NewStats: 3,259,739 , 8,170,747 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 08:26 PM 2n5e4j

princewarri1985:
Bro you have a good wife you are lucky, because the way women dey perform now ehn, to marry even scare me more than death, so we older bachelors miss nothing because we dey enjoy our life dey go, peace of mind is priceless and i wont trade it for anything on this earth, nothing is more fun like coming back home from work everyday and meet the house just how you left it and no wife to drag the remote with you, just get yourself a baby mama and train you kid, fvck marriage

what will people say

Buy yourself a new car. Always makes you happy,

You want to give him sleepless nights abi.

It's better you don't tell some people somethings-this type may kill himself if it turns out that the kids belong to the friend.

Let's hope it ain't so

vicksbaba:








Op, I don't mean to be disrespectful or anything, but just do DNA test on your children, and if possible, run the test against your bachelor friend's blood sample. This may sound absurd, but you see that fatherly love your bachelor friend is radiating? It's a reason to be curious.. ever heard of "alpha seeds, beta grows?"; Alpha impregnate, beta fathers?

Anyways, True happiness is the ability to find peace and satisfaction in ones own company. Once you start depending on other people's presence to become happy, then you're truly lonely. The test of happiness is a very simple question; "when I'm all alone, do I really feel happy?" If yes, then you're truly happy

duduade:

But he still will never trade his independency for anything else

People like him are still single because they choose to be

No, does one throw all standards away simply because one is lonely?

Nothing in that story indicates that he is single by choice.... he seems to know what he wants and will not settle for less.... is what it seems. According to the OP, he is also afraid of commitment - another level of complication.

debbydams:
get a wife den

See talk. Is that how they “get” wife? Just enter registry and select one babe and marry or what? Oya, marry him na.

After a while as a bachelor, marriage no go dey hungry you again. Only occasional intimacy after which you’d want your space again. It’s addictive.

Kobojunkie:
No, does one throw all standards away simply because one is lonely?

Nothing in that story indicates that he is single by choice.... he seems to know what he wants and will not settle for less.... is what it seems. According to the OP, he is also afraid of commitment - another level of complication.

Thank you my brother. You truly understand. The fact that he sometimes feels lonely doesn’t mean he should ignore red flags or just marry any babe he is introduced to.

Some people remain bachelors for long because of heartbreaks. For example, would he choose someone who has the same bad vibes as his Ex just because he wants to marry? No.

There are diverse reasons for remaining single and as one gets older you begin to narrow your choices and become more specific when choosing a partner. The days of experiments are past.

kenzysmith:
Loneliness were ashawo quarter never finish

There was a time I spent three full days( covid lock down) in my apartment without even opening d front door. All I did was eat, sleep, play video games, watch anime etc....Nepa was faithful during night hours & my solar was faithful during the day.....


It was freaking great!...No annoying little kids dat usually disturb my peace & no any GF to bother me

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

I hope he is not treating your wife like his?

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

Make sure to do DNA tests on your children. I am done talking.

Oblongata:
When I was taking my kids to their grandpa few days ago to spend the remainder of their holidays I was so happy! Coupled with the fact that my wife was also traveling the following day, my joy knew no bounds. Finally the peace and freedom I craved was here!

This weekend my home didn’t feel happy! It was sad and lonely. I felt cold loneliness throughout. I tried everything I could to distract myself but I miss my family so bad!

I miss our little quarrels, our eventual understanding and acceptance of each other using truce keeping.

I miss their mum badly. This made me wonder? How do older bachelors cope in this very lonely world? Una dey try o... respect.

Pls at age 34 am I an old bachelor or normal bachelor. But I do know I can’t be considered a young bachelor

Na ayangba hustle dem dey.

when you enjoy love and peace and happiness then you don't ever need loneliness in your heart again never to be lonely anymore but when you are living in bondage 6ft down below will be sought like the desert desires rain.

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

They want a family but they can't miss having a family because they haven't had one yet..
I cannot say I miss my children when I don't have any child..

Komu1048:



Pls at age 34 am I an old bachelor or normal bachelor. But I do know I can’t be considered a young bachelor

Old bachelors are from 40 years

Old overused male bachelor's I'm here to greet you people.





Una Weldon o

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

I'd be 36
Life is good
Small apartment
Lovely car but if there is anything I want right now is having my own family
I dey be like nuisance to myself sometimes

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

bachelors wey never get money ..i beg make una no listen to them o.....getting married in porverty is far worse than lonliness...even if it takes you 55yrs to make money ..oga make am first ...because your pikin no go forgive you because you use am do experiment wey no work.

Being a bachelor isn't the same as being celibate and/or lonely. We get company as required from time to time. Most are even happier than the so called married ones.

lilvicky68:

Old bachelors are from 40 years

Thank you.

ezechi24:


bachelors wey never get money ..i beg make una no listen to them o.....getting married in porverty is far worse than lonliness...even if it takes you 55yrs to make money ..oga make am first ...because your pikin no go forgive you because you use am do experiment wey no work.

