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Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Be a man and put everybody in their place , don’t be a walkover else it will affect your whole family in the nearest future. Be firm and upright, take decisions and protect your family (you, your wife and kids) . No weak man has ever had a successful home, it’s the reason I detest weak men. I wish you luck.

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Jux grow sum balls and give a stern warning......be a man!!!

Marry her things go set

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

just say NO, and stand by your words... whether your MIL likes it or not. its obvious your wife stands by her instead of the family.

better to be seen as an unsensitive person, than being taken for a fool (in your own home).

Bro never operate a t with your woman. My wife do make sure I spend my salary finish before she will stop asking me for money she use to check my last debit. Now I don wise I have like 3 s she did not know

Well, I don't know your wife sha but let me advise you.... Be a man and make it clear that you don't have (in a calm manner) when next she ask. Tell her that things are hard right and fixing things. Lemme tell you, if things fails or doesn't work anymore for you, na dat kain person dey mock and start comparing you to other people.

Danibonk:
Bro never operate a t with your woman. My wife do make sure I spend my salary finish before she will stop asking me for money she use to check my last debit. Now I don wise I have like 3 s she did not know

you mean you are scared of telling your wife what time it is? why would you need to hide shiit from her? is it that difficult for you to explain to your wife that it aint happening and/or to tell her NO?!

Out of all your family , it's only your wife that is not your relative. Place your wife where she belongs before she destroy you. A word is enough for a simp.

My MIL was just like that too. Always demanding and trying to be assertive in my home. I told her in clear respectfully that i only respect and value her because of my wife and not over reach her importance. She was angry and i ignore for few months. Now she is the one that ask of me whenever she calls and she now seek my consent before making a demand of my wife. Bro stand your ground, even if it mean facing your wife's anger for few days. Ignore her tantrums, make provisions for your needs (food,laundry) and then watch everything go to the way it is suppose to be.

It's your wife that iss not on the same page with you about your finances.

That's where your problem lies.

Don't ever be compelled to do beyond yourself.
You can be generous (according to your capacity) without overdoing it, and still retain the respect and love they have for you.
Also, stop being a people pleaser.

Whenever you feel saying No say it with authority you are a man.

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

And u re an elderly man ooh
U said u re enjoying every minute of ur marriage whereas ur home is burning from the roof
Ok ooh, sha no let them kill u, and if they mistakenly do(i mean mistakenly ooh), then its a case of one spanner lost.

Dem no go even kill u sef cus u re mechanically useful to them.

A no know how person dey open t with wife, man wey dey fear to work hard or hustle hard na dem dey open t with woman in my own premolition

Nawa for you o, how can you be operating a t with a woman, I only see that in the movies.

If you want to live long and have meaningful investments in your old age, go and open another for yourself and stop doing unnecessary father Xmas to your inalw.

Your fiancee suddenly became your wife and you suddenly have 2 kids already when just 2 months ago you were asking for advice as your neighbor was trying to blackmail you.

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This is wonderful!

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Let me get you right, you said she is ever demanding therefore i conclude she is directly asking from you, if wife was the one giving out i think you would have its your wife giving outn

I suggest you learn to say No and dont be used as if are now her husband. Her husband or whoever was responsible for is still is with, taking advantage of you as son
in law. Being married to her daughter doesnt mean she becames youe full responsibility

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Block her simple.

When the second child came last week we fast track everything. Due to the nature of how we got married, my mother-in-law has been using it in full blast to give me that over billing sir.

Arkmanbuddy:
Your fiancee suddenly became your wife and you suddenly have 2 kids already when just 2 months ago you were asking for advice as your neighbor was trying to blackmail you.

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7244051/nairalander-blackmail


This is wonderful!

Hmmm!!!! I dey envy some of you guys that operates t ...I guess I will come and get some tips from you guys on a rainy day..because as u are teaching me, the rain will be washing the whole info away ... abeg I no fit shout ...

<<But OP, just maybe both of you can decide to open an individual debit each...she will have hers while u have yours...and still maintain the t ....
<<you can decide on how much that can go into the t ...
<<both of you can decide that out of her earnings, she can put in 40% into the t while you put in 60%.
<<With that you will have rest of mind...

Arkmanbuddy:
Your fiancee suddenly became your wife and you suddenly have 2 kids already when just 2 months ago you were asking for advice as your neighbor was trying to blackmail you.

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7244051/nairalander-blackmail


This is wonderful!

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

. then divorce her

Stop picking your mother in-law's calls. Or mute your phone's mic any time you are with on the phone.

What tribe are you and the mother-in-law? Are you a Christian or not? This will inform the kind of advice you’ll get, otherwise it’ll just be a lot of random opinion that may get you more confused.

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

U do dem go talk, u no do dem go still talk, so close dat t or stop putting money there! tell her u will divorce her if she does not stop carrying ur Mata to d mum, she will sit up and shut up as well then thank me later

Don't start what you can't finish....

I guess you were doing it, when you were courting your wife, so it continued after you have married her.....

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Put a stop to this demands, if she wants to carry he will be daughter let her come and carry her

Forget how your mother inlaw will feel if you change your mind towards her

After all, you are not owing them

Arkmanbuddy:
Your fiancee suddenly became your wife and you suddenly have 2 kids already when just 2 months ago you were asking for advice as your neighbor was trying to blackmail you.

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7244051/nairalander-blackmail


This is wonderful!

una be diggers 4 here o!

Zonefree:
Out of all your family , it's only your wife that is not your relative. Place your wife where she belongs before she destroy you. A word is enough for a simp.

How is she not his relative? abi akamu block your brain?

Why give such advice? Did he twll you his wife is his problem?

Instead of telling him to deal withmain issue ( mother inlaw) you're telling him to put his wife in her place. What place exactly?
Mtchew.

NO. so simple.

Op, handle this issue like a man by telling your mother inlaw, you've got your immediate family to cater for and can no longer afford to cater for others needs on a regular basis.

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a t . I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Only a foolish man will have only one which is known to his wife.