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I'm in Love with my Late brother's wife.
My brother got married to this beautiful Lady in December 2020. They had 2 kids before he ed on. Throughout their marriage I was in the UK and only came back last year when I lost my brother. After the burial my family gave her 2 options: since she's still young she can decide to go back to her parents and get married whenever she's ready. Secondly she can still stay in husband's house and whenever she finds a man she can get married and move on with her life. She's just 25yrs old. So she chose to stay and mourn her husband. I normally paid her visits regularly to check on her and the kids, buy them stuff her husband could have bought if he was still alive. I tried to make her happy and not to really feel the gap in her husband's absence. I won't lie I was doing all these as a caring brother in-law with no intentions. I knew my brother would take care of my kids and wife if I was the one who ed away.
It was this weekend I promised to take my late brother's wife and the kids for an outing. We went out and had fun then I dropped them home upon leaving the daughter who was just a year old started crying for me not to leave. I stayed back and played a bit until she fell asleep. As days ed I realized I'm having feelings for my late brother's wife. I tried to fight the feelings by not going there often but she'll call me whenever the kids ask of me or they want something. Even as I stayed away I couldn't get her off my head. This was just 6 months after my brother díed. I struggled for 2 months after this time but kíll that feeling but it wasn't easy. One afternoon, she called me and asked if I was avoiding her and the kids or is there anything she'd done wrong? I felt guilty but I couldn't open up to her that I have fallen in love with her already. Mind you I'm not married and I don't have kids yet. After my brother's wife complained, I started visiting and behaved normal as usual on this day I mustard the courage to tell her my feelings towards her. Yes she felt uncomfortable but I told her I'll respect her decision and if she wants I can stay away from her. She cried and asked me what people say? Yes she feels comfortable around me but she doesn't want anything that will bring problems to the family. I felt relieved after airing out my feelings for her.
I can tell now we have been secretly having sēx together, I just can't get over his girl. I dearly love her and I don't want to keep doing things in secret anymore. We celebrated my brother's one year memorial last month and I think I want to open up to my family and hers. I want to marry her. I'm deeply in Love with her and I know she loves me too. In fact as I speak she's pregnant for me. Nobody will treat my brother's children better than I can. They call me Daddy they are still very young. My worry is how do I break this news to my family? Am I wrong in loving in Love with her? I thought of secretly marrying her and moving with her and the kids to the UK so we peacefully continue our lives before the pregnancy becomes obvious. Please someone should advise me.

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Nothing wrong.
The dead is gone for life.
It is not an abomination.

dumahi:


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I will this to the elders on the forum...

okay

Simple....call family meeting...omunna meeting ooo...including the elders and tell them your mind...they will allow you marry her cos na ur brother wife ...and she go still dey within the family ...

But u gats wait for like 2 years ooo before u summon this meeting regarding this...my opinion thou..

dumahi:


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you can go ahead and marry her, you can marry her sisters and her mother if you can. You may even marry her whole family and tribe and it's non of my business. Bringing down the price of garri is our country problem not your sexual adventure with your brother's widow.

Pls and pls yes It seems like people will not be happy hearing that u want to take ur brothers wife bt since ur heart accepted her in clear mind 4 the sake of ur brothers kids go ahead and marry her
For ur family ND wot they may say try ur best to speak to them one after another before calling them family meeting to be able to convince them individually

Tell the man I said all is fair in war and love

Nothing wrong, you don't even need to pay her bride price again or perform any marriage rites, just fire on.
In most African cultures, a man takes over the responsibility of caring for his brothers wife upon his demise, it's also allowed in the Bible.

Yugoslavia247:
Nothing wrong.
The dead is gone for life.
It is not an abomination.

I wonder how some of you were raised, imagine seeing nothing wrong in this. Menace

I can't believe the comments I'm reading so far and it's all from men hian. It is finished

Your brother will be happy in the grave, because it's certain you will treat his kids like yours, so nothing spoil bro.

shortgun:
Nothing wrong, you don't even need to pay her bride price again or perform any marriage rites, just fire on.
In most African cultures, a man takes over the responsibility of caring for his brothers wife upon his demise, it's also allowed in the Bible.

