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Any would do! But if i had to choose i would love to have a girl first, cos she can assist the mother and be a better guide to the boys, it's easier been a good follower of a girl than a boy(s). Though i have 2 boys and then a third one as girl. Preferred to have just two, a boy and a girl but i will end up having 4 as the 4th is on the way already.

Okija_juju:

This na real "Stories that touch".

The story was a good read although very not believable, but it made an O.K read. Where the story went south for me was here;




Why would you go and ruin a good fiction with this religious crap?! Where in the story did they talk about Jesus.
You f-ucking christians are always bleeping up everything with your Jesus crap.
Now I hate the darn story!!

Is it good for you to hate? just for someone who expressed his opinion? Let there be tolerance so we can all learn! Christians are not expected to fight for their God, if indeed He is God He will fight for Himself, so don't start a battle you can't even stand to fight, not to mention win.

For the couple to really follow the bible they need to be in the same church so as to learn same thing and be able to have one voice and united in purpose. This is what will help the family and not been separated as we saw in Genesis where Adam left his wife and she was later deceived and which also led to the husband been deceived, if they were together the devil will not have had it so smooth to deceive them. Better to go to the same church.

Ma do as your God leads you, you will surely give an of the treasure God gave you to keep for him at the end of age. I think it will help the girl to keep watch over her self, there will be a self control, which many do not have today.

The starting point is to get the blessing of the families, specially the wife's. Then you can go for any other one you choose or quite simply start your family, but it will be good to get the blessing of your pastor if you are a christian, whether in the closet or in the public.

I do not divorce in any way, there can always be a way out for this marriage, the man is surely suffering from a disorder which the wife can help him overcome if she gets counseling. Let her try this first. It shall be well.

This is very sad indeed. infidelity is a real destroyer of homes, may the Lord save our marriages in Jesus name. Whether true or not, such do happen in our society, even to a total breakdown of the home and maybe divorce. It was never intended to be like this, civilization has eroded the value of marriage. Let's be cautious with our marriages so that we can always tread the path of honour!

Focus on getting your husband back from your sister, don't allow the enemy to put a break in your marriage. So much the more that he is sober about it take him back to yourself, he won't do it again. Leave your sister to God to judge. Forgive the two of them. Let your true love take over your heart for both of them

ada24:

spiritual - ummm so what is the reason for the non-nigerians that have miscarriage?

there are a number of (medical) reasons that are backed up by medical proffessionals such as,

Genetic, Hormonal, Structural, Blood clotting disorders and Infections.

Not that I will question anyone's belief system but this is part of the problem in Nigeria - instead of seeking medical aid people go to pastors when really it is a medical problem that can be sorted out with the right treatment and careful monitoring

My sister, there is always a name to every problem of man but if you look deep down there is a spiritual undertone, don't you know that the devil fights anything that is of God in every way possible, he will hide and pretend not to be there at all so as not to be attacked, but underground he will be working. If he can make one to believe he is never responsible then he has succeeded. Though not all problems are backed by the devil and that is why i still suggested visiting medics but let's make our arsenal strong and also follow up with the physical if need be. Thanks

Some times it can be spiritual, my wife had one after our second child, and took in again and almost had a second one but i stood on God's word declaring that I will not labour in vain and the baby stayed though she saw blood for close to 4 or 5 days. Also medics says there is likelihood of re-occurrence after someone had suffer a first miscarriage, so one may need to take proper care and caution and be spiritually vigilant when in pregnancy. It shall be well with her in Jesus name. Let her see her OB/gyny too and also rest adequately when pregnancy is noticed.

God did not need to consult man or woman when He set marriage in motion, and He put man as the head and woman as the body, can a man's head start struggling with his body that it is the head and not the body? Let us pay a visit back to the Bible and learn the reasons for marriage and how it is to be run so we can all have a blessed unions. The issue of equality should not even arise in a properly set up marriage, let's not allow modernism destroy our homes. God help us all!!!!!!!!!!

Na wa o!!! This country of great virtue has been turned to a "no hope for the future" nation. How can people be so desperate to get a certificate when they do not deserve it. God help us all!!!!!

@Bagseg
I like this your post i will like us to have a word on it, can you email me? Pls check my profile for my email. Thanks

It's to integrate yourself into the in-law family, become a part of them and see yourself so, work to be so.

You shd not even talk of your husband sucking your vagina, it is satanic and demonic, now you are under intense pressure cos d devil behind d act wants to feed on your sacrifice to it and it is not getting it so putting more pressure on you, why not cry out to the God of your salvation if you are a child of God, and if not surrender your life to God so that He can help you through this. Even a muslim will not be talking of this type of act except the person does not believe in the God s/he is serving. PRAYYYYYYYY!!!!!!! Don't think of doing anything with your ex or anyone 4 dat matter.

