NewStats: 3,263,442 , 8,180,142 topics. Date: Thursday, 05 June 2025 at 10:43 PM 2t1f3f

No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

This is what happens when you marry from a poor family, you will automatically become a burden bearer for all.

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Tell your wife to feed her family, while you feed yours! Imagine feeding a family of 11 just because you are married to One—that's unfair na!

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Try and relocate if you can. Because with the way they use to feast on your food, they might as well feast on your flesh when the food is no more .

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But they eat too much ooo! Damn!

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I tell you bro, Redpill no fit handle this problem ooo. So you need to Japa!

I understand your worries. Sir, I know that you knew or saw this coming( that is why it's good to stop what you can't continue) they are her relations, they are her cross, she can't ignore them away. It's now left for you to sit your wife down maybe to minimize their coming or solutions to it. You can still be helping with the little you have, it's better than to ignore them totally.

My philosophy is basically this, and this is something that i live by, and i always have, and i always will. Dont ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason, ever. No matter what. No matter where, or who, or who you were with, or where you are, or where you've been. Ever, for any reason what so ever... What am i even saying self

My fellow Nairalander op, it is well with you.

Try Relocate to Canada let's see if they will follow you to finish your indomie

Your write up don almost choke me with laughter

Baba, discuss with your wife again and this time try to be more serious. This Naija we dey now person need to calculate well especially with price hike everywhere.

you will need to calm down, talk to her, explain everything to her...and look for wayout to the problem......marriage is not a childs play.... this is just 2years, you just started......learn to be patience....

Carry ur cross

Bozz01:
Try relocate na

Mba

Xenry:
Nawao!

poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you.

okoroemeka:
poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you.

Poverty catch fire!

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Poverty is a sin abeg.

yuo

so anichebe just this week we came to your house you came here to make it seem we are are hopeless poor gluttons whom have been feeding fat into your pocket^{......g out✈}

I will advice you to change environment i.e move your family to another state.

Lmao, I hate burden, tbh it's not easy to tell them to stop coming since they are shameless about it. That's why Yorubas say "Aya buruku seeni sugbon ana buruku o seeni." This situation is difficult to control but I think the best way to go about it is giving them attitude and body language, I wouldn't say it to their faces not to come to your house if I were you, I would just give them attitude towards their eating habit when they visit you, but be smart about it

HONESTFACT101:
so anichebe just this week we came to your house you came here to make it seem we are are hopeless poor gluttons whom have been feeding fat into your pocket^{......g out✈}

Why you too come like food too much

Op, you chose to marry the firstborn of a poor family consisting of a litter of nine kids (wow, plus mum and dad that's a complete mix football team). As things stand, you're their benefactor. May God be your helper in shouldering the responsibilities of a family you voluntarily married into.

Xenry:
This is what happens when you marry from a poor family, you will automatically become a burden bearer for all.

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Tell your wife to feed her family, while you feed yours! Imagine feeding a family of 11 just because you are married to One—that's unfair na!

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Try and relocate if you can. Because with the way they use to feast on your food, they might as well feast on your flesh when the food is gone .

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But they eat too much ooo! Damn!

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I tell you bro, Redpill no fit solve this one ooo. So you need to Japa!

Ha Oga, your advice no good at all.

You are the leader of the home. You should know how to speak up. Brace yourself up like a man and tell your wife you don't appreciate her family's behavior and she should work on it in due time and be conclusive on this.

Use your head.

Xenry:
Poverty catch fire!

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Poverty is a sin abeg.

...and not having money is a huge offence.

Poverty is a bastard

This country is gone finally,food that another human being will eat is now a problem.

Growing up I cant count how many people my late dad feed.Infact if you come to his house and you do not eat he considers it an insult.And he still achieved alot to the best of his ability.

Anyway @ OP the country seems different now ,things are difficult .Tell your wife to stop giving her family food .May God help you as you that information to her.

That's one problem in marriages.... especially when you marry from any family and it happens to be their eldest daughter, you automatically turns father Christmas in some cases....There is absolutely nothing you can do that will make her to chase away her own siblings, and ending the marriage because of such attitude is bullshit to me.... Discuss things with your wife, I'm sure she would proffer solutions to this situation

Normally, food is something you should enjoy watching others eating with happiness...

duro4chang:
Ha Oga, your advice no good at all.

He better take it, because those guys may end up eating the OP himself one day . They eat too much abeg.
Like play like play, they go just chop the OP like that, e no good na .

Holla bro..
Seems you're the introvert type.

I as a person can't advise you outta your marriage. Believe you me, talking to your partner will impact alot. Reason with her and appeal to her conscience.
If not for anything, but for the sake of the baby..

Talk bro. Do the talking.

Stop being a selfish and stingy person,the more u give,the greater u receive,know this and know peace

@OP the gobe wey you enter tie wrapper

Typical caae of buy 1 get 8 free.. they even do shift to come and consume your consumables. It is well

tasceige:
Holla bro..
Seems you're the introvert type.

I as a person can't advise you outta your marriage. Believe you me, talking to your partner will impact alot. Reason with her and appeal to her conscience.
If not for anything, but for the sake of the baby..

Talk bro. Do the talking.

The guy should pack his things and relocate.. he needs to go far away if he wants peace.
Which kind of thing is that

But this is not enough to make you get tired of your marriage.

It is Finished

My opinion as a married man, I will advise you patiently change your environment. If you stay in Ikorodu before, relocate to Iyana ipaja. Please don't make your annoyance known to them. Just patiently relocate far away from them.

Op your case is even better that your wife is bringing something to the table, as I type this I am the soul provider for the family, I mean even common salt I buy, wife doesn't do anything thing as I am typing this her younger brother who is managing with a salary of 30k impregnate a lady and she was operated through CS, her mom on hearing this came to my house with two of her children age 14 and 9. Not minding the ungrateful wife that I will give money to stock foodstuffs she will be complaining money is not enough yet she will not provide anything, she nagg alot and no respect for me. It very wrong to Marry from a poor family background.

So many comments from un expirence folks
The dust person to comment said it all relocate
Distance yurself
Tell yur wife you don't like them around too much yur wife will get d message across if not start behaving like a mad man strong face for them when they are around etc
Good luck