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brain54:
You ain’t wrong…


But since that’s what he wants then respect his wish!

Best answer. Some things aren't about rights or wrong but about letting peace reign. This is such a minor issue that should never pose problems to serious men. Just assume her first name is "your wife"

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

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It's morally Wrong.....

at least respect your friend and his new formed family.

when they were dating.... You're free at that but as far as you know that they're married...haba-mana! Show a little respect pls

Except the girl is older than you.

DonroxyII:
Well .... Whatever Rocks Ya Boat ...Until dem plank you 2by2 for Head you no go Reset ....

Even if Good gestures is misinterpreted I just rendered I'm sorry and Walk Away.... next time I Correct myself in front of such fellow ..... You no get work dey fight unnecessary drama ...

I'm a Yoruba man ... there is "O" there is "e" ... e is a prefix for Respect ...
O is a Prefix for Comradeship..

!

That's archaic. I'm Yoruba FYI.

rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST Thing WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Another Western Puppet.

IPDGP:
All my 3 brothers wife and my brother self , I call them by their name
Me no get time for Mummy that or daddy this

turn by turn

luckydion:


It's morally Wrong.....

at least respect your friend and his new formed family.

when they were dating.... You free at that but as far as you know that are married...haba-mana! Show a little respect pls

Nigerians too carry marriage show off for head .

You were not wrong.

Every tribes get their own culture,in YORUBA land respect is most important.

WackyJ1:


I am forfeiting it as bad debt.

I'm not borrowing anyone money again in this life.

It's another story if the wife had a title but she doesn't.

I've known about the relationship since they started.

I am the friend that would always lend him money when others didn't without pestering him for it.

I escorted them to Onitsha for 6 hours twice when they were purchasing products so he could start a business for her.

But he did traditional marriage and suddenly I am disrespecting her by calling her her first name.

It is well.

B4 I vex for you, collect that money. Send him SMS on how you need that cash.

brain54:
You ain’t wrong…


But since that’s what he wants then respect his wish!

Very simple....That's how he wants it so respect it

My best friend calls my wife by name, but something inside of me is not cool with but I won't make a fight of that

100% wrong and its show how irresponsible u are.

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

I call my friends wife by their name and they equally call my wife by her name,we are cool with it,I see nothing wrong with it but since that is what ur friend wants,respect his wish but then I will advise you keep him at arm's length or else u na go get serious issue later

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

YOU ARE NOT WRONG BUT YOU WILL BE WRONG IF YOU REPEAT IT AFTER HE HAS TOLD YOU WHAT HE WANT. JUST TELL HIM HOW HE SHOULD ADDRESS YOUR OWN GIRL HENCEFORTH.

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

See simping
Biko, what’s disrespectful in calling my friend’s wife by her first name? Or does she have a child already? Because in some cultures, it is more appropriate to call a woman by her child’s name e.g mama Ayo, mummy Ifeoma etc
Op, I’m seriously not understanding this your type of friendship ( I can’t stand a friend onishing me over how to address his wife ) which kain play una don play reach this level Abi na joke? This one na Belgium used see finish.

WackyJ1:


Bros.

Look at the chat.

I called his wife's name and my babe's name in the same quoted message.


I used both their first names.

Is ur friend kind of paying for your needs in this wedding?

The way he sounded na like one big one talking to someone that's not in his level

I can call my wife's name,my brothers' wives names as long as .1, they are not way older than me, my friend's wife own,I can call her by her name, or our wife or madam etc

Now whereby I dey come there come chop and frequent visit, see finish go enter na den someone go dey tell me to put aunty or tell me what to call her....

IT'S NOT WRONG TO CALL ONE BY HIS OR HER NAME, BUT IF THE PERSON IS WAY OLDER THAN YOU, TO SHOW RESPECT IT'S EITHER YOU CALL OGA JOHN OR MADAM BOSE OR AUNTIE OR UNCLE ...

Nawao....

Please all those saying it's wrong, where was it written that once you get married that your first name becomes sacred, especially when you are supposed to be close friends and agemates?

