NewStats: 3,259,733 , 8,170,736 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 08:05 PM 3d2455

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
Good evening Nairalanders, please I don't want to bore you with much stories, I just need a legal advice from lawyers on the FORUM. my sister who has been Legally married 8years ago to this guy, I wasn't around during their wedding because I work far away maiduguri then, the wedding took place in OSUN STATE, few months she gave birth, this guy travelled abroad on invitation visa by his family , the guy has shown so much responsibility as a man and as a father at the beginning when he first arrived at his current country home of residence, my sister always told me how he use to send money for her and her child(only daughter) upkeep and communication was good between them, sometime in 2014, this guy having learned I work in Abuja, he personally ed me and told me his plan to take his wife with him to abroad that he will need my assistance to help Authenticate all my sister's documents from Federal ministry of foreign affairs which I did, probably this doesn't go down well with family or God knows what happened this guy sundenlly make U-turn and stop communicating with my sister, after several findings, he claimed his family had told him my sister was lying to collect money from him and spending such recklessly! That's her offence which he stated in the divorce letter. When I got the story like over five years ago, I heavily criticize my sister believing she must have done something worse than that for her husband to suddenly take Such action against her but what brought my interest in the case was when she sent me copy of divorce letter and I read through, I can't pinpoint to any serious offence she might have committed to warrant divorce all his excuses was baseless and earsay as the husband in question has never return back to nigeria since he travelled and from information my sister got, the husband secretly married to another wife in abroad Netherland to be precise while he still legally married to my sister here in nigeria.
My question now are:
- is it possible to divorce a woman in
absentia?
- The husband was requesting the custody of the only child the marriage produced to take to abroad, in my opinion I objected to that since the husband has married to another wife over there,the safety of the child is important.
- she's currently living in the house they
both built together which she
superviced during construction! They both contributed to the project while the husband was also sending money to build. Will she
be sent packing without any form of compensation?
Please MOD should please help me push to the front page to to have legal interpretation to the issue. Thanks i will be in comment section to take your advice. Ignor any error and advise

Visit the embassy and inform them of his illegal marriage in Netherlands while still legally married in Nigeria... Expect him back to naija in few months time

Mindlog:
The marriage has ended, your sister should get a lawyer grounded in family law to represent her interest and that of their daughter.

That's all she needed now...

Petition the Netherlands embassy, present the documents and evidence to show they were married. He is committing bigamy by marrying another woman without divorcing her


Divorce in Nigeria is not done in absentia or via g of documents. If he wants a Divorce he should do it the right way

Fiscus105:



If your sermon isn't fake, 2 things are involved.

1. You heard info how ur sister sleeping around.

2. She now legally married to white for stay.


* I think she send divorce in order not to continue wasting her time.

what are you saying?

Fiscus105:



If your sermon isn't fake, 2 things are involved.

1. You heard info how ur sister sleeping around in absent of her husband.

2. Maybe your sister husband now legally married to white for stay in abroad.


* I think he sent divorce in order not to continue wasting her time.

Stop smoking Herbs

If he loves the kid that much, he wouldn’t need years to go by in order for him to show it

yuping:

I wanted to take you serious but I later saw that you are just bittered, how can you imply that a father will harm his own child in a lawfull country, if you want to keep the child just say it, don't point out danger haba, A man you claim you love want divorce suddenly he is evil and can harm his own child SMH. If you want to score point with the child shame on you but I know if the wife is getting married after divorce to a white man she is going abroad with the kid. Don't be selfish think about the kid future, a future with you or a future in an environment that can make the child grow.
On the house part the wife should be compensated and she deserve it, everything in Nigeria self should be given to her if possible she has been managing i, all this while.

dawnomike:
Visit the embassy and inform them of his illegal marriage in Netherlands while still legally married in Nigeria... Expect him back to naija in few months time

You are right, the guy is playing with fire!

sisisioge:
Simple matter....dude had moved on... your sister has no choice, the divorce will happen. It might take a while if she doesnt cooperate with him but it will happen.

If I were your sister, I will get a lawyer and tidy the " what I get out of this" part and move on. Ie, the child's custody, the house, child and whathaveyou. It is well....distance ruins relationships/marriages.

Can we meet up?

Eketem:
Petition the Netherlands embassy, present the documents and evidence to show they were married. He is committing bigamy by marrying another woman without divorcing her


Divorce in Nigeria is not done in absentia or via g of documents. If he wants a Divorce he should do it the right way

This but she can't possibly know whether the guy is truly married or not.

Guy is stupid. He is fighting a war he cannot win. If he wanted to win this war, he simply needs to come to Nigeria. Fake love for his wife, propose to sell the house and build another somewhere. Once the house has been sold, he should propose to take the daughter on summer trip to America. Da dang, once he reaches there, send her the divorce letters.

