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Chances are that you've been dating your boyfriend/ guy for some time and you've noticed that your friends have started getting married.

Yet, it seems that your guy isn't even bringing up the question of marriage. Well the good news is, you're not alone. 73% of marrying women said that they put pressure on their man to propose. When a man who has been dating a woman for months says he hasn't thought of marriage, he is probably just being honest. Men don't think about these things. If you want to discuss marriage, you're going to have to bring the subject up, because many men never will.

In this video, a young woman asks for advice on how to phrase the marriage question, without it seeming as if she's pressuring her man.

Do you agree with the answers she was given? and which of the advice should she follow?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5A3ReRdJzI

just be direct.

if the guy has no plans, him go vamooose immediately

Zigzagman:
just be direct.

if the guy has no plans, him go vamooose immediately

Nothing clears love from a single man's eyes faster than the following:

When are we getting married?

I'm pregnant, and I'm keeping it.

Dimaya:


Nothing clears love from a single man's eyes faster than the following:

When are we getting married?

I'm pregnant, and I'm keeping it.

who preg you?

The whole dynamics of dating have spoiled. If things are done in an ideal way, this question won't be a thing in the first place.

So after maybe six months to a year, he didn't propose, she now asks him how far? he will now think she is desperate and use it against her by not proposing. Or breaking it off by blaming her for rushing things.

So she either just keeps dating without intention, or breaks up and starts afresh, repeating the same process while increasing her body count, which downgrades her value in guy's eyes.

This is why sometimes, I like the idea of a traditional courting system, where negotiations are done between parents, no wasting of time, and a lady gets married.

Unlike now where we are free to make our decisions, but also the freedom to fail and fail, making irreparable mistakes, and when you are finally wise as a serpent, you have lost your advantage in the game (especially for women, since they retain value).

She now has a high body count, may be a child for an irresponsible man, emotional baggage, etc, and the only way she will score a good man might be through manipulations since she can't do it naturally anymore.

When people hear the word freedom and modernity, they assume it's a liberation from traditional shackles, but it's also a trap to make mistakes that traditionalism prevented. It also denies you the privilege of benefitting through the result of thousand years of cultural evolutional practices that works.

As a society, we benefit from other areas of societal evolution such as science, religion, morality, medicine, etc. If every generation has to go through its own research to find out which plant is edible, and which animals are domesticable, we would make so many mistakes that society will crumble.

This is exactly what is happening to modern relationships and marriages, we have disregarded evolved practices and termed them as archaic, thanks to feminism.

You want to be modern abi? no wahala, sha know that it has its price

pansophist:
The whole dynamics of dating have spoiled. If things are done in an ideal way, this question won't be a thing in the first place.

So after maybe six months to a year, he didn't propose, she now asks him how far? he will now think she is desperate and use it against her by not proposing. Or breaking it off by blaming her for rushing things.

So she either just keeps dating without intention, or breaks up and starts afresh, repeating the same process while increasing her body count, which downgrades her value in guy's eyes.

This is why sometimes, I like the idea of a traditional courting system, where negotiations are done between parents, no wasting of time, and a lady gets married.

Unlike now where we are free to make our decisions, but also the freedom to fail and fail, making irreparable mistakes, and when you are finally wise as a serpent, you have lost your advantage in the game (especially for women, since they retain value).

She now has a high body count, may be a child for an irresponsible man, emotional baggage, etc, and the only way she will score a good man might be through manipulations since she can't do it naturally anymore.

When people hear the word freedom and modernity, they assume it's a liberation from traditional shackles, but it's also a trap to make mistakes that traditionalism prevented. It also denies you the privilege of benefitting through the result of thousand years of cultural evolutional practices that works.

As a society, we benefit from other areas of societal evolution such as science, religion, morality, medicine, etc. If every generation has to go through its own research to find out which plant is edible, and which animals are domesticable, we would make so many mistakes that society will crumble.

This is exactly what is happening to modern relationships and marriages, we have disregarded evolved practices and termed them as archaic, thanks to feminism.

You want to be modern abi? no wahala, sha know that it has its price

If I was a woman, before I agree to even date you, you have to make your intentions very clear.

AndroidAI:


If I was a woman, before I agree to even date you, you have to make your intentions very clear.

how you go make intentions clear? you go force am make him sign contract or wetin?

na only God fit say who go marry who.

i sabi guys wey dey friend woman wey no know say na just sex d guy dey find.

Zigzagman:


how you go make intentions clear? you go force am make him sign contract or wetin?

na only God fit say who go marry who.

i sabi guys wey dey friend woman wey no know say na just sex d guy dey find.

If you can't read someone's intention, they will waste your time and dump you.

When you meet a serious man who is ready to settle down, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.

After 6 months and nothing is happening, you can take over and ask him when.

It's better the relationship break up than continue wasting your time.

AndroidAI:


If you can't read someone's intention, they will waste your time and dump you.

When you meet a serious man who is ready to settle down, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.

After 6 months and nothing is happening, you can take over and ask him when.

It's better the relationship break up than continue wasting your time.

You have a point

AndroidAI:


If you can't read someone's intention, they will waste your time and dump you.

When you meet a serious man who is ready to settle down, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.

After 6 months and nothing is happening, you can take over and ask him when.

It's better the relationship break up than continue wasting your time.

I think it's best if people clarify expectations right from the outset.

Dimaya:


I think it's best if people clarify expectations right from the outset.

tell them

Dimaya:


You have a point

on point

AndroidAI:


If you can't read someone's intention, they will waste your time and dump you.

When you meet a serious man who is ready to settle down, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.

After 6 months and nothing is happening, you can take over and ask him when.

It's better the relationship break up than continue wasting your time.

wisdom

I surrender.

That is how lots of modern men see marriage.

To take care of an adult till thy kingdom come, alongside children is not a child's play. Many men FEAR that place.

Especially when access to sex with lots of women has been democratized. Thanks for sexual liberation, men are the biggest beneficiary.

The world we live in today does not encourage marriage, that is just the simple, sad truth.

AndroidAI:


If you can't read someone's intention, they will waste your time and dump you.

When you meet a serious man who is ready to settle down, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you.

After 6 months and nothing is happening, you can take over and ask him when.

It's better the relationship break up than continue wasting your time.

True.

Ladies need to learn that marriage is the natural progression of a good relationship not a long one. You can’t fight a man everyday, have several men in the name of keeping your options open then be demanding marriage from one.

A man who isn’t ready to get married will make the sacrifice if he sees you as irreplaceable. Even if he initially insists, when the reality of losing you stares him in the face he will surrender.

When you broach the topic, don’t make demands like it’s your right, don’t give ultimatums. Show him how the intended marriage can be beneficial to him.

eazzzy1:
Ladies need to learn that marriage is the natural progression of a good relationship not a long one. You can’t fight a man everyday, have several men in the name of keeping your options open then be demanding marriage from one.

A man who isn’t ready to get married will make the sacrifice if he sees you as irreplaceable. Even if he initially insists, when the reality of losing you stares him in the face he will surrender.

When you broach the topic, don’t make demands like it’s your right, don’t give ultimatums. Show him how the intended marriage can be beneficial to him.

True

pansophist:
I surrender.

That is how lots of modern men see marriage.

To take care of an adult till thy kingdom come, alongside children is not a child's play. Many men FEAR that place.

Especially when access to sex with lots of women has been democratized. Thanks for sexual liberation, men are the biggest beneficiary.

The world we live in today does not encourage marriage, that is just the simple, sad truth.

pansophist! i hail o!