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injuredman:


The number of marriages that some Pastors have recked are more than the ones they have built.

Reason I respect Priests and Pastors who went back to school to do their Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, bumped into many of them in the library and departmental talks during my undergrad days.

Marriage too get wahala

That pregnancy is not yours. Quote me anywhere. She might do it for payback for whatever reason or because you have hurt her in the past which she hadn't forgiven you,

Query her very well and also check your sexxual encounter with her before the pregnancy.

never court or tame wounded tiger. At a slightest opportunity she will bite you,

Handsomejok:
Thank you to everyone for all the advice and insults much appreciated 🙏

After asking God, your wife and child for forgiveness, it is time for you to forgive yourself.
Let go of that guilt.
Stop bringing your (self) issues here for you to be judged over and over again.
Nobody is perfect.

Try, try, and try to sort things out with your wife.
Keep being good to her and your children, and one day, she will genuinely forgive you from the bottom of her heart.
It is time to stop being hard on yourself. Let go of that burden of guilt.

Reinamaria:


After asking God, your wife and child for forgiveness, it is time for you to forgive yourself.
Let go of that guilt.
Stop bringing your (self) issues here for you to be judged over and over again.
Nobody is perfect.

Try, try, and try to sort things out with your wife.
Keep being good to her and your children, and one day, she will genuinely forgive you from the bottom of her heart.
It is time to stop being hard on yourself. Let go of that burden of guilt.

Thanks 🙏

You are way too nice to her(for her to boldly hide the pregnancy), she will never have respect for you

You care way too much about what she thinks and she takes advantage of that; too late to fix any of that.

Men like you are responsible for the emergence of "feminism"

You are supposed to be the head of your house-hold

You are the leader in your house, supposed to guide your wife!

Then there is also the possibility that she hates having sex with you (very plausible)

Take a deep breath and start living for yourself, I would not say to leave your wife or your family.

But give yourself time to think about your opinions

Right now from your description, You are not enjoying your marriage ,You are bogged down.

It's very common, You are not alone.

Your wife is three months pregnant and you just found out? with alll the morning sickness, vomits and pregnancy mood swings yet you weren't aware?
When was the last time you looked at her?
You guys should better go your separate ways because both of you are just house mates living together with no emotions attached.

Even a house mate without feelings attached would have noticed some changes,
If not because he saw folic acid, I’m sure he won’t know until she is 6months, when her abdomen is already reporting to her environment.
What a husband!

Nnemuka:
Your wife is three months pregnant and you just found out? with alll the morning sickness, vomits and pregnancy mood swings yet you weren't aware?
When was the last time you looked at her?
You guys should better go your separate ways because both of you are just house mates living together with no emotions attached.

Handsomejok:
I saw folic acid on our bed I asked her why is she using them for . She said she is pregnant was shocked and I asked her why did she not tell me the good news she said she has forgotten. I a month ago I noticed some changes in her body I asked her if she was pregnant she said no and I overlooked it. I feel so bad for her to keep this wonderful good news from me and what pained me is she is almost 3 months and I still had no idea. I know I have hurt her a lot in the past which I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I don't know why she is still making life difficult for me. No matter what happened she shouldn't have hidden the pregnancy from me for 3 good months and I am begining to wonder if the pregnancy is even mine or not. It is right for a wife to hide a pregnancy from her husband? I need your inputs please 🙏

It's surprising how men think they will just seek forgiveness and then women will forget all they've done. At times, it's not about not having forgiving spirit or whatever. It's about the ability to forget. It depends on the gravity of what you've done. Even women cannot help it.

Handsomejok:
I saw folic acid on our bed I asked her why is she .... and I asked her why did she not tell me the good news she said she has forgotten

BIG LOL

Sickobeatz:

Hello guys I don’t know how to put this out or anything but I am dying inside due to something I did in the Past. I actually visited a cele church and collected soap ever since then omo I no know watin I don do with my life since that time I just dey reckless I no know who I one tell like this. Everything just dey do me one kind. Pls if you have an idea of what is happening to me and wanna share it privately you can mail me on here

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What did you do in the past that prompted you to visit church

Stargurl20:

It's surprising how men think they will just seek forgiveness and then women will forget all they've done. At times, it's not about not having forgiving spirit or whatever. It's about the ability to forget. It depends on the gravity of what you've done. Even women cannot help it.

Can we just say humans? Because women too do expect this forgive and forget without any effort.

Or is it part of women to hold on to grudges of many years, but expect forgiveness from their partners just on a fly?

Pauldollars:



That's the source of your problem with your wife, that made her keep quiet. You're not close to your wife. You just relate as partners since you're married.
If you're close to her, you'll have known that she's pregnant. Women don't hide things like pregnancy even from an ordinary boyfriend that mistakenly impregnated her.
Your wife doesn't trust you yet. You need to sit up in your responsibility to your wife, build the trust she had in you before you messed up and make her feel loved

Lolz, what kind of childish talk is this?

The only thing that can make a women do such a thing is if the husband has been calling here "a baren woman".

The pregnant is probably not his, the silent was probably a ploy to make him not to the last time they had sex that resulted to it.

Curiouscity:

Can we just say humans? Because women too do expect this forgive and forget without any effort.

Or is it part of women to hold on to grudges of many years, but expect forgiveness from their partners just on a fly?

Ok. I agree