NewStats: 3,259,680 , 8,170,686 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 06:52 PM 3n60v

IjebuWarrior:


Madam, didn't mean to brag... I personally donate >N5M annually to orphanages and widow(ers). It's my calling and my responsibility towards humanity.

Cuz you dey give ur poor friend's kids cheap rice and stew, we no go rest again, ba?

Madam, you no well, I swear. 🤬

abeg you dey madd. you never sabi where your madness dey start. why you nor carry the orphanage children for your house and feed them with that money if e sure for you?

you think it's by giving money? your mate nor dey get orphanage homes? You dey mad? you think it's easy to care for children and show them love? that money you put, I dey give orphanage money too.

carry children for your house and cook for them, wash plates and buy ingredients to cook for them. simple!

oga you dey mad but you're too stupid to see.🚫

Kobojunkie:
1. They are her children and she has right to send them anywhere she wishes; you do not.

2. OH wow!! how loving of you, not!

3. She begged your opponent ON YOUR BEHALF and that was a problem for you too?

4. Tor!

5. Some people like too much drama for this life!

she is a woman, so what do you expect. suprise that their friendship lasted for one month

Kobojunkie:
Oboy, come on!! this your tale no get sense! So, you wanted her to leave her own marriage and children to come to cater to your own marriage just like that, all because you used to help them with their needs? Na wa ooo!!!

This Idiot is a real Junkie I swear always talking off point, unrealistic and unreasonable So that Shim can be viewed as a Deviant/non conformist or be seeing as Woke!!this is an Idiot who may have never giving 500 to a needy Person before in His/Her life!!Shim too dey come online to Spew Garbage!!

So it's only the Rich that must help the Less privileged at all times they can't also repay by helping when they can?? Or you think giving aid is only financially? Your time and energy can also be used to render help So her staying with His Wife just for 2 days to assist is bad but She can dump Her lives Problems with this Man and He wouldn't hesitate

You are nuisance and you make me angry I swear na your type the Yorubas call asodi always facing the left if others face right like a Psycho

Even the very wealthy requires even little gifts as appreciation for what they do for you too it doesn't have to be eqiuavalent of what was gifted you though!! If not it will look one sided and ripped off and they may stop doing

Why does even God require us to show appreciations by thanking Him giving our lives in service to Him giving 10 percent to Him as tithe?? Even though He is an all provider ? It is to show that their should be reciprocity in relationships

Only Moronic leeches take and take without reciprocating!!

1Sharon:


How are you any different? Did you ask the child's mother permission before sending on a an errand?

How many kids have discomfort but don't show it? Which child likes being sent on errands?

I dont send peoples kid on errand. I do things myself. The instance i gave is when situation around make me send my younger cousin to get me stuff within house not outside the house.

1Sharon:


Smart with 6 kids? And no means to train them. You may not agree with the OP but you don't need to lie.

She might not be smart in many aspect of life. On the fight issue she was smart and such lady will be good at avoiding fight.

I exaggerated just because of the op

ultraviolet27:


This Idiot is a real Junkie I swear always talking off point, unrealistic and unreasonable So that Shim can be viewed as a Deviant/non conformist or be seeing as Woke!!this is an Idiot who may have never giving 500 to a needy Person before in His/Her life!!Shim too dey come online to Spew Garbage!!

So it's only the Rich that must help the Less privileged at all times they can't also repay by helping when they can?? Or you think giving aid is only financially? Your time and energy can also be used to render help So her staying with His Wife just for 2 days to assist is bad but She can dump Her lives Problems with this Man and He wouldn't hesitate

You are nuisance and you make me angry I swear na your type the Yorubas call asodi always facing the left if others face right like a Psycho

Even the very wealthy requires even little gifts as appreciation for what they do for you too it doesn't have to be eqiuavalent of what was gifted you though!! If not it will look one sided and ripped off and they may stop doing

Why does even God require us to show appreciations by thanking Him giving our lives in service to Him giving 10 percent to Him as tithe?? Even though He is an all provider ? It is to show that their should be reciprocity in relationships

Only Moronic leeches take and take without reciprocating!!

