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I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

The only reason to tell your
significant other is to relieve
yourself of the guilt. If you
fvcked up you should live with it for the rest of your life.

Op I condemn what you did with your EX. You should have never cheated on your dear Husband in the first place.

Well You should tell your husband, and let him make the decision that is in the best interest for himself and his children.

NO MAN WANTS TO LIVE WITH A CHEATING WIFE!

This kain thing you will chop it and not say anything about it ever again


Never also have anything to do with your ex again

It's so heartbreaking calling someone a queen while another guy is smashing her .

You didn't marry that guy cos of religious differences but for stability. You don't even love your husband but your ex . You can only deceive yourself not us. You knew all these would happen. I mean, how can you goan stay at your ex sister place? . You think we're fools here abi?
Its your husband i pity, he allowed your ex to eat what was left for him even after taking the main share(Virginity) . You can never be contented. You don't deserve marriage.

If you notice lately, there's nobody that craves more for marriage than hoes and the funny thing is, they can't maintain it.



As our Ancestors would say "Only a wonderFOOL man marries a woman who still keep in touch with her ex".

You need to tell your husband. itting to Nairaland is not the same as telling your spouse.

Sometimes I use to wonder if you guys do sleep at all.

IF you have cheated, you do
not tell them. You pack your
stuffs and go, because you do
not deserve to be with them

endsarrrs:
IF you have cheated, you do
not tell them. You pack your
shit and go, because you do
not deserve to be with them

You speaks in many codes. Can you simplify sis?

daylay7:


You speaks in many codes. Can you simplify sis?

Codes? No babe! Cheating is the symptoms of a bad relationship. You broke a gentlemans code dear. No one cheat on a person they love!

If this true, how do u guys committ adultery without even flinching? Without even thinking of how the other mate would feel....

Omoh this ur tori worwor for ear biko..

justicechichex:
If this true, how do u guys committ adultery without even flinching? Without even thinking of how the other mate would feel....

Omoh this ur tori worwor for ear biko..

Service

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

Season what?

Service

Trying to believe this fake story where strangers sleep together in the living room of a house full of kids and a smart sister who runs the house.

This smart ex-bf sister asks you to sleep in same room with your ex?

You must've had no plans to do anything else but fx.

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

Russi:
Service

Trying to believe this fake story where strangers sleep together in the living room of a house full of kids and a smart sister who runs the house.

This smart ex-bf sister asks you to sleep in same room with your ex?

You must've had no plans to do anything else but fx.

That is your opinion. Thomas generation!

Biitch

Nobody is above mistake

Fake stories everywhere. Easy to detect. Empty of logic

BlackPantherxXx:
Fake stories everywhere. Easy to detect. Empty of logic

Thats your opinion! Doubting Thomas

airminem:
You need to tell your husband. itting to Nairaland is not the same as telling your spouse.

Its just one away match....make una free the woman......

A male moniker on Nairaland cheated on "her dear husband with her ex".
.

You all just sit and write false stories , just to discredit women and bring the Alfamails with only soaked garri and salt in their stomach, crawling all over the thread.

Toor!
Mr OP , cheating on your husband was bad , hope your scrotum isn't pregnant with a bastaaaard yet.

squarelead:
It's so heartbreaking calling someone a queen while another guy is smashing her .
You are a disgrace sis to womanhood.

shut up jo what if you are in her shoes nko. And moreover the lady is sober about it and want to open up but did not want to lose the marriage.

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

It was a one off thing but if you still see him again you will open..... Aunty zip up!

Hmmm.....Okafors law is strong abeg....

Okafor's law of Congoelasticity at play.

The truth is, its you feeling guity and unable to forgive yourself. Your husband certainlly knows nothing, so its you who's changed.