NewStats: 3,265,387 , 8,186,577 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 05:55 PM 6n3u6a

I'm asking this question on behalf of my close friends who's in need of help and he's not a member of Nairaland.

Good morning everyone, I need your advice on this matter and I believed there are still good people here that understands more about relationships, love and marriage.
I've been dating this lady for more than 5 years now. She's a single mother while I'm a single father as well. I've met her even b4 she become a mother (i.e when she's still very young about 10 years ago)
To cut the long story short, we aren't staying to close together again for the past 5 months due to the nature of my job, but whenever I went to her place to spend time together, I notice she has a particular guy she chat so much with and she delete the chats leaving some few chats that isn't suspicious, but I know something is fishy. I don't want to confront her directly since I don't av a concrete evidence
I've once hacked her WhatsApp which I caught her inviting a male colleague at work to the nite even though nothing happened between them coz I find out in there chats but still after a lot of beg and cry, I gave her another chance.
But this another colleague at work of hers, I've been suspecting but I don't av evidence yet. She knows if I hack her WhatsApp and she disconnect it ASAP.
Please, good people of Nairaland, what can I do?

You're doing this on behalf of yourself.

Stop hacking her WhatsApp.

The trust is lost. Let her be.


In fact, she's in love with her colleague at work. Let her have the taste of it and find out. Already she's been married and tasted it. You give her another space to explore and learn the hard way, then she come back to her senses and you'll be in charge again.

As early as 5 A.m of the the morning when your mates are planning to go to work, you're busy typing Epistles because of a woman?


And yet, they say we ain't the price? they say we don't rule the world?

1. Single mother.
2. Long distance.
3. Deletes text messages.

RUN!!!

OP, the person is YOU. You need to own up.

NEVER forgive a cheating woman, you messed up by taking her back.

ABORT MISSION IMMEDIATELY for your own sanity.

wentroublecomes:
I'm asking this question on behalf of my close friends who's in need of help and he's not a member of Nairaland.

Good morning everyone, I need your advice on this matter and I believed there are still good people here that understands more about relationships, love and marriage.
I've been dating this lady for more than 5 years now. She's a single mother while I'm a single father as well. I've met her even b4 she become a mother (i.e when she's still very young about 10 years ago)
To cut the long story short, we aren't staying to close together again for the past 5 months due to the nature of my job, but whenever I went to her place to spend time together, I notice she has a particular guy she chat so much with and she delete the chats leaving some few chats that isn't suspicious, but I know something is fishy. I don't want to confront her directly since I don't av a concrete evidence
I've once hacked her WhatsApp which I caught her inviting a male colleague at work to the nite even though nothing happened between them coz I find out in there chats but still after a lot of beg and cry, I gave her another chance.
But this another colleague at work of hers, I've been suspecting but I don't av evidence yet. She knows if I hack her WhatsApp and she disconnect it ASAP.
Please, good people of Nairaland, what can I do?

She is wife material please continue

Sheistoopretty:
As early as 5 A.m of the the morning when your mates are planning to go to work, you're busy typing Epistles because of a woman?


And yet, they say we ain't the price? they say we don't rule the world?

Stop saying Shii
I'm married to a beautiful wife and a handsome kid already. This a friend of mine is like a blood bro to me, so stop saying what you don't know.

She invited a guy to come and spend the night at her place but nothing happened? .

Op,well,I know the person in question is you.....But I'm not here to scatter anybody's relationship.....So, I'll not advice you to break up with her but one thing is certain here and that's the fact that she's cheating on you.....

Sonnobax15:

She invited a guy to come and spend the night at her place but nothing happened? .

Op,well,I know the person in question is you.....But I'm not here to scatter anybody's relationship.....So, I'll not advice you to break up with her but one thing is certain here and that's the fact that she's cheating on you.....

Exactly what I said but he insisted that he's sure nothing happened due to the chat.l he saw after the guy spend d nite.
He said she has cut the friendship between them but discovers someone else again
Bro. I'm not the one. I'm already married. This guy is my friend, just like a blood bro. He told me what happened last nite and seek for my advice

wentroublecomes:


Stop saying Shii
I'm married to a beautiful wife and a handsome kid already. This a friend of mine is like a blood bro to me, so stop saying what you don't know.

Keep kwayet there.


Why you deh lie this beautiful Saturday morning?

Na mumu dey advise man wey dey in relationship with a Nigerian women.

You'll learn!

Carcholce:


Keep kwayet there.


Why you deh lie this beautiful Saturday morning?

Send me Ur WhatsApp number. Let me do a video call with u to see my wife and my kid.
Stop saying what u don't know man

wentroublecomes:


Send me Ur WhatsApp number. Let me do a video call with u to see my wife and my kid.
Stop saying what u don't know man

No, let’s do it this way. Give me your wife number, I will call her and tell her to the phone to you.

Your friend doesn't need anybody to advice him, the handwriting is boldly written on the wall already.


He shouldn't wait for whentroublecomes before he will have sense.

I pity Guys that take single mothers serious in a relationship and more pity for ladies that take single dad seriously in a relationship.
Both are bunch of serial cheaters.
Like minds attract each other.