Eketem:
Petition the Netherlands embassy, present the documents and evidence to show they were married. He is committing bigamy by marrying another woman without divorcing her


Divorce in Nigeria is not done in absentia or via g of documents. If he wants a Divorce he should do it the right way

@OP, please heed this advice. There's nothing more to be said.

kingthreat:
Guy is stupid. He is fighting a war he cannot win. If he wanted to win this war, he simply needs to come to Nigeria. Fake love for his wife, propose to sell the house and build another somewhere. Once the house has been sold, he should propose to take the daughter on summer trip to America. Da dang, once he reaches there, send her the divorce letters.

And you think the US immigration can not smoke him out wherever he is in the US and get him and their daughter back in Nigeria, if the woman through her lawyer provides compelling evidence to the US embassy about the deception?

Acidosis:


This but she can't possibly know whether the guy is truly married or not.

Through her lawyer, the Dutch embassy in Nigeria can his marital status in the Netherlands and if he is....problem!

Mindlog:


Through her lawyer, the Dutch embassy in Nigeria can his marital status in the Netherlands and if he is....problem!

Oh good.

Mindlog:


And you think the US immigration can not smoke him out wherever he is in the US and get him and their daughter back in Nigeria, if the woman through her lawyer provides compelling evidence to the US embassy about the deception?

Well hope she has some good money to pay a good lawyer for the case.
Hope the daughter is ready to come back to Nigeria too.

kingthreat:


Well hope she has some good money to pay a good lawyer for the case.
Hope the daughter is ready to come back to Nigeria too.

She can walk into the office of FIDA (The International Federation of Women Lawyers) to seek representation, such cases dey sweet dem die.

In cases like this, it is not about whether the daughter is ready or not, being a minor and should be under the custody of the parent(s) and would be brought back to Nigeria and would be in custody of the parent the Nigerian court deems fit.

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
Good evening Nairalanders, please I don't want to bore you with much stories, I just need a legal advice from lawyers on the FORUM. my sister who has been Legally married 8years ago to this guy, I wasn't around during their wedding because I work far away maiduguri then, the wedding took place in OSUN STATE, few months she gave birth, this guy travelled abroad on invitation visa by his family , the guy has shown so much responsibility as a man and as a father at the beginning when he first arrived at his current country home of residence, my sister always told me how he use to send money for her and her child(only daughter) upkeep and communication was good between them, sometime in 2014, this guy having learned I work in Abuja, he personally ed me and told me his plan to take his wife with him to abroad that he will need my assistance to help Authenticate all my sister's documents from Federal ministry of foreign affairs which I did, probably this doesn't go down well with family or God knows what happened this guy sundenlly make U-turn and stop communicating with my sister, after several findings, he claimed his family had told him my sister was lying to collect money from him and spending such recklessly! That's her offence which he stated in the divorce letter. When I got the story like over five years ago, I heavily criticize my sister believing she must have done something worse than that for her husband to suddenly take Such action against her but what brought my interest in the case was when she sent me copy of divorce letter and I read through, I can't pinpoint to any serious offence she might have committed to warrant divorce all his excuses was baseless and earsay as the husband in question has never return back to nigeria since he travelled and from information my sister got, the husband secretly married to another wife in abroad Netherland to be precise while he still legally married to my sister here in nigeria.
My question now are:
- is it possible to divorce a woman in
absentia?
- The husband was requesting the custody of the only child the marriage produced to take to abroad, in my opinion I objected to that since the husband has married to another wife over there,the safety of the child is important.
- she's currently living in the house they
both built together which she
superviced during construction! They both contributed to the project while the husband was also sending money to build. Will she
be sent packing without any form of compensation?
Please MOD should please help me push to the front page to to have legal interpretation to the issue. Thanks i will be in comment section to take your advice. Ignor any error and advise

If she has a good relationship with her husband families, she should take the letter to them and plead with them to consider her because of that child

But bear in mind that, his family was part of the divorce plans probably because she doesn't know how to do eye services to them, by visiting them and doing one eye service domestic chores

Then your question about divorcing in absential, he knows what he is doing so far he got his family backing

But we pray it gets solved

The wife should get Legal advise on how to get the best out of the divorce.

All these married and living single sef.

Mindlog:


And you think the US immigration can not smoke him out wherever he is in the US and get him and their daughter back in Nigeria, if the woman through her lawyer provides compelling evidence to the US embassy about the deception?

In your small mind,you think deportation happens in a year or two or even five?

In your small mind, USA is the only country to migrate?

Grow up, USA don't care about some marital problems between some Niggars in third world countries except it's a case of national security.


Psquare's wife ran to US with his kids, nothing happened.

Julius Agwu's wife has ran to US with his kids and nothing has happened.

Mindlog:


She can walk into the office of FIDA (The International Federation of Women Lawyers) to seek representation, such cases dey sweet dem die.