Hey, you are not weird!!!!
I was 27 and a half yrs when i had it 1st, and it was most painful cos it was not wat i tot it is all about, cos God actually designed it for marriage, so wait 4 the right time(in marriage). God bless you!!!!!!!!!!

There are people who do more than this, but i tell you sleeping with someone who is not your marriage partner is SIN, and the act unites your souls together. Be faithful to your partner! The adulteress/adulterer looks for the precious soul to destroy. Be warned, there are many demons out there in form of men/women.

Love is service. If there is no giving there is no love there. Man should wash hers and woman should wash his. I wash my wife's own when chanced and she washes mine always cos she's most often at home, it really helps to foster love, care, affection even while washing together. Try it once, wash together. God bless all!!!!!!!

giving

Are you really convinced you are meant 4 d guy? or, just want t try him out and after trying this one you go and try another and yet another. No basis 4 most of the relationships we see this time around, someone just wake up and think cos others are in r/ship so s/he shd. Examine your heart, where are you going? A stable home or strings of relationships? Make your decision!!!!!!! lol

YES if he's truly looking 4 a job. But i suggest he can get into internet/online jobs or start something by himself. Wish you the best.

I know you had already taken your decision and nothing could 've changed that, but the repercussion is wat you shd wait 4, either good or bad. Must every relationship even involve s3x? Is a weird world we live in!!!!!!! God 've mercy on us. Come Lord Jesus and take your people home. Amen.

Go to the church and engage in vigil praying and fasting for your future!!!!!!!!!!!!

For me job or no job if my wife agrees and she is OK in her job we may proceed into the marriage. What shd be of importance is does the guy have a vision of where he is going or he's just a going round without direction? If he's directionless let the lady RUN 4 her life, but if there is hope they shd go ahead.

I like it moderately but my wife does not like it much.
On the other hand there should be decency and decorum especially as it relates to unmarried people.

Missy B:

Strict? Talk of backward mentality [on certain issues]  

I heard, some years back, Low-waist/ Low-rise Jeans was banned in Lagos.
Military men flogged hell outta You if You were caught wearing it . . . .What the F[i]u[/i]ck? 2008/2007? Where's ma freedom?
Let's not even talk of how Okada men would humiliate You before You take 2 steps.

It's not ok to be weird in public, your body is your body and not meant to be flung open everywhere, that is meant 4 the mad people around, and if they have their SENSES they won't go naked or half nude!!!!!!

Best: Never sleep without settling any differences between both of you
Worst: If your wife gives you trouble marry another one

I am not taking side with any one and those who think they have to be abusive to make a point shd learn that nothing is personal in this matter and no one can fight for God, at His own time He will judge both the living and the dead, but on that day where will I/you be? Is a matter of personal preparation. I'm not a dogmatic follower and no one is advised to follow me foolishly, Paul said follow me as i am a follower of Christ, that means once i am no longer following Christ take cover for your soul!!!!!

Hi, i don't know how far you have gone now in this marriage but my advise is temperance, long-suffering, modesty, prayer, the word of God, submission, and so many onition in Eph 5 & 6. Be submissive.

annyplenty:

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4. make his manliness your toy i.e always play with it (softly rub it even while watching TV together in sitting room, [size=8pt][size=8pt]suck it for minutes before sex[/size][/size], rub it with your han before he goes to work. do anything you like with it and he will soon give you attention).

Pls the italic is to be deleted: dis is an ungodly advise, don't try it. It is demonic. Don't give the devil a place in your home.

rydeorsail:

INSTALLING HUSBAND!!!
A woman writes to the IT Technical

Dear Tech ,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and I noticed a distinct slowdown in the overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such as NEWS5.0, MONEY 3.0 and FOOTBALL 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5, 3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.
What can I do?

Signed,
desperate wife




Reply
TRY THIS

INSTALLING AN HUSBAND
A woman writes to the IT Technical

Dear Tech


DEAR Madam,

First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.

Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.EXE and try to Tears 6.2 and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update.
If that application works as designed, Husband1, 0should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2, 0 and Flowers 3.5,

However, , overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Silence 2.5 or out of the house 6.1.
Please note that out of the house 6.1.
is a very bad program that will the MISSTRESS1.EXE

Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law.EXE (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program, These are uned applications and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly.
You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance.
We recommend: Cooking 3.0 and Good Looks 7.7.
Good luck madam

Pls can you give us an updated version of this soon, to include submission , godliness, care and affection etc. this is really good and high sense of techie.

Some men are trying to become women and some women are trying to become men, i think there is a bit of discontentment in many people, so which do you prefer to have been created, MAN OR WOMAN?