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GloriousGbola:

Traditional wedding is the hill Ishi will die and be buried on.

I wan tag her but I know she will be here sharp sharp

Lol. Atleast she isn't shying away from it. There are many women who (because of their pastor) refuse to do traditional wedding.

Regardless:
Biblically or should I say according to Jewish customs, once the bride price has been paid, they are now husband and wife. Since sex is only permitted between couples in the sight of God, a couple can technically have sex after their traditional marriage however isn't also better if they take their vows before God and allow a Man of God bless their union?

Sex that you will have endlessly in marriage, what is a few days or weeks that you can't wait till you take your vows before God?

See slave mentality..

Christian couples dat have been banging their brains out even before marriage

cutecommend:
Is it bad for Christian couples to have sex after traditional wedding and before white wedding?

This is the answer..
Christian couples can have sex if traditional wedding is the last wedding as agreed by them or their parents etc, and no other wedding after that. But if a couple have another wedding after traditional wedding, please they should not have sex. Have sex only when all weddings are done. You can do only traditional wedding if you wish, you can marry in your father's house etc, as long as both parents approve it..
Lesson: Have sex after all wedding(s) are done.

You are confused.
When a man meets the girls parents and paid dowry for their and does traditional marriage, the parent hands over their daughter to the man. She becomes the man's wife.
As man and wife, can they have sex or not even before white wedding

If not, what is the woman to the wife is she is not the wife?

And if she is the man's wife, where in the bible or any book of law is it stated that a man cannot have sex with his wife?

This Op is very ignorant. Whether they have other white weddings or not they can fu*k abeg, as long as bride price has been paid. Are they paying bride price on the day of white wedding? Rubbish

cutecommend:
Is it bad for Christian couples to have sex after traditional wedding and before white wedding?

This is the answer..
Christian couples can have sex if traditional wedding is the last wedding as agreed by them or their parents etc, and no other wedding after that. But if a couple have another wedding after traditional wedding, please they should not have sex. Have sex only when all weddings are done. You can do only traditional wedding if you wish, you can marry in your father's house etc, as long as both parents approve it..
Lesson: Have sex after all wedding(s) are done.

The Bible

What type of marriages were they practicing?

In school we were taught what marriage is and the types of marriages but the main marriage is what exactly?

Being betrothed is different from marriage

When you answer then we begin a meaningful conversation

Traditional marriage is the only recognised form of marriage in Nigeria, any other one is mental slavery.

Person go sample nah

cutecommend:
Is it bad for Christian couples to have sex after traditional wedding and before white wedding?

This is the answer..
Christian couples can have sex if traditional wedding is the last wedding as agreed by them or their parents etc, and no other wedding after that. But if a couple have another wedding after traditional wedding, please they should not have sex. Have sex only when all weddings are done. You can do only traditional wedding if you wish, you can marry in your father's house etc, as long as both parents approve it..
Lesson: Have sex after all wedding(s) are done.

Bible did not tells us to do any white weding, Bible commanded us to pay the bride price before having sex which is important, our culture thought us that too, you've paid the price and the two families have blessed them that's all. God recongnise blessnig of the parents more, beacuse they are your earthly god. White weding is not our culture, they only came to promote their culture.

You just said, traditional "wedding". That is the real wedding just in case you do not know. The white wedding is for show!

dawnomike:
I think we should start from what is a 'Wedding' and when does 'Marriage' actually takes place.

Once a man pays the dowry, and the couple receives the blessings of the parents involved; the marriage is sealed already.

Every other thing is just Legal or religious validation.

So, once I pay the dowry and the two families agree and bless the union.... That's all!!!



#MyOpinion

This was 2hat that pastor said and everyone was kn his. Case.

It's because of this act of some people where traditional is this month and then church wedding is the next 6 months that's why this question always comes to play.

Most times from my side all is done within 2 days max, church oo, trad oo even if registry sef. Everything is done and settled and everybody rest.

I personally don't even understand the rationelle behind holding a church wedding after months. Kuku do your trad and rest na. They have paid everything you are married even in the eyes of God

The same sex they have been having since during relationship you're asking, lol. Except you're talking about two couples who are virgins.

adieora:
Yes,they can. Traditional wedding is the main wedding. White wedding was imposed on you by your colonisers. For the person that made the pst and gave an answer. That is only your opinion and it is not biblical.

White wedding was/is not imposed on anyone. It is optional. You can chose to do it or chose not to

As a Jehovahs Witness, a marraige is only official recognised once a court union has been carried out by the local government.

If you choose not to organize any wedding in the kingdom Hall or even traditional wedding, it is all fine and good.

We do not want to burden our with unnecessary costs that will plunge newly ends into huge debts.

Police no go catch em let em Bleep upandan before during or after any wedding. Speaking from experience

dawnomike:
I think we should start from what is a 'Wedding' and when does 'Marriage' actually takes place.

Once a man pays the dowry, and the couple receives the blessings of the parents involved; the marriage is sealed already.

Every other thing is just Legal or religious validation.

So, once I pay the dowry and the two families agree and bless the union.... That's all!!!



#MyOpinion

bro it's not your opinion that is just the biblical fact

Regardless:
Biblically or should I say according to Jewish customs, once the bride price has been paid, they are now husband and wife. Since sex is only permitted between couples in the sight of God, a couple can technically have sex after their traditional marriage however isn't also better if they take their vows before God and allow a Man of God bless their union?

