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I WILL MARRY YOU

YOU SEEM LIKE A GOOD LADY

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aestake:

Still been fed at home...no housing and no husband to take her away? She can't be any assertive.

It still doesn't take away her right to her choice of life. I am sure many parents will respect you when you show you understand your situation and know what you want from it.

drimzsmoke:


Lolz....you're wrong on all count....he's the 3rd,1st male to be married in the family.Ma,I'm not married jare,stop whining me....a very close friend of mine got married late last year,his younger brother has been married since 2020

MODIFY: Ma,on the average,I think educated yoruba men or people who live in Lagos do marry early

I hope you are not talking about those that pregnants a woman and calls it marriage

When i say marriage, I mean those who go through the proper rites of marriage

frozen70:


I hope you are not talking about those that pregnants a woman and calls it marriage

When i say marriage, I mean those who go through the proper rites of marriage

Ma,my brother has been married now for over 4years,a big white wedding(I was not in attendance though)
He practised celibacy before marriage(masturbation excluded)....the other guy(my friend's younger brother) also had a white wedding and also practised celibacy cause he was the youth "pastor" of his church....I think when women decide to practise no sex before marriage more,it's going to push young men to marry early...
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!!!

drimzsmoke:



My brother has been married now for over 4years,a big white wedding(I was not in attendance though)
He practised celibacy before marriage(masturbation excluded)....the other guy(my friend's younger brother) also had a white wedding and also practised celibacy cause he was the youth "pastor" of his church....I think when women decide to practise no sex before marriage more,it's going to push young men to marry early...
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!!!

That's nice

For a woman to practice no sex before marriage, that will be lovely
But she must be a strong person because guys will still keep disturbing her for relationship

That's why people stay away from deeper life girls whom they believe their religious beliefs stand have no shaking

frozen70:


That's nice

For a woman to practice no sex before marriage, that will be lovely
But she must be a strong person because guys will still keep disturbing her for relationship

That's why people stay away from deeper life girls whom they believe their religious beliefs stand have no shaking

From my own personal observation,it shortens the duration of courtship drastically and makes people marry early

drimzsmoke:


From my own personal observation,it shortens the duration of courtship drastically and makes people marry early

Yes

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

GboyegaD:


It still doesn't take away her right to her choice of life. I am sure many parents will respect you when you show you understand your situation and know what you want from it.

Nope. It does.

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Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

Maybe you are approaching menopause, they are feeling for u

Ideservebetter:
Lol. I'm a lady o, so pray accordingly

I want to meet you in person for one on one counselling, that's if you wouldn't mind.

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

This subtle quizzing amongst family is common in our clime. Same treatment is also meted out to men. But one thing you should note is that they care about you else they won't be bringing up the issue. I understand that the frequent quizzing could be really depressing. But you really need to overlook it. One way you can safeguard your sanity from the whole quizzing is by laughing and expressing optimizing whenever the issue is raised. That's one way I was able to overcome mine when the pressure became unbearable.

anthonyuncle:
you better explain to them that you don't want to rush into marriage.
let them know that yes, you are selective but that's because you don't want to make a mistake

Explain what, elderly people no dey hear that one o, them fit use am finish her sef.

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

How old are you?

Ideservebetter:
I'm 31

Hmm
Any lady that has crossed 30 deserve to be disturbed by any parents. Time is no longer on your side. They have every reason to worry. Most especially if u are not in serious relationship that can lead to marriage. It will continue like this till u settle down, anyone telling u otherwise here is just for mouth.

Tribalism123:
Nne, Then I took my time to talk to her and whenever she wants to interfere to my talk I WILL SHOUT ON HER HEAD "keep quiet and listen!". I did this until I spent 15 good minutes on her head. She was so sober. She told me good night in soberness. This morning, her call woke me up. She didn't start her usual rubbish but asked me how will my day be and wished me good luck for the day. All her sense of entitlement diminished immediately.

So I will ask, have u checked your path?
Are u looking for already made guy or someone you can assist with advise to make it.
There are some guys that need only a lady who can look into what they are doing wrong and encourage them to do it right. Some guys are suffering but at the edge of making it. Ladies throw away these guys because they don't see what the future holds for such guys who may not have anything to offer, not even the money that entice them.

the bold was funny to read
She never see that part of u before
But u just have to becareful sha, that her calmness is not temporary. Ladies that engage in this piercing of a thing got attitude problems

Akin1212:


Her life is dependent on getting married?

Oga that man is saying the truth.
If as a lady she is not a clergy, like a rev. Sister, she will suffer at old age o. If ur mom is above 55, Picture your mom as a single lady in this stage of her life, no husband nor kids, u think it will be easy for her to cope? Raising a family is extremely important. Anyone telling u otherwise doesn't care about u.

Isabi4lov:
Nowadays to see a guy that's serious for marriage is also difficult, na pipe and swipe with baby mamas mentality full outside. God will help we the single ladies .

This is not true!

neztar:
you are a woman for godsake and your place is in the kitchen. My mind is telling me you are into hookup

ukaface is this true?

Rubbiish:

This is not true!

It might not be true for you , if you find it so easy to settle down and never had any disappointment whatsoever.

Rubbiish:

ukaface is this true?

your papa Dey available??

Olodo24:
If you're jobless or single in your 30s, avoid family gatherings at all cost

Lol

ukaface:
your papa Dey available??

Me dey available

Isabi4lov:
It might not be true for you , if you find it so easy to settle down and never had any disappointment whatsoever.

Let me shock u now
Can we get married next week?
Let's see if the fault will not come from u
Men don't have problems, the issue is with u ladies...honestly

Rubbiish:

Me dey available

I don’t want you bruv

neztar:
are you a virgin?

Why did you ask?

achimendy:



Explain what, elderly people no dey hear that one o, them fit use am finish her sef.

everyone should express themselves

Earthstorms:


Lower your standards and marry someone, there is no perfect man out there and there is no perfect marriage. Just get someone and be true to the person. If it does not work out, you can get a divorce later. Hopefully by them you would have had some kids you can call your own.

Wishing you the best.

Hmmm.. More like what I'm actually considering

Wiliyanahalowin:
You see, the prevalent challenges in most African society/home is trying to force a young lady into marriage. And when you do because of pressure and ended up with a wrong man they will start onishing that God hate divorce! My candid advice to you is, if you are a Christain please seek the Will of the Almighty. It is not everyone that must marry biko. And if you have been having sexual intercourse in your previous relationships please avoid it. Better late, than now or crash in the future! Do have a blessed weekend.

Honestly, I've never entertained the thought of sex outside of marriage..