exactly. They think it's only those who have much to give should be helping. as soon as you are down they will run from you and say you're exploiting and using them for selfish gains.

life is wicked. one has to becareful

Ginaz:


abeg you dey madd. you never sabi where your madness dey start. why you nor carry the orphanage children for your house and feed them with that money if e sure for you?

you think it's by giving money? your mate nor dey get orphanage homes? You dey mad? you think it's easy to care for children and show them love? that money you put, I dey give orphanage money too.

carry children for your house and cook for them, wash plates and buy ingredients to cook for them. simple!

oga you dey mad but you're too stupid to see.🚫

You can ask the children to wash plate or buy ingredient when they're with you (But personally i dont do that). But calling her to send her daughter to you is not cool.
You getting too entitled

See ehn u v done ur bit as it is now just end it make everybody dey on their own Biko else bigger issue will arise.

.

1Sharon:


That's exactly my point. But it flew over your head.

Lol your point? Do you really grasp the things you type at all? You that said we shouldn't send our kids on errands because it's not safe, and I made a point to let you know that nothing is 100% safe so we make do with what we can and hope for the best, so how is that your point exactly?

tollyboy5:

She might not be smart in many aspect of life. On the fight issue she was smart and such lady will be good at avoiding fight.

I exaggerated just because of the op

how will you not exaggerate when you're blind and hateful in your conclusion?

She dey avoid fight? lolz. same person who bouthed the lady I had a fight with then goes to the lady's front and be acting nice.

omo life ehn

trust only yourself. I nor fit talk it all.

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged , I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused
to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

I love communication alot. It is childish to ghost her. Have a discussion with her on why she corrupt the mind of her children towards u

torqque7:


Just imagine talk. Who asked you to do all that biko that you are now thinking because of that then you are entitled to sending her kids as you like? You need to examine yourself honestly because if this is how you are in real life then you have issues.

Blocking her JUST because you heard something from her baby?are you kidding me?abi is there any other issue before this that you have bottled up?bia how old are you self. This your action just says you have had her in mind for a while and was just looking for a slight opportunity to cut her off because you think you are better than them.

Well said.

tollyboy5:

You can ask the children to wash plate or buy ingredient when they're with you (But personally i dont do that). But calling her to send her daughter to you is not cool.
You getting too entitled

but she calls me on phone to ask me if i have food at home that she's sending her child to me.

what do we call that? entitlement or not?

Olumaeme:
■ Tooor, make everybody do wetin pay am. I don't even have friends sef, because better people no 2 for this country. Na use dem go use you, especially if you are a genuinely caring person.

People can only use you when you make yourself available to be used by them. When you do your kindness, and do it in such a way that people understand it for just what it is, a kindness, no one dare try to use you.

okewumi:


I love communication alot. It is childish to ghost her. Have a discussion with her on why she corrupt the mind of her children towards u

Click page 6 to see how me and the mother settled it

All this classmates go just dey oppress person...no one knows 2mao.

Op is clearly mocking her apartment cos it's not as rosy as his own forgetting she has 6 kids who's daily activity is to scatter the house with pleasure.

So apart from that Op has successfully turned one of her kids to his errand girl because he gives her change...smh 😏

Whatever you have given them someone somewhere has done more than that for people and he didn't treat them like slaves.

You said it yourself the place you send them to get things for you is only 2mins away so what is stopping from strolling there yourself??

Ginaz:


but she calls me on phone to ask me if i have food at home that she's sending her child to me.

what do we call that? entitlement or not?

That's begging not entitlement. If you say "no" nobody will crucify you. Stop saying i hate you when i don't even know you.

Fountainofyouth:


Lol your point? Do you really grasp the things you type at all? You that said we shouldn't send our kids on errands because it's not safe, and I made a point to let you know that nothing is 100% safe so we make do with what we can and hope for the best, so how is that your point exactly?

So I'm guessing you put yourself In unsafe situations, since afterall nothing is 100% safe?

Exceed15:
See ehn u v done ur bit as it is now just end it make everybody dey on their own Biko else bigger issue will arise.