Your culture is not my culture. Stop imposing your culture on others!

Maybe he felt you'll start disrespecting his wife and all that

He's just trying to protect and safeguard his territory , his wife is lucky, she got a man that will stand up for her.

WackyJ1:


I was not paid.

The guy is even owing me money.

More than ₦50,000 and I never bothered to ask for it.

It was ₦3,000 bill that his wife put on my Babe's head that made him warn me like that.

I even collected more insult yesterday.

I left this morning.

Why not tell him whole heartedly that you don't like the way he talks to you. That he should stop that attitude towards you. Bros, na the way you take package yourself nai them go take carry you. If u package am like boy boy, na so him go address u like boy boy. Be wise.

WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

I'll urge to end that friendship you have with that stupid SIMP MAN you call your friend.

Dude is a pussy slave and definitely under the control and manipulations of Jessica. This is exactly how the behave. Guys like that your friend can go to any extent to please a woman. Bros Dem dey see you "See you finish" na why the werey dey tell you say make u no dey call his wife her name again.

Use your Brian and stay put. It's time to end that friendship before they turn you into a Fool

Mille:
Yes, you're wrong. It's totally out of place. He has corrected you so see to it that you make adjustments.

And I think you also have an ego problem. Because if not, what the Bleep is I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020 .

it is disrespectful

When u are poor you will be corrected severely. I go village even small pikin the call my mama her name.

rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST Thing WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Africans?
You lack exposure
You know nothing and think you know everything
Go and spend the rest of today studying international etiquette

Ramanto:
My best friend calls my wife by name, but something inside of me is not cool with but I won't make a fight of that

Of course, it won't feel right.
Especially if you both already have a child(children).

Well, it is better to call her by her children's name. I.e "mummy Lola

DonroxyII:
Western World has their Culture and We have our Culture..... Our Culture is Respect Based Culture ....

If We have Respect for Ourselves as a Nation, Continents and Globe, The world would have been a Better place !

The Corrections seems Harsh .... Personally, I use Respect for Wife of a Friend while I can Disrespect My Friend as I Like !

Since Africans have their culture, why did you borrow the white man's religion?

You don't have to call her aunty. Just use MADAM.

Ivanspring:
Nawao....

Please all those saying it's wrong, where was it written that once you get married that your first name becomes sacred, especially when you are supposed to be close friends and agemates?

Your culture is not my culture. Stop imposing your culture on others!

The way this 'name' thing annoys me, only God can understand. A man and woman will be dating and as soon as they get married, she will be scared to call him by his name. As in? Me, I like to address people by their first names and don't mind the same. If you don't like it, then just go and commit suicide.

I think you should just honour his request for peace to reign

vickydevoka:

When u are poor you will be corrected severely. I go village even small pikin the call my mama her name.

What village is that?

Where I come from, every old man/woman are addressed as mother/father in my native language.
Including older strangers.

WackyJ1:


I was not paid.

The guy is even owing me money.

More than ₦50,000 and I never bothered to ask for it.

It was ₦3,000 bill that his wife put on my Babe's head that made him warn me like that.

I even collected more insult yesterday.

I left this morning.

Read my previous comment Bros, dey don see you finish na why Dem dey treat you anyhow.

Dude you have a pussy ass SIMP man as a friend and you seriously need to cut him off after collecting your money. Else you'll continue receiving insult on a steady.

Who's the stupid girl that they can't call her name? Even queen Elizabeth Dem dey call her, her name, Buhari's Wife Dem dey call her Aisha, who then is she that they can't mention her name? Bros your friend is plain stupid and a complete simp man who will do anything possible to fight for a woman.

In your write up talked about how you helped him to typed his ex project. Can you imagine the stupidity? Oga your friend is a simp and he's obviously trying to make you one. Cut him off completely to retain your value and respect

We4all:


Since Africans have their culture, why did you borrow the white man's religion?

Not all Africans do
Some nonAfricans borrow African religion too
That is peculiar logic
All cultures borrow
It is rude to use first names in most places not just Africa