NewStats: 3,263,715 , 8,181,141 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 01:51 PM 1y6t29

Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as I type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her.

There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but I keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much.

Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation.

It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all.

Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice.

Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as i type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her. There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much. Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation. It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all. Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice. Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

Do all you can to record all their conversations, pretend as if all is well and after that call for a special meeting preferably on her birthday and invite your parents, her parents and the boss of yours then show up all the evidences, and keep Mute after.


Alternatively just invite your pastor, one other wise elder in the church, your wife and the boss over for a confidential meeting and open up the Pandora box then tell them you love your wife but sincerely are disappointed in her and the boss you trusted but you are ready to forgive her if she repents and stops the whole nonsense else you won't have any choice than to make the case public. It's all about mind game, no one especially ladies like being caught in a condescending situation

Ynix:


Do all you can to record all their conversations, pretend as if all is well and after that call for a special meeting preferably on her birthday and invite your parents, her parents and the boss of yours then show up all the evidences, and keep Mute after

Thanks!!

There is wisdom in this.

Ynix:


Do all you can to record all their conversations, pretend as if all is well and after that call for a special meeting preferably on her birthday and invite your parents, her parents and the boss of yours then show up all the evidences, and keep Mute after

Women can't be predicted, you wouldn't know where you went wrong.

These days, it's as if a shot on any woman and she'll fall for it.

I feel your pain, I can't advice you.

If I do, you will throw her out the next morning.

Until then kill you before your eyes go clear...

In our culture it's believed that woman wey the play away match and use the same hands to Cook for the man can lead to death of the man

Why should we keep loving those who don't love us?
Why should we keep respecting people who don't respect us?
Why are we afraid to lose people who do not value us?

You know exactly what to do but you are acting confused because you are afraid of doing it!

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as i type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her. There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much. Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation. It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all. Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice. Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

Let us see your marriage certificate then we will know how to advise you.

Fikkoski:
Why should we keep loving those who don't love us?
Why should we keep respecting people who don't respect us?
Why are we afraid to lose people who do not value us?

You know exactly what to do but you are acting confused because you are afraid of doing it!

Exactly why he doesn't need any advice and should be totally ignored⚠️

He's not ready to be a MAN yet!!!

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as i type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her. There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much. Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation. It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all. Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice. Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

a cheating partner will always be a cheating partner, if you forgive her and you catch her cheating again she will blame you for forgiving the last time.... You don't know woman, she can even kill you because of that your boss.

Be a man!

Oga do a DNA test on all your children before you talk of forgiveness

Iykegodslove:


The bond i tie with my children is very strong. Even though it happens that i am not their biological father, they remain my children. So, DNA not needed. Thanks

I just confirmed that this story is a fictional story in secret search of likes and comments….

Unclebayo:
a cheating partner will always be a cheating partner, if you forgive her and you catch her cheating again she will blame you for forgiving the last time.... You don't know woman, she can even kill you because of that your boss.

Be a man!

Thanks!! I have been awake thinking of what to do.

Tell your wife to marry him.

Ynix:


Do all you can to record all their conversations, pretend as if all is well and after that call for a special meeting preferably on her birthday and invite your parents, her parents and the boss of yours then show up all the evidences, and keep Mute after

OP take this advice, don't show any sign of knowing what is going on. Gather more than enough evidence.

But the home/marriage will like break! With the parent involved.

sholatech:
There is wisdom in this.

Thundafireseun:

Oga do a DNA test on all your children before you talk of forgiveness

The bond i tie with my children is very strong. Even though it happens that i am not their biological father, they remain my children. So, DNA not needed. Thanks

Some people are wired to cheat. They don't cheat because they lack love, care, attention or money. They cheat because they're used to it, or had some traumatic or damaged childhood.

Marriage is not a repair ground for damaged people. That's why it's very important to try and get it right before marriage. I still believe if you look properly and are not blinded by emotions, one can always spot a red flag.

It's left for you to move on or be managing a cheating wife. No one can decide for you. For me, I know the obvious choice.

That your so called boss is he not married too?

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as i type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her. There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much. Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation. It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all. Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice. Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

Gettat!

Tallesty1:
Let us see your marriage certificate then we will know how to advise you.

What of birth certificate and state of origin?

Thundafireseun:

Oga do a DNA test on all your children before you talk of forgiveness

A million dollar advice

Iykegodslove:


The bond i tie with my children is very strong. Even though it happens that i am not their biological father, they remain my children. So, DNA not needed. Thanks

You say wetin? It seems u're a SIMPle man

Iron things out with your wife.
Let her realise the gravity of her offence and what it can lead to.
Then make sure your boss' wife hears about what's happening too.

That's kind thing na him they kill husband and him children for our side . Ur wife they cheat 1st abomination , you want lock up make e nor cast 2nd abomination . Ah ah you no they fear for infection , disloyalty and distrust . Ah ah

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as i type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her. There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much. Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation. It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all. Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice. Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

you dont want to divorce her...Then allow her to continue the relationship with your so called boss and mind your business.

marksonrick:
Women can't be predicted, you wouldn't know where you went wrong.

These days, it's as if a shot on any women and she'll fall for it.

I beg to disagrre with you. If i offend my wife, is it sleeping with another man is the solution?
She should call me and discuss where ever i have wronged her.
As for me, if i have concrete evidence of my wife cheating on me. That is the end of the marriage. Simple

Phabulous4:
But the home/marriage will like break! With the parent involved.

Is the home not break already by sleeping with church member and her husband oga?
It is better her parent get involved,
Have details of her affairs with the man, if possible get their phone conversation. Then you let the cat out of the basket when her parent and the so call church member present

This has been happening for years but i keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much.

Sincerely advising you is not that easy cos you are the one wearing the shoe and you know were it hurts most.

Be that as it may...if your woman have been indulging in this thing for long and have been behaving normal as if nothing is happening....am talking about a married woman with kids given the husband is not far away and she sees him everyday and she is not even girlfriend but a wife is a major cause for concern..and it shows her level of heartlessness.

Furthermore...you are currently standing on a keg of gun powder given the fact that you know and she does not know that you know can result in high BP resulting in deteriorating health issues and by extension untimely death. Sincerely I don't envy you at all.

Also...I smell from your write up given you are a church goer (a Christian ) you are scared of the scandal of divorce (if there is any these days ) and your kids loosing thier mom..but you forgot even the bible gave ground to put away your wife only on the ground of infidelity which she has crossed.

In conclusion...I will suggest you start thinking and putting things in place to live a life without that woman cos she's very dangerous to live with cos once a woman start sleeping with other men not to talk of sticking to one for long..it means you are finished.

If I were in your shoe I will cross my heart and scatter the full table by doing the following..cos am not going to go down alone...

1. Like the first commenter advise get solid evidence and present it to the said lover's wife as well as family .

2. Present the evidence to his pastors and matured church as well as his neighbourhood and work place.

3. As for the woman ...since you don't want divorce I really don't know what you say...cos oneday you will be so furious about it that you will hit her and go to jail..I don't care if she has been your helper since Adam is not a yardstick to cheat ..she is just a cheap hoe..

I once had a lady who slept with an NNPC worker claiming the man said that is the only way he can get the job she requested from him for her boyfriend which is me.. by 5am the next morning she was already an ex..

Go count your teeth with your tongue man and act well you only live life once no spare.