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Forgive me but I have a strong attachment to my father's name.

Not because I detest my fiance's name or anything like that. No, not at all. But because I feel like my father's name is my identity.
To think I'll let go of my identity just like that after marriage is distressing .

Besides, my surname sounds so lovely whenever it's mentioned. In fact, because of that, I love being called by my full name.

I've mentioned this to my fiance a few times but he doesn't understand lol .
Honestly, if I had a choice, I would not change my surname after marriage .

So ladies if it wasn't a thing, would you take your husband's name after marriage?

forMom:
Forgive me but I have a strong attachment to my father's name.

Not because I detest my fiance's name or anything like that. No, not at all. But because I feel like my father's name is my identity.
To think I'll let go of my identity just like that after marriage is distressing .

Besides, my surname sounds so lovely whenever it's mentioned. In fact, because of that, I love being called by my full name.

I've mentioned this to my fiance a few times but he doesn't understand lol .
Honestly, if I had a choice, I would not change my surname after marriage .

So ladies if it wasn't a thing, would you take your husband's name after marriage?

If he can't understand your point then separate now

Paramount01:




If he can't understand your point then separate now

Separate ke
It's not that serious.

Is your father name tinubu?
I want to check something.

I dont care, I'm not ur father

Married for 9years now and still bearing my father's name. I did not change my name and never would.

henmaris:
Married for 9years now and still bearing my father's name. I did not change my name and never would.

Wow
How did you do it?

forMom:
Forgive me but I have a strong attachment to my father's name.

Not because I detest my fiance's name or anything like that. No, not at all. But because I feel like my father's name is my identity.
To think I'll let go of my identity just like that after marriage is distressing .

Besides, my surname sounds so lovely whenever it's mentioned. In fact, because of that, I love being called by my full name.

I've mentioned this to my fiance a few times but he doesn't understand lol .
Honestly, if I had a choice, I would not change my surname after marriage .

So ladies if it wasn't a thing, would you take your husband's name after marriage?

I also have this same mindset as you. I love my father's name too.

I once told my Father I'd love to keep his name if I get married, he said it'd cause wahala.

Although, I've seen lots of women that kept their surname after marriage and their husbands didn't have a problem with that.

forMom:
Forgive me but I have a strong attachment to my father's name.

Not because I detest my fiance's name or anything like that. No, not at all. But because I feel like my father's name is my identity.
To think I'll let go of my identity just like that after marriage is distressing .

Besides, my surname sounds so lovely whenever it's mentioned. In fact, because of that, I love being called by my full name.

I've mentioned this to my fiance a few times but he doesn't understand lol .
Honestly, if I had a choice, I would not change my surname after marriage .

So ladies if it wasn't a thing, would you take your husband's name after marriage?

some men don't care I know lots of people that are married for years without changing name. the problem is when you want to travel out with your kid(s) I know someone that her visa application was turndown because her name and that of the kids are different.

Intresting, do as you please.

You remind of feminist who claim women must be given jobs at top levels dominated by men but fail to keep the same energy seeking jobs at low level jobs likebrick laying, , drivers k, trades ppl also dominated by men.

If your husband was going to be a president/governor, hope you keep this same.energy.

Good luck.

forMom:

Wow
How did you do it?

You're asking her... don't follow her steps please, nah she b Oga at home.

folake4u:


I also have this same mindset as you. I love my father's name too.

I once told my Father I'd love to keep his name if I get married, he said it'd cause wahala.

Although, I've seen lots of women that kept their surname after marriage and their husbands didn't have a problem with that.

Finally seen my kind.
Now I'm wondering why I haven't met any woman that didn't change her surname after marriage lol.

culf:


some men don't care I know lots of people that are married for years without changing name. the problem is when you want to travel out with your kid(s) I know someone that her visa application was turndown because her name and that of the kids are different.

Hmmm. Now this is a thing!

Smile4mee01:
Intresting, do as you please.

You remind of feminist who claim women must be given jobs at top levels dominated by men but fail to keep the same energy seeking jobs at low level jobs likebrick laying, , drivers k, trades ppl also dominated by men.

If your husband was going to be a president/governor, hope you keep this same.energy.

Good luck.

I don't see how my post relates to your analogy sir. This is not even a feminist thing to start with.

forMom:

Finally seen my kind.
Now I'm wondering why I haven't met any woman that didn't change her surname after marriage lol.

Lol. There are many women who didn't change their surnames after marriage.

It all boils down to preference anyways.

culf:


some men don't care I know lots of people that are married for years without changing name. the problem is when you want to travel out with your kid(s) I know someone that her visa application was turndown because her name and that of the kids are different.

Which embassy?

Mindlog:


Which embassy?

