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sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

The reason women leave men after they go abroad is because marriage is not necessary abroad....the woman is given money by government, the police are responsive, what do you need marriage for??

finallybusy:
The only form of engagement illiterate Nairaland s can think up. Intellectually stunted platform.

Why don't you come up with something intellectually engaging so that we can all contribute?

planetx:
According to the late great Aaron Russo, feminism was created in the West by certain powerful forces for two reasons.
1 To get women into the workforce so as to tax them, because basically 50% if the population wasn't being taxed before feminism.
2 To be able to indoctrinate the children from a very early age in what direction the powers that be want them to move, because with the mother busy chasing money and careers, the children are left without proper guidance and the state steps in.

Was patriarchy also built on similar reasons -- the paying of taxes and indoctrination of children in the directionthe powers that be want? Because it seems it also was.

UnknownT:
But when they dump the emasculated man, many of them still follow a black man, who is also emasculated as the black husband she dumped

hehe with time they get to find out that there is no husband abroad. men are not breaking their doors down. so yeah some later regret the decision

If u don't want any woman to serve you hot breakfast, ensure you marry her in her early teens, 15 years max, before peer pressure and social media colonizes her mentality.
You can then train and mould her to your liking. Any 'western' education she wan learn will be at home via home-schooling.

Once a woman has 'seen life', the probability of her giving you tremendous headache is almost one, except she's one that has a core traditional and God-fearing upbringing.

Though I'm not a muslim, but on this early marriage thingy, I'm with them a 100%.

Women get puffed up with little power and opportunity. Especially African women.

sukkot:

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Who empties the trash in your home, your wife? So it emasculates a man if he cooks for his wife? They will soon leave you too with this weak male mindset.

Kobojunkiee:
Na him papa dey him marriage for am?

The lady later served him a very brutal breakfast.

Bottomline, as a man, always make sure you have and earn more money than your spouse. No matter how good the lady is, over time problems will come.
Japa wise, we know lots of folks that have lived in naija, in different places abroad with no problem, why, oga na boss, buy or rents house for his family, sorts out all the finances, gives kids, madam allowance to run things etc. Provides wella, omo problem no dey de.
It is those ones that japa, that are heavily managing, madam then has to go find work, even go back to school, then starts bringing in more money than their hubby that have problems. Before you know, that man looses all respect in her eyes. So called "better" men start cruising her. Omo that one is destined to be doomed.
No matter how well a woman is doing, the hubby must retain his respect by showing himself as a man.
My younger paddy moved his wife through masters level to UK with the kids, bought a house on modgage, they are living well, he is in naija working, visits every 2 months, no problem. Money de.
See, when we were younger, my wife was going to work by public transport. My late dad told me that was not proper, asking if in all my life, I ever saw him let my mama do so. Say na either I make sure I drop and pick her form work or get her a vehicle. So I had to drop and pick her until she got a car.
Man must present himself as man either in naija or worst sef, in japa.

appini:
■ The lady later served him a very brutal breakfast.

ROFLMAO
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So he refused to change? Na wa oo! Well, him papa represent am very well.

Sanchez01:


Who empties the trash in your home, your wife? So it emasculates a man if he cooks for his wife? They will soon leave you too with this weak male mindset.

na maid now lol. pay them well though. i do not slavery. pay your maid 100k per month so she is happy and not frowning

Laughing at people trying to make sense of actions of women. Even masculine lesbians cant make sense of it, be wise..., dont let a cool moment push you to make decisions that you will suffer in years to come.... No the Had i known gang

Bros, sorry to say, but u nor get am.
He's speaking from experience; and let's even assume u aren't married neither been to jandon before, all d ones we dey read for social media nko?

You see 'bleeders' u still dey ask where devil dey.
Ok o.

Sanchez01:


Who empties the trash in your home, your wife? So it emasculates a man if he cooks for his wife? They will soon leave you too with this weak male mindset.

Kobojunkiee:
ROFLMAO
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So he refused to change? Na wa oo! Well, him papa represent am very well.

When woman loses the small or big respect for you in a marriage, na by God's grace to reposition her for her level.

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

You are intelligent and wise.

This Idiats screaming Alfa malu upandan assume they know how women think but they are unbelievably clueless and stewpid as fcuuuk!

