NewStats: 3,261,387 , 8,173,872 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 06:20 AM l36i

Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

Why would you allow another man to be dropping your woman off at work everyday ?

I allow her because then I don't have a car, and like I said ,our residence is very far away to our workplace,I once follow the guy too in his car as he drop both of us at work but most of the time my fiancee follow the guy because the guy always left home very early and the guys place of work is along the same route with my fiancee .it is very difficult to get a bike at our street then that's why I tuned to relax to allow my fiancee to follow her every morning

Hmmm

Follow your instincts. It's usually that very still, almost silent voice, telling you things.

You would barely hear the voice, yet, it makes you feel some sort of restlessness.

Do not go getting paranoid over nothing though.

If it smells like poo, it certainly is poo...

Goat and Yam.

Op is afraid of being served the same way he's serving others...

A man and a woman can't just be friends ...

How many times will they tell you that...

Like charges repel each other and unlike charges attract each other

EmptyGarden:
Goat and Yam.

No mind am... You carry yam give goat make he keep for you...

"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck"

Except you're not a good listener to your instinct, it doesn't lie

My dear the signs are already there.

If I were you I will just remove my heart from the relationship without ending it.

Drastically, watch how she will expose herself in error and you will see all.

Move the focus to yourself and when she eventually ask for forgiveness. Remind her about it.

Also, you see that opposite gender bestie is just funny and it is an avenue to nack uninterruptedly and codedly from time to time. Your partner should be your bestie any other thing is an avenue to nack codedly. This has been proven more than 99% of time.

The recent revelation of Derenle and late Goldie is an example that stood the test of time that the opposite gender Besties must nack codedly just like the Okafor Law..




Most of these girls these days have fish brains so the format is let them buy time very well when the time comes..They ask you about the relationship then you remind them and serve them breakfast La carte. This won't make them change immediately but once the vicious circle of brainless continues they will change at some point by being faithful and loyal.

The "I am fine game" or "na men dey disturb me" is not forever as the beautiful ones are not yet born.

A

why are women like this?

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers,I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job,where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place ,so their is another banker guy who has a crv Honda car that usually drop her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with,although dey do call them selves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.however suddenly I realized that my fiancee what's app chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play,but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her ,she was calling the guy ,as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy ,she quickly ends the call. i got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversation if truly she has nothing to do with the guy ,I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence .I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship ,but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat .
I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks .

Relationship matter don tire me with everyday complain especially with women not faithful the most..

The earlier guys should realize girls can never be faithful the good for us.

Have money or no money girls will never be faithful.

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers,I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job,where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place ,so their is another banker guy who has a crv Honda car that usually drop her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with,although dey do call them selves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.however suddenly I realized that my fiancee what's app chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play,but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her ,she was calling the guy ,as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy ,she quickly ends the call. i got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversation if truly she has nothing to do with the guy ,I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence .I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship ,but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat .
I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks .

She's CHEATING on you with that guy 99.9999% but it'll be difficult to catch her now because you already showed that you're suspecting her.
That's an average Nigerian girl for you.
Someone you're seriously dating for two years could have at least 5 bodycount within those two years and they'll still be saying that they're not prostitutes, yet they get "favour" from the people they're having affairs with.

I just tire for that gender...


The best thing you can do now is to find a way of hacking her phone. There's lots of apps that can do that....

When you catch her, make sure you don't forgive her. The mistake we always make is forgiving them. They believe that in the end they'll be forgiven and everyone would move on. That's why they continue to do it even when they know that what they're doing is wrong. The irony is that, 90% of girls that cheat can not tolerate cheating. They will frustrate you, manipulate and guilt-trip you until you give up...

When you catch them, don't forgive them.
If I were in your shoes, I'll waste her time more, turn her into my sex slave, impregnate her and make her keep the pregnancy for like 4 months before I dump her after by showing her proofs of her cheating spree...

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers,I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job,where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place ,so their is another banker guy who has a crv Honda car that usually drop her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with,although dey do call them selves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.however suddenly I realized that my fiancee what's app chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play,but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her ,she was calling the guy ,as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy ,she quickly ends the call. i got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversation if truly she has nothing to do with the guy ,I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence .I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship ,but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat .
I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks .

See ehhh,when woman and man dey together something must trigger and he drops her off omo..hmm

And bro do your investigations well...she don dey up her guard as you don ask am direct. And since you have started suspecting her hmmm bro ..Take your time behave like mumu around her make she looseguard but you self no looseguard.

It is cold world bro.Just take your L and move.

HitSong:

She's CHEATING on you with that guy 99.9999% but it'll be difficult to catch her now because you already showed that you're suspecting her

Exactly!!! But unless you have hard undeniable proof, she will continue to deny and be more careful around you.

A married woman recently ed my married friend that she wants to start sleeping with him because they were old lovers as teenagers. That he should not worry, she will get a second phone dedicated to them alone and it will be always in her desk at work so the husband will never ever find out.


Omo fear women and their body burying skills.
They will cheat on you for years and you will have no trace or evidence if you suspect...they plan ahead.

