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I have a wife and blessed with a daughter, I earn extremely high and I am in a debt of over 2m monthly as a result of paying for a loan monthly to set up a business for my wife which has gulped over 30m and still a failure though this is the second failure of business opened.

I decided to open the business as we both agreed she should resign as her salary as a teacher was the same salary with one of our two maids.

The issue is despite doing very well financially, my wife always gives me issues and there doesn't seem to be any love apart from me being her daily ATM.

There was actually a phase when I had challenges financially and she was the only person to mock me.

I need your advice as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife.

Mature advise please.

If you cannot read the handwriting on the wall and advise yourself, then you're not fit to be called a MAN.


You're already facilitating your leap to death, Use your head.


A word for the wise is enough.

Well,you are a man and you should know how to handle such a woman by yourself. The way I might handle the issue if i'm in your shoes,you might not have the guts to do same.
Na your life. If you want to die young you know what to do and if you want to live long,you still know what to do.In all,be wise as a serpent.

This is what I've been saying.


Oga I put it to you that you're the "Wife" in that marriage and that your wife is the "Husband" in that Union,

From your story, you said your wife's brother disrespects you and your wife defends him, Chai, what an Insult,... Oga like I said earlier, you are the "Wife" in this your marriage, You're very WEAK... You have no idea how Weak men Disgust the female gender.


You're now Lamenting that she was a tolerating lady and now she has changed when you open business for her,... This is why you guys are always advised to stop using your money to Lure women into your Life because once you use money to get her, you'll have to keep spending and keep spending in order to keep her. Now, you're weeping and gnashing your teeth because you've spent more than you budgeted for.

Oga even if you like buy Heaven and Earth for a woman, you can never buy a woman's Love , that woman you call your Wife never loved you from the beginning, and from the way that you've been mentioning Millions of naira up and down in this your story, I can already tell that you were using your money to win her over


The Lord is your Strength

All women have this extreme sense of entitlement after marriage.

Lessons123:
I need your advise as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife. Mature advise please.

1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

That's a very bad character she's exhibiting to be fair.
Your brother in law also stay with you guys and disrespects you? Are you sure you're the man in that house And it very wrong of your wife for ing his brother.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

SMH

Another tales by moonlight!

Created an today to tell the story of how he set up a business for his wife which has gulped over 30 million naira and has failed.

"My dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife"......Who sells prime property in Lekki because he needed to complete a village house?

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

. My brother in law does not pay rent I agreed to help as he was coming for NYSC in Lagos and now he has spent two years in my house despite also having a good job for an entry level guy.

greenie77:
Another tales by moonlight!

Created an today to tell the story of how he set up a business for his wife which has gulped over 30 million naira and has failed.

"My dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife"......Who sells prime property in Lekki because he needed to complete a village house?

Pensioners who have homes in lekki have no source of income apart from the only property they acquired while in service. And as they grow older must relocate to the village or country home.

Mumu man

kestolove95:
Mumu man

Please mature advise.

Lessons123:
Please mature advise.

this d best mature advice u can get...

Lessons123:
Please mature advise.

I do not want to think divorce or cheat on her as I have strong moral values against cheating.

Lessons123:
. My brother in law does not pay rent I agreed to help as he was coming for NYSC in Lagos and now he has spent two years in my house despite also having a good job for an entry level guy.

So how does he disrespect you?

You can always ask for a new arrangement since he has a job. You can ask that he begin contributing to the grocery bill, or pay electricity bill or something if it is the case that he does not respect the cost of running the household. You get him to sign a contract stating he will pay his share.

Justbehave:
Well,you are a man and you should know how to handle such a woman by yourself. The way I might handle the issue if i'm in your shoes,you might not have the guts to do same.
Na your life. If you want to die young you know what to do and if you want to live long,you still know what to do.In all,be wise as a serpent.

What do you advise please

Lessons123:
I have a wife and blessed with a daughter, I earn extremely high and I am in a debt of of over 2m monthly as a result of paying for a loan monthly to set up a business for my wife which has gulped over 30m and still a failure though this is the second failure of business opened. I decided to open the business as we both agreed she should resign as her salary as a teacher was the same salary with one of our two maids. The issue is despite doing very well financially my wife always gives me issues and there doesn't seem to be any love apart from me being her daily ATM. There was actually a phase when I had challenges financially and she was the only person to mock me. I need your advise as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife. Mature advise please.

