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golddust6000:
okay, but what am opening the shop is because of incase we have kids the burden won’t be on me.

Ogbeni, haven't you heard of Men with 2 or 3 business?
Open another for yourself and use the profits to be giving her Allowances.

Vinnie2000:
Ogbeni, haven't you heard of Men with 2 or 3 business?
Open another for yourself and use the profits to be giving her Allowances.

am not in Nigeria

golddust6000:
Hello beloved nairaland, I am here to seek advice from smart people in the house.

I met this girl at a market square in my village, last year December from then till now we have been dating and about to get married end of this year ( not official).
She is a university fresh graduate, she came from good and okay family, and ready to settle down. For now she is not working.

She asked me to open a shop for her as soon as we get married, I am not living in Nigeria, opening a shop won’t be problem to open for her.
The question is, can I open the shop with my name or I should open it with her name, because I don’t want to hear the story that touching the heart.

Smart people of nairaland pls advise me on what to do hear, before I can make a final decision.

Thank you guys in advance.

Open the shop in her name ONLY when she has legally become your wife.
Do this so that we no go insult you too much if she decides to opt for divorce tomorrow.

golddust6000:
i will be coming every six months of the year till she me over

Every six months?

Nigeria girls wey no fit stay for 3 weeks without collecting dick. And you're talking about six months? Get ready, your first, second and third kids definitely won't be yours!!.

Open the shop for her but on some conditions.
First, you must get married to her first and secondly the shop's name MUST bear your surname ( that's your name) which shows that she is under you and you have the full right to close it anytime you want if she misbehave.
It's a good idea to open shop for her as she suggested, it will keep her busy and she will be a bit independent.
@Op carry go you're on a right track.
Adhere to the above advice and you're good to go

golddust6000:
answer my question

I will clear ur doubt ooo.....I can't open a shop for my so called Nigerian wife when am not based in the country with her.
I can't marry a Nigerian lady when am based outside...
I can't take my Nigerian wife out of the country to live with me except on vacations and visits
I can't open a shop for her in her name except my name
Like Oga Good said watch her for some years and affirm her loyalty and submission before opening any shop and moreover me personally will open it with my name and make sure I am aware of all happenings and spendings in the so called shop..
I will apply the brokenness pattern also to find out her stance and reactions..

Mind you embrace The Red Pill and be liberated..

With these few point of mine I hope I ve been able to convince you and not to confuse you ...

TRP is DIAMOND

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GooodHardDick:


Bro, the girl wey I dey bang now like this told me her guy is in , and that the guy has promised to marry her. The guy is over there hustling and wishing for the day he'll come back and marry the girl. While we're here in naija, drilling and destroying her pussy.

I have zero sympathy for simps. We dey warm u now, but you no wan hear. Abort that mission asap. Wait till the marriage gets mature for about 6-7 years. And everything must be done with in Name!!! Don't allow your emotions to control you.

Oh so you de bang girl?! Thought you where Gay all this while.

BrianGriffin:
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Oh so you de bang girl?! Thought you where Gay all this while.

Comrade. We bang Nigerian girls, dump them and move on. Nigeria girls were created to be banged, nothing else

You don't date Nigeria girls oga, you only bang their pussy, dump them and move on.

golddust6000:
am here for advice, so u know fit open shop for your wife?

You came here for advice but you have been arguing against the mainstream advice been giving to you.
Staying abroad and marrying a Nigerian girl living in Nigeria is a very bad decision, with almost certainty of ending in disaster. Besides that opening a shop for her is another foolish decision, more so in her name.

golddust6000:
Hello beloved nairaland, I am here to seek advice from smart people in the house.

I met this girl at a market square in my village, last year December from then till now we have been dating and about to get married end of this year ( not official).
She is a university fresh graduate, she came from good and okay family, and ready to settle down. For now she is not working.

She asked me to open a shop for her as soon as we get married, I am not living in Nigeria, opening a shop won’t be problem to open for her.
The question is, can I open the shop with my name or I should open it with her name, because I don’t want to hear the story that touching the heart.

Smart people of nairaland pls advise me on what to do hear, before I can make a final decision.

Thank you guys in advance.

why marry a lady when you dont stay in the country find someone in that country you're to
marry

golddust6000:
Hello beloved nairaland, I am here to seek advice from smart people in the house.

I met this girl at a market square in my village, last year December from then till now we have been dating and about to get married end of this year ( not official).
She is a university fresh graduate, she came from good and okay family, and ready to settle down. For now she is not working.

She asked me to open a shop for her as soon as we get married, I am not living in Nigeria, opening a shop won’t be problem to open for her.
The question is, can I open the shop with my name or I should open it with her name, because I don’t want to hear the story that touching the heart.

Smart people of nairaland pls advise me on what to do hear, before I can make a final decision.

Thank you guys in advance.

