NewStats: 3,262,611 , 8,177,691 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 02:20 AM w511r

I understand your worries bro

My guy, no try am oh na set up she won set you up so.

Make i tell you wetin you go do to continue to enjoy you 3 months old (kpekus) relationship


Collect the material go give Tailor and beg the Tailor to disappoint you. The whole blame go dey the Tailor head. If e work for me e go also work for you and your knacking will not stop.


Thank me later

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

if you like her listen to your friend and refund the Aso ebi money to her. She is probably under pressure or wants to show u off. No be every time

Zonefree:
Don't fall for that cheap manipulation from her. Na over familiarity dey cause all this nonsense!

You can decide to go for the wedding if you're less busy but don't wear same attire with her. She's just a girlfriend...don't let your girlfriend stops you from finding the love of your life. The love of your life might be in that wedding. Be wise!

Abeg forward ur for Cold Beer.
I know say person like you already get money but still forward ur stuff for very chilled Origin!
.... na MAN u be..
U carry head enter this WORLD..

Mariangeles:


Bia! Gini wu nsogbu gi? Ihe I na chughari'm, e nwee ugwo m ji gi?
E nwere ihe jikoro mu na gi?
Lekwe k'obi na a kpogbu gi n'okwu gbasara umu nwaanyi n'elu nairaland!

A kpasukwala'm iwe!

Empty ranting, mak u cum do your worst mak i see

Slynation:
Asin ehh... wahala dey O

Gender that Jah regretted creating

She's simply trying to let you know she's expecting a ring on her fingers not later than this year. When i talk about ring, i don't mean engagement ring. Engagement ring will only extend the date your tears will flow by 3months, but it must surely flow because that girl will surely use monday hammer and scatter your heart.

So comrade if your mission is to love without marriage 100meters close to the radar, ABORT MISSION AND BRACE FOR IMPACT.

Personally I see nothing wrong with wearing same attire to an occasion, though the relationship is too young for that level of familiarity.

But OP it seems you are not comfortable with the idea, why wanting to displease yourself in an attempt to please someone else?
Are you convince that you will be wearing genuine smile seeing yourself on the same attire with your GF and our family during her family event?


Bet me today may be attire, tomorrow might be something more serious, avoid being manipulated by anyone

emmanuelbrown26:

Gender that Jah regretted creating

I nwekwara ako n'uche?
O wu ihe Chukwu gwara gi?
E kwekwala ka Chineke kpoo gi oku!

emmanuelbrown26:

Empty ranting, mak u cum do your worst mak i see

Are you into men?
As in, do you prefer men sexually? Answer honestly, so that we can all understand where your hate is coming from.

Apostle must hear of this' run oh!

OP HOW OLD IS SHE? COS IT REALLY MATTERS...SHE MIGHT BE A DESPERADO

The facts is that she is already in love and believe you are her man.. We can 3 days, 3weeeks or 3 months,,, e don't take years to love but minutes. So bro
If you are in love and see her as your future wife, then no problem see the clothes with her. But if you don't then abort the plan, but bear it in your mind that if you abort it,, she's gonna kick your ass from her life. Because you're not serious

Let me give you a final solution, collect the cloth take it to the tailor, make arrangement with the tailor that, he should not work on the cloth till so so time, make sure you told him The reason for the arrangement, any time you are with your girl friend be calling the tailor challenge him while he is not still work on the cloth and the wedding is near, something something like that, later your girl friend will know that that fort is not from you. If not you will get problem your girl. Do that and thank me later.

MALIGNANTGuest:

Abeg forward ur for Cold Beer.
I know say person like you already get money but still forward ur stuff for very chilled Origin!
.... na MAN u be..
U carry head enter this WORLD..

Mariangeles:


I nwekwara ako n'uche?
O wu ihe Chukwu gwara gi?
E kwekwala ka Chineke kpoo gi oku!

Is their in d Bible na,
As for ako n'uche, go and ask your ancestors that one.

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

This is one mistake most men do, not setting boundaries at the start of the relationship with their girlfriend, you have a busy schedule, don’t go , some ladies don’t like men they can easily tame.
Why not be like i really appreciate your efforts in this but I have a tight schedule these days.
She might appreciate your presence or willingness at first but with time she gonna throw anything at you.

My friend! Go and wear that one love regalia.

Zonefree:
Don't fall for that cheap manipulation from her. Na over familiarity dey cause all this nonsense!

You can decide to go for the wedding if you're less busy but don't wear same attire with her. She's just a girlfriend...don't let your girlfriend stops you from finding the love of your life. The love of your life might be in that wedding. Be wise!

A true comrade spoken

casualobserver:


You women sef are your own problems. This is how you put pressure on men and drive men away. How can you ask a man to wear aso ebi with you after 3 months…..kilode!!!!!

Invite him to the wedding, if he doesn’t want to come, you know he has no plans for you because he doesn’t want to meet your family. But when you ask him to wear aso ebi, you are the one creating issues by trying to force the issue which will often backfire on you.

It is one thing to meet your family, it’s another to participate in a family event as a family member in waiting after just 3 months!!!!