I didn't asked her which embassy or probably forgotten, she told me when I saw her with newspaper publication trying to change her information too in a hurry. According to her, they wanted traveling to meet Oga, but her request was rejected as they said she don't have evidence to show that the kids are her children because her name and info and that of the kids are different

forMom:
Forgive me but I have a strong attachment to my father's name.

Not because I detest my fiance's name or anything like that. No, not at all. But because I feel like my father's name is my identity.
To think I'll let go of my identity just like that after marriage is distressing .

Besides, my surname sounds so lovely whenever it's mentioned. In fact, because of that, I love being called by my full name.

I've mentioned this to my fiance a few times but he doesn't understand lol .
Honestly, if I had a choice, I would not change my surname after marriage .

So ladies if it wasn't a thing, would you take your husband's name after marriage?

my husband bears the same name with my dad

culf:


some men don't care I know lots of people that are married for years without changing name. the problem is when you want to travel out with your kid(s) I know someone that her visa application was turndown because her name and that of the kids are different.

She didn't tell you the truth.

Probably she was divorced and didn't get the consent form from the other parent to travel with the kids. I am 110% sure she wasn't denied because of difference in the Surname.

Is her name not on their birth certificate?

Heck it's even a lot stressful for ladies who changed names. All your previous history, you have to go explain. Present marriage certificate, newspaper prints and whatnot just to authenticate your identity. I can not wrap my head why a lady would change her name. The hassle alone is enough turn off. But whatever works for people. Imagine you had to remarry? Lol. Affidavit for affidavit for affidavit of change of name? Why give yourself such headache ?

I am a guy and she definitely kept her surname. In some religion like Islam a Lady keeps her father's name. That is why you always have people referred to as "ibn"-son/daughter of. This taking husband name is western, I don't see references to such in most African culture that i am familiar with and honestly it is a lot inconvenient both from an identity perspective and a paperwork point of view. Maiden name... Like wtf...?

Her husband does not own her. She's a human not half human.


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onegig:

She didn't tell you the truth.

Probably she was divorced and didn't get the consent form from the other parent to travel with the kids. I am 110% sure she wasn't denied because of difference in the Surname.

Is her name not on their birth certificate?

Heck it's even a lot stressful for ladies who changed names. All your previous history, you have to go explain. Present marriage certificate, newspaper prints and whatnot just to authenticate your identity. I can not wrap my head why a lady would change her name. The hassle alone is enough turn off. But whatever works for people. Imagine you had to remarry? Lol. Affidavit for affidavit for affidavit of change of name? Why give yourself such headache ?

.

Lool the stuff is very stressful, thankfully it's s one off thing and there's provision for maiden name almost everywhere.

Affidavit
Newspaper
BVN
NIN
port
PVC

Change all the changeable, very tedious something. My friend just did/completed hers after 9 years of marriage.

onegig:

She didn't tell you the truth.

Probably she was divorced and didn't get the consent form from the other parent to travel with the kids. I am 110% sure she wasn't denied because of difference in the Surname.

Is her name not on their birth certificate?

Heck it's even a lot stressful for ladies who changed names. All your previous history, you have to go explain. Present marriage certificate, newspaper prints and whatnot just to authenticate your identity. I can not wrap my head why a lady would change her name. The hassle alone is enough turn off. But whatever works for people. Imagine you had to remarry? Lol. Affidavit for affidavit for affidavit of change of name? Why give yourself such headache ?

I am a guy and she definitely kept her surname. In some religion like Islam a Lady keeps her father's name. That is why you always have people referred to as "ibn"-son/daughter of. This taking husband name is western, I don't see references to such in most African culture that i am familiar with and honestly it is a lot inconvenient both from an identity perspective and a paperwork point of view. Maiden name... Like wtf...?

Her husband does not own her. She's a human not half human.


Edited..

that's what she told me and she is not divorce, the visa application then was for her and the kids to go meet the guy outside

henmaris:
Married for 9years now and still bearing my father's name. I did not change my name and never would.

OMG
Think say na only me..
Never will l change it.

Though people call me Mrs.....
But on paper Noooo.

forMom:

Finally seen my kind.
Now I'm wondering why I haven't met any woman that didn't change her surname after marriage lol.

l de ur back o.

That is d last thing l will do.
Except for my kids' sake

My husband use to make jest say when l go change am e go tell for my body..
I go tell am say l de wait.

Ndidi2:
l de ur back o.

That is d last thing l will do.
Except for my kids' sake

My husband use to make jest say when l go change am e go tell for my body..
I go tell am say l de wait.

The need to change the need may not come up since you've stayed this long without changing it.

debbydams:
my husband bears the same name with my dad

Awwnnn
So you just continued with your dad's surname


Lalasticlala can more people see this please?