NewStats: 3,261,417 , 8,173,925 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 07:59 AM 1j2v45

okine4real:
when you won marry, marry enter family when get shame. If you come to my house, am to feed you, i cant come to your house and still be feeding you. its the wife's family that will feed ONLY the husbands guest, then all other guest invested by the husband, the husband will take care of his guest. eg John is marrying Susan, Susan's family is to take care of John's Family only. Then John invite about 50 friends, Its John's duty to take care of his friends. this is the Normal way before poverty come change everything. Till today, if i won cause wahala for house, i go the part her family play for our wedding, once i start, she go just change mood, me self go just shut up.

You are lucky your wife's family contribute to their daughter's wedding with you? It's very rare in Igbo land.

princeogbeide1:


Must groom ?

That's why Dem say make una no dey date them broke girls she especially should be the one to take care of it if she's gainfully employed and reasonable, mine should just be an addition volunterily. When we still have wedding to plan.
CAll me broke ass idc.
Maybe tribe literally plays out in this thing idk I'm a Yoruba my friends intro I attended so far the bride takes care of the foods and drinks. We only take some necessary stuffs including drinks.

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

It depends on the people and customs. I think it's usually the brides family. Then ask the drinks the groom brings is kept for later use. Except the groom chooses to bring food and drinks too. And even though her family is handling the food and drinks, he could financially.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Ask your dad if he was the one that paid for the entertainment when he went to marry your mom.
You these pea brained girls of nowadays, you think marriage is shifting your family responsibility to your husband to be?
When guests come to your father's house, na the guests dey buy drinks and entertain your family?
If your parents can afford that why shift the responsibility?
Your family must be poor to expect husband to be to come and pay for entertainment.
The man can as well cook and bring to serve his family in your father's house nah.
Sidon there wait for man that will come to marry you so your family will shift responsibility on him.
You will grow old without marriage be that.
Nonsense and ingredients.

Stanislause94:
so your wife go follow you pay her bride price?

Let the right thing be done according to culture. That's all am saying. The signs of marrying from a bad family or wife can be noticed during introduction/bride price meeting if you are very observant. Little issues

Do they still do introduction? Pay the bride price on Thursday rest on Friday. Go to church on Saturday morning to tie the not, use the reception as traditional marriage, my brother sense naim be jazz man ooo.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Please, let's know the culture and ethnicity you're talking about

Samantha124:
I'm from South Africa.

If the groom's home is far, the bride's family must make sure that the wedding reception starts early so that they can finish early.

After that the groom and his family will then leave first while the bride and her family will then follow.. Then bride will then spend the night at the groom's home, if it's very far, they'll then travel throughout the night until they reach their destination.

wow is good to have international marriage experiece,how SA dear?

PEOPLE LIKE YOU TURN THINGS UPSIDE DOWN. TAKE NOTE: ITS SOLELY THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THR BRIDE AND HER FAMILY, THE GROOM CAN ONLY IF HE HAS OR WANTS TO. IF YOU DON'T KNOW ASK QUESTIONS.

ikdaddy01:
Na the man oh. Any other thing is complimentary

Samantha124:
Limpopo.

Ooh cool... I can guess from the Pedi tribe right?

SA is so far so good.

How about Nigeria?

seglabsy:
wow is good to have international marriage experiece,how SA dear?

Lol.. Damn..🤣🤣🤣🤣

9japarrot:


Ooh cool... I can guess from the Pedi tribe right?

YOU HAVE NO SHAME . IF A WOMAN AND HER FAMILY CAN'T EVEN COOK FOOD FOR ABOUT 5-6 PEOPLE THAT MEANS THEY ARE WRETCHED AND EVERY MAN SHOULD RUN FROM SUCH PEOPLE CAUSE THEY WOULD TURN OUT TO BE BURDENS ON THE YOUNG MAN.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Samantha124:
How am I a wife material?

Are you not?

histemple:

Coming from a person whose father is .........

POOR

I don't know.

What makes you think that I am one?

OBTOREPA:

Are you not?

Samantha124:
SA is so far so good.
How about Nigeria?

babe everywhere just scattered for NIGERIA here

I knew you were going to complain..🤣🤣🤣

seglabsy:
babe everywhere just scattered for NIGERIA here

Samantha124:
Nasty things like what exactly?

Say the love too much knacking and unfaithfulness
I don't know how true sha

Poverty abi entitlement don bend some girls their brain.

So woman family no fit entertain their daughter intended?

When my friend and I formally visited his wife's family to make his intentions known, his inlaws received us we'll and treated us to a good food and drinks.

When we were leaving, we happily appreciated our gracious hosts for their hospitality.

That's besides the gifts we brought when we were coming.

People should give themselves some respect by not demanding every single thing in the marriage process from the man.

It's exasperating!

[quote author=Samantha124 post=122576046]I knew you were going to complain..

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

Well in my case, my dad was really enthusiastic about the whole thing. You'd think he was the one getting married. Mind you I wasn't the first daughter o. He got yams for pounded yam and bush meat, enough! A bag of rice and drinks. He got my traditional aso oke wrappers specially made because each one has a specific name and meaning according to culture. He got chairs and he painted the whole house.

I got money from my husband too for general planning. We didn't spend much from that since few expenses remained like video coverage and photography, musician fee etc.
My husband's family brought food though but they took it back because it was surplus to requirement.

Anybody can foot the bill once there's understanding between the two families. No hard and fast rules, that's old school.

Both families share the burden, or groom alone if he's wealthy; mutual benefit.

Let's be honest here, every sexually active adult loves sex and if we weren't that faithful, then your African brothers wouldn't be bothering to marry from SA.

The problem is that most Nigerian guys go for gold diggers here in SA, those kinda girls who'd sleep with anything as long as they can make good money out of it.

Most of the Nigerian guys don't even know what is like to be in a relationship with a decent SA girl.

greatiyk4u:


Say the love too much knacking and unfaithfulness
I don't know how true sha

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

Where is your place?

South Africa

JONSYN7154:
Where is your place?

Samantha124:
South Africa

If doing it on both sides it mean spending more money.

Only once is enough.

Samantha124:
Let's be honest here, every sexually active adult loves sex and if we weren't that faithful, then your African brothers wouldn't be bothering to marry from SA.

The problem is that most Nigerian guys go for gold diggers here in SA, those kinda girls who'd sleep with anything as long as they can make good money out of it.

Most of the Nigerian guys don't even know what is like to be in a relationship with a decent SA girl.

You are correct
I think they don't want commitment, hence, sex for money becomes their preference

Correct.

greatiyk4u:


You are correct
I think they don't want commitment, hence, sex for money becomes their preference

Each family is responsible for each wedding done on their side.

How would they be spending more money?

JONSYN7154:
If doing it on both sides it mean spending more money.

Only once is enough.

Samantha124:
Each family is responsible for each wedding done on their side.

How would they be spending more money?

Culture differs.

You're not answering my question Sir.

JONSYN7154:
Culture differs.