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This is beautiful. Do whatever is legit, wholehearted and consistently. God will pick your call some day.

esere826:


Dude, you still don't get it, do you
It's simple English i wrote in, not some vernacular.
And because you chose to engage in an ego fight, you persist in misinformation as is clear in your writting.

I'll leave you with Proverbs 15: 32 "He who refuses correction despises his own soul, but he who listens to reproof gets understanding"

Proverbs 15: 32 "He who refuses correction despises his own soul, but he who listens to reproof gets understanding"

esere826:
"the reason your faith no longer works"
??

That is not a reasonable sentence construction. |It's like saying "the reason your jump no longer jumps"

Faith works.
If its not working, then its no faith in the first place.
You'r probably trying to say
.... "the reason your hope no longer works"
or
... "the reason your hope no longer leads to faith".

In a bid to correct you err.

Hope doesn't lead to faith. If faith is not working then you need to find out why hence the question the op asked.

Nice one. The gods are not to blame!

You want justice for this woman? good! and you publicized it? what about money for the feeding/school fees of the 5 children? i mean what will the children eat when their father is in prison?

Here's what i am trying to say. There should have been some quiet way to sort out the issue. The woman gets justice, the man keeps his job and children are okay.

My opinion.

My neigbour was sick and invited a native doctor. I pleaded with him and begged him to wait for Gods time but he refused, he went inside his house with the native doctor, after the native doctor finished doing his enchantment, he told my neigbour that the sickness is incurable but can be transferred to another person and my neigbour greedily agreed, the native doctor then told my neigbour that the first person that will enter his house he should shout "taarh" and the sickness will transfer to the person and the person will die, my neigboured agreed and the native doctor left in a hurry forgetting to collect his money for the service he had offered. My neigbour sat down in his parlour and kept his door opened waiting for the first victim that will through that door.

The nativedoctor then ed that he forgot to collect his money and decided to go back and collect it. Immediately the native doctor entered my neigbour shouted "taarh" and the native doctor shouted "retaarh" and my neigbour shouted again "reretaaarh" the native doctor replied "rereretaaaarh". This noice started since morning and up till now they are both shouting
"rererererereretaaaaaaaaarrrhhhh"

TonyeBarcanista:
Who Is innocent?

Reverend King. It's a mastermind...

He is innocent.

Billyonaire:

Mention me when your open the thread. Self Actualization ? You need to rephrase that.

That should be self discovery I suppose. My apologies. I was thinking you'd continue on his thread. I can open a new thread if you want that.

Billyonaire:


Everything, you will take charge of your life.
You will love yourself and not desire another to love you more than you love yourself.
As you love yourself, others will see the difference and start loving you.
You will see money as third-party that exchanges for what you want, and if you can get what you want without spending money, of what use is money ?
You will focus more time on what makes you happier, joyful, peaceful.
You will not be scared of being alone, because you are with self, so it gives you time to study self.
Your view of the Universe will change and you will see opportunity in everything.
You will know your purpose in life and focus on it.
You will exit the rat-race and go through life in simplicity and understanding.
You will see others, who have not earn these understanding going through life in a chaotic fashion.
You will decide who you associate with and decode the narcissists and parasites who are solely by you and with you for their supplies.
You will make your environment, a paradise on Earth.
You will understand Death, Dreams and gain intuition direct from source to handle life's opportunity, without without involving in the chaos that others generate.
There are countless benefits.

Hello Billyonaire, I sent you a mail and you ask that I start a thread and mention you.

I think this thread is a good place to start. You mentioned the end result of self actualization and the benefits. My question now is where do I start?
Thank you.

flyca:

You will submit your details first. Aftrr the first free month, they authomatically start charging you.

You can cancel it before the end of the free month.
The point is, find a way.

Intelligentdude:


To bring it home,if you are a graduate of Electrical Engineering, and you just concluded your service,it won't be wise to go sit at home. After doing all your CV submissions and while waiting,you can attach yourself to that "illiterate" Electrician (in quote)in your neighborhood.
The experience and technical skill you acquire will differentiate you from other applicants in subsequent interviews.