ROFLMAO

lilvicky68:
Older bachelors won't feel anything..they are used to it..
You can't miss what you don't have..

Ori e wanbe

May God forbid the spirit that will make you listen to OP and go and marry when you know there is no way to feed them at the moment...

I watch ,movies,i drink beer,i take long walks,i go shopping,i take quiet drives,i listen to music,I wear jerseys and go to a pub and socialise with goldberg,i watch aljazeera,i welcome ruth and we have sex,,,,we go out and eat fish pepper soup,i go to site ad see how far work has gone,i come back and browse nairaland,i make calls to loved ones and drink some beer,i book a hotel in far away place ad get a hook up and use few days?i eat and drink, i abuse Buhari....i make some money?i buy more clothes and new wrist watchI host friends and girlfriends we gist and play ludo....i am happy...


Its not a must to have family to be happy....i have a family and we dont live together and i am still happy..when i feel bored at home>i dress up?call my shanapoos and we go have fun...

Kalas.

It not been easy
Make i shoot my shot


Serious, mature and willing babe
Dm

Lagos base.

May God help d singles


No pa

Oblongata:
When I was taking my kids to their grandpa few days ago to spend the remainder of their holidays I was so happy! Coupled with the fact that my wife was also traveling the following day, my joy knew no bounds. Finally the peace and freedom I craved was here!

This weekend my home didn’t feel happy! It was sad and lonely. I felt cold loneliness throughout. I tried everything I could to distract myself but I miss my family so bad!

I miss our little quarrels, our eventual understanding and acceptance of each other using truce keeping.

I miss their mum badly. This made me wonder? How do older bachelors cope in this very lonely world? Una dey try o... respect.

They are not lonely

macho44:

Often true, but not always true. Marriage isn't a piece of cake, if you RUSH in, ya RUSH out. So it's best every one, Bachelor or Spinster takes their time before saying "I DO" to prevent stories that touch.

True

Archangels2:
It's not easy I swear. I have work which takes 90 percent of my awake time but coming to the emptiness of home after a hard day's work isn't funny at all. Taking the right steps soon though

Ehyaa
90 percent??
It must really be stressful

Tzar:
Being a bachelor isn't the same as being celibate and/or lonely. We get company as required from time to time. Most are even happier than the so called married ones.

You don't miss having that bubbly home? Someone to come home to?

Nwaotu10:
We've got our phones to keep us busy.
Nevertheless, loneliness still creeps in most atimes, especially for people like me that doesn't have a girlfriend

Nwaotu like you
Lol

Oblongata:

I beg to differ sir!

Merely seeing friends/family that are married then Bachelors know what they are missing.

I have a very close friend who is a 43 year old bachelor and he has turned my kids to his kids...

Dude calls me way ahead of time to discuss how he would celebrate my kid’s birthday (without asking for his help o)

We (Me and wife) tried hooking him up a lot of times but he was very choosy. The last girl we hooked him up with (That appeared to be perfect. 24 year old Young lawyer Who just finished law college) he said she had incision at her back and that was it...

He confided in me sometime ago that he envies me a lot, and that he knows something is missing in his life, which is having a family.

Reason he had been treating my family like his.

Truth is: Bachelor’s know they are lonely, and they miss having a family.

Depends on your background, don't always assume everybody comes from the same background as you, open your mind always to know where your knowledge or EXPOSURE ends. I used to have an adult friend who couldn't watch movies? Looked silly to him or he just don't understand the story plot, doesn't make sense to him. Later I realized is because he grew up in the village and never read literature growing up, he never heard of Adolf Hitler before, he never knew why Abraham Lincoln was revered, never heard of asteroids even though one nearly wiped out humanity in 1997 when it missed earth by just 4 hours, he just knew his maths and physics well and felt that was all there was to life. So young man it all depends on your background because it determines what preoccupies your mind. My younger friend is 45 never married and not missed one bit of fun, he's been rich for over 20 years and obviously traveled more than you or all those that you. See if you go and ask Don Jazzy in private if he's lonely his true answer might confuse you. Pls there's farrrrrr more to life than that your tiny happy family, my dear some people are preparing for the one-way Mars trip as we are typing so you see is about your background, your exposure. I can bet you have very low ambition like most black people.

lexy2014:


How did u arrive at 4-6m? Can u give a breakdown of this 4-6million? What's d time range this 4-6m will be spent? How many bachelor's can afford this 4-6m in Nigeria to do get surrogates to have children for him, pay them off after birth, hire nannies to be care givers...?

The real question is: Tell me what are the achievements of home-based players in CAN, WAFU, ACL etc. that shows they are worthy as the main base for selection to represent Nigeria instead of the foreign-based players.

Candycrushy:

Nwaotu like you
Lol

Lol

Loneliness no Sabi who be Nwaotu oo!