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Wittyduchess:
Men are more enabled due to patriarchy. Men have more opportunities to devolve and get away with it. Infact being toxic to some is a "manly trait".

Calm down dear. You're sounding like one that has experienced true, mature loving. If you meet the right persons, all of these will be tales of the past

irijuola:


I think he got disappointed at a point when he’ll try to provoke a reaction from me and I’ll just give him a blank. Sometimes, I’ll start pitying him and wonder what damaged him to this extent

You don't need to pity such people. You could get sucked back in if you let the feeling overwhelm you . Then you might start feeling a need to try and fix or save him. It's not worth it.

Wittyduchess:
on nairaland only. No pm , nothing outside this forum.

What's wrong with been friends outside nairaland

I don't know if it is pride or what you ladies act as if friendship with you guys gives a man gold

Whereas the man will be doing most of the checkings and even making the conversation lively

ProDigitals:



Calm down dear. You're sounding like one that has experienced true, mature loving. If you meet the right persons, all of these will be tales of the past

I am calm . Just responded . You know it's true. Many people believe that being a brute and toxic is a manly trait hence most male narcissists get away with their antics. Where as narcissistic women are tagged "not properly trained and characterless" .

So again, it's not about experience but facts.

Wittyduchess:
You don't need to pity such people. You could get sucked back in if you let the feeling overwhelm you . Then you might start feeling a need to try and fix or save him. It's not worth it.

Inn no know right. Wish women will open their eyes and not get sucked into gaslighting shrouded in love. The irony about them is that they are mostly known as ‘good person’ to outsiders

Wittyduchess:
I am calm . Just responded . You know it's true. Many people believe that being a brute and toxic is a manly trait hence most male narcissists get away with their antics. Where as narcissistic women are tagged "not properly trained and characterless" .

So again, it's not about experience but facts.

You don't date facts. From your energy, you've never experienced true love and care

May it find you dear

humility33:


What's wrong with been friends outside nairaland

I don't know if it is pride or what you ladies act as if friendship with you guys gives a man gold

Whereas the man will be doing most of the checkings and even making the conversation lively

It's called being cautious. It's called being careful,it's called looking out for your self.

And you have no right to guilt trip anyone to do other wise.

This forum giving room for anonymousity houses scammers, ritualists , terrorists, propaganda agents, people pretending to be what they are not, rapist and rape apologists, misogynists and women haters , Yahoo boys and so on.

Did you know the guy who killed inuobong was also a nairalander?

So again,it's not in your place to tell a lady how to indulge an online stranger ,so shut up.

ProDigitals:



You don't date facts. From your energy, you've never experienced true love and care

May it find you dear

K.

Wittyduchess:
Men are more enabled due to patriarchy. Men have more opportunities to devolve and get away with it. Infact being toxic to some is a "manly trait", Most people don't even know how to different being toxic from being manly.

You're wrong with your assertion

Narcissism is not particular to any gender

It cuts across, if I am to talk on my relationship experience here...you'll feel for me but we men barely talk on this things

Society have trained us to conceal our pains no matter how many times we've been hurt we find reasons to love again. Everyone has a story to tell
Don't be surprised the guy chyking on u might have been hurt more than you even think or gone through but still he believes that when the good times comes the pains and past times will be forgotten

irijuola:


Inn no know right. Wish women will open their eyes and not get sucked into gaslighting shrouded in love. The irony about them is that they are mostly known as ‘good person’ to outsiders

That's the facade. Infact when you report you will hear something like " are you sure this person did that? .

ProDigitals:
Calm down dear. You're sounding like one that has experienced true, mature loving. If you meet the right persons, all of these will be tales of the past

How old are you?

Wittyduchess:
It's called being cautious. It's called being careful,it's called looking out for your self.

And you have no right to guilt trip anyone to do other wise.

This forum giving room for anonymousity houses scammers, ritualists , terrorists, propaganda agents, people pretending to be what they are not, rapist and rape apologists, misogynists and women haters , Yahoo boys and so on.

Did you know the guy who killed inuobong was also a nairalander?

So again,it's not in your place to tell a lady how to indulge an online stranger ,so shut up.

It seems you're going through pains and emotional trauma

Won't insult you reason because it is not in my mature to insult you but you know it seems you're so good in playing VICTIMS

You already start call my observation "guilt trip"

nurez305:
The first red flag was when she started ignoring my calls.

I went to her house to know what is going on and I met a guy there but he excuse us immediately, later she went to take her bath and drop the phone on the sofa. I was with her phone when the text message from that guy that left enter with only "OK" . then I open the message and I saw the previous conversation between them.

