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victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

OP you have done nothing wrong, neither has she. It’s her ambition and you both are not on the same page at the moment. If you can’t handle it, please let her be and focus on your business. Don’t let her be the siphon to your business and savings, and don’t be the stumbling block on her career goals.

justscorchone:
If you truly love her then her decision for the master degree, you should be happy and proud your woman want to seek more knowledge and she is already having a side hustle. Na only woman when her head correct dey reason like that this days.

They’re still struggling to be financially stable, there’s no justification to use his meager income to a woman he hasn’t married on her career goals

Please my dear allow her she made a very good decision and now she still single she can do that not when she has a baby and Thank God she said she will not border you financially.

frankmoney:
You are a witch

No you are foolish,

So you don’t want to allow her further her studies simply because you don’t share the sane ambition?your ambition is to expand your business and she didn’t stop you,so why are trying to stop hers?You are just a boyfriend so respect each other’s dreams and aspiration.

Firefox01:
Your girlfriend has more foresight than you. Leave that girl alone. She's obviously meant for a man with a higher thought process than you.

if taking uncalculated risk by closing your only source of income in pursue of a certificate you dont know when it will pay you is foresight to you then l pity the woman in your life, if expanding your business and growing your source of income is not foresight then you need medication my brother.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

She is not asking you for money. Biko let her pursue her dreams.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Let me predict the future for you .
She would go for the masters ..and you Would SIMPly her..
She would finish successfully in few years.. get a good job and Dump you to marry her new senior colleague at the office..

Cheers to your pain in advance..

Nonexisting:
Leave the poor vaginarian alone. She has her life and you have your POS life. Please I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in to break up with her so she can go better her life. She is too smart to be dating someone like you before you lock her in a particular level in life.

you are a fool,, with my p.o.s life l will feed your generation,,mr master degree holder, u maybe in one hut typing this nonsense,, in my two branches l make over 15k everyday but according to u, it is my p.OS life, it is when l wear suit become a lecturer in one university and start collecting 150k ,speaking useless Grammar around that is when you will know l have ambition, poor and proud is synonymous with most graduates.

victooman:
so going for m...

You really need to calm down and listen to people's opinions rather than being aggressively defensive. If you're behaving this way here, then I can only imagine how you talked to her.

First things first, people want different things in life. She could earn more than the 5k/day (150k/month) that you currently earn with your POS. She could earn less. And yes, she may experience setbacks in the meantime, but that's how life is.

And your talks about marriage are all talks. Women receive promises of marriage all the time. If every man who promised your woman marriage marries her, I'm sure she would have 50+ husbands today.

Just respect her wishes, and if you feel it doesn't align with yours, you move on. There are too many fishes in the sea.

victooman:
if taking uncalculated risk by closing your only source of income in pursue of a certificate you dont know when it will pay you is foresight to you then l pity the woman in your life, if expanding your business and growing your source of income is not foresight then you need medication my brother.

Alaye, rest. The type of business is the issue here. Who would love to be a POS operator for life? Certainly not me.

It's a tough place you've found yourself man.

If you choose not to her, you've lost her, fact.

If you choose to, it's a tricky game you're playing because you've not married her.

I myself don't invest in women because it could be disastrous.

Make your next move wisely.

This is how my girl who was living with me moved out against my will and we've not been the same ever since.

lordlugards:
my Advice, leave her to chase her dream.

God no go let you be a dream killer.
If she's your sis will you advise her wasting her time with POS guy

see mumu mentality, make she go marry governor pikin naa, so l am not wasting my future with her a pos girl,,you no get sense l swear

victooman:
No you are foolish,

lol you just lack sense , she wants to better herself by adding a degree , she's not asking you for money or anything yet you are so small minded with low self-esteem trying to stop her

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Let her fulfill her dreams. You’re not even her father nor husband. Nonsense

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

Very good advice coming from a lady.
You are not like Sapphire abi Future is female. God bless you.

Viltron:
It's a tough place you've found yourself man.

If you choose not to her, you've lost her, fact.

