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I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Naso marriage be

The promise of endless sex is the greatest scam that was preached.

At the end your marriage was transactional.

Now she has a child.

She has leverage.

Again many women married out of desperation to be wedded wives than having a blissful home.

Men marry to have peace of mind and children. That is why it is called settling down.

Hmmmmn some men sef, wey women full outside na him one tin call wife go do mi yang...

kestolove95:
Hmmmmn some men sef, wey women full outside na him one tin call wife go do mi yang...

That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcome a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child. I am really frustrated

Hmmm🤐

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

if your wife deny you sex, that's cheating.. Go out ND get it simple..

you're are always having problems with your wife... it seems you're even the wife and she's the husband... you said after your first child she change, yeah she will.. because I don't know how you guys met the first place... she's just having pity sex with you... that's the kind of sex women have with weak men...

anyways, read this...

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7879609/wife-complains-when-touch#126448530

someone has already complained about a similar problem...

Dammnn!!!

Stop giving her money.

It's time to get more wives or side chicks to give her competition.
Remind her that you are a man

Your wife told you to your face that you have to earn s.ex? ...

So all you're doing (working multiple shifts per day and helping out in house chores), still hasn't "earned" you a night with your wife? Wawu! ...


I understand that child birth comes with a lot of changes, however, her choice of words (earn se.x) sounds really offensive in my opinion ...

Women need to understand that your body according to scriptures no longer belongs to only you when you get married ...

So depriving your hubby of his body is cheating, so don't get upset when he goes outside and find relieve somewhere ....


I'm not encouraging cheating, however, whatever can be avoided should be avoided - depriving your hubby of s.ex for no tangible reason is a very big mistake ....

A word is enough for the wise ...

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Please grow some brains. The wife started cheating first. The Bible calls what she is doing a fraud.

Side chicks were designed and created for me like yourself.

Trust me, if your wife sense there's someone else.

Her legs will start spreading wider than a woman in labor room

The solution is simple, start arousing her by morning, by evening, based on your effort, she would be aroused. O boy.

Pele. Pour all your sexual energy into improving yourself instead.

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Masculinity has been eroded especially with the growing number of cry babies we now have as men.

How did it get to the level where your wife is now telling you to "earn it" before you perform your sexual rights.

"earn it" what does that even mean? It is clear you are not in control of your wife. Obviously there's something she is not telling you if she can be so flippant in waving of your sexual advances...earn it
Your wife is either self servicing herself or even something greater

Deny her food too

Don't stress your wife.
Tinder, Bumble, Bigo Live, Badoo

any of them. Whatever you decide to do with it, my hand no dey.

You still need talk to her and let her know ur mind

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

OP you are the cause of your problem!
Your wife knows your weakness is sex hence she has weaponized it to her advantage!
Sorry ohh
However,you can do something to change that!
Sex is to a man what attention is to a woman!
Deprive her of attention and she will assume you are getting the s.ex outside which will make her jealous!
This will make her get suspicious and she will try to know who the imaginary woman is!
At the end,she will be the one to arouse you for sex!
Never beg a woman for se.x!

Four reasons...

1. She married you because you were the available husband. The attraction was not really there. She might possibly be attracted to a guy next door...

2. Childbirth might have causes a hormonal change that makes her feel irritated when you touch her.

3. She's a lesbian or bisexual. She's more attracted to her gender....

4. You're weak. She doesn't rate you at all.

This is not cool from your wife, she should understand that the fact that you are trying to provide for the family is the reason your inability to get her aroused. She should understand and help you. Marriage is such a stress.

Divorce her straight away

ok

So?
What should we do now?

show me a home where sex is not abused or used as a weapon to inflict pain on your partner I'll show you a happy home....Most people don't know the meaning of I do....but it's not the saying no that matters. it's the way and manner it's often done only to turn back and say the same person is cheating on you....No be insanity be that?...God will help you sir.

Famz other women and let her see it. Her head go correct if E not correct drive her go her papa house

Simple, Just be nice to her.
Even though I will it that it is wrong for her to deny you your rights to her body, but she told you want she needs in a subtle way... AFFECTION and ATTENTION.