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Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also ed her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten ission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

How about you speak to your partner instead of random strangers online.

Congratulations! You have just been liberated.

Errmmm...will somebody tell him?

This exactly the treatment Tinubu is receiving from APC! She had seen that you are unfit to be in charge as a man.

she hasn't even gotten the visa,she is acting this way..maybe she neva even get visa appointment...bro,let her be and focus on your life...If she gets the visa..good...if she doesn't.. DON'T ACCEPT HER BACK...I hate it when people. are dating and one party feels they're smarter or wiser than the other...

FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE

US VISA ABI?.. OKAY O..I JUST DEY LAUGH THAT GIRL ..PINK PAPER GO RESET HER BRAIN

If you her with application fee nko? Mtcheeww.

Men should learn to help and not expect anything in return. Nawa oo!

If the lady decides not to marry you after spending on her, it's her choice and not a sin against God.

Biko, don't spoil her show oo!

Lifeinbits:
Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Seems she is not ready for marriage or at least she is not ready to marry you at this time. What do you want us to tell you?

You may be sure of wanting to spend your life with her but she isn't and there is nothing wrong with that as that is after all the why of these relationships, is it not?

There's no love here. She's been using you to time all this while. Now she has gotten a great opportunity, she feels she will get a better person hence the change of plans. Forget about that kind of person. She's not really into you.

And one female werey for up just successfully commented thrash as usual.

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It is called keeping opinions/ options opened..or not putting all eggs in one basket...if she get married to you, Bill Gate is single now, she might just ran into him while shopping.. .. by then, marrying u would have destroyed the chances of getting his s...🎲

If indeed u wants to travel, take her advice by traveling... if it's US, u wants to settle, find a state so far away from where she is going to be residing... While u were there, Make sure your mumu buttons are deactivated 🔧⚒️🔩⚙️

Don't stress urself man, she'll still need you, like you said, she haven't started the visa application process yet, chill bro, if she isn't keen on getting married to you, fine, draft out a contract, if she still want you to help, the both of you shud sign an agreement for her to pay you back, let it be purely business, you're not running a charity organization. Hope you read about a man that sued his ex after he trained her in law sch, and she left him and won 12k dolls, if I'm not mistaken..
If you guys can't be married partners, you might as well be business partners, everything no suppose lead to quarrel and malice.

You do not know how to travel abroad, but you have a girlfriend who does and you ed her so much financially to enable it happen. While doing this, you did not ask her; Nne, how are processing this application to move abroad? Could you teach me considering I am sponsoring the process?

Did you? Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!


Then, you came to Nairaland typing mendaciously about how she has changed her mind even though you wanted to travel but you don't know how. Not only that, you had created the same topic in the Travel section, but since that had little traction, you came here to try your luck, all in a bid to enter FP.

I understand that the unemployment situation in Nigeria is extremely high, but don't you think there are better things to do with your time and precious bandwidth?

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7557673/girlfriend-doesnt-want-get-married#120697918

Fôolish man, una just carry boyfriends and girlfriends matter for head like rada, una no Dey smoke loud

I like your SIMPlicity though.

You sound entitled, and dependent.
I find that a little 'unmanly'.

You should be making plans for your life as well instead of planning on another person's plan.
She go sweep your leg.
E sure me die.

Free the girl please, both of you are still struggling to stand, don't be a burden to each other.
If you can, remain friends.

That's life, no need to be hard on yourself

DONT FORCE THINGS

U too travel out without marrying her



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You want to sabotage her plans . Then travel out without informing her. I know that's what you want to hear.

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Bro plans changes
Ur gf don Dey see one imaginable husband abroad

Someone that hasn't applied for visa yet is already fledging muscles. Op stop worrying yourself because the ingrate is going nowhere.

Mindlog:


What if she gets the student visa? 🤣

Both grateful and ungrateful people dey collect Visa on the steady 🤣

Either student visa or work visa, None of them comes easily at the US embassy, More than 90 percent of the application get declined daily.
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Someone that can't even afford an application fee completely, how is she going to come up with ticket and accommodation fee?
The chance of the opportunist leaving this country is very low.

Hinder her plans to travel ( find out where she keeps her travel and necessary documents,get rid of them)

Send boys to steal her phone so that you see what's going behind the scenes 🥴

Las Las you and her must day naija
She must see shege

fidelmarshal199:

Someone that hasn't applied for visa yet is already fledging muscles. Op stop worrying yourself because the ingrate is going nowhere.

What if she gets the student visa? 🤣

Both grateful and ungrateful people dey collect Visa on the steady 🤣

Acidosis:

I like your SIMPlicity though.

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Have a sit down discussion with her and understand her reasons for changing her mind.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and i encouraged her to do so. I also ed her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam. While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten ission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

You want to marry her because you ed her ambition to travel abroad.


Not because you love her.


Leave her alone and ask her to return your money.

Abeg allow her jare... Just keep praying for her make the country favor her.

Smart girl, keeping her options open

Bro, your girl don scam you. Why is she changing the goal post now that she is about going for visa interview. Na wá o. And you v spent a lot on this. Ọmọ, make una dey try wise small small.