Let her go back to her teaching job. The more you invested in a woman, the more the regrets. That money could have been used for a life insurance for your children. Women don't deserve this treatment you guys are giving them. That gender wasn't created to give, so putting so much in their custody is a wrong move!

Lessons123:
. My brother in law does not pay rent I agreed to help as he was coming for NYSC in Lagos and now he has spent two years in my house despite also having a good job for an entry level guy.

Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

Modified: FAKE STORY!!!
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Since she cannot manage the business let her go back to salary work.

I dont understand how you can be in so much debt over her failed business. Business is not for everyone.

You need to be firm and assertive with her demands and family issues..

Ok

Brother in-law dey insult you for your own house, it time for brother in-law to go.

Some have head but no cap
Vise verser

Seek a way to stabilize your income flow or increase it to regain back your loss. Like it or not, your loss is affecting your happiness, coupled with your wife's disrespect.

Try and find a way for your wife to get back to her former job. She was happier doing it, start from there. Women hate losing and the new business is making her look like a disappointment. You must make her understand that it's okay to lose and you're not having anything against. Bitterness as a natural phenomena occurs when a tree cannot produce the fruit successfully.

Lessons123:
I have a wife and blessed with a daughter, I earn extremely high and I am in a debt of of over 2m monthly as a result of paying for a loan monthly to set up a business for my wife which has gulped over 30m and still a failure though this is the second failure of business opened. I decided to open the business as we both agreed she should resign as her salary as a teacher was the same salary with one of our two maids. The issue is despite doing very well financially my wife always gives me issues and there doesn't seem to be any love apart from me being her daily ATM. There was actually a phase when I had challenges financially and she was the only person to mock me. I need your advise as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife. Mature advise please.

Simple issue
Do Tuface style and leave d home without telling her...find a small place to stay..,take leave and don't say a word to her only ur friend or child shld tell her
U will see how she will humble herself and sort out d issues u are having with her
God is ur strength, just go to Abuja and listen to apostle Joshua Selman, if he can pray for u, good
Listen to dunsin everyday and apostle messages or Bishop David Oyedepo
Congratulations, u will return with good news

mariahAngel:


Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

Modified: FAKE STORY!!!
Lessons123 left the thread...

I don't want to break my home like I said earlier I have strong moral values and a strong Christian and somehow believe favour from God comes from living right, peace, kindness and not divorce, cheating etc. I try to live righteous.

teeste:


Let her go back to her teaching job. The more you invested in a woman, the more the regrets. That money could have been used for a life insurance for your children. Women don't deserve this treatment you guys are giving them. That gender wasn't created to give, so putting so much in their custody is a wrong move!

I've realised this already but closing the business is not so simple after all the investments.

Kobojunkie:
So how does he disrespect you?

You can always ask for a new arrangement since he has a job. You can ask that he begin contributing to the grocery bill, or pay electricity bill or something if it is the case that he does not respect the cost of running the household. You get him to sign a contract stating he will pay his share.

Lol the bold is funny
Sign contract on top wetin? To pay electricity & grocery bill? This girl too funny lol

mariahAngel:


Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

Modified: FAKE STORY!!!
Lessons123 left the thread...

She has almost 10 younger siblings most in school my siblings are few and older and all engaged in jobs.

mariahAngel:


Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

Modified: FAKE STORY!!!
Lessons123 left the thread...

Wife's teaching salary is same as the salary with one of their two maids. he has put in 30million into his wife's failed businesses, his father sold Lekki property becauae he needed to complete his village house, wife's brother who is working is living in his house and being disrespectful .....you realized it is a fake story after giving your mature advice!

Lessons123:
I don't want to break my home like I said earlier I have strong moral values and a strong Christian and somehow believe favour from God comes from living right, peace, kindness and not divorce, cheating etc. I try to live righteous.

Rather that lump all issues as one, believing your wife is to blame for them all, start taking responsibility for the parts you played in creating them.

See each individual problem for what it is and begin tackling them each making sure to take everyone along with you.

Rubbiish:

Lol the bold is funny
Sign contract on top wetin? To pay electricity & grocery bill? This girl too funny lol

No one knows tomorrow and where our kids will find themselves that is why I don't complain too much about her siblings moving in. But the issue is she does not appreciate all I have done and we quarrel regularly.