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Wallade:


Please consider a more mature lady in age and orientation. Marriage to an 18 - 25 years old can be very challenging. I hope you survive it, if you do.

Dont advise someone wrongly. 18-25 that's the perfect to marry a lady. Anything more than that na left over you go carry.

Itzlinda:

Dont advise someone wrongly. 18-25 that's the perfect to marry a lady. Anything more than that na left over you go carry.

Do you fall into the 18-25 years category? Are you left-over?

I need to understand your sentiments

ednut1:
its a foolish thing to do, in ten years time will u be able to satisfy her sexually you fit don get back pain, erectile dysfunction or HBP lol. Most 22 years old babes of today still wan flex and marriage for them is heading for doom.

At 45 he can still do 1-2 hours sex romp. Unless he has health issue. A colleague in my office just married a 24 years old girl. He is 43 and a Phd holder. It is very common in northern Nigeria,

phemmyfour:
In our forefathers days, the age gap used to be be up to 10yrs. It absolute ok

It is still the same thing in the north. Southern folks dont suffer o. Na evening news paper una de marry o

Wallade:


Do you fall into the 18-25 years category? Are you left-over?

I need to understand your sentiments

I am a guy!

Itzlinda:


I am a guy!

So why are you misrepresented on nairaland - your sex indicates "female" on nairaland.

Anyway, in the light of recent discovery that you are male, that advice I gave earlier may be good for you too. I believe that you are still young and unmarried so ponder it too.

You will thank me later.

And so what? Busy body everywhere...

placeofallure:
My husband is 12 years older and we're fine.
Now, that's some years. It takes some woman who is mature, with sense of purpose about what she wants to be able to handle that. There's a generational gap I won't lie, can she handle it?
If the both of you will cope, it's really not in the years but your personalities. You need to create a point of convergence, something like meeting yourself in the middle to strike a balance - she will exemplify adulthood tendencies and you will act more youthfully than your real age.
You can manage don't be scared. In my marriage for instance, I'm the more mature partner, our ages regardless.

You are truly Experienced and Matured:

Wallade:


So why are you misrepresented on nairaland - your sex indicates "female" on nairaland.

Anyway, in the light of recent discovery that you are male, that advice I gave earlier may be good for you too. I believe that you are still young and unmarried so ponder it too.

You will thank me later.

I am not young, I am 29. Thanks for the advise tho.

If the said lady is ready no problem , las las na you two go live together.

rickleye:
As we have said many times-
No, it’s not alright. Best be age mates 25-22 or 35-30.
A lady at 22 is just coming into her own. You have sown your wild oats and are looking to settle down and she’s just a spring chicken.
What are her career goals ?
Are you sponsoring her to go to school?
Is she content with being a house wife ?
How you both interact and nurture the relationship ( start with dating her ) goes a long way. Does she feels loved and swoon “ hey honey let’s hit the club or honey you look dazzling “ than marrying her father who says “ do this or do that “ “ cook this or cook that “
Personally - relationship first ! let her hit 25 years and observe the maturity.
Finally, ask yourself were you ready to marry at 22 ?

sense too much for this your talk... Respect...

Nonexisting1:
22 is a bit old, why not go for someone 18. Una go get sense by force. Keep marrying them in their hoe phase and continue fathering bastards .

jeromestarks:

This is why you should marry a woman in her prime (18 -23).
If she has sense at this age, then you're sure that she will have sense for life.
Not the ones who received sense after their pvssies were badly used .

Same topic, opposing perspectives. Lol

virginprincess:
Really!,to me 10yrs is too much,i can't marry a guy above 30 for now,i'm still in my early 20's so i probably need a guy in his late 20's.

Later now you would prefer 40years
It's difficult to see a lady with choice and without confusion

God help your desire

Itzlinda:


I am not young, I am 29. Thanks for the advise tho.

Oh come on, 29 years old man is still a young man.

virginprincess:
Of course, it ok if you love her and she agrees to marry you.

Are you in your early, mid or late twenties. I so wanna marry a virgin!

Give her more time,22yrs is still in the making.There is more in marriage.

Marry her, she's good for you.

ogakamwu:
Please kindly advise me if it is okay.

I am a guy of 35 years considering a lady for marriage who is 22 years.

Please is it okay.

You are free to criticize.

I just want to get it right.

If she is in your life to help you and not fleece you of your money then she is good and if you are in her life to love her and take care of her like you will one day give and not cheat on her at the slightest provocation then you are good to go!

Early grave

ogakamwu:
Please kindly advise me if it is okay.

I am a guy of 35 years considering a lady for marriage who is 22 years.

Please is it okay.

You are free to criticize.

I just want to get it right.

Leonardo di Caprio breaks up with any woman as soon as she turns 25. But not every one is Leo.

Ask yourself why you are marrying her.

She is still very young and may not
give the marriage her best now,

You will need allot of patience , endurance, ready to teach and correct her ,till she is mentally matured.

I do not know her,but if you see mental maturity in her then,go ahead.

And you must be watchful,make guys no go dey nack her .

Am a married woman,I know what am saying,if you want to marry now ,if you can consider 29-30 ,your problems no go too much



Please kindly advise me if it is okay.

I am a guy of 35 years considering a lady for marriage who is 22 years.

Please is it okay.

You are free to criticize.

I just want to get it right.[/quote]

I don't think it's bad.
My girl is 22 and I'm 38. We've been together for 4yrs now and I'm planning to tie the knot with her next year. She's done with school although waiting for nysc now.
I'm not her first but the 3rd guy she's dating and she's cool with my age.
I've spoken with her elder sisters(behind her) telling them of my intention to marry her and they are okay with it.
She's mature to a fault, trust me they're scarce cos I suffer before she gree for me. Na correct woman/wife material I get so.
So bro follow your heart after all life na risk.
Good luck
P.S we hardly see cos she's in ph and I'm in lag.. she hates coming to see me cos I never tell her people anything (as in bride prize). Even if she comes to lag, she stays for maximum of 4 days and she's back to pH.
So said if I want her to stay for long I should come see her folks.. she's so matured

Itzlinda:



It is still the same thing in the north. Southern folks dont suffer o. Na evening news paper una de marry o

It's not our fault that we see education as first priority

Well, ain't nothing wrong with that, as long as u can cope with all d childish bullshit she'll b throwing at u. I am 30 & prefer women within d range of 27-35.

ogakamwu:
Please kindly advise me if it is okay.

I am a guy of 35 years considering a lady for marriage who is 22 years.

Please is it okay.

You are free to criticize.

I just want to get it right.

My guy did thesame thing this year, and they're happily married with the wife pregnant.


So go on bro, just make sure say the girl head dey house o.

DonroxyII:
You are truly Experienced and Matured:

Thank you.

ITbomb:
If she is through with school (or about to) and has at least one skill (sewing, hair stylist, makeup, ICT etc) please do marry her and grow together in love

Well said kip it up