I don't see any pressure in this my brother, the relationship is more than 3 months. They should know where they are heading to already before he turns her to evening newspaper (according to Nairalanders).

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

She should break up with you if you see possible marriage as manipulation.



You're both not on the same page.

Sirmee:
How old is your girlfriend wey she don dey get niece wey ripe for marriage?

Possible, my neice is less than 5yrs my junior while her mother my sister is over 20yrs my senior

Mariangeles:


Sisi ehn...

I took note of that, just in case shaa.✍️

Abi nau....simple solutions o. Tailors are different kind of ogas

mayday mayday a brother is about to be setup by a vagina person

Baba you are not ok lol

MrMcJay:
She is trying to mark her territory.

That girl is marking her territory, staking ownership on the guy and showing off her prize before her family . The guy will now get there, her family will be telling the guy to do quick and pick date.

Pick which date? Guy wey just pay for IELTS.

Zelenskyy:
A sign of no True love...

This OP is asking this question because he has no plans to marry her. If he is convinced that she is the one for him, he would not think twice about this matter.

3 months is enough time to know whether you truly love someone and want to continue this relationship down to the Altar...

You’ve never known everything about a person, i

I see someone that came to EAT AND RUN

And most men behave like this when they see the lady as not adding anything to their life...

One question for the OP...

If na Dangote , Otedola or Governor's daughter that you love ask you to wear the same Asho ebi, would you come to Nairaland to ask for public opinion ... ?

Would you not jump at the offer.... ?

Answer Truthfully and don't deceive yourself.

Like I said, No True Love here.

She sees you as Husband material but you are still wearing your EAT AND RUN cap. If not you will not be here asking this question

That your girlfriend is not getting any younger. That is why she is doing what she is doing.

So let her know as soon as possible your intentions for the relationship. There is no Crime telling her that you don't intend to marry her. So that she can prepare her heart for her missing ribs..


But you may not tell her that because your plan is to EAT, EAT, EAT AND RUN and possibly delay her marital Destiny

You’ve never known everything about a person,
Even while dating any lady they will always say 40 percent is for you the rest is their privacy, Same everyone.
Don’t assume you’ve known your girlfriend all , that’s why you hear of ladies cheating on their boyfriends or suddenly dumb him or her.
Pastors wife even divorce and cheat after long years of friendship, marriage even with kids.

sisisioge:


Abi nau....simple solutions o. Tailors are different kind of ogas

Azin!

brandsoncharlie:

You’ve never known everything about a person,
Even while dating any lady they will always say 40 percent is for you the rest is their privacy, Same everyone.
Don’t assume you’ve known your girlfriend all , that’s why you hear of ladies cheating on their boyfriends or suddenly dumb him or her.
Pastors wife even divorce and cheat after long years of friendship, marriage even with kids.

I repeat

3 months is enough time to know whether you love someone and want to marry her...


The lady has seen a husband material in that guy and the guy is not seeing likewise probably because he has an ulterior motive...

If he thinks the lady is trying to lead him to where he is not ready to go yet, simply tell her to back off...

But guyman would not do that because he wants to keep Fuking the lady all in the name of "we are still dating and trying to know ourselves..."

That is Hogwash....

You can never truly Know your Spouse or Girlfriend

There are couples married for 20 years and are still getting to know and understand themselves...

Marriage is a school where you don't graduate...


3 months is enough time to know if the relationship would result in marriage...

Mariangeles:


Okay, 3 months is still quite recent.
Tell her you're not comfortable with that arrangement, that it might send the wrong message, and you wouldn't want that.

It's not too early if they're already having sex. I wish women would learn to practice abstinence before marriage. What a pity. I just wish I knew the girl personally to advise her to forget about the relationship and move on with her life. Smh.

MrMcJay:
She is trying to mark her territory.

That girl is marking her territory, staking ownership on the guy and showing off her prize before her family . The guy will now get there, her family will be telling the guy to do quick and pick date.

Pick which date? Guy wey just pay for IELTS.

Abobi, your last line caught me. Man go dey reason wayforward, girls go dey reason marriage as if e go just end there.

Zelenskyy:


I repeat

3 months is enough time to know whether you love someone and want to marry her...


The lady has seen a husband material in that guy and the guy is not seeing likewise probably because he has an ulterior motive...

If he thinks the lady is trying to lead him to where he is not ready to go yet, simply tell her to back off...

But guyman would not do that because he wants to keep Fuking the lady all in the name of "we are still dating and trying to know ourselves..."

That is Hogwash....

You can never truly Know your Spouse or Girlfriend

There are couples married for 20 years and are still getting to know and understand themselves...

Marriage is a school where you don't graduate...


3 months is enough time to know if the relationship would result in marriage...

My ex took me to meet not only his parents but his entire family clan within 1 month of dating. He's very decisive about what he wants and proactive too.

There's no big deal in this... You're definitely going to get negative responses here, which I believe, was the reason why you brought a matter as little as this to the public

Someone loves you enough to the extent that she's willing to let everyone know that she's at least entangled with someone and all you have to do is use the desperation tag on your own supposed partner

For you to bring a trivial issue like this to the public, OP is clearly not mature enough for long term commitment