Your government is k!lling you and you are here docile and laid-back like a wet pussy but once you hear woman, you begin to roar afamale.
The Whyte man wey dey wash the dishes and cook for his family and isn't saying cooking for his family reduces him, naim dey rule the so called Nigerian afamalus in every aspect....

revolt:
your time is coming no worry lol... and stop deceiving yourself thinking we believe you're a man.. bloody feminist lol

I didn’t want to reply you, it’s quite clear you assume washing plates and cooking makes you less of a man. It’s a pity.

How do you give what you don’t have?

sukkot:
hmmm i wouldnt say i am emasculated, in fact the problem is that i cant be emasculated. i am a spiritual warrior. Orunmila baba ifa. thats me. and to harness my powers and have access to universal information in the electromagnetic ethers the angels told me i need to be close to the equator. see, the tropic of cancer and tropic of capricorn where the west exists are spiritually dead zones. Orunmila cannot thrive in a spiritually dead region. the west is my prison and africa is my throne. so i had to return to my throne

This is a serious load of bullshit

BigBashiru:


The reason women leave men after they go abroad is because marriage is not necessary abroad....the woman is given money by government, the police are responsive, what do you need marriage for??

Marriage is an outdated tradition abroad. Totally unnecessary. Humans naturally get tired of one another but cling on each other for survival. Once you exit survival mode, you will naturally want to have more freedom to explore life. Once you are in a non- judgemental society, the rest is history.

Mentholated:
■ Marriage is an outdated tradition abroad. Totally unnecessary. Humans naturally get tired of one another but cling on each other for survival. Once you exit survival mode, you will naturally want to have more freedom to explore life. Once you are in a non- judgemental society, the rest is history.

Yet every week, wedding halls are packed, registries are booked?

HeatSeeker:




This is a serious load of bullshit

oh its legit

LMAO

letout:


If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

Give women any measure of unearned power or leverage and they abuse it. We have seen this happen time and time again.

Farrason:


Bro... For this type of marriage... The men lost control over the wives and hence lost everything else.

I tell you this for free, if all you have over your wife and kids is CONTROL in Nigeria... When you travel abroad with your family, you will loose everything you built with them. Cos in abroad, FREEWILL speaks so loud even the deaf can hear it. Alfa Male or Not.

There are families where kids can't even crack a joke on their mum's makeup or dad's haircut. Not to talk of wife joke about the husband's dressing.

Don't control your wife or children to love you but let them do it out of freewill. This will automatically come with concern, respect and understand of the new environment for you - Oga Alfa male.

Only a fool will believe this.

sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

People marry for the wrong reasons, a society is a system of normalised average, the normalised average in different geographical locations differ. The problem is many people change geographical location but don't change normalised average. Many marriages are not strong enough for relocation. In Nigeria a woman who leaves her husband or commits adultery is shamed, in other climes it doesn't work like that, so the woman in Nigeria might be faithful for the reason of avoiding shame, but the minute you take away the shame she is at liberty to do as she pleases.

Relocation has to be properly planned, it's not just Nigeria don tire me, many people are going to loose their children which is a bigger epidemic.

People truly write rubbish online.Please do not believe all you read online. I live abroad and the biggest reason women leave men is because of:
1. Men still want to be cheating the same way as back home.
2. Men dont want to help out at home cause they still feel like alpha but they forget there is no house help.
3. The most common, is men leave women to pay all the bills at home as they are too proud to do small jobs before the big jobs cone.

Wrong caption - should be "some women" A lot of women stick by their husbands cos they also know that good spouses are difficult to find abroad. It's not only women who leave, a lot of men leave their wives after japaing so, it's both ways. However there are still a lot of happy marriages abroad. Mine is one...a classic example, and I know very many others!

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

Trash!

Once a woman senses you are weak and vulnerable, she will bully you to submission.

Trolling sukkot at it again but I agree with your post

revolt:


The billionaires that run abroad societies still hve control. Broken families and single mothers is b8g business abroad.. there's people that gain from it. However their society is dying.. its the reason they need immigrants to keep coming. So keep thinking that is progress.

This is the method of dangling the carrot in front of the donkey as you ride it. The day it breaks free... You can't imagine what she will take from you.

Ask same billionaires, they will tell you the film. Divorce and pay-off is not as easy as you think.

Theunbothered:


Give women any measure of unearned power or leverage and they abuse it. We have seen this happen time and time again.

That's why the Great master asked them to "submit to" their husband.
He didn't even say "love thy husband'', he said ''submit", bcus he knew it's a very difficult thing for them to do.

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

define good man
Abi paying her bills and get parents bills is bad now?