Yes o. na me dey avoid like this but the children still dey come my house. how do i drive them without being horrible ?

tollyboy5:

That's begging not entitlement. If you say "no" nobody will crucify you. Stop saying i hate you when i don't even know you.

it's begging right? Calling me everytime asking if i have food is begging.

I like how you're selective with your opinion. me calling her child to help me buy fish is entitlement while hers is perfectly fine cos it's begging and i have options of saying no as nobody will crucify me.

just listen to yourself. but you're quick to brand your girlfriends "entitlement mentality when they ask for money to buy food.

You are very selective of your opinion.

Ginaz:


but she calls me on phone to ask me if i have food at home that she's sending her child to me.

what do we call that? entitlement or not?

Poster what i can deduce from your story and responses is the fact you think everyone thinks and has a good intentions or pure heart like you.
people fail to see the pains of the poster here and its really sad, this a a woman who sacrifices her comfort, finances and groceries to help her friend and kids, and now she is suddenly enslaving the kids for sending them on errands? what is wrong with you people?
If the poster decided to adopt one or convinces the parents she wants one of the kids to live with her and take full responsibility would she not go on errands?

Suddenly we are all acting like we are not Nigerians, we all grew in societies where every child can be sent on errands by ant adult who lives there and gets disciplined by neighbors much more kids you cloth,feed and access your private chambers at will.

Dear poster, your good don do, focus noe on yourself as god sees your heart, if you ca, relocate to another neighborhood, but you were too quick to block her and not pick her calls...you should have gradually cut ties with her, i sense you also have anger issues and a little pride, work on it.

Ginaz:


how will you not exaggerate when you're blind and hateful in your conclusion?

She dey avoid fight? lolz. same person who bouthed the lady I had a fight with then goes to the lady's front and be acting nice.

omo life ehn

trust only yourself. I nor fit talk it all.

Based on this, she's not a good friend to you. She can do it to you aswell. Beware of people like her.

Ginaz:


it's begging right? Calling me everytime asking if i have food is begging.

I like how you're selective with your opinion. me calling her child to help me buy fish is entitlement while hers is perfectly fine cos it's begging and i have options of saying no as nobody will crucify me.

just listen to yourself. but you're quick to brand your girlfriends "entitlement mentality when they ask for money to buy food.

You are very selective of your opinion.

When begging is getting too much it becomes a problem.
don't give beyond your capacity.

chudez0147:

Idiot. Because of the small food she gives to them she now wants to kee them with message. The mum say her children no do again. After all them been dey feed before she come the compound

Why fool like you is blaming her for cutting them off?

1Sharon:


So I'm guessing you put yourself In unsafe situations, since afterall nothing is 100% safe?

Crossing the road is an unsafe situation because one can't control what happens next, should we because of that not leave the house because we do not want to cross the road?

Ginaz:


Yes o. na me dey avoid like this but the children still dey come my house. how do i drive them without being horrible ?

Stop being too nice o . Na him dey cause u all these problem. Help get limit. Just apply wisdom without the kids feeling bad.

Ginaz:



This life. me that someone bought pizza to eat for the first time nko? till today I'm still grateful. I will never play God on anyone. I just want them to leave me alone, she shouldn't be calling me. no be by force to do friendship that you will be using to Judge me in the back.

That's why people don't help, it backfires. and you cant even feel hurt when you're wrong cos the world suddenly reminds you that you're arrogant and wicked.

omo.. make everybody dem dey. I have left them and I want them to leave me too.

Anty, do you ve to reply to all the post here omo...you no dey tire ni. You would ve just read through and pick the points that interest you.

There is a statement you made about how the kid has not eaten fried egg, tea and bread before he or she met you, please madam how did you know that..also how old is the kid per say.

Another thing is, you said ur so called frd is your childhood frd right And she has 6 kids already, abeg make I asked you...you never reach to born your own pikin, say shame no dey catch you like this 😒

Mehn I tire for you, I was ing you right from onset, but the way u were just lambasting the whole thing is something else, I'm out of this shi^^t...close thread dahmmmm

escapadechuks:



You sound so sure about all you typed about me like you know me. Lol. You're just grasping at straws. You couldn't have been more wrong.