I like this part. Get busy while you're waiting. Thank you.

Modified:
While I was waiting for my dream job, I got another job and after six month on the job I resumed to my dream job.

konshency:
Nice one... Tnx for d inspiration

Thank you. I'm glad you're inspired. Thank you.

flyca:
Getting to top management is not that easy. LinkedIn charges some money before you get to them. It even has grades depending on who you want to meet. Prenium , Diamond etc

You can get a top person for free at least for a month before linkenin starts charging. Also by top person, it could be a manager or senior manager. Not necessary a CEO or board member and you can get these guys for free.

soberdrunk:
In Nigeria the easiest way to get your 'dream job' is to 'go to bed' and 'dream' about it.........


Ps-No offence OP but you are displaying so much 'optimism' like all those 'ajebutter' children that attended 'private universities' where they have been made to believe 'the world is theirs', unfortunately in Nigeria today the 'success by merit' percentage is very very low.....

If you know my story you won't say that sir. I finished secondary school when I was 16 and didn't graduate till ten years later. Got my graduate job when I was almost 28! Being optimistic has paid off for a lot of people like me.

You choose bro. Choose life, the good one.

The next logical step after schooling (or NYSC for Nigerian graduates) is to get a job. This is usually not the case for most job-seekers. Many of them have to wait from between one to ten years before landing a "good" job.

Personally for me I don't believe there are no jobs. The challenge most time is how to get the available jobs. The truth is that people get new jobs every day. People are promoted every day and the posts they leave behind are still vacant. Businesses are being ed on a daily basis (na spirits dem employ?).

After establishing the fact that there are jobs, the next thing is to have a plan and a definite strategy. You must understand that the conventional way of getting a job will not work for everybody. Your chances in the conventional ways are limited because of the population of people looking for the same thing you're looking for. Some even have better qualifications than you. That's why you need to strategize!

How to plan and strategize

The economy is divided into sectors/industries, these industries are sub-divided into firms. What you studied might not be found in every firm (unlike ing or IT). So you have to identify the firms that need your skills. Get the details of these firms, their names, location, what they do etc. This information will guide your approach. Prepare a good CV and cover letter. Don't wait for them to ask you for your CV. Don't send soft copy only. These companies receive thousands of CV online daily. Go to the company physically.

Don't just give your CV and Covet Letter to the gatemen/security, not the receptionist not even the HR (in some cases). Try and get it to a top management staff, or a P.A to the MD. You can get to meet a top person who works there on LinkedIn.

The idea is to get their attention at all cost. This will land you an invite. The other process of test, series of interviews, etc, you'll also need to be well prepared.

I challenge you today, go and make a difference. Get that dream job. Don't reduce your expectations.


Shalom!

http://paulipopor..com.ng/2013/09/how-to-get-your-dream-job.html

ksstroud:
Hmmmmmmm but I wanna live at ikoyi or oniru

I'm sure you get the message I'm trying to . You can choose to live anywhere, just make sure you do the maths and don't be penny wise....

So you are a single guy, working on the Island, earning at least 100k monthly and you are contemplating whether to live in Iyana Ipaja or Maryland, Egbeda or Yaba, Abule-Egba or Surulere, Okokomaiko or Ikeja? Let me help you break it down.

A lot of factors need to be considered before making this decision. Most young people I see consider the huge rent they must pay to landlords in the “mainland highbrow”. This is where they get it wrong! You don’t consider that first, you need to sit down and do the calculations. Have you considered the transport fare you will pay daily to and fro work? How about the Danfo and Conductor Wahala? Did you consider the number of hours you will spend (waste) on the road to and fro work? Proximity to everywhere? How about the health implications?

It is usually not advisable to spend more than 30% of your salary as rent. So, you have 30k from your 100k monthly salary which is 360k to pay for your rent. I am sure you can get a decent self-contain apartment in the “mainland highbrow” for this budget. You can plan the rest of your budget on the remaining 70% and still live a comfortable life here in Lagos. Please try not to spend more than this except you are willing to make further sacrifices from other areas.

