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Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

interesting… I can see the pressure is getting wesser!

Do you go to weekly church programs?
I doubt because if you do, your flesh will be kept under as your spirit is being lifted with the word of God but it's obvious the only things you feed your soul with are thoughts of sex and wild imaginations of sex.
Watching sexual videos and all sorts.

If you want to get your mind off it, think and dwell more on spiritual things like the word of God. Gospel songs and if possible, fasting and prayers asking the holy spirit to help ( He can/will help you). That is if you're even a christian.

Anyway..your urge is normal....
there are abnormal urges actually...like the frequent urge for porn and masturbation I wrote about.

Yours is normal...

However, it's so wrong for partners to part way for long ..it's not healthy at all....it leaves both partners vulnerable...even your husband is feeling it hard where he is rn

I tell people..... financial frustration is a bit bearable than sexual frustration...(sincerely both experience ain't cool)

if you are frustrated financially...you can find a way through it... get a loan, meet friends and family, you know what I mean, you could rally round for funds....you sure gonna get some help somehow ...

But, you see
When you are sexually frustrated (esp. in a marriage setting) ...you won't able to think straight or do anything else for long...you will just be nagging for no reason..

To cap it : nobody will be able to help you in this mess; not your family, not your homies...
it will be so tiring and since you are married, this will further leave you vulnerable (one of the reasons why people cheat on their spouse)

Infact it's a crazy experience for women even a crazier one for men....

Ok now my advice:

*you will have to talk to your hubby about it ...tell him how you feel...ask about how he feels (he should be feeling hot too)...share your sexual hassle together (Do this regularly)....it makes you feel strong and that you are not alone.

*If your husband is at a location where you can reach him (if you don't mind the distance and the expenses) , try as much as possible to visit him...

*If you are a Christian, you can pray and fast... listen to gospel music regularly...

* Try as much as possible to stay away from any sex videos...it will only add to your already brimmed urge..and that could knock you off..

* Pls don't cheat.... keep holding up...

Good luck and God help you

I'm the best therapy.

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

Please, be very careful not to defile your marriage

Wahala no dey finish

Fasting

Na sensitive matter be dis... U need professional assistance. But did your hubby travel to unknown destination? 8months precisely & he's not coming back any moment?

Blessedmercy8:
Do you go to weekly church programs?
I doubt because if you do, your flesh will be kept under as your spirit is being lifted at such programs but it's obvious the only things you feed your soul with are thoughts of sex and wild imaginations of sex.
Watching sexual videos and all sorts.

If you want to get your mind off it, think and dwell more on spiritual things like the word of God. Gospel songs and if possible, fasting and prayers asking the holy spirit to help ( he can help you). That is if you're even a christian.

Thanks for this.
I am not exactly one that goes to church, not even on Sundays.
I used to work with a firm that allowed me leave home daily but I am now mostly home cos I work remotely.
You are right on the adult contents, I do watch once in a while, softcore basically, i only leave my mind to describe the rest.
Maybe if I have a distinct religion, I would consider words of Gods.

Have fun with yourself (far better than jeopardizing your marriage)

This is how you guys kill men in a hotel room after you succeed to grab one dude and tie them up until you drain all those desires you've been nurturing before letting him go...

Issybilla:

Thanks for this.
I am not exactly one that goes to church, not even on Sundays.
I used to work with a firm that allows me leave home daily but I am now mostly home cos I work remotely.
You are right on the adult contents, I do watch once in a while, softcore basically, i only leave my mind to describe the rest.
Maybe if I have a distinct religion, I would consider words of Gods.

Oh... I see. Then stop watching those contents cos you'll only be tormenting yourself with it as hubby is not around.

Go out often to either window shopping or a nice restaurant to have a nice treat and by the time you come back, you'll be too exhausted to think of sex. You'll just crash on the bed and sleep.

Avoid staying alone for so long. Just step out from time to time when you're idle.

The lord is your strength.

marlow1962:
Have fun with yourself (far better than jeopardizing your marriage)

On point

You don't.

