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My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

If this was a girlfriend boyfriend matter, I would immediately advice you to du.mp her sorry a.ss ...

I mean, why should I be stressed out because you're unwilling to deal with your insecurities when I can find someone much more mature and secure ...

Alas! This isn't relationship, it's marriage, so it gets a bit dicey ...

I believe you should have a heart to heart conversation with her and help her deal with her insecurities, try to win her trust in certain regards - it should help with that ...

Na your wife, you no fit troway am ...
So you better try and get to the bottom of this before it ruins your marriage ...

You saw the red flags of her insecurity staring at you during your years of courtship with her but you neglected it and went ahead to wife her........

Now,your fowl don lay cooked eggs and you come dey cry

Well,I don't know how to advise you but what I do know very well is that an insecured wife is equivalent to a snake

Be careful..

You didn't see the flags before you married her?

Bros enjoy your marriage

Wakatumbit:

My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
….
I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

She has low self esteem
Just call her and sit her ass down (Stamping your feet and fist simultaneously) let her know cheating is a choice, if she has you as her husband what’s she worrying about?
If you want to play around her insecurities can’t stop you, importantly she doesn’t stop you will go do the do and nothing will happen.

It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

She must have experienced cheating partners in the past or it's just her attachment style. Read up on attachment styles in relationships and follow the recommendations. I think what could also make her feel secured is involving her in your activities. Communicate with her, chat about work, social media gossips, everything really. Let her know what you've been up to and your plans. Also, introduce her to those attachment styles so that she can work on her flaws.

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

She has access to all my phones, my laptop, even my mobile app. I don't hide anything from her, I'm very open. I've never been this open to someone else in my life. Sometimes it makes me feel vulnerable but I have to do it cus she's my wife. But the insecurities are still there. I've spoken to her about it before and now I've decided to just let things play out

Be secured.

Insecurity in a relationship is a terrible thing.

That's a red flag every man and woman should take note of and run... Marrying such a person will burden you mentally and emotionally for life.

End the relationship.....

No need to explain anything....

Just let her have full access to everything about you, if u know ur games well. including your phone and chats...go with her to most of your outings. Just build some trust

You dump her and go for her sister or best friend

God will see you through I don't know what to say

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

give her belle tht is what she wants..wen u do that, sh will have lots of issues to deal with and u will become secondary...

simple!!!

Two clever people can't fall in love, true love needs one idiot.

She hasn't let go of her last ordeal in her previous relationship.

Walk away, an insecure partner will self sabotage your relationship. Don't believe me, find out for yourself.

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

Calm Down To Explain Better To Her That She's Only Causing Your Marriage "More Evil Than Good" If She Continues To Suspect You Wrongly Out of Jealousy.


Such Relationships Would Financially Be Retrogressive.


Let Her know that there are better businesses that she can engage in to be making money for herself and the family that "Wreckless Judgement of Adultery"

Please Let Her Go

Allow her to spend few weeks in her parents
Let them reorient their child

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Guys What do you think

bigpicture001:


give her belle tht is what she wants..wen u do that, sh will have lots of issues to deal with and u will become secondary...

simple!!!

I have seen married women with lot of kids still giving their hubbies close marking every second of the day.

Just dey play.

Insecurity is deeper than that... It can even be a mental health thing.

Op, did you marry down? Are you the type that she'll normaly find hard to attract?

:-

Bro, your wife go still catch you one day is just a matter of time...

God will help you!

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

I love this

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

It's nobody's responsibility to make anyone secure. If you are insecure about yourself, no amount of assurance and validation from your partner will suffice

This is simple.

Do it to prove her right since she's suspecting you.

Courtship before marriage is important. It's a bit funny that you both don't know yourselves very well. You might have live with each other for long but there is no trust in the relationship.

Talk to her, I bet you are offending her in some way. Try to know her likes and dislikes

If you are sincere, give her some more years, she would calm down. Discuss oftenly until she copes.

Insecure partners are annoying.

Dude avoid, Ignore her and don't bother explaining anything for your complete sanity