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My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he ed me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

DamnnNiggarr:

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Why make an issue out of a molehill?

Simply text her back thanking her for her kind offer, informing her that the help is not needed since you have your chores all covered. The end!

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Allow her to come first...

Let us not conclude yet...that was how u people told us that Buhari would make Nigeria be like America now, how far.

Allow her to come and help u and if she throw es at u then,u can decide to shun her no be so?


I don't like doubting anything as far as I am concern.

It could be an innocent offer.It doesn't mean she wanted anything intimate.

Since your mind is already troubled,just reply her that you have your chores covered.Tell her you have people/neighbors who help you out.

ibechris:
Allow her to come first...
Let us not conclude yet...that was how u people told us that Buhari would make Nigeria be like America now, how far.
Allow her to come and help u and if she throw es at u then,u can decide to shun her no be so?
I don't like doubting anything as far as I am concern.

Are you serious? The OP is here expressing doubts about his person to you, yet you insist that he let the woman come anyway?

OP FOR THE FACT THAT U DONT HV D WILLPOWER TO RESIST THAT DAUGHTER OF EVE SHOWS THAT U ARE A WEAK MAN.
ALSO, FOR U TO COME ON NAIRALAND TO SEEK OPINION ON WHAT TO DO IN SUCH SITUATION SHOWS HOW SOFT AND SiSY U ARE.
Also, garden of eve, daughters of eve are still moving everywhere seeking whom to eat raw. D world would hv being a better place if not eve and her daughters. Look at how one of eve's daughter wants to destroy friendship of how many years.

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You'll be manipulated to offer them more money if you allow her to CUM over. This I have seen

No thank you.

Is that too hard to type.

The woman wants to reciprocate your kindness towards her family and your mind don dey tempt you.
Oga reply by telling her her coming isn’t necessary. Abi you wan tell her husband?

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

thanks sis.

Kobojunkie:
Why make an issue out of a molehill?

Simply text her back thanking her for her kind offer, informing her that the help is not needed since you have your chores all covered. The end!

wow, so many elders in the house.

UpInTheSky:
There's nothing to deliberate here. Just reply her text and tell her "No, thank you. That won't be necessary". Keep it firm and don't respond to her texts thereafter.

Tbh, you don't even have to reply, as you don't owe her any reply. Your silence will speak for itself and let her know you're not interested in the offer.

I'm doing that right away.

ibechris:
Allow her to come first...

Let us not conclude yet...that was how u people told us that Buhari would make Nigeria be like America now, how far.

Allow her to come and help u and if she throw es at u then,u can decide to shun her no be so?


I don't like doubting anything as far as I am concern.

I'm afraid, I can't try that.
I will go with the above suggestions.

thorpido:
It could be an innocent offer.It doesn't mean she wanted anything intimate.

Since your mind is already troubled,just reply her that you have your chores covered.Tell her you have people/neighbors who help you out.

thank you, I appreciate.

UpInTheSky:
Her offer is unecessary and uncalled for. Just texting him to thank him should've sufficed. His dealings are with his friend, not her, so offering to come [her choice of spelling of the word is weird sef] over to help with chores is unecessary. OP is a married man and his wife can help him figure out all that, not her. Even if he were a single man, bachelors know how to take care of themselves without allowing their friend's wives over to their home to supposedly help do their chores. Weird.

If the husband isn't aware of this text, I doubt he would be pleased his wife wants to go to his friend's house to do whatever. OP himself has a wife and I doubt that she too would be okay with this. It's all shades of unecessary.

thanks bro!
I'm doing this to avoid a story that touches the heart.

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

good response

Whois:
You'll be manipulated to offer them more money if you allow her to CUM over. This I have seen

you sounded like falseprophet1. Thanks dear, for your contribution.

Beremx:
The woman wants to reciprocate your kindness towards her family and your mind don dey tempt you.
Oga reply by telling her her coming isn’t necessary. Abi you wan tell her husband?

quite funny but true.. thanks sis.

U know your strength and weaknesses...If u know that you can't handle her being at close proximity in your home, please discourage her visit...

Tell her that u can handle it.. she doesn't have to disturb herself...

Richy4:
U know your strength and weaknesses...If u know that you can't handle her being at close proximity in your home, please discourage her visit...

Tell her that u can handle it.. she doesn't have to disturb herself...

not that I can't handle being at close proximity with her but...
That too much closeness with opposite sex that's not my wife almost ruin my family, my family is divided as a result of that. See link below.

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7152523/family-verge-destruction#113306128

Never reject free food, it is risky to reject female freebie.

Let her come over, do whatever chores she wants even in a bedroom. Chop and clean mouth.

Likely a deal by her and her husband to repay your kindness.

Hmmmmmm

Time to show "gratitude"

Is ok

E tye gele

Bleep her and keep warning her never to try such rubbish with you again until you cum. Then send her away.

If she calls after that, follow my format below

Nonsense

What else do you have in mind if not to politely decline the offer.

Or you are looking for validation from nairaland to go ahead?

All I can say is, marry an Igbo lady at your own risk ..

Who have seen Slawomir( the moniker of the OP reminded me of him), been long I heard from him..

Hope he's not in EFCC custody...

I have nothing to say