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EreluRoz:
Nobody is dragging head with any man but let them be head in it's complete sense by providing and making sure his wife and family lives a luxurious life else the head will be dragged the moment they start demanding their wives contribute financially.

Women are created to enjoy their life and care for her home but modern men have successfully pushed women into hustling and providing financially which is why we record more divorce in this generation than the older generation.

Men should safeguard being the head or ready to share the head.

You're so smart...

UjuJoan2:


Nobody is the HEAD. Husband and wife are co-captains, and each have their own roles to fulfill, both equally important.

It’s easy to say people should defer in area where they are not competent, but what if you married a know it all? Who thinks they always knows what is best for the family?

Conflicts will certainly arise, and it’s only fair for women to defer to men if they refuse to listen (which for me is out of respect for their age, since most husbands are older than their wives, not because they are men). But if a man consistently makes bad choices, and refuses to listen to reason all the time, then the woman has every right to reject his decision.

This logic does not work in any life situation.

Na recipe for disaster.

Kobojunkie:
1. The Bible does no such thing as you claim there. Rather, Paul and Peter, both of whom lived in the Land of Canaan, during the time that was the Last Days of God's Judgement against the Nation of Israel(and Judah) under the Law of Moses, for reasons best known to them chose to assert the stance of the Old Law of Moses where married women are concerned. Jesus Christ, God's New Law, however, made it abundantly clear that in the Kingdom of God

▶ Marriage is of the world of men and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. This is to echo the fact that God Himself cursed marriage from the beginning(Genesis 3 vs 16) and that which is cursed cannot be of the Kingdom of God.
▶ There is only one head over a man and a woman in His Kingdom, and He alone is that Head/Teacher/Authority/Master - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10
▶ All men and women in His Kingdom are equaled (No hierarchies) exist in His Kingdom- Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10
▶ There are no blessings in the Kingdom of God on those who choose marriage; only those who chose to live as Eunuchs have God's special blessings - Matthew 19 vs 11 - 12
▶ Those among the women who would choose to have children should weep for themselves and their children for it is those of them who would live as Eunuch(and the barren among them) that are blessed by God - Luke 23 vs 27 - 23

This can't be normal

None of the ages you quoted here said those things you attached to them. Not a single one.

And which Paul and Peter lived in the land of Canaan?

Lmao...

This cannot be normal...

1000Capacity:


In everything you typed, you are just confusing yourself

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FatherCHRISTMAS:


Let her be. I like her that way. You have to be an atheist to understand truth. The moment you are able to hit atheism, that means you are no longer following blindly. That's means you are on the path to discovering truth.
You cant find truth without first questioning the age old teachings

An atheist who quotes the bible.

That's a new one.

Kelechi009:


Go in peace ke?! No oh, I am not a preacher of love, I am not here to preach love at all.

I am not trying to correct you, I am here to tell you that you're mentally deranged, you both should get your head checked in the psychiatric wards.

Mental illness is YOU trying to quote a text from a book you do not believe in, a book you hate & despise, a book you believe is a myth but you constantly quote it. You must be really CRAZY!

If you know you are not a BASTARD, refrain from this mentally ill behaviour.

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RepoMan007:

1. how will competwncy be established when vocatuon of both partner doesnt cover such issue?
2. your example of ant managing finance is not appropriate. in marriages with no ant, who manages it? besides ing is centred around book and record keeping and not istratìon.

Great logic. 👍

crackhaus:
■ This can't be normal None of the ages you quoted here said those things you attached to them. Not a single one.
■ And which Paul and Peter lived in the land of Canaan? Lmao... This cannot be normal...

1.Wow...
You mean Jesus Christ never decreed the following in His Kingdom;
▶ All men and women are equals
▶ He alone is the Teacher, Master, Head, Shepherd, Authority, etc. In His Kingdom
▶ That God's special blessing/permissions belong to those who would live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom
▶ That women with children should cry for themselves and their children...

2. You didn't know Paul and Peter lived in the land of Canaan in the nation of Judah?

Let me guess. You have never actually read the book yourself but you are all too certain everything your MOGs have ever told you of it is true, right? You religious folks are very predictable. You will even throw God and the Bible in the fire all so you can hold on to the particular delusions you cling to.