O k own someone that flew one hour to another city and flew back the same day. Meanwhile she left home for work, parked her car at the airport, flew to and came back in the evening as if she went to work for 12 hours.

I believe she’s cheating bruh, if she’s clearing her chat then she’s a serial cheat
You need to man up and handle your shiit though am not a fan of invading people’s privacy especially checking my Partner’s phone
I don’t vibe with all that cause I would be pissed if you check mine

Netmuch:
I allow her because then I don't have a car, and like I said ,our residence is very far away to our workplace,I once follow the guy too in his car as he drop both of us at work but most of the time my fiancee follow the guy because the guy always left home very early and the guys place of work is along the same route with my fiancee .it is very difficult to get a bike at our street then that's why I tuned to relax to allow my fiancee to follow her every morning

If it was you he would have gotten tired of picking you..


Your instincts is right but if you doubt it keep calm you will catch her with a good evidence one day.

Uncle96:
Why would you allow another man to be dropping your woman off at work everyday ?

One point

Damnnn nigarrr is alright

Netmuch:
I allow her because then I don't have a car, and like I said ,our residence is very far away to our workplace,I once follow the guy too in his car as he drop both of us at work but most of the time my fiancee follow the guy because the guy always left home very early and the guys place of work is along the same route with my fiancee .it is very difficult to get a bike at our street then that's why I tuned to relax to allow my fiancee to follow her every morning

Downgrade the relationship to the lowest level in your heart, smash her like a side chic which i bet will last longer and more enjoyable.
Stop fiancé/fiancee stuff right from your heart and treat her like an object without attaching anything to the relationship.
I bet, if she truly loves you, the truth will come out.
Use a mind game on yourself by telling your mind that she's nothing but a cheap girl in your neighbourhood.
Don't quarrel,don't argue and don't bother yourself about it. Turn her to side chic and continue your normal doings with her.
Don't hurry for main chic but you already know that she's a side chic awaiting main chic.

Comrade

Microwhy:

Downgrade the relationship to the lowest level in your heart, smash her like a side chic which i bet will last longer and more enjoyable.
Stop fiancé/fiancee stuff right from your heart and treat her like an object without attaching anything to the relationship.
I bet, if she truly loves you, the truth will come out.
Use a mind game on yourself by telling your mind that she's nothing but a cheap girl in your neighbourhood.
Don't quarrel,don't argue and don't bother yourself about it. Turn her to side chic and continue your normal doings with her.
Don't hurry for main chic but you already know that she's a side chic awaiting main chic.

Damnnnnn!!!!! That looks pathetic.

Fear women... the other day one was jumping fence just to go and see man... A married woman.... What is all this with women and cheating.... I fear who no fear that gender.
TRP IS GOLDEN.

Microwhy:

Downgrade the relationship to the lowest level in your heart, smash her like a side chic which i bet will last longer and more enjoyable.
Stop fiancé/fiancee stuff right from your heart and treat her like an object without attaching anything to the relationship.
I bet, if she truly loves you, the truth will come out.
Use a mind game on yourself by telling your mind that she's nothing but a cheap girl in your neighbourhood.
Don't quarrel,don't argue and don't bother yourself about it. Turn her to side chic and continue your normal doings with her.
Don't hurry for main chic but you already know that she's a side chic awaiting main chic.

Oil dey your head.
That's the theory that I always use whenever a bitch has gone Awol.

Netmuch:
I allow her because then I don't have a car, and like I said ,our residence is very far away to our workplace,I once follow the guy too in his car as he drop both of us at work but most of the time my fiancee follow the guy because the guy always left home very early and the guys place of work is along the same route with my fiancee .it is very difficult to get a bike at our street then that's why I tuned to relax to allow my fiancee to follow her every morning

That is so unfortunate because it just put u in a weak and vulnerable position. You literally used ur hand to put ur woman' in another mans hand

OP, Relationship na big stress 4 Naija! Just talk to ur fiancee, dat you do not condone cheating at all. If she still secretly chats dat Dude, fvck her and dump her!

The fucking can still continue after una marry. Save your self stress and get another woman.
Nigeria Women are very stressful to date

People are no more loyal in relationships. It’s really sad you know.
Well, your girlfriend is sleeping with that other banker.

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers,I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job,where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place ,so their is another banker guy who has a crv Honda car that usually drop her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with,although dey do call them selves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.however suddenly I realized that my fiancee what's app chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play,but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her ,she was calling the guy ,as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy ,she quickly ends the call. i got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversation if truly she has nothing to do with the guy ,I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence .I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship ,but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat .
I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks .

The guy is a bad guy. He just enjoys the conquest. Funnily enough he might not have anything serious in mind than to sleep with her and dump her.
If I were in your shoes, I would tell the her I am ending the relationship because of my suspicions then see her reaction. But make up your mind that it's over. I sincerely think it has gotten romantic.

You Better No Over Think, just keep open mind, then keep close watch things will reveal itself over time.
Just watch out they will make a mistake, they always do.

Just break up with that girl, allow her date the other guy and move on with your life,