So you allow brothers take over each other's wives in your family. Chai orisirisi

EreluRoz:
I can't believe the comments I'm reading so far. It is finished

You are just being emotional, there's nothing to it.

shortgun:

You are just being emotional, there's nothing to it.

Are you serious or just joking around

EreluRoz:
So you allow brothers take over each other's wives in your family. Chai orisirisi

Yes, when her husband dies, she has a choice to be with any of his male siblings of her choice.

EreluRoz:
I wonder how some of you were raised, imagine seeing nothing wrong in this. Menace

Shut your tap.
Tell me where it is wrong.
Biblically or culturally or quranically.
The only thing that separates a man and wife is death.

Death is the oathbreaker.

Yugoslavia247:


Shut your tap.

I wish your family see your comment on this and be mindful of you.

shortgun:

Yes, when her husband dies, she has a choice to be with any of his male siblings of her choice.

Na wa ooooo

EreluRoz:
Are you serious or just joking around

No jokes, It's allowed both in Christianity and most African cultures. Once the family agrees and the woman accepts. "What people will say" can burn to ashes

shortgun:

No jokes, It's allowed both in Christianity and most African cultures. Once the family agrees and the woman accepts. "What people will say" can burn to ashes

Which part of Christianity accept such? You must be joking

EreluRoz:
I wish your family see your comment on this and be mindful of you.

I wish they see your comments and be wary of you. Cos you think without logic and common sense.

Someone died
6 months gone
He came back to fill the gap
It is even better because he will treat all the children as his.
You prefer the wife to be whoring with married men right. You think the young men are ready to settle with an after 2.

Yugoslavia247:


I wish they see your comments and be wary of you. Cos you think without logic and common sense.

Someone died
6 months gone
He came back to fill the gap
It is even better because he will treat all the children as his.
You prefer the wife to be whoring with married men right. You think the young men are ready to settle with an after 2.

obviously you need to check yourself if you don't see anything wrong in taking over your brother's wife

EreluRoz:
obviously you need to check yourself if you don't see anything wrong in taking over your brother's wife

Mumu.
There is never anything wrong in any part of the world..
Yoruba, igbo and hausa or any western country..
You just pained the woman is not gonna be a LovePeddler.

Yugoslavia247:


Mumu.
There is never anything wrong in any part of the world..
Yoruba, igbo and hausa or any western country..
You just pained the woman is not gonna be a LovePeddler.

See a psychiatrist please. All is not well with you

I know someone who had to marry her late sister's husband for the sake of her sister's children. You should have seeked for consent from your clan before being intimate with her, however. If you present this case, it would look like an abomination because she is already pregnant. Anyway, good luck!

EreluRoz:
Which part of Christianity accept such? You must be joking

Your responses suggest that you are emotional. This is precisely why many pastors avoid preaching such messages in churches. If you delve deeper without emotions, you'll find that Christianity mirrors many African traditional practices.

Hebrews 5:13-14
For everyone who lives on milk is still an infant, inexperienced in the message of righteousness But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.

But u gats wait for like 2 years ooo before u summon this meeting regarding this...my opinion thou..[/quote].
One year is more than enough sir

EreluRoz:
See a psychiatrist please. All is not well with you

Thank God the woman is happy.
She is secured and her children are secured.
The man is safe.
Whatever he invests in the children he does it willingly.. no fear or competition.
He is only scared for nothing.
The family will accept it inasmuch as the wife is a good wife.

You can shove your thoughts up your ass

Is funny the original OP, wont read our comments here.

How come no man that has commented so far see anything wrong in it. Na wa ooo

Yugoslavia247:


Thank God the woman is happy.
She is secured and her children are secured.
The man is safe.
Whatever he invests in the children he does it willingly.. no fear or competition.
He is only scared for nothing.
The family will accept it inasmuch as the wife is a good wife.

You can shove your thoughts up your ass

Your brothers and their wives need to stay far away from you