You deserve to be comfortable and you need some time to yourself to think. You need to have time to engage in other of life’s activities and not wasting 5 hours in traffic everyday wishing life was fairer even when you could make it fair for you.

I will leave you with this conversation between a guy and his girlfriend.

Girlfriend: Do you drink beer?
Guy: yes, I do
Girlfriend: how many bottles per day?
Guy: 3 bottles
Girlfriend: How much is a bottle?
Guy: 300 Naira
Girlfriend: That’s 900 Naira every day, 6k every week and 25k every month?
Guy: Yes, that’s correct
Girlfriend: How long have you been drinking
Guy: 20 years thereabouts
Girlfriend: That would have been 302k annually amounting to N6m and with interest in a savings would have been about N10m to buy a brand new car!
Guy: Do you drink beer?
Girlfriend: No
Guy: Where is your brand new car?!
Girlfriend:

http://paulipopor..com.ng/2017/04/choosing-to-live-in-iyana-ipaja-or.html

seunmsg:
Based on logistics, Efe with no talent is the winner. Sums up why Nigeria is messed up. Mediocrity over talent and competency.

Bbnaija is not a talent show. Housemates were just to live their lives. No need for comparism.

Its okay to be frustrated.

Finance has been identified as a major factor in any relationship and more so in a marriage relationship. If not properly checked money issue can trigger arguments, fights and ultimately separation/divorce. It is important to discuss this issue as soon as you are getting attached to that special somebody to avoid unnecessary toxic air.

From my little experience and observation in life, I have identified three (3) different ways I have seen families manage their finances. I will only highlight the three ways while you determine which you prefer and what will work for you. Since you are in a relationship, I have assumed that you love (you noticed I did not use trust) each other.

First of all, we have the relationship where the man is the all-in-all. This category is where the man’s money is our money and the woman’s money is her money. A lot of women prefer this as it gives them undue advantage even when they earn as much as their man (if not more). To this categories of women, #wehdonema. That said, this actually works well for many “already made” men and men that have full time house wives.

The t relationship. The individuals in this relationship practically open an they call, “John and Jane” , where they contribute a portion of their monthly earnings into. No one is bothered by the balance in the other person’s (?).This works well for couples that do not want their spouse to know what they earn or just want their personal space.

The last but not the least is the relationship that manages their monies together. They both know what the other person earns and plan their spending around the “our money”. Here, there is no hanky panky, no suspicion, no “my money”, it is everybody’s money and everybody know the plan and the limits. This works only when there is TRUST (you noticed I did not say love?) in the relationship.

There you have it. It is good you understand your relationship and what will work for you. You actually need to have some conversation around this and decide on the best option. There is always room to adjust and readjust until you get the perfect option.

Bless you.

http://paulipopor..co.uk/2017/04/understanding-finance-in-relationships.html

sar33:
Ex-Super Eagles maestro Jay-Jay Okocha was pictured showing his amazing skill in Kenya as Kenyans watch in istration


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2017/03/jay-jay-okocha-shows-his-skills-in.html?m=1

...watch in istration?

In this part, I will be highlighting some of the activities you can engage in outside work. If I may add, you can also choose to close early from work and do some of these activities.

Travelling/Vacation: Someone once said, traveling is a form of learning and I totally agree. However, that motivation is good for those who don’t like travelling for the fun of it. Just before you mention the financial constraints, note that you don’t need to travel far away. You can travel to the next street, just leave home and be away!

Do Sleepovers: Do you really need a breakdown of this? Okay, this means sleep anywhere other than your house. You could go visit a friend, family or hotel. This breaks the routine, helps you to interact with others outside your regular cycle.

Eat out – I know you do this sometimes at work. However, do this more regularly even when you are outside work. At least ones in a quarter, have dinner/lunch with that special somebody at a five star hotel (anyone you can afford), you won’t die! What are you earning the pay for?

