NewStats: 3,259,204 , 8,169,412 topics. Date: Saturday, 24 May 2025 at 09:14 AM 3u1t4z

Try buy layers chicken, maybe like three with two cocks, then enjoy eggs for the rest of your life and meeting your nutritional needs of protein in your diet.

Lots of men are sexual predators.

Where you made a mistake was giving in to his pressure. Since you are a virgin, he will wait to marry you before having sex if he truly wants you.

As a woman, you must know that your biggest negotiating power is sex, especially if you are a virgin. No woman who lost her virginity in marriage is seen as a loose woman, it has never happened.

The goal post (i.e marriage) which predatory men must reach before using women sexually is not a price such men can pay. So any lady that made it clear that she will only have sex inside marriage has naturally weed predatory men off.

Every man wants to be a woman's first sexual encounter, and every woman wants to be a man's last encounter. That is the natural order. So now he has achieved the satisfaction of being your first (taking your virginity), but sadly, you did not gain his commitment.

Everybody must understand gender dynamics so they do not loose in the hands of the opposite gender.

Seek consolation on the fact that it did not get worse, such as being pregnant. Now move on and stand still by your boundaries, until the right man comes

Evangelisttj:


You mentioned Africa where the people are warm at heart, welcoming, great food, and super extroverted but most times, people say Africans are loud, wicked, not loving, backstab etc but I’d like to add that the reason why it seems like so in Africa is because Africans aren’t pretenders. They will show anger, show hatr#d if they feel same and are very expressive of how they feel.

You said Serbians are plaqued with the idea that their country is not great. I want to ask you Pansophist, what do you think of our country Nigeria? Would you say it’s one of the best place to live in the world? Maybe one of the best place to live for Africans or what advantages does Nigeria have over the western world? I love Nigeria but there is just too many challenges there.

It is about picking your poison.

Nigeria has its problems, just like every other places. Lots of people are moving back to Nigeria from the west always, and they have their reasons.

About wickedness and all those things you mentioned, these are human nature. People are nice and wicked everywhere. But the wickedness is compounded in a society where poverty is rampant.

IHate9jerianss:


They will then come online and whine about men from morning until night and try to convince younger women to them in their miserydom

Introspection or self-awareness is not a feature common with lots of women, especially the online ones.

No, there is nothing wrong with getting married as a second wife. If there is equality, consent of all involved parties, love and respect, it will work.

Most importantly, make sure he is capable enough to provide for all of you. Polygamy is reserved exclusively for capable men.

The final stage is invincibility lol

Firstly women enjoy waves of attention from their late teens to like 24. At that age, she is celebrity, every man wants her number, and will be spoilt by rich men who will increase her taste, which she will confuse as standards.

Then from 25 above, men will still be coming, but she notice that the intensity men are coming with have reduced, and at this point, most men wont put pressure if you decline the first time.

From 30's, she realise that men actually have standards for the women they take serious. All her life, men ignore their standard just to fork, but now she wants to marry, she realise for the first time that she is broker than the men she calls broke, and men will hold it against her.

From 35 upwards, she will begin to feel the invincibility men generally feel. Men at 35 years of age will go for girl even 10 years younger. Just like she went for men over 10 years older than her.

If she enter 40, then if it is not over, it is a miracle to bag a quality man. Then the real pain, loneliness, and sadness becomes a norm. Whats more painful is that she has gotten used to la vida loca since her teens, then now will be like grace to grass.

Better use your time wisely as a woman. Men are not the problem, it is just nature and the laws of seasons. Most men suffers theirs from birth till even 40's, and women that are still single at that age will through it.

And the more beautiful and spoilt she is, the harder she falls.

She talked about how men were acting all chivalrous, but didn't talked about how women treated such men.

Women with their double-speak. If they say they want a good man, what they truly meant is that they want a rich man. You want a man to treat women like queens, but modern women act like peasants.

I am not sure what to make out of this.

But if her actions so far didnt put you in doubt about her commitment to you, then you might consider letting this slide. Women are petty, she might have changed it because you pissed her off, or for some reason she cant even explain herself.

A girl once told me that she dumped a guy who told her that he travels for a living, only to find out that he works for ubereat (a food delivery man on bike).

papyjaypaul:


This is the way it uses to be until the West poisoned us with fairy tales of Beauty choosing her Beast. It's not 100% the best way but it was a very good way of bringing families together. Today, people want to do it all alone and since they have gone it all alone, they can now see the effect today. On social media, you will notice how people ask the same questions, "don't you have elders in your family?"
People have abandoned family today and they are listening to social media advice.

The Indians are still keeping this practice and you must have seen it in some of their movies where a child brings a guy home and the family rejects it. It is because they don't know him. However, the dangers of family choosing for sons and daughters is INTERFERENCE. It doesn't allow the kids grow up quickly because the families are too involved, this ironically is also shown in Indian soap operas where families live together. A man must know how to create his own family and if he is not trained to be his own man, he will be the baby of the house.

Let's end with the positive. Women don't know they are putting themselves in serious danger if they marry a man you cannot report. He has to have someone in his family he can listen to, otherwise, he will manipulate you and hurt you if given the chance.