Starz825:
Anyway..your urge is normal....there are abnormal urges actually...(like the frequent urge for porn and masturbation I wrote about)

Yours is normal...

However, it's so wrong for partners to part way for long ..it's not healthy at all....it leaves one partner vulnerable...even your husband is feeling it hard where he is rn

I tell people..... financial frustration is better than sexual frustration...

.if you are frustrated financially...you can find a way through it... get a loan, or even beg online just like people do here....

Once you are sexually frustrated...you won't able to think or do anything else for long...to cap it : nobody will be able to help you solve it ..since you are married...this leaves you vulnerable (one of the reasons why people cheat)
Infact it's so crazy for women even crazier for men....

Ok now my advice:
*you will have to talk to your hubby about it ...tell him how you feel...ask about how he feels (he should be feeling hot too)...share your sexual hassle together....it makes you feel strong and that you are not alone.

*If your husband is at a location where you can reach him no matter the expenses, try as much as possible to visit him...

*If you are a Christian, you can pray and fast... listen to gospel music regularly...

* Try as much as possible to stay away from any sex videos...it will only add to your already brimmed urge..and that could knock you off..

* Pls don't cheat.... keep holding up...

Good luck and God help you

Glad someone understands this bold.

I honestly don’t see cheating as an option, though I am very afraid cos I never knew a day would come that I would touch myself but unfortunately I did last night reason I couldn’t hold it again and decided to seek others opinion anonymously. I can’t even discuss it with my people around.

There is no smoke without a fire...to quench the fire, remove the firewood!

Get rid of the thoughts and any adult content that fuels your desires!

Deliberately create Distraction in your mind by engaging in other fruitful activities, like going to the orphanage or old people's home! If you were religious, I would advise you to be sold out to spiritual activities.

Notwithstanding, none of the above suggestions can stop but only help to control your urge.

Holly Gram As u see me so..

I no sabi handle dat kind tin..


E get one mixture wey we de call NACK AM..


OGOGORO mix with URINE and RAW WEED then leave it for one week, after one week, u filter and drink but u drink wit a table spoon ooo


The 1st day wey I try dat tin..


NaSo my PREEK just stand like STANDING fan, my waist begin dance MAKOSA and shoaling monkey dance..


NaSo I run enter bike and JAZZ in ASHAWOO house..


The 1st ASHAWOO wey I NACK, that one chase me comort from room because I no gree release..


NaSo I carry my boxer for hand run enter another ASHAWOO room, That one still chase me comort, she talk say weda I one kill her on top 500h..


Infact all the ASHAWOO for that hotel come lock der rooms..


Chai na die be dis...


NaSo I carry my boxer for hand run enter main road.. I stop bike, bike carry me go another ASHAWOO house..


my BLODA e no easy dat day oooo..


E be like say I still get the mixture for my phone.. see picxx below..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

pls dont cheat on your husband stay strong d lord is ur strength

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

That is more reason it is not advisable for husband and wife to be far apart for a long time. Temptations of various forms will be coming and it takes a strong determination not to bow for any. My wife too has been away on a course for about 2 years now though we see each other about twice in three months. What I will tell you is to keep yourself busy by engaging in a job or business activity. During your leisure times, you can occupy your mind with reading or watching movies.

Issybilla:

Glad someone understands this bold.

I honestly don’t see cheating as an option, though I am very afraid cos I never knew a day would come that I would touch myself but unfortunately I did last night reason I couldn’t hold it again and decided to seek others opinion anonymously. I can’t even discuss it with my people around.

Yeah .
I sincerely understand how you feel
I beg you ....
continue to see cheating as no option..
...like a no go area...
it's for your own good not just for your marriage.
Because if you step out..you will regret it no matter how much you tryna cover it up....
It will hunt you and you will wish you never did

Try to find something to keep urself busy like find work .

Its your mind and those dirty contents you watch having its effect on you. Its not a difficult thing to abstain, work on your mindset and what you watch

Lastborn55:
Try to find something to keep urself busy like find work .