All these weak a££ men. You know you have no future with her. Why keep staying there

You're very stupid, leave that relationship

Tell him. IT WILL END IN TEARS

I just want to Know if the male colleague at any point in time bought a PRINGLES AND MALTINA and then send it through her (your friend's GF) to give to him( Your friend).

Carcholce:




No, let’s do it this way. Give me your wife number, I will call her and tell her to the phone to you.

😆

GOFRONT:
I just want to Know if the male colleague at any point in time bought a PRINGLES AND MALTINA and then send it through her (your friend's GF) to give to him( Your friend).

are you the male colleague

wentroublecomes:
I'm asking this question on behalf of my close friends who's in need of help and he's not a member of Nairaland.

Good morning everyone, I need your advice on this matter and I believed there are still good people here that understands more about relationships, love and marriage.
I've been dating this lady for more than 5 years now. She's a single mother while I'm a single father as well. I've met her even b4 she become a mother (i.e when she's still very young about 10 years ago)
To cut the long story short, we aren't staying to close together again for the past 5 months due to the nature of my job, but whenever I went to her place to spend time together, I notice she has a particular guy she chat so much with and she delete the chats leaving some few chats that isn't suspicious, but I know something is fishy. I don't want to confront her directly since I don't av a concrete evidence
I've once hacked her WhatsApp which I caught her inviting a male colleague at work to the nite even though nothing happened between them coz I find out in there chats but still after a lot of beg and cry, I gave her another chance.
But this another colleague at work of hers, I've been suspecting but I don't av evidence yet. She knows if I hack her WhatsApp and she disconnect it ASAP.
Please, good people of Nairaland, what can I do?

Oh oh! When them dey tell you say make you avoid single mothers you dey act like say you be mature and real man.

Oga go face your trouble by yourself. Deal with the consequences of your actions. E no go sweet and better for anybody wey go advise you.

You never shee anyfin.

Osim real man😂😂😂

ObalendeCMS:
Na mumu dey advise man wey dey in relationship with a Nigerian women.

You'll learn!

Nigerian 21st century girls are bunch of good for nothing binturis. Not to talk of a Nigerian single mother.
Single mother? When e no be say I dey under generation curse.
Some men are really classless

GOFRONT:
I just want to Know if the male colleague at any point in time bought a PRINGLES AND MALTINA and then send it through her (your friend's GF) to give to him( Your friend).

😂😂😂😂😂You are not a good person.

I understand that you're a single father, but dating a single mother??


Are all the single girls in Nigeria dead??

Modified for better understanding...

Good morning everyone, I am writing on behalf of a friend who is seeking advice. This friend is not a member of Nairaland, but is in need of assistance.

He has been in a relationship with a single mother for more than 5 years. Both of them are single parents. They met almost 10 years ago when she was very young. Recently, due to the nature of his job, they have not been living together for the past 5 months.

During their time together, he has noticed that she often chats with a particular guy and deletes the conversations, which he finds suspicious. However, he does not want to confront her directly without concrete evidence. He once gained access to her WhatsApp and discovered she had invited a male colleague to spend the night, but she begged for forgiveness and he gave her another chance.

Currently, the boyfriend suspects that another male colleague from her workplace may also be involved, but he has no concrete evidence. The girlfriend is aware that he could hack her WhatsApp, so she has disconnected it, making it difficult for him to gather any evidence.

We would appreciate any advice on what steps my friend could take in this situation. Thank you.

Cant someone have fun again.

If she agrees to marry, go ahead. If she did not agree, leave her alone.

By the way, if her actions are irritating you, then leave.

wentroublecomes:
I'm asking this question on behalf of my close friends who's in need of help and he's not a member of Nairaland.

Good morning everyone, I need your advice on this matter and I believed there are still good people here that understands more about relationships, love and marriage.
I've been dating this lady for more than 5 years now. She's a single mother while I'm a single father as well. I've met her even b4 she become a mother (i.e when she's still very young about 10 years ago)
To cut the long story short, we aren't staying to close together again for the past 5 months due to the nature of my job, but whenever I went to her place to spend time together, I notice she has a particular guy she chat so much with and she delete the chats leaving some few chats that isn't suspicious, but I know something is fishy. I don't want to confront her directly since I don't av a concrete evidence
I've once hacked her WhatsApp which I caught her inviting a male colleague at work to the nite even though nothing happened between them coz I find out in there chats but still after a lot of beg and cry, I gave her another chance.
But this another colleague at work of hers, I've been suspecting but I don't av evidence yet. She knows if I hack her WhatsApp and she disconnect it ASAP.
Please, good people of Nairaland, what can I do?

Even if we tell you to leave her for the sake of your peace of mind,she will still beg and cry,and the mu mu you will accept her back.. So why wasting time advising you? Red flags full everywhere,you still dey ask jamb question

I've not read the post, but just break up. It's not worth it. You're welcome 😁

GOFRONT:
I just want to Know if the male colleague at any point in time bought a PRINGLES AND MALTINA and then send it through her (your friend's GF) to give to him( Your friend).

GOFRONT:
I just want to Know if the male colleague at any point in time bought a PRINGLES AND MALTINA and then send it through her (your friend's GF) to give to him( Your friend).

lol that man's story is fucking funny, his wife brought PRINGLES AND MALTINA to give him.
Such a damn ass nigga husband