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As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids (40022 Views)
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Poswahala: 5:57pm On May 16, 2022 |
Guys I genuinely need some advice Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids. I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child. I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex. I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids. I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home. If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves. The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married. But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child. Please advise. 73 Likes 6 Shares |
Gentlerespect76: 6:04pm On May 16, 2022 |
Poswahala: This decision is self destructive. 76 Likes 4 Shares |
amnesty7: 6:05pm On May 16, 2022 |
Do what will please you.
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Carcholce: 6:06pm On May 16, 2022 |
Why not start from a mental home first. Take care of the problem. A lot of Nigerian women have mental problem but they call it “mood swings” 597 Likes 50 Shares |
JOACHINpedro: 6:06pm On May 16, 2022 |
Poswahala:Which guy will reject this term and condition? 301 Likes 22 Shares |
Stacyomolola(f): 6:08pm On May 16, 2022 |
Poswahala: If u want to or do not want to get married....that's yr decision to make But pls endeavour to multiply 4 Likes 1 Share |
Emma2Seconds: 6:12pm On May 16, 2022 |
Take care of your mental health first . children are important at old age , if not marriage and so called Love and relationship are just scam .
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Emma2Seconds: 6:14pm On May 16, 2022 |
U sounds like you're rice why not adopt at least 3 children now and find nanny that will help you in taking care of them.
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CrownOfClay724: 6:21pm On May 16, 2022 |
Seek help for your health first. Single or married, you're in line if you're happy. Only that you'd need people around when you're old, weak and frayed. And by then, your immediate family — brothers, sisters et al might just be busy with their own families. So, whatever you decide, have those times at the back of your mind. 55 Likes 1 Share |
Poswahala: 6:30pm On May 16, 2022 |
Carcholce: Please am not suffering from mood swings..this is something that is affecting my life and not some mood swings 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Youngpo413: 6:32pm On May 16, 2022 |
Carcholce:lol 4 Likes |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 6:32pm On May 16, 2022 |
its because you depressed thats why u think like that, u will come back to your senses
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Carcholce: 6:32pm On May 16, 2022 |
Poswahala: Mood swings affects life. 5 Likes |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 6:37pm On May 16, 2022 |
That is what a girl i knew said when she was 19 years
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Osuman(m): 7:11pm On May 16, 2022 |
My dear, in as much as I share your pains and emotions. Please, you must understand that there is a big difference between adoption and a biological one, please if you can in any way try as much to give birth to one at least. And try seek for assistance on how to manage your issue. wishing you an improving health. Know that you are not alone.
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Newton2024: 7:38pm On May 16, 2022 |
You have not met the man God designed for you. The man that is strong where you are weak. The man that is not like you but is compatible with you. That's why you are scared for no tangible reason. Let no one deceive you, marriage is the sweetest thing in life. Joy of motherhood is unquantifiable. Before it is late for you, seek the face of God in marriage. 25 Likes 3 Shares |
tensazangetsu20(m): 7:43pm On May 16, 2022 |
There's a lot of Nigerian men who don't want children. They are called anti natalist. You just havent met them yet but they exist.
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Medianna(f): 7:44pm On May 16, 2022 |
Newton2024:This is what people say and think before marriage but how many married people can stand and say what you just said with all sincerity? 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Lalami3232(m): 7:45pm On May 16, 2022 |
Lol
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Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 8:24pm On May 16, 2022 |
Send me a DM
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Newton2024: 8:43pm On May 16, 2022 |
Medianna:I can say it with all sincerity. My life is now better of than when I was single. I used to be sad and depressed but now I am happy and joyful. If couples possess fruits of the spirit and follow biblical principles on relationship, all marriages would be lively. Enemies of marriage nowadays: - ego (my decision is final and I can't apologize) - comparison (my spouse must be like the spouse I watch on TV) - faulty mindset - lack of self-control - etc 63 Likes 6 Shares |
Medianna(f): 8:50pm On May 16, 2022 |
Newton2024:Interesting. happy for you 19 Likes 1 Share |
DontBullshitMe: 9:02pm On May 16, 2022 |
Is there any quality retirement homes in Nigeria? Plan am well oh! 15 Likes 1 Share |
cherryCola: 9:20pm On May 16, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20: Am one of them ![]() 3 Likes |
suffering: 9:22pm On May 16, 2022 |
Attention seeking. Come back at age 39 then declare it. OP is surely under 19 years of age.
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Uniquetani1(f): 9:24pm On May 16, 2022 |
Poswahala: You will be very lonely at old age. Marriage na scam, just make sure you have a child at least. There is this joy I do have when I see babies, I do anticipate for mine. Take care of your mental health 10 Likes 1 Share |
Pussyassasin(m): 9:27pm On May 16, 2022 |
Good for you, live life to the fullest.
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RealityKings: 9:50pm On May 16, 2022 |
@ Poswahala Dont worry about it, you will be fine. But you should know as humans age, they need people to share their voice/problem with. They also need people to them financially and morally... In all this role, having a child solves the problem. You might argue that you can adopt a child a raise him/her. The truth is, as humans, deep down you know the child is not yours. Coupled with the fact that your mental health is not balanced, it would be a bigger risk trying to raise and train a child that is not yours having your own child is as important as preparing towards the future 3 Likes 1 Share |
JoyousFurnitire(m): 10:23pm On May 16, 2022 |
Whether you have a kid or not you'll be lonely. Your kids will at some point leave you to go start their life in another city or country. That's the reason some sane countries have frameworks for recreational facilities for the older folks. ^^^ That's the reason why most of them (old) folks are easy prey for Yahoo boiz. From the conclusion of your post you so much want your own child. If that is so, why not heal, go see a therapist and then channel all your heart and strength to loving your child (like that's the only thing you'll get right in life). having a kid doesn't mean you won't be lonely when you're older. They've got to go live their life. 25 Likes 4 Shares |
Dude397(m): 11:15pm On May 16, 2022 |
Are you receiving treatment for your mental health issues?. That's the most important question. I have same and mine is completely unnoticed and I'm living a normal life tho on meds. You'll be fine.
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Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 12:11am On May 17, 2022 |
cherryCola:Makes us two sir. ![]() |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 12:13am On May 17, 2022 |
JoyousFurnitire:Most sensible response so far. ![]() 8 Likes 1 Share |
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