In cases like this, it is not about whether the daughter is ready or not, being a minor and should be under the custody of the parent(s) and would be brought back to Nigeria and would be in custody of the parent the Nigerian court deems fit.

FIDA is not a court and can only provide a lawyer to represent her to square up with the guy's lawyer, stop thinking there's anything special FIDA will do for her.

The Judge will decide who will get custody or property.

I don't want to believe that you will allow your sister to consent to his divorce request just like that, unless you don't have the wherewithal and your sister is not sincerely blameless; else, you ought to make him taste the bitter pill of treachery by any means possible before granting him the divorce he sought for.

Opportunism is evil. The idea of allowing someone who consciously comes into your life and entered a for better for worse agreement with you but still thinks that hir has the right to violate the same agreement at will and unprovoked after disorganizing you in the name of being entitled to hir rights to liberty ought not to be allowed to happen without first meting out some pernicious acts on the traitor, regardless of any material benefit expected from the separation.

RightToReject:
I don't want to believe that you will allow your sister to consent to his divorce request just like that, unless you don't have the wherewithal and your sister is not sincerely blameless; else, you ought to make him taste the bitter pill of treachery by any means possible before granting him the divorce he sought for.

Opportunism is evil. The idea of allowing someone who consciously comes into your life and entered a for better for worse agreement with you but still thinks that hir has the right to violate the same agreement at will and unprovoked after disorganizing you in the name of being entitled to hir rights to liberty ought not to be allowed to happen without first meting out some pernicious acts on the traitor, regardless of any material benefit expected from the separation.

This grammar too much.

Alexgeneration:
FIDA is not a court and can only provide a lawyer to represent her role square up with the guy's lawyer, so thinking there's anything special FIDA will do for her.

The Judge will decide who will get custody or property.

And where did I state that FIDA is a court?

Alexgeneration:
In your small mind,you think deportation happens in a year or two or even five?

In your small mind, USA is the only country to migrate?

Grow up, USA don't care about some marital problems between some Niggars in third world countries except it's a case of national security.


Psquare's wife ran to US with his kids, nothing happened.

Julius Agwu's wife has ran to US with his kids and nothing has happened.

In your non-existent mind, you chose to be blind to the fact that the person I replied his post mentioned going for summer in America.

cococandy:
If he loves the kid that much, he wouldn’t need years to go bye in order for him to show it

They should all sit down and drown in poverty? Even in old days men go hunting, scavaging for food for month, its an African culture, the white go on voyage it takes years, warriors fight and battle for years before coming home. Don't mislead people, point out fact instead of bringing out your emotion.

Mindlog:


In your non-existent mind, you chose to be blind to the fact that the person I replied his post mentioned going for summer in America.

And Psquare's wife and Julius' wife told any of their spouse that they were going to run away with the children?

Both of them went for "holiday " and the rest is history.

Gkemz:
Baba has tasted oyibo pussy. Some men are pussy ass nigarrs. If you were told by your family that doesn't welcome your wife that she's been exploiting you, why can't you come home and as a man.

This is a script written by the groom's family long ago to kick the wife out of the family with a flimsy excuse.


Sometimes I pity married Nigerian women. In Africa, divorce wreck their lives unlike it favours us men that can easily remarry after divorce. Not like women whose body gets out of shape and hence unappealing and unattractive as a result child bearing making it harder for them to be remarried.

And what makes you think every woman wants to remarry after a divorce? I personally won't....I can't coman be facing another 'man wahala'.

Where Is the said house located and is all the papers intact? With which name did he buy the land?
Your sister shouldn't give in to his demand by letting the daughter go and shouldn't sign the document yet if she can take proper care of her.


In other news the career and security of the child should be considard. In Such a way that he should be invited home.
Find the reasons for his actions; accept it if it is concrete or reject it.

She can allow him to travel with the child by preparing a rigorous and comprehensive agreement or document that will allow her to have access to her child anytime she wants. Signed and stamped for the betterment of the child. 9ja no balance

cococandy:
custody of a child he doesn’t know? The nerve of some people sha.

.... No court will even listen to him on the child's custody.

I think he is just trying his luck.

Kobojunkie:
Na the family signature dey the divorce document?

Cut the bull and accept the truth. The one who married your sister is the same one divorcing her... offloading brand won't help you or her or anyone else..

Get your sister a good lawyer and tell her to tidy things up on her end so she does not loose her child and the man pays her what he owes her.

You should be Koboblunt. Ahn ahn!

JONNYSPUTE:
.... No court will even listen to him on the child's custody.

I think he is just trying his luck.

And if he is actually married in the Netherlands, he is simply attracting trouble to himself.

Mindlog:


And if he is actually married in the Netherlands, he is simply attracting trouble to himself.

.... You dey mind am ?. Lol