Can't she open the shop for herself? ...
She's asking you to open a shop for her immediately you guys get married ba, what effort is she putting towards that? Abi does she think it is only husbands that should build their wives in marriage and not vice versa? Sounds to me like this girl has a mentality of "my husband must do everything for me, while I do little or nothing" ...

I have two beliefs that as regards this issue.... 1. if it's important to you, you'd find a way to make it work 2. What you don't work to get, you won't have the capacity to sustain....

If that shop is important to her, it will show in her attitude: she will huzzle to bring part of the money, she will study in-depth as regards the kind of business she wants to do, she will do her research properly as regards where to get cheaper goods, the market system et Al...

If she isn't doing all the above and more, I bet you, if you open that shop for her, she will mismanage it!! Because she didn't go through the process of starting it, she definitely won't have what it takes to sustain it ...

I hope you get the point sir?

And please sir...
Don't ever consider getting married to a lady who isn't working for her money!! It's foolishness!!!!

How would someone who has never worked for 20k in her life, be able to manage that same amount, when given to her?

Give a girl who works for her own money legitimately 20k, I assure you, it will be put to far better use in her hands than a girl who has never worked for money in her life ....

While the former can plan that money well and it'll last her 2weeks or more, the later will most definitely spend it all in one salon ....


May God give you wisdom sir...

Favfables1:


Can't she open the shop for herself? ...
She's asking you to open a shop for her immediately you guys get married ba, what effort is she putting towards that? Abi does she think it is only husbands that should build their wives in marriage and not vice versa? Sounds to me like this girl has a mentality of "my husband must do everything for me, while I do little or nothing" ...

I have two beliefs that as regards this issue.... 1. if it's important to you, you'd find a way to make it work 2. What you don't work to get, you won't have the capacity to sustain....

If that shop is important to her, it will show in her attitude: she will huzzle to bring part of the money, she will study in-depth as regards the kind of business she wants to do, she will do her research properly as regards where to get cheaper goods, the market system et Al...

If she isn't doing all the above and more, I bet you, if you open that shop for her, she will mismanage it!! Because she didn't go through the process of starting it, she definitely won't have what it takes to sustain it ...

I hope you get the point sir?

And please sir...
Don't ever consider getting married to a lady who isn't working for her money!! It's foolishness!!!!

How would someone who has never worked for 20k in her life, be able to manage that same amount, when given to her?

Give a girl who works for her own money legitimately 20k, I assure you, it will be put to far better use in her hands than a girl who has never worked for money in her life ....

While the former can plan that money well and it'll last her 2weeks or more, the later will most definitely spend it all in one salon ....


May God give you wisdom sir...

I appreciate your advice, I will do so in accordance

satandeterrible:

You came here for advice but you have been arguing against the mainstream advice been giving to you.
Staying abroad and marrying a Nigerian girl living in Nigeria is a very bad decision, with almost certainty of ending in disaster. Besides that opening a shop for her is another foolish decision, more so in her name.

pls can you show me the advice and where I argued?

[quote author=golddust6000 post=112760708]Hello beloved nairaland, I am here to seek advice from smart people in the house.

I met this girl at a market square in my village, last year December from then till now we have been dating and about to get married end of this year ( not official).
She is a university fresh graduate, she came from good and okay family, and ready to settle down. For now she is not working.

She asked me to open a shop for her as soon as we get married, I am not living in Nigeria, opening a shop won’t be problem to open for her.
The question is, can I open the shop with my name or I should open it with her name, because I don’t want to hear the story that touching the heart.

Smart people of nairaland pls advise me on what to do hear, before I can make a final decision.

Thank you guys in advance.[/qu

If you are sure she is ready n sincere to settle down with u, my guy go ahead as opening a shop where she will be selling food stuffs or provisions will go well n help u save money as per sending her upkeeps always....
The best anyman can do is to empower his wife incase of tomorrow....i said wife o and not babe,girlfriend or fiancee.
Good luck

GooodHardDick:
U Don open shop for your mama and sisters?

Una never Marry, girl Don already dey give you condition? As in.. A hoe is the one telling you what to do for her?

A typical Nigerian girl an with Entitlement mentality. That's exactly how they behave. That girl wants to cash out massively from you to secure her future should in case anything happens.

I don't recommend opening a shop for a Nigerian girl at all, but if you must open a shop for her, I'll recommend you wait for at least 6-7years before doing that. And the shop MUST be open in your NAME. Having said that, ask yourself why is she in a hurry to get a shop immediately after your marriage? That girl wan run you street bro. Be wise!

Na so my girl run me street after opening pos shop for her as requested. In less than two months she don fall in love with two of her pos customer. She broke up sha. Lucky mhe i no give her 300k operating capital if not i for b the simp of the year

EASYGURU:


Na so my girl run me street after opening pos shop for her as requested. In less than two months she don fall in love with two of her pos customer. She broke up sha. Lucky mhe i no give her 300k operating capital if not i for b the simp of the year

girl friend o not wife, my case na wife not girl friend, the shop will be in my name

EASYGURU:


Na so my girl run me street after opening pos shop for her as requested. In less than two months she don fall in love with two of her pos customer. She broke up sha. Lucky mhe i no give her 300k operating capital if not i for b the simp of the year

Comrade, you get mind go open business for a coded runs girl? What were you thinking?