Anyway, truth is I help people when I can. It's not something to brag about. It's just basic human decency. But I don't help them expecting anything in return. . . Unlike you.

It's not too late sha. Change. You're too entitled and arrogant. It's not nice.

Calm down and reflect on yourself. You hate hearing the truth. That's why this post has entered 15pages and counting. If you want to help somebody, help them. If you don't want to help, don't help. You're nobody's God OK? She shouldn't need to turn her children to your nannies because you give them "something" after. Get off your high horse and realize you messed up.

They were surviving before you came along. They'll still survive without you.


If you want to send someone on errands, please send your own children.

Enjoy.

Na them.im not surprised.

Wherever you see narcissist,fly monkeys must dey around.wherever you see people encouraging ungrateful and entitled people,you must see their kind

Op this is exactly why I said stop responding to every post because the more you respond the more they label you.this is a typical example

JOHNFBOSCO:



Anty, do you ve to reply to all the post here omo...you no dey tire ni. You would ve just read through and pick the points that interest you.

There is a statement you made about how the kid has not eaten fried egg, tea and bread before he or she met you, please madam how did you know that..also how old is the kid per say.

Another thing is, you said ur so called frd is your childhood frd right And she has 6 kids already, abeg make I asked you...you never reach to born your own pikin, say shame no dey catch you like this 😒

Mehn I tire for you, I was ing you right from onset, but the way u were just lambasting the whole thing is something else, I'm out of this shi^^t...close thread dahmmmm

misery loves company.so you want her to be like her friend Abi? Or she should just fling open her legs for any pen1s that comes around? Abi children Na toy wey you just dey get? You no go plan for their arrival?


No wonder poor single mothers don full everywhere with dysfunctional children.tuehh.when you see some posts you just wonder whether some people even had home training at all or they grew under the bridge.

Tuehh

JOHNFBOSCO:



Anty, do you ve to reply to all the post here omo...you no dey tire ni. You would ve just read through and pick the points that interest you.

There is a statement you made about how the kid has not eaten fried egg, tea and bread before he or she met you, please madam how did you know that..also how old is the kid per say.

Another thing is, you said ur so called frd is your childhood frd right And she has 6 kids already, abeg make I asked you...you never reach to born your own pikin, say shame no dey catch you like this 😒

Mehn I tire for you, I was ing you right from onset, but the way u were just lambasting the whole thing is something else, I'm out of this shi^^t...close thread dahmmmm

The child told me herself which made me prepared the fried eggs foher along with tea as a treat.

I never born cos I don't want to have a dysfunctional family. I need to be ready for motherhood. nobody is given award for childbirth, when my time to give birth is near, I will do so.

I reply messages due to the misconceptions being paraded, I had to say my mind too.

Fountainofyouth:



Madam, you are not the first person that has helped people before neither will you be the last, it is not an achievement, it is an act of selflessness to get nothing in return, genuine help is not a give and take situation, do not expect anything because you helped people, you are not humble, you are arrogant and entitled, you feel because you help people, they should answer you in quick haste and without hesitation when you call, imagine calling a mother on phone to send one of her kids to you to run errands, like say na your maid, very belittling, what happen to your legs? Can't you run your errands yourself whether it is near, far, or the streets? She was nice to just say okay, if na me I go over blast you regardless of your help. The effontery to do that is because you feel they are at your mercy, meaning your help and care is not genuine, it is from a place of servitude, you demand a lot in return which is very bad

Your first bolded, I don't know why you feel the need to tell us that story, so because a friend helped you, and you choose to serve and worship her, that means people you help MUST also serve and worship you abi? Is that what you're trying to insinuate and expect from that woman? You feel you're her human god because you helped her abi? Who thinks like this in this 21st century? That's a silly mentality, very silly, disgusting and stupid thinking.....let me stop here

The last bolded shows how extremely petty you are, you sound like those street gossips that when told to narrate her side of the story, she'd twist things for people to sympathise with her, what has being childless got to do with a mother's preference on her own children? Why do you feel threatened and pained by that all of a sudden? People have pointed out your fault here, yet you feel you're right, why do you choose to be blind to your own faults?

God bless you ma'am