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My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Got A High Paying Job (46594 Views)
Re: My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Got A High Paying Job by Nobody: 2:52pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Khoielvis: ![]() Omo! I don't even know what to say again. That's why it's best not to blame people till you walk in their shoes. So sorry for all that happened. 1 Like |
DMerciful(m): 2:54pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Most men won't tell you this in public but the higher a woman earns, the lesser her attraction to men.
pocohantas: 1 Like |
pocohantas(f): 2:55pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DMerciful: May I never be attractive to a man for my brokeness. 4 Likes |
Khoielvis: 2:56pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DaveDGreat: She saw my determination and zeal to marry her. Knew my family from first to last and saw us in church and knows our committment level to sound morals and ethics. Knew without a doubt I could take care of her. But she went to bed someone during the period. Now, does this sound rational? It's why the man in this story too is also careful. There is the belief that if a woman gives up her work, then it shows higher loyalty and true loyalty to the relationship. The man too has his own point 3 Likes |
OvertheTop(m): 2:56pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Khoielvis: You mean with all these your Great Strategies that You are Dishing out Confidently and Practicing , You have Not Settled down(married) anyone of your catch....and you are still changing them? That means your strategy is Not functional in getting the best to settle down with. ![]() |
nextdoorpal: 2:57pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Do not compromise what will give you fulfillment just to please a person. If he can't deal, walk n know you did right by him but his insecurities made him lose a good woman. Over time he will realise same n I hope you still feel same way for him then, if not my dear, be contented with your life then n still know good n better things will still happen to you
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DMerciful(m): 2:58pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
The challenge with many women is that they never try to understand men. They can take the few exceptions as the normal male behavior and even when you try to explain to them, they'd think you're against women. Anyways, her guy did not fight her...he politely said he is no longer interested. Abi na by force? pocohantas: 3 Likes |
Khoielvis: 2:59pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
OvertheTop: I agree. However, with the crop of ladies out there, dating and marriage isn't dependent of oneself alone. Strategies and all can reduce problems and issues, but when it comes to forming a tango, it takes two 1 Like |
folake4u(f): 3:00pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
This thread is an eyeopener sha. Some people really have this shallow mentality about ambitious women. As for me, I want to soar higher in my career oh biko. Make I use the money flex myself and family. Make I dey fresh dey go more. ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
pocohantas(f): 3:00pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DMerciful: We understand actually. We understand that men love broke women. How else do we explain men marrying career women and cheating on her with a Chidinma Ojukwu in a shortlet apartment? Trust me we understand. 4 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Got A High Paying Job by Nobody: 3:02pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Khoielvis: I now see your point. Apparently his fingers has been burnt before and he doesn't want a repeat. Chai. |
DMerciful(m): 3:04pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Yes because the career woman will be too busy to nurture both the children and the husband, too tired for great sex, too tired to take care of the kids or cook but delegate to house helps. And to make it worse, contribute disproportionately vs her income to running the home. If a married can cannot get good sex, good food and still poor financial ...whats the point? pocohantas: 3 Likes |
Khoielvis: 3:05pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DaveDGreat: That's why we can't blame anyone too much. The dating pool is now a mess. A terrible one 2 Likes |
qtguru(m): 3:07pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
I'm the opposite I hate broke ladies.
