how he treats others that he's likely not pretending to?
In dating , don't just look at how your partner treats and relates with you; pay attention to how he also treats and relates with others and if there is a contrast in character , then he is most likely pretending.

AndrewTate:
this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

Your perspective on this is quite interesting . Are you of the opinion that women should not be empowered to thrive economically ? How much does a man need to have to be ready for marriage in your opinion ?

optm:
why should an adult woman not have her own money in this first place ? What i am trying to point out is that your reason for wanting women to have their money is to get respect from their husbands. Most women with this kind of mindset often go into marriages and start rubbing off shoulders with their man.
As per one not knowing the character of their partner in dating , most times the signs are there but you are not paying attention to them. If we say he is dating you and pretending to be what he is not to you, why don't you pay attention to how he treats others that he's likely not pretending to?
In dating , don't just look at how your partner treats and relates with you; pay attention to how he also treats and relates with others and if there is a contrast in character , then he is most likely pretending.

I stated in my reply that part of the reason is to be respectable and independent as an individual but you are worried about how the woman will rub shoulders.

Deception is inevitable in life so it's good if a woman has financial protection in case she's a victim. That's my point, not rubbing shoulders with any man.

Very correct

optm:
Your perspective on this is quite interesting . Are you of the opinion that women should not be empowered to thrive economically ? How much does a man need to have to be ready for marriage in your opinion ?

as humans we are mostly moved/motivated by our current situations or agitations, but the wiser humans are moved by the past and the future, this type of thinking is not found much in the female space because of an overwhelming dose of emotions as wisdom is more synonymous to men than women. Men have the ability to suppress emotions regardless of the situation and use logic of reality instead, and this is why it is men who have “built the world”.
Now, I said all that just to be able to state a clear realistic point that women have no business being “empowered economically”.this point never seat well with women hence they try to prove the logic wrong by “empowering” themselves by competing with men in the corporate hierarchy which cannot be done alongside being a submissive wife and a mother .
They do all that, go ahead and become a “boss lady” only to realize in their older days that all that didn’t matter to them, that they would’ve traded their whole “empowerment” career for a motherly role at home nurturing a family in their youth instead of pursuing a career that requires a large dose of masculinity which they trade their feminine nature for.
If you think I’m wrong make a research on feminists in their older years.

As for the man,

The life of a man is similar to a corporation. It is very important to build an empire and be ready to accommodate every responsibility that he will be entrusted with, how big that is or how far he wants to be in the building process before he gets married depends on him given that he mustn’t leave any responsibility unattended or complain.
And this is why the early days of a man is very important, it’s not supposed to be comfortable, (if his father failed at building an empire that should have his own life planned out by grooming him with the necessary knowledge, orientation and resources to start building his life early enough which in turn strengthens his linage from generation to generation).
A man that didn’t get that privilege should consider the far future before making decisions on marrying or having children.

…so, know what you’re trying to create before thinking of marriage, if you’re going to compromise then do so with the correct logic.

AndrewTate:
as humans we are mostly moved/motivated by our current situations or agitations, but the wiser humans are moved by the past and the future, this type of thinking is not found much in the female space because of an overwhelming dose of emotions as wisdom is more synonymous to men than women. Men have the ability to suppress emotions regardless of the situation and use logic of reality instead, and this is why it is men who have “built the world”.
Now, I said all that just to be able to state a clear realistic point that women have no business being “empowered economically”.this point never seat well with women hence they try to prove the logic wrong by “empowering” themselves by competing with men in the corporate hierarchy which cannot be done alongside being a submissive wife and a mother .
They do all that, go ahead and become a “boss lady” only to realize in their older days that all that didn’t matter to them, that they would’ve traded their whole “empowerment” career for a motherly role at home nurturing a family in their youth instead of pursuing a career that requires a large dose of masculinity which they trade their feminine nature for.
If you think I’m wrong make a research on feminists in their older years.

As for the man,

The life of a man is similar to a corporation. It is very important to build an empire and be ready to accommodate every responsibility that he will be entrusted with, how big that is or how far he wants to be in the building process before he gets married depends on him given that he mustn’t leave any responsibility unattended or complain.
And this is why the early days of a man is very important, it’s not supposed to be comfortable, (if his father failed at building an empire that should have his own life planned out by grooming him with the necessary knowledge, orientation and resources to start building his life early enough which in turn strengthens his linage from generation to generation).
A man that didn’t get that privilege should consider the far future before making decisions on marrying or having children.

…so, know what you’re trying to create before thinking of marriage, if you’re going to compromise then do so with the correct logic.

In the old society, the major responsibility of the man was to protect and to provide the basic for his family's survival and this didn't demand so much. Today's society is way more complex and desires so much; not just the basics for survival but comfort and pleasure.
It would be so much burden for majority of the modern man to meet these alone hence the need for both partners to put hands together in building that structure that allows for meeting comfort and pleasure.
Many modern men can meet the basic needs for survival just like the men of old times but are struggling in meeting the required comfort and pleasure needed in today's world

optm:

In the old society, the major responsibility of the man was to protect and to provide the basic for his family's survival and this didn't demand so much. Today's society is way more complex and desires so much; not just the basics for survival but comfort and pleasure.
[2]>It would be so much burden for majority of the modern man to meet these alone hence the need for both partners to put hands together in building that structure that allows for meeting comfort and pleasure.
Many modern men can meet the basic needs for survival just like the men of old times but are struggling in meeting the required comfort and pleasure needed in today's world

“didn’t demand so much” isn’t true. When people talk about “the old society” they leave out the fact that status has always been a thing from the onset of time, even in the Stone Age I believe some people lived better than others, in every ancient story of any civilization there has always been the rich and the not so rich…it’s all the same with now, not harder, just slight changes in pattern through which to achieve that goal. Choose the life you want as a man, map out the way to that goal and work towards it, no matter how big, as long as someone has done that before you can do it 100% but the way it’s designed is, the more you desire the harder the journey is but the same law states that if you can persevere till the end the universe will give you all you ask for.

@[2]> if you don’t want the burden to conquer as a man then live within your means without sharing your responsibilities with a woman or else you shouldn’t complain about the chaos that comes with it because you’re disrupting the flow of nature by doing just that… you don’t have to be rich, if you feeling you need to get married asap with 100thousand naira in your name then you should probably go to the village to pick a wife, live in a hut, make babies, send them to the government funded school around there, your little income will be enough to take care of that family without any conflict, but if you want more, you have to go though the very painful and difficult process of increasing your value as a man so that you can have a better life. This is how life was designed to be.
The life of a man is not easy but if he can conquer, the world is his to gain.

…and how much you can conquer is how much you can have. This why man in the general sense is placed above woman. Your life is about conquering through pain and toiling. Break the code and suffer the consequences, just as if women break the feminine code they suffer the consequences too.