How did I miss this thread

EreluRoz:
Nobody is dragging head with any man but let them be head in it's complete sense by providing and making sure his wife and family lives a luxurious life else the head will be dragged the moment they start demanding their wives contribute financially.

Women are created to enjoy their life and care for her home but modern men have successfully pushed women into hustling and providing financially which is why we record more divorce in this generation than the older generation.

Men should safeguard being the head or ready to share the head.

Raise am Raise am

crackhaus:

This logic does not work in any life situation.

Na recipe for disaster.

It's called consensus decision making. It breaks down in large groups, but it works if the group is small. A marriage consisting of a man and a woman is small enough for consensus decision making to work as long as each party is reasonable and wants the other party to also succeed. For the sake of harmony, the husband's wishes take priority in some areas and the wife's wishes take priority in other areas.

Seun:

It's called consensus decision making. It breaks down in large groups, but it works if the group is small. A marriage consisting of a man and a woman is small enough for consensus decision making to work as long as each party is reasonable and wants the other party to also succeed. For the sake of harmony, the husband's wishes take priority in some areas and the wife's wishes take priority in other areas.

It's nice when you speak like this. Objective analysis. Cool.

Man wouldhavebeen husband open tread ontop marriage matter....Oluwaseun

Seun:

It's called consensus decision making. It breaks down in large groups, but it works if the group is small. A marriage consisting of a man and a woman is small enough for consensus decision making to work as long as each party is reasonable and wants the other party to also succeed. For the sake of harmony, the husband's wishes take priority in some areas and the wife's wishes take priority in other areas.

I think you have it mixed up.

Consensus decision making works best in large groups where the majority can win a vote.
In a group consisting of two people, you can't have a consensus when both parties have opposing ideas. At best, what you'll have is a compromise.

In marriage, it becomes an issue of who should compromise more and in what situation. You captured the essence of 'compromise' in your last sentence.

Consensus means decisions will require the agreement of everybody. Clearly it's easier for two people to come to agreement than for 100 people to come to agreement on an issue.

Jennyclay:
No, I don't assent to that .

If the woman is the bread winner in the family then she must be the head and the lazy man must accept her decisions.

You men always want to be the head but you can’t take good care of your wife and children .

Even the broke and stingy men will soon come here and talk rubbish!!

So you think being the head of the home and being a bread winner are the same?

I agree that the man must strive to make more money but only an unintelligent woman could call a man lazy for not earning as much as she does.

If the woman works as an Executive in Shell, while the man works as an Executive in a medium sized company, there's no way he can make equal amount of money, making the woman the breadwinner.

I hope that you will also take over other masculine responsibilities at home, including protecting and providing everything for your husband and children as he would do if he earned more than you.

You women are just hypocritical ingrates. Hypergamy has literally made you not different from entitled gold diggers.

Your mindset is the reason wealthy women are crying everyday about the fact that men don't want them.

Jennyclay:
No, I don't assent to that .

If the woman is the bread winner in the family then she must be the head and the lazy man must accept her decisions.

You men always want to be the head but you can’t take good care of your wife and children .

Even the broke and stingy men will soon come here and talk rubbish!!

Most marriages are going well and the men are taking good care of their wives. Only feminists in their usual chicken-level reasoning will take a few bad cases and make it look like the majority, but that's by the way.

So you think being the head of the home and being a bread winner are the same?

I agree that the man must strive to make more money than his woman but only an unintelligent woman could call a man lazy for not earning as much as she does.

If the wife works as an Executive in Shell for example, while the husband works as an Executive in a medium sized company, there's no way he can earn same or higher than his wife, making the woman the breadwinner.

Asides from earning more income, I hope that you will also take over other masculine responsibilities at home, including protecting your family unconditionally and providing everything for your husband and children as he would do if he earned more than you? Would you?

Or is your money exclusively yours while his money does everything at home as you yap as if your higher income meant anything?

You women are just hypocritical ingrates. Hypergamy has literally made you gold diggers who think acquiring wealth can replace your man.

Your mindset is the reason wealthy women are crying everyday about the fact that men don't want them.

Anyways, your bio says, "Stay toxic."

So my dear, I wish more toxicity upon your life.

May good men never come your way.