If you choose to, it's a tricky game you're playing because you've not married her.

I myself don't invest in women because it could be disastrous.

Make your next move wisely.

This is how my girl who was living with me moved out against my will and we've not been the same ever since.

l wont invest a kobo in any of her master pursuit, if she is adamant enough to pursue her goal l myself should be strong enough to pursue mine

Oboi if nah me a no go call her for any other thin a go just face my on struggle leave her alone for now

You want to break up with someone that has already broken up with you? Jest Kwantinu.

My guy , she',s got other plans without you in it. Telling you it's a masters degree could well be a rouse. Moving out angrily is a sign for you that she's ready to leave and move on, we'll bro , move on too

frankmoney:
lol you just lack sense , she wants to better herself by adding a degree , she's not asking you for money or anything yet you are so small minded with low self-esteem trying to stop her

l repeat you are a fool, if you read the post well you will see were l emphasize on her expanding her source of income first, she said she wont ask for money now, when she turn back and ask for money tomorrow is it your father that will provide it, l know this girl more than you why are u making daft assumption, so going for second a degree with no assurance of a job is to better herself but growing a business is not? you underrate the job because you heard it is p.o.s yet most of them makes better money and live large than most of you aaquiring certificate degrees and earning stipends

Hello bro, most women only learn from experience. Just let her go and do the Masters, she go still use am apply for Job wey nor dey, then her eye go open say na time she waste. Regards.

Also, don't live life to please a woman, You will end up disliking her once your eye clear.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

as its her dream, her

I honestly don't see why somebody in this economy, making minimum of 5k a day, would decide to dump it and go for another degree, when the first degree was practically useless to her. Anyway, like Elon Musk will say, people go to college because they don't know what they want to do. My brother, continue making your money and expand. Today its POS, tomorrow you will add more to your portfolio. If you are in Lagos, just buzz me, you are a correct person and thinker.

victooman:
l repeat you are a fool, if you read the post well you will see were l emphasize on her expanding her source of income first, she said she wont ask for money now, when she turn back and ask for money tomorrow is it your father that will provide it, l know this girl more than you why are u making daft assumption, so going for second a degree with no assurance of a job is to better herself but growing a business is not? you underrate the job because you heard it is p.o.s yet most of them makes better money and live large than most of you aaquiring certificate degrees and earning stipends

and I repeat you don't have sense . She's neither your wife or sister , she owes you nothing .take your low self esteem somewhere else and leave her alone


It's better she has the degree and wait for when the opportunity comes , than not have it at all when the opportunity shows up

And who says you can't go to school and do the business as well .

Good for you

If you think that your wife or girlfriend has you in their plans, you're a joker. I repeat, no woman in her right senses thinks about her man's opinion whenever she wants to do anything that relates to her life. Especially Edo Women.. forget it!!

That girl has more eyes to the future than you. You seem to have relaxed on the POS business. She will make a good wife for you, covering your area of weakness. If this is why you want to break up, you will be the loser

frankmoney:
and I repeat you don't have sense . She's neither your wife or sister , she owes you nothing .take your low self esteem somewhere else and leave her alone


It's better she has the degree and wait for when the opportunity comes , than not have it at all when the opportunity shows up

And who says you can't go to school and do the business as well .

the last line shows that you are a small boy , she already have a first degree most jobs will accommodate her, closing her shop and going for a master is bullshit,it is not calculative , stop writing as if l am not ambitious , when l finish my service last year l was having less than 200k in my , now l rakes in more than million naira in a business that is less than 6 months, how many ex corpers can boast of that, going for masters now without a job is foolishness not ambition.

victooman:
the last line shows that you are a small boy , she already have a first degree most jobs will accommodate her, closing her shop and going for a master is bullshit,it is not calculative , stop writing as if l am not ambitious , when l finish my service last year l was having less than 200k in my , now l rakes a million naira in a business that is less than 6 months, how many ex corpers can boast of that, going for masters now without a job is foolishness not ambition.

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frankmoney:
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you will know when u gow up, l should have gone towards your threads before replying you