See a movie – I know you can watch it online for free. I know you also have the latest home theatre in your house, but please, go to the cinema! The cinema is meant for people like you. Don’t forget to buy popcorn and a drink. It’s more fun to go with that special somebody but if there’s no “that special somebody”, select from any of your random acquaintances or even a colleague, you will be surprised at the outcome.

Learn a new skill – you can enroll in a vocational school. Learn cooking (I know you can cook, but can you cook all the foods in the world yet?), try a new recipe. Learn a (another) musical instrument, etc. You can also learn to do for yourself some of those services you pay for. If for nothing, just do it for the fun, life is short!

Others include; going to the spa, gym, beach, events (parties, karaoke, hangouts with friends, window shopping, sporting activities etc.). You will be shocked at the beneficial relationships you can build from such activities.

With these few points of mine, I believe I’ve been able to convince you and not confuse you that a life without balance is not worth living…

Shalom!

http://paulipopor..com.ng/2017/03/finding-balance-work-and-life-part-2.html

Adesiji77:
Nice article. However, "work-life balance" is a myth for certain industries...

Myth in this case is what you decide. The ultimate decision to take a break is the worker not the industry.

whytediamond:
50% of work places in Nigeria do not Grant even 15days leave, yet you find people work from Monday to Saturday.

This only applies in the Corporate world.

I believe rest and play is good for a healthy body and mind to work and think effect efficiently.

Nice piece sir.

Thank you for the . However are you sûre on 50%?

I'm sure you get the idea of the write up. .i.e. Taking out time off work. Just find the time anyhow.

Thanks again.

Is it absolutely possible to have this in real life? Why is this important? How can one achieve this? I will try to answer these questions the best way I can in this piece.

Is it absolutely possible to have this in real life?

The obvious answer is yes. The work system naturally makes allowance for work life balance by providing what they tagged, "Annual Leave". The annual leave period rages from10 to 40 days depending on organization and rank of the individual. This tag is not for decoration, it is for real! You are not expected to work throughout the year, you need to take a break that is the design. Whether you take your annual leave or not is a different ball game. The choice is actually yours to make.

Why is this important?

Taking your leave is your responsibility if you are serious about finding balance. You need to deliberately and consciously make that decision for a number of reasons. First off, your health! Your body is not a machine, even machines need breaks. You will run down without breaks and that is not what you want. You probably will end up broken and out of the office compulsorily when this happens and the deadline you are trying to meet will still be met, without you! Guess what? Nobody will die if you are not in the office. Deadlines may be missed but that is nothing compared to your health. It is unhealthy to run through the year without taking a break. Nuff said!

Secondly, you need the break to rejuvenate. To rejuvenate is to look or feel better, younger, or more vital. The break make you fresh, think clearly and outside the box, gives you a new perspective to the challenges of your job and ultimately makes you better at your job and life in general. Not taking a break makes you fuzzy (vague if you like), you make silly mistakes, and eventually makes you even doubt your competencies. Spot the difference.

Last but not the least, taking a break from work gives you time to focus on other important aspect of your life. Your family and loved ones need you, they are the most important part of your life not your job or colleagues. Guess who will be there for you when you are being itted to the hospital? Your boss? Your CEO? Think again.

How can one achieve this?

I believe I have already answered this question. You are working to live and not the other way round. Also, that life is to be enjoyed, not all work work work!!! You are special, treat yourself that way. Take a break, travel outside your immediate environment if you cannot afford outside your state or country. You have earned it, you deserve it.

http://paulipopor..de/2017/03/finding-balance-work-and-life.html

How much are you looking for. plus you need to share more details. Thank you.

Jamean:


I will comment, do your worse
ya closing thread, are you a mod? I raise nose for you

I have nothing to say.

SOLD! SOLD!! SOLD!!!


Please don't call me, don't comment either... thread closed!

Still available. Tomorrow might be too late.

Cha Cha!

You can now inspect the car at Maryland call Philip. 070.Bleep.56.21.

Cheers.

I hear the activities at the border has reduced drastically. This will have a positive increase in the price of cars. #justsaying.

Good great de.al. ready for a sharp bu.yer. #together we will change the world.