I no know where una dey get mind dey try all these things! As in you mean you left your mom, sisters and younger ones, and then went and opened a pos shop for a coded runs girl that'll dump you immediately she sees a more richer guy?

Thank God you were quickly restored back to your senses bro. This is 2022 comrade. No sane guy is expected to Simp at all. The only women God created you to maintain are your mother, sisters and wife

How u go marry person wey u meet 5months ago? No be juju be dat?

Tales by moonlight.

GooodHardDick:

While we're here in naija, drilling and destroying her pussy.

Wotor Wotor

ashawopikin:
How u go marry person wey u meet 5months ago? No be juju be dat?

una really get comprehension problem. Who told u we are married? Marriage might be next year if I know she is the woman for me. I will open shop for her to manage not hers

golddust6000:
una really get comprehension problem. Who told u we are married? Marriage might be next year if I know she is the woman for me. I will open shop for her to manage not hers

na u sabi

Them never teach u anything

Why should you be married to a lady who you don’t get to see everyday? Naija girl for that matter wey their morality is next to nothing?
It’s not as if you guys can’t get married but I believe there should be a concrete plan of making sure she goes over to ur side by six months max after the wedding. Ladies of these days are no longer loyal my broda so pls think it well o and for the shop matter, my question is why can’t she try and hustle it for herself cos am sensing “my man must provide everything for me” mentality here and also investing in a lady you are in a relationship with is not a bad idea, in fact it shows you care about her but pls don’t be the only person to fund the biz o. Know that as you are far away from her, any money u spend on her is hers and not yours again.

GooodHardDick:
U Don open shop for your mama and sisters?

Una never Marry, girl Don already dey give you condition? As in.. A hoe is the one telling you what to do for her?

A typical Nigerian girl an with Entitlement mentality. That's exactly how they behave. That girl wants to cash out massively from you to secure her future should in case anything happens.

I don't recommend opening a shop for a Nigerian girl at all, but if you must open a shop for her, I'll recommend you wait for at least 6-7years before doing that. And the shop MUST be open in your NAME. Having said that, ask yourself why is she in a hurry to get a shop immediately after your marriage? That girl wan run you street bro. Be wise!

i no you for the 'wait for 7 to 8yrs, bross u wicked.

golddust6000:
am here to seek advice and you dey attack me.

As you don carry your relationship matter present to struggling kids wey never understand the realities of life to discuss, see as your relationship don begin crash before your very eyes.

Your search for a life partner continues my brother. You go soon learn .

You should know what to do, but investing in someone you haven't married is risky these days who knows yours might be different.

The fact that you don't stay in Nigerian increases the risk.

GooodHardDick:


Comrade, you get mind go open business for a coded runs girl? What were you thinking?

I no know where una dey get mind dey try all these things! As in you mean you left your mom, sisters and younger ones, and then went and opened a pos shop for a coded runs girl that'll dump you immediately she sees a more richer guy?

Thank God you were quickly restored back to your senses bro. This is 2022 comrade. No sane guy is expected to Simp at all. The only women God created you to maintain are your mother, sisters and wife

Comrade my mumu too much

Clinghton:
You should know what to do, but investing in someone you haven't married is risky these days who knows yours might be different.

The fact that you don't stay in Nigerian increases the risk.

it will be when we get married, not a fiancé or gf per say

GooodHardDick:


Bro, the girl wey I dey bang now like this told me her guy is in , and that the guy has promised to marry her. The guy is over there hustling and wishing for the day he'll come back and marry the girl. While we're here in naija, drilling and destroying her pussy.

I have zero sympathy for simps. We dey warm u now, but you no wan hear. Abort that mission asap. Wait till the marriage gets mature for about 6-7 years. And everything must be done with in Name!!! Don't allow your emotions to control you.

oga is married and enjoying his life in with a french woman make una two the fool una self u see free pus.sy knack am responsibly oo

Tell her that u will open shop when she don born like two and make it clear that the shop na to use the buy shop and card with other small things because i see man wey his wife that big business but she is still collecting upkeep and card money from the man because he base abroad

GooodHardDick:


Bro, the girl wey I dey bang now like this told me her guy is in , and that the guy has promised to marry her. The guy is over there hustling and wishing for the day he'll come back and marry the girl. While we're here in naija, drilling and destroying her pussy.

I have zero sympathy for simps. We dey warm u now, but you no wan hear. Abort that mission asap. Wait till the marriage gets mature for about 6-7 years. And everything must be done with in Name!!! Don't allow your emotions to control you.

oga is married and enjoying his life in with a french woman make una two the fool una self u see free pus.sy knack am responsibly oo.

And dont listen to nairalanders condemning women like their sisters are perfect