Even as a lady, I like how this ended. Some women are just so greedy and selfish. Playing with people's emotion like the world revolves around them. I just hope she's learnt her lesson

humility33:


You're wrong with your assertion

Narcissism is not particular to any gender

It cuts across, if I am to talk on my relationship experience here...you'll feel for me but we men barely talk on this things

Society have trained us to conceal our pains no matter how many times we've been hurt we find reasons to love again. Everyone has a story to tell
Don't be surprised the guy chyking on u might have been hurt more than you even think or gone through but still he believes that when the good times comes the pains and past times will be forgotten

I never said it was, I only said men get away with it and even devolve in it because some traits narcissists exibit is considered by popular opinion as "manly".

humility33:
What's wrong with been friends outside nairaland

I don't know if it is pride or what you ladies act as if friendship with you guys gives a man gold

Whereas the man will be doing most of the checkings and even making the conversation lively

Friendship with you na by force?

See as you begin attack her for being honest about what she wants instead..

Offpoint1:

Read that commend slowly, like very slowly till the end, I can't be an African and don't know who Jonas was.

Are you sure or you are trying to save face?

superCleanworks:


walahi we have lots of childish guys on nairaland that is why you see a thread very scanty in a situation where ladies should NATURALLY comment without fear of being judged or attacked.

that's way atimes, I attack those guys that will not allow women to contribute. as if say na only guys comments I come here come read

ProDigitals:
You don't date facts. From your energy, you've never experienced true love and care

May it find you dear

Again, how old are you?

humility33:


It seems you're going through pains and emotional trauma

Won't insult you reason because it is not in my mature to insult you but you know it seems you're so good in playing VICTIMS

You already start call my observation "guilt trip"

Why would you tell a lady how to indulge an online stranger?

If I was your sister would you encourage me to give my email or even whatsapp number to someone I met online not to talk of on nairaland?

Answer it sincerely.

Kobojunkiee:
Friendship with you na by force?

See as you begin attack her for being honest about what she wants instead..

Not meant to attack her

Wasn't the one that made a request to her
God forbid bad thing

She is hurt and heart broken such a lady is to be left alone and avoided with all might

I sometimes see those as pride

olamoses75:
if you see big pencil you go still complain

na only her comment you see. ode

Wittyduchess:
He was rude to the waitress and when I pointed it out he started his statement with "una wey be women" . I found it misogynistic.


And I wasn't wrong, because I observed him from there on and discovered he was a red pill fan and had misogyny running through his veins.

I you on this one. Nigerian version of Red pill is a red flag. Same with Nigerian version of feminism

Unexpressive partner

The shit saved my name with Low Battery

humility33:


Not meant to attack her

Wasn't the one that made a request to her
God forbid bad thing

She is hurt and heart broken such a lady is to be left alone and avoided with all might

I sometimes see those as pride

I bet you will call a lady lured by a person she met online and harmed in any way foolish instead of having pride .

I bet you won't say this to your sister, who nor know e own,hypocrite!

Vizconson:


I you on this one. Nigerian version of Red pill is a red flag. Same with Nigerian version of feminism

It's just a bunch of sociapaths and bitter no gooders hiding under what they know nothing about.

Wittyduchess:

Why would you tell a lady how to indulge an online stranger?

If I was your sister would you encourage me to give my email or even whatsapp number to someone I met online not to talk of on nairaland?

Answer it sincerely.

Nothing wrong with chatting via mails but there should be boundaries... you mentioned the lots of negative things and persons available on nairaland same we have got good persons here too... It takes time to know people

humility33:
Not meant to attack her
Wasn't the one that made a request to her
God forbid bad thing
She is hurt and heart broken such a lady is to be left alone and avoided with all might

I sometimes see those as pride

You are kidding, right?

Wasn't this your comment from only minutes ago?

humility33:
It cuts across, if I am to talk on my relationship experience here...you'll feel for me but we men barely talk on this things

Society have trained us to conceal our pains no matter how many times we've been hurt we find reasons to love again. Everyone has a story to tell
Don't be surprised the guy chyking on u might have been hurt more than you even think or gone through but still he believes that when the good times comes the pains and past times will be forgotten

So why are you are nitpicking on this assumed pain of hers?
Who installed you as her pain manager or pride-lord... you don manage your own finish?

She no wan your friendship... no need to bully her for saying no to you. Move on!

Wittyduchess:
I bet you will call a lady lured by a person she met online and harmed in any way foolish instead of having pride .

I bet you won't say this to your sister, who nor know e own,hypocrite!

You're a bitter soul with no joy inside

You've insulted yourself severally even when I try engage you thinking you're sane

You need to move on girl

humility33:
You're a bitter soul with no joy inside

You've insulted yourself severally even when I try engage you thinking you're sane

You need to move on girl

Later now you come lie say you no attack am.

Stop trying to bully her for korokoro, dey think say you get wayo sense.
Take your own advice there... move on!

Wittyduchess:
It's just a bunch of sociapaths and bitter no gooders hiding under what they know nothing about.

Exactly!