Sex that you will have endlessly in marriage, what is a few days or weeks that you can't wait till you take your vows before God?

Kipkwyet there!

hopefulLandlord:
its a sin for a Christian to have sex at all, Jesus who we Christians emulate never had sex even though it was allowed at the time, he stayed pure and holy. He didn't even marry

Be a true Christian today by saying no to sex and marriage, its better to go to heaven with a frustrated and unused vagyna and dick than go to hell with a well used one, heaven is the goal my Christians, be Christlike

. kipkwyet

Due to lack of money, stress, and abstinence before marriage involved, many Christians won't wait for the wedding or even do it at all.

They'll claim it's not in the Bible, Jesus never officiated one, it was 'imposed' on us, it's our tradition, blah, blah, blah.

Same Christians who did baptism won't celebrate their matrimony o, because it was imposed or the white man's belief or whatever nonsense they tell themselves.

If you are a Christian, observe your wedding: the traditional rites first, then the religious and court wedding, before consummation.

As a proud Catholic, you are not supposed to consummate your wedding before. Wed, then get intimate.

And it doesn't cost much - get your rings, your sponsors, follow your marriage course, do your clearance (if necessary), get your attire (not necessarily white wedding gown), and a priest.

Na you know if you go carry bridal limousine and groom shower.
Entertain people if you can.
Even the wedding Mass is not compulsory.


Abeg make I rest

Regardless:
Biblically or should I say according to Jewish customs, once the bride price has been paid, they are now husband and wife. Since sex is only permitted between couples in the sight of God, a couple can technically have sex after their traditional marriage however isn't also better if they take their vows before God and allow a Man of God bless their union?

Sex that you will have endlessly in marriage, what is a few days or weeks that you can't wait till you take your vows before God?

Is God located in a specific place? Even the traditional marriage have God and the gods present... Certain act are significant in attracting the presence of the gods, during the occasion.
As an African man who know the culture, the woman is asked numerous times, if she she on her will brought the said man . Kolas are broken and most often divided among the witnesses from the village , who represents the gods from the fathers sides and once a dim is paid in of bride price,the man own the woman.
The white don't have such culture and the only thing they know is the licensesed legal way and that is either the Church or the court.
Nigerians been religious and trying to embrace the white man culture is the major course of such problem and pressure in the society. Most often Churches are licensed and allowed to give certificates which is,recognize by the highest court of the land . Thereby making the need of court marriage obsolete.

Did Isaac have sex with Rebekkah his wife after Eliezar went to pay her bride price and bring her to the Abraham family as a wife?

Abi was that marriage not a traditional marriage?

Abi did they do a white wedding in a church for it to be blessed by a pastor before it was recognized by God?

Abeg the wedding in Cana Jesus was invited to in John 2, was it a white wedding? Did Jesus go there to bless the couple or to officiate it? Was it done in a synagogue?


Na we just dey stress ourselves.

The traditional marriage is the real marriage recognized by God because that involves the consent of the parents giving away their daughter with parental consent and bride price acceptance and no church has any right to anybody without parental consent.


Abi una churches/pastors don begin collect brideprice now? I know they like to hijack everything monetary gain o!

joseph1832:
so what about after the death of Jesus Christ? I believe this was when Christianity came. Is there any scriptural backing?

None. None whatsoever

In other words traditional wedding is inferior àbí? Most definitely not!! I can even choose to do it the other way round.

the moment the parents or the girl or any other representative from her family, start to dey knack your wife tatatata

Righthussle:
No.

As happy former slaves to the English people you need to do white wedding ( the official wedding of your former slave masters) so that the white man's god will bless your genitals and let you enter his white heaven when you die.

If my friend Femi hear this question, him go say Na Colonialism cause am. But I always disagree. no be Colonialism, no be only Africa English people colonize. Dem colonize India and China but

na only African people prefer to bear the names of their colonisers

na only African people wey, instead of to pour dry gin for ground to communicate with their fore fathers prefer to kneel and drink the blood of a crucified man.

na only African people agree wholeheartedly say na god of Israel, their colonizers god na him create dem.

na only African people agree say the ways of their own fore fathers is evil

na only African people go give you the complete history of Israel and Saudi Arabia but them no know the name of the last king of their village.

na only African people prefer to worship their colonisers god wey dey collect 10% of their monthly income instead of the god of their fore fathers wey no need any percentage of their monthly income.

Aren't you tired of your rhetorics about the white man's god? Let people choose what they desire to serve. Abeg, live and let others live please.

Tradition (payment of dowry) means that their parents just agree to let them marry. Until the MAN OF GOD pronounce them to be husband and wife, HEAVEN does not recognise them as couples. Take it or leave it.

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hopefulLandlord:
its a sin for a Christian to have sex at all, Jesus who we Christians emulate never had sex even though it was allowed at the time, he stayed pure and holy. He didn't even marry

Be a true Christian today by saying no to sex and marriage, its better to go to heaven with a frustrated and unused vagyna and dick than go to hell with a well used one, heaven is the goal my Christians, be Christlike

"Gloriousgbola, I was shocked you were sharing this.

Your name is worrying

Yes

No we add court wedding before knacking. Nonsense