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folake4u(f): 3:09pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
pocohantas: Amen! Amen!! Amen!!! Iseeeeeeeee!!!!!!! 3 Likes |
pocohantas(f): 3:10pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DMerciful: If your side-chicks had jobs or worked as hard as your wives to your dreams, I doubt they would have the time and energy to fix eyelashes or do backflip on your prick. If your wife dashes you to that side-chick for one week, I am sure she would run. 2 Likes 1 Share |
holysaint1(m): 3:10pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
julie90: You dodged a bullet. |
DMerciful(m): 3:16pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
We're saying the same thing Poco That's the reason many men would want a job that gives a woman more time for what's important to the man and still make enough money for her expenses. The man would still her financially ontop her income. Before you say 'whats important to man' , yes the man marries the wiman and not the other way round. The human male is actually generous and benevolent. ![]() ![]() pocohantas: 3 Likes |
pocohantas(f): 3:18pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
DMerciful: You have to pick one. There are many jobless women in Nigeria. Date and marry them. When you do, sub for them every day without complaining or calling them liabilities. it they are helping something your very existence thrives on- YOUR EGO. I am not fighting anything. I am actually looking for a man that would be giving me plenty money monthly without fight or plenty talk. 3 Likes |
DMerciful(m): 3:23pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Why do we have to live life on the extreme? Highly career focused on one side and house wife on the other side. Can't we balance it so its a win-win for all parties? How about a little career and a little house wife? We said we would take care of you, just be a submissive wife and we will love you to the moon. How's that not a win? ![]() pocohantas: 2 Likes |
IamMobisola(f): 3:26pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
TruthHurts100: So you mean a boyfriend can ask his girlfriend or vice versa to open a t together with them so that they can be saving for their future? You mean a girlfriend can move into her boyfriend's house and start doing wifely duties for him and begin to bear him children because relationship na relationship, married or not? Lol |
Acidosis(m): 3:32pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
I think he was "scared" and you (probably) didn't do enough to convince him. There's a perception out there that the more a person earns, the more the tendency to feel "bigger" and "bossier". This is a general notion. This is not an attempt to blame you but I feel that you didn't do enough to convince him, massage his ego, or whatever it was that made him feel that way (if he's worth it though). The day your boss decides to increase your pay is not the right time to begin to recount the stress you go through when you cook noodles (just citing an example). Be calculative, smart, and study your man. I understand that some men are sadists but one thing you cannot take away from men is ego. We only deploy this ego differently. My suggestion is not too much to do for a 2 year relationship with a man who's been there and dutiful all along. Of course, you're also going to meet men who wouldn't care or give you a negative attitude when you find yourself in a better position. However, your financial contribution to that relationship will play a significant role in sustaining a positive reaction from your partner. You should prepare your mind for this as you move on with your life. All the best. 3 Likes |
TruthHurts100: 3:34pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
IamMobisola: End of discussion. You have deviated. Even I'm marriage, I can never advice you to have a t with your husband. Living with a man you're not married with is dirty. We were talking about making decisions for one another..... You left the discussion má. |
qtguru(m): 3:45pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
OP no stress find another guy, not all guys have that mindset. Imagine you rejected the job, and he broke up with you, you would look stupid.
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NoToPile: 3:49pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
pocohantas: Sadly a lot of men fall into that category( the person you quoted might be right by saying most) , many don't just want to it. Well at least na person marry Okonjo, alakija and Dora. If their husband's were like some of these people talking up and down would they have been as successful as they were/are? May we not marry our enemy. Marry jobless woman - Mba she must bring something to the table Marry a high flyer- Rara oo, she shouldn't be over ambitious. 3 Likes |
cococandy(f): 3:54pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
GloriousGbola:I’m sure if you ask him what a high value man is, he will say it’s a man that makes good money. But let the girl say she wants a man with money, they’ll call her a gold digger. Now she’s making her own money, she’s not good enough. Nothing make sense with these kind of folks. Like talking to a bunch of brick walls 5 Likes 1 Share |
gaby(m): 3:56pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Glozaglobal: Wow.. I never really thought of it from this angle. This is making sense on the dude's behalf for sure. |
iamdapsyj(m): 4:00pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: Thanks for this comment, I wanted to respond to her not to generalize before too but I had to stop because I don't have strength for online wahala.... The guy the Op talked about messed up no doubt and the Op should consider herself lucky not to be enslaved in that trap......in this day an age, some men still carry that old mentality that their wives can never earn than them....it's sickening I tell you!! 1 Like 1 Share |
cococandy(f): 4:02pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
pocohantas:a word 1 Like |
reddingtonblack: 4:03pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
pocohantas: changing the narrative as always being your game point, unfortunately it is after marraige most men realize marriage is a scam, and as a matter of fact most married men are sex starved & deprived of attention, cos wives see sex as weapon and when women start having kids all there love & care shift to the kids ... the man feels neglected hence the need for side chicks. wives are boring while side chicks are everthing a man lacks in marriage. Wives should be grateful to sidechicks/olosho of this world cos they are the ones keeping men sanity 2 Likes |
cococandy(f): 4:05pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
Speak for the women in your circle only. And while you’re at it, never again in your life call any woman a gold digger or mock her for being dependent. Because it seems wavering between different levels of illogic is now a pastime to you guys DMerciful: 3 Likes |
DMerciful(m): 4:06pm On Jun 03, 2022 |
This is not men vs women, una nor reach! This is reality! cococandy: 1 Like |
Ladies STOP Selecting Men, Based On Where They Work.
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