Puss360:
Lol.. this post reeeks of masculine dominance!!!!
What do you mean by "She must accept his decision"?
What if his decision doesn't go well with me, should I accept it like that??
All these reasoning that makes marriage looks like a Master/Slave arrangement!!!!
As in, marriage is meant to be the coming together to two people who loves and respect eachother...
Marriage should be based on love na...
Why should I bow to everything my husband says ??
To me o, nothing like husband is the head o....
We are "Equal"....

It's unfortunate that you see it that way, but nope, you're not equal to your man.

Here's why:

In every relationship of 2 or more people, there must be one person who makes the final decision and equally bears the riskiest responsibilities that come with being the head.

There's no such thing as co-captains. It's Captain and Assistant Captain. President and Vice President. Even the Co-pilot is not equal to the pilot, he/she is an assistant pilot that gives advice and takes orders from the pilot.

The same applies in marriages.

You either be the leader in your home or allow your man to lead. It's delusional to think both of you can have the same level of authority.

Understand this:

Leadership is a curse most times, not a blessing.

That's why if someone breaks into your home to commit murder, they'll most likely take out the man because they know that if you, "cut off the head of the Snake, the body will be easy to deal with."

If you want to be the head of your home, that's fine if your man is such a simp that would agree, but don't make the mistake of thinking you can both share equal responsibility or authority.

It's a partnership between wife and husband

Seun:
My view is that every couple has a different dynamic and their families should be ruled by consensus, but the partner who is more competent in a particular area should be deferred to more often when dealing with issues in that area. If the wife is an ant, she'll control finances.

Your view seems logical

Sadly, I've come across popular content on marriage counselling that makes certain assumptions about roles that end up being harmful.

For instance, there seems to be a common assumption that the wife should always be the manager of the home's finances.

(Fun fact: I've even met one elderly man who told me his saving grace was when he decided to let his prudent wife handle everything about his finances, including his salary. Over the years, the wife made several smart investments that helped him retire very comfortably)

But does that mean that ALL women are naturally financially-savvy?

Only GOD knows how many men's "Painful Exit" obituary announcements that have been triggered by having financially reckless wives who INSIST on managing the home's finances. (Maybe there could be some stats on this, who knows?)

So yes, your suggestion is sound: whoever the cap fits should wear it.

Thanks for sharing

Puss360:
Lol.. this post reeeks of masculine dominance!!!!
What do you mean by "She must accept his decision"?
What if his decision doesn't go well with me, should I accept it like that??
All these reasoning that makes marriage looks like a Master/Slave arrangement!!!!
As in, marriage is meant to be the coming together to two people who loves and respect eachother...
Marriage should be based on love na...
Why should I bow to everything my husband says ??
To me o, nothing like husband is the head o....
We are "Equal"....

No, we are not equal, but we are one. We deserve the same convenience and happiness. Husbands and wives are supposed to work together as a team, just as companies have an executive director and other directors who collaborate to make decisions.

Christian marriage is meant to be healthy and interesting, even with the man as the head. Nigerian pastors have soured the sweetness of marriage with their unscriptural sermons.

I have a question I've been wanting to ask pastors: Where in the Bible does it indicate that a woman must sacrifice her happiness, pray for her unfaithful husband to change, or overwork herself by taking on the excessive duties and responsibilities assigned to her?

The modern view of marriage reflects what Christian marriage is meant to be, but we have just been misled by pastors.

Lol.
Funny topic.
You that is asking, werin your mind tell u?

Merry100:

No, we are not equal, but we are one. We deserve the same convenience and happiness. Husbands and wives are supposed to work together as a team, just as companies have an executive director and other directors who collaborate to make decisions.

Christian marriage is meant to be healthy and interesting, even with the man as the head. Nigerian pastors have soured the sweetness of marriage with their unscriptural sermons.

I have a question I've been wanting to ask pastors: Where in the Bible does it indicate that a woman must sacrifice her happiness, pray for her unfaithful husband to change, or overwork herself by taking on the excessive duties and responsibilities assigned to her?

Your focus is on Christian marriage, my focus is on "Just marriage"...

Good afternoon my dear

Puss360:

Your focus is on Christian marriage, my focus is on "Just marriage"...

Good afternoon my dear

Okay, understood.

Good afternoon.