Do you understand what it means to work remotely?
She didn’t say she doesn’t have a job.

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

Pick up a fight with someone and see if you will have the thought coming

Op go and cheat. Leave us alone abeg

Just borrow someone a huge amount of money.
All your sexual urge will die cos you will be trying to get your money back

This advice sha

quote author=Blessedmercy8 post=117373307]Do you go to weekly church programs?
I doubt because if you do, your flesh will be kept under as your spirit is being lifted at such programs but it's obvious the only things you feed your soul with are thoughts of sex and wild imaginations of sex.
Watching sexual videos and all sorts.

If you want to get your mind off it, think and dwell more on spiritual things like the word of God. Gospel songs and if possible, fasting and prayers asking the holy spirit to help ( he can help you). That is if you're even a christian.

[/quote]

Blessedmercy8:
Do you go to weekly church programs?
I doubt because if you do, your flesh will be kept under as your spirit is being lifted at such programs [b] but it's obvious [/b]the only things you feed your soul with are thoughts of sex and wild imaginations of sex.
Watching sexual videos and all sorts.

How are you judging her already? And you’re supposed to be a Christian? Man you guys give Christianity a bad name

Starz825:
Anyway..your urge is normal....there are abnormal urges actually...(like the frequent urge for porn and masturbation I wrote about)

Yours is normal...

However, it's so wrong for partners to part way for long ..it's not healthy at all....it leaves one partner vulnerable...even your husband is feeling it hard where he is rn

I tell people..... financial frustration is better than sexual frustration...

.if you are frustrated financially...you can find a way through it... get a loan, or even beg online just like people do here....

Once you are sexually frustrated...you won't able to think or do anything else for long...to cap it : nobody will be able to help you solve it ..since you are married...this leaves you vulnerable (one of the reasons why people cheat)
Infact it's crazy for women even crazier for men....

Ok now my advice:
*you will have to talk to your hubby about it ...tell him how you feel...ask about how he feels (he should be feeling hot too)...share your sexual hassle together (Do this regularly)....it makes you feel strong and that you are not alone.

*If your husband is at a location where you can reach him no matter the expenses, try as much as possible to visit him...

*If you are a Christian, you can pray and fast... listen to gospel music regularly...

* Try as much as possible to stay away from any sex videos...it will only add to your already brimmed urge..and that could knock you off..

* Pls don't cheat.... keep holding up...

Good luck and God help you

word..

Blessedmercy8:
Do you go to weekly church programs?
I doubt because if you do, your flesh will be kept under as your spirit is being lifted at such programs but it's obvious the only things you feed your soul with are thoughts of sex and wild imaginations of sex.
Watching sexual videos and all sorts.

If you want to get your mind off it, think and dwell more on spiritual things like the word of God. Gospel songs and if possible, fasting and prayers asking the holy spirit to help ( he can help you). That is if you're even a christian.

LoL, auntie, when konji knocks even holy Spirit will humble, konji is no respecter of church or mosque.

Issybilla:
Hi
To those that have probably been there or have an idea about it.
How do you handle sexual urges especially if your partner is not available.

It happens that hubby has been away for quite some time, eight month precisely and he isn’t coming back any moment.

These days has just been messy for me as I am always Hot and wet as fhhuckk, whenever I get up from bed, my pant is always soaked. I have tried to suppress the pressure to touch myself or use objects but it seems the pressure is overcoming me, damn I hardly even concentrate on any other thing, my mind is just fhhhuccked up right now, all my thoughts are bordered on dirty wild sex almost all day.

Are there therapists or some kinda experts one can talk to, I really fear for myself.

I'm sorry to tell you but you'd eventually succumb to these pressures. The sexual urge is like hunger. It has to be fed. Unless you're a spiritual person then God, other forces intervene for you

The homestay, 'aloneness' are also not helping. Masturbate. It's better than cheating on your man. Just don't overindulge