NewStats: 3,261,051 , 8,172,945 topics. Date: Wednesday, 28 May 2025 at 06:10 AM 5y1i2s

I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home.

That's good. I endorse your tears.

Weeping and sorrow are what makes a man amazingly SIMPle.

She is cheating. You have one option which is to throw her out(divorce). Her eyes go clear when the man deceiving her refuses to come take charge openly as her man.

Two bad options

Start getting sex elsewhere too but do it with protection so that when her madness stops you don't infect her with a disease you contracted while playing away matches. I hope the man is not digging her raw though coz in her case she will not only bring back a deadly disease but a bastard too.


The last option which is not an option is to endure coz you have endured enough from what I read. Endure cheating? Hell no. Man up

Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

How you people let women control your emotions is beyond me,..

Just like goods has diminishing marginal utility, machine experiences wears and tears (depreciation) humans as well experiences something of this nature.

Perhaps it's high time we start practicing contract marriage in Nigeria because this current for better for worst doesn't and will no longer work due to see finish.

Everybody wants to experience love again, both parties stopped doing what made them fell in love because they now belongs to eachother which becomes a very big problem. After marriage, tolerance and forced captivity sets in.

Since I removed marriage from my to do list, there is this internal happiness and hefty self pressured burden taken away from my shoulders.

First to cry na him or her dey at fault..


Lets hear from her side of the story. Bring her in here.

JASONjnr:
How you people let women control your emotions is beyond me,..

He's SIMPly in love. A man in love is a foolish man. My last relationship with a Nigerian girl made me understand that it takes a man without brain to love a Nigerian girl.

Me, though I still get atom of likeness for woman, but deep down, d only role I believe they are expected play in man life na to give birth to Una 2 kids. Only the absence of it go break my heart. Nothing. I repeat nothing and no part of my life dey for woman hand. P...sy plenty around my work environment wey I dey choose at will. Thank you

"I demanded to have her phone but she refused."

You see the above, did you see d above statement?.......... If you already have the of your partners phone, there would be no need to demand to have her phone to scroll through her chats. All you need do is wait till she looseguard the phone at the corner of the room and you gently enter the and do your spy job....(skeletons in da cupboard)........but hell No. They will not want to....... They would say there is no need to know a partner's . They would say it is their privacy invasion. They would say they dont want to go and spy on a chat that would give them heart attack!!!!


Them nor know say from the day you consciously refused to spy on your spouse's phone, that is the very day you start to invite HBP to your mental health.

Do not ignore the early SIGNS. ''A man's got to do what a man's got to do''

Op though, you maybe a SIMPle Alpha-male but, You are leaving yourself available to be bamboozled, cajoled, deceived or otherwise blackmailed into her agenda, if you just sit there doing nothing and watching her like a duck , your emotions might be ruined for ever.

Your wife decided not to cook or take care of your kids, denies you sex, answers calls at odd hours, listens to a voice note from a man and you don't know how to put your feet down in the house you are supposed to pay the rents and bills for.

If I don't get to the bottom of that matter that phone whether na iphone 1290 will not longer operate.

Seriously, guys have become sissy these days.

And you cry at your office and also came here for a shoulder to lean on?

You need to have your brains checked.

If you value your mental health...... Send her to her father's house immediately.

I swear down na me and this one dey carry a bag of penis up and down.

Ladies know the kind of men they can toy with. You fit that profile.

My advice for you is simple....... grow some fūcking hairy and bushy balls.

Be the man.

A quick disclaimer..... I am not talking about domestic violence here.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

CRY ? What a SIMple Man you are . Start looking for second wife.weekend dress nice you are out .she using sex a weapon

All this marriage issues dey make me fear to get married self.

Some crush or friends will ask me.

How is / are your girlfriend(s)
I'll reply, the last good lady got married in 1849

B!t¢h fu¢k€d my dawg behind my back, but I ain't stressin'

You're a man. Get up and take charge of your home

I've worked hard to put myself in a position where women can't tell me no. The only emotions I show a woman is the feeling of me cumming.

Zonefree:

He's SIMPly in love. A man in love is a foolish man. My last relationship with a Nigerian girl made me understand that it takes a man without brain to love a Nigerian girl.

True. You have to turn off your brain if you’re going to love a Nigerian girl

Op go and look for another woman

efelicity:
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She's probably doing the right thing. No woman wants to end her life with a weak man.

Being a strong man is not by being abusive, but in charge. In your case, you're not abusive and you're not in charge.

Also, when a man is just too gentle, calm, homely, humble, and too good, it makes a woman cheat because she'll see him as boring.

By the way, as a real man, you need to be in power starting from the day you met your woman to the day of death, else, you're in trouble.

I just can't imagine asking a woman I'm married to or dating to hand me her phone and and she says no. Dem never born you.

Na lack of principle, money, and options on the man's part dey make some women misbehave. Unfortunately, most men don't have much money, any principle, or any other option. They're just too good to be crazy, hence, she takes over the power and disrespects him.

Imagine attending a Church or Mosque where the pastor/Imam doesn't know the word of God and how to manage the Church/Mosque. Will you respect him? No. You'll secretly attend another Church/Mosque.

Sammy07:
All this marriage issues dey make me fear to get married self.

Some crush or friends will ask me.

How is / are your girlfriend(s)
I'll reply, the last good lady got married in 1849

Don't be afraid of marriage because of things you read online. Most of the men that post about their marriage issues and their wives misbehaving are naturally weak men with zero balls or options.

If you judge marriages based on these men, you'll think all women are evil. Some of these women's evil and cold attitude starts because their men became weak and submissive or weak and abusive all of a sudden.

They've lost the power and charm they used to have because of a new bad habit they picked up along the line.

This is why men should know a lot about the female phycology and read lots of real men's dating books before they marry, but no, these men don't read sh!t.

All they do is read to exams and graduate with at least 2.1 or 2.2, focus on making money and using sex enhancement drúgs. They don't know how to lead like a real man.

So, I don't blame their women. If I was a woman and I'm dating one of these weak men, I will surely misbehave. I can't be submissive to a weak man or a man who isn't in control without being controlling.

iLegendd:


Don't be afraid of marriage because of things you read online. Most of the men that post about their marriage issues and their wives misbehaving are naturally weak men with zero balls or options.

If you judge marriages based on these men, you'll think all women are evil. Some of these women's evil and cold attitude starts because their men became weak and submissive or weak and abusive all of a sudden.

They've lost the power and charm they used to have because of a new bad habit they picked up along the line.

This is why men should know a lot about the female phycology and read lots of real men's dating books before they marry, but no, these men don't read sh!t. All they do is just focus on making money and using sex enhancement drúgs. They don't know how to lead like a real man.

Word!

I'm sure you don't need anyone to tell you that your beloved wife whom you cry over is receiving serious bonking somewhere... Someone is making her motor scream pim pim pim










Motor shaft? Check my signature

First, go find Arizona mould.
You'll be fine.
It's okay to cry.
Na your children I dey pity sef.

Zonefree:


That's good. I endorse your tears.

Weeping and sorrow are what makes a man amazingly SIMPle.

Well the elders has spoken up there but if you need my help I can teach you how to clone her what'sapp and read her messages directly on your phone or laptop but you will pay me a token tho... .

Check my signature and text me on WhatsApp.

Ok

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Some Women are very adventurous in nature...read the thread above carefully

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

She MAY be cheating and had an std she is preventing you from getting

The only thing 9ja girls are good at is giving SIMP uncontrollable tears and jumping from one d!ck to another.

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace