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My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How do I get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

Give it time, let things sort themselves.

Ahmed0336:
Give it time, let things sort themselves.

Simple

Change and start coming home late too

Calvary247:
My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that he i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How I do get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

most men hang out after business or work to catch up, at least while I was in nigeria I learnt most dont meet up with their monthly salary, although womanising and drinking comes with it but its what he as to do to socialize and get connected, the wrong turn for you is starting issues , he would drift farther from home, his time he would travel for weeks , that one be say babe don de involved

Calvary247:
My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that he i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How I do get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

Suddenly ? Search within yourself, you know the issue(s). Genuinely raise the issues for discussion and apologize if needed and mend your home.

That man is battling demons you can never comprehend. If he tells you, you will still blame him for his feelings.

Let him be

Calvary247, See the comment before the one above me...
The moniker starts with H...

Read it like 3x...then interpret it....
Na there the solution dey

godofuck231:
most men hang out after business or work to catch up, at least while I was in nigeria I learnt most dont meet up with their monthly salary, although womanising and drinking comes with it but its what he as to do to socialize and get connected, the wrong turn for you is starting issues , he would drift farther from home, his time he would travel for weeks , that one be say babe don de involved

My husband doens't drink or womanize.

Better to live in a desert with a beast than with a nagging wife.

Are you giving him headache at home?
I know why I'm asking because I am a married man too. If I don't feel comfortable with my woman at home,I go just hang out

He's having flat tyre problems

Jokes apart,... The two logical things that could cause his lateness
<<Work related problem/ pressure, unrealistic expectations/ high targets from bosses..
OR
<<The home is no longer conducive for him, constant misunderstanding between the two of you hence he goes to were he can have breathing space after work...
Just ask him on a good Saturday afternoon

Calvary247:
My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How do I get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

Don't worry, many women are in your shoes.
Quick question, is he the person who you gave your virginity to?

VictorUSA:
Change and start coming home late too

You're not wise sir.

Im about to start as well...and it's due to constant nagging! We go leave house for una go catch cruise outside!

If that man tell you the truckload of things in his head you'd be shocked. Please do not nag about his late nights, try to encourage and lift him with your words, also show interest in his work, be that person he can talk to about his job and challenges because most times Nigerian wives seem not to be interested in this thing and that is where the problem is.

detectivejones:
If that man tell you the truckload of things in his head you'd be shocked. Please do not nag about his late nights, try to encourage and lift him with your words, also show interest in his work, be that person he can talk to about his job and challenges because most times Nigerian wives seem not to be interested in this thing and that is where the problem is.

its because we men give them this false sense of entitlement that they are not meant to understand our struggles. Many fake ladies run away from me because they cannot keep up.

To better understand what a man faces out there, i make these ladies get a job and pay bills. Yes you must pay bills, so that when you come back home looking so tired and worn out, only then you can come to my table and we can gist.

Calvary247:
My husband doens't drink or womanize.

. I like that, especially the doesn't womanize aspect. People learn, men aren't born with it.
My years on Earth, I haven't seen a man that doesn't womanize. Some do it sensible, while others are fool on that course. He might not womanize yesteryears, but in the future it awaits him and I guess he is in the future

Bubu happened to us all...

What is late? What time?

Calvary247:
My husband doens't drink or womanize.

oh really

He is with me

Cutehector:
its because we men give them this false sense of entitlement that they are not meant to understand our struggles. Many fake ladies run away from me because they cannot keep up.

To better understand what a man faces out there, i make these ladies get a job and pay bills. Yes you must pay bills, so that when you come back home looking so tired and worn out, only then you can come to my table and we can gist.

You said it all.

Pretend like you don't care and that you don't see what he's doing.. start dressing nice and looking good.. And pretend like you're always chatting with someone on the phone that's making you smile in his presence, even if it's just your friends or family .

When he asks, just tell him to not worry and that it's nobody.

He'll get jealous and then immediately he starts complaining, tell him how you feel about him always coming home late and that you're lonely.

Calvary247:
My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How do I get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

Calvary247:
My husband has suddenly developed a new habit: he comes back home late at night which is very unusual. My husband is not that type but i don't know what came over him to start living this kind of life. And any time I try to talk to him he says no problem and that i should not worry but it's a matter of concern to me. How do I get to the root of this? I'm down emotionally.

Try this....

Make your home conducive and get busy. The latter is very important.

Na him go dey monitor you.

Samantha123:
Pretend like you don't care and that you don't see what he's doing.. start dressing nice and looking good.. And pretend like you're always chatting with someone on the phone that's making you smile in his presence, even if it's just your friends or family .

When he asks, just tell him to not worry and that it's nobody.

He'll get jealous and then immediately he starts complaining, tell him how you feel about him always coming home late and that you're lonely.

Creating more problems when there is none

Na dis nonsense I no go fit tolerate as a married man I will go out and drink with my friends and come back. I hate stupid questions.

Why even get married in the first place when you can have a very happy single life where you can do whatever you want.

Cutehector:
its because we men give them this false sense of entitlement that they are not meant to understand our struggles. Many fake ladies run away from me because they cannot keep up.

To better understand what a man faces out there, i make these ladies get a job and pay bills. Yes you must pay bills, so that when you come back home looking so tired and worn out, only then you can come to my table and we can gist.

Exactly

How would you feel if your wife starts coming home late and whenever you ask about her whereabouts, she tells you not to worry?

Would you be okay with her always coming home late

jeff1607:


Creating more problems when there is none

What about those ladies that work from 7am till 5pm but still manage to come home after work

This is the 21st century and it's not only you men working, so don't use that as an excuse.

Cutehector:
its because we men give them this false sense of entitlement that they are not meant to understand our struggles. Many fake ladies run away from me because they cannot keep up.

To better understand what a man faces out there, i make these ladies get a job and pay bills. Yes you must pay bills, so that when you come back home looking so tired and worn out, only then you can come to my table and we can gist.

Samantha123:
What about those ladies that work from 7am till 5pm but still manage to come home after work

This is the 21st century and it's not only you men working, so don't use that as an excuse.

samantha123 there is no need fighting everybody on this forum.

You are a woman and I wont blame you for the way you reason.

Since when does engaging in a discussion a fight?

In fact, you're the one who's always trying to provoke me, but it never works because I'm not here to fight or insult anyone..

Cutehector:
samantha123 there is no need fighting everybody on this forum.

You are a woman and I wont blame you for your reasoning.