I have a divorced relative who married a lady no one knows except him. I dont know how they met, but after I have analysed the reason for their divorce (and the lady disappearing with his four kids to a place he doesnt know), I see why arranged marriage is important.

I also have another friend that have about at least 50 mutual friends with his wife before marriage. Most people that knows her, knows him. The multi=layer security in his marriage is top-notch.

He has so many people to vouch for the integrity and chastity of his wife before marriage, and she has so many people that will call her to order if she goes astray.

If the lady is not a good wife, at least one out of all their mutual friends would have told him not to proceed and give him objective data why she is not fit for a wife.

She cant simply disappear without also feeling the isolation that comes with being cut-off from all her social circle, most who are from childhood.

The probability for such a woman turning out bad is very low, extremely low. Also, arranged marriage has the highest numbers of successful marriages. The evidence is in the statistics.

Lots of women who have lived a rough life will move to a far away city, rebrand themselves and look for a naive, good man. With arranged marriage, you are protected from such women and their antics, because there is objective and confirmable data about her profile.

The worse method to find a wife is when you do it yourself, it sounds wrong, but it is the truth. The high rate of divorce and messed up dating scenes of today is because young people want to do it themselves, and discarded cultural norms.

Finding a wife on dating sites, on the streets, on a trip, etc etc. Such marriage might work, but I am speaking statistically.

To seek truth, we might have to rethink our belief in different areas of life. Even in the bible, there are many examples of arranged marriages. Fore example Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Leah/Rachel, Joseph and Asenath etc

I mean, before you buy something, you always look at the reviews right? So why cant we apply that to marriage? Its foolish to just go pick someone you don't know, or everything you know about her is what she told you. No product will talk bad about itself.

Stayingalive:

Arrangee marriage has some difficulty in it o, especially when along the line you now figured out things aren't as they seem and something people doing the recommendation are doing it at more interest of one person over the other, for example a mutual friend could be more loyal to the girl than to you. so that one sef dey.

it's better to choose yourself and see shege, knowing fully well it was only your fault

The only time when it is better you choose your wife yourself is when you have an objective data about your wife-to-be. The point of arranged marriage in its very basis is objective data.

By objective data, I mean knowing a woman in and out to a reasonable and satisfactory extent.

`Everything you know about her should not be only what she told you, but something that can be confirmed by those that you trust, who happens to also know her very well.

If she told you that she was abused as a kid, then someone that you trust, that also knows her should be able to confirm that. Women have a unique skills of painting themselves as victims so they can hide all the nonsense they have done.

Your average girl that knows you take virginity serious for example will mostly lie that she was raped, when in reality, she is the chairleader.

Women are judged with their past. What arranged marriage does is that it selects women whom the society are convinced that they preserved their value.

Since women are born with their value, you cant afford to marry a woman that have destroyed hers with all manners of things she engages in. If she is a virgin, the better.

Marriage is serious business. It is not something you enter becuase there is ''connection'', she is your spec, she can speak english and she is educated. All these things are secondary.

There are hardcore boundaries that a woman you should marry must not cross, and thats why objective data about her past matters. If you cant get it, your trusted family should help you.

Becuase when marital issues occurs, specs and all those artificial nonsense will dissappear. As a man, you should be able to beat your chest and declare that no man has had your wife at her best, setting the stage of what she will judge you it.

Your masculinity should never tolerate that, and thats why you need a thorough background check, and also why arranged marriage is necessary. If you intend to marry a virgin, then arranged marriage is the best method to get one.

Lots of men that have problems in their marriages didn't really know the women they married. For example, lots of men dont know that their wive's sexual videos being forked by different men are in her ex's phone and possibly online.

A statistic I was reading few weeks back shows that most cases of paternity fraud are done with men the women knew before she met her husband.

So her past will always be a dagger pointing at the man. What arrange marriage does is to drastically reduce the chances of marrying a wrong woman simply because you dont know her.

I am still scratching the surface while most societies in human history does arranged marriage, but I will stop here.

Sonnobax15:

The werey was still in talking with her ex...... Confronted her,and warned her to stop doing that...But she insisted,that she can't stop talking to him simply because she's in a new relationship..........Na once I jejely waka leave the FEMALE cockerel for the relationship before I go invest more emotionally and financially

The other one posted a video of her smoking shisha in a bar on Whatsapp.....I told her to remove it but she refused.....Na then I realized say na empty coconut head I dey date...

How you take enter relationship with them in the first place? you no dey observe well?

The relationship suppose no start at all, since them get redflag soviet union.

Forgiveness after cheating I can gurantee, but acceptance after cheating, I cannot guarantee

11. Your reputation is all you have, guard and protect with your life.

Your reputation have travelled far before you show up in person, which also determines if the door will be wide open for you, or shut.

You dont have money and you want to do traditional marriage. Are you okay ?

Like someone above said, to marry is cheap, but wedding is expensive. You should marry her, then both of you team up and transcend your current financial situation.

Hope your wife-to-be is not the girl with the mentality of ''I cannot suffer in my husband house'' o, otherwise, your marriage will be like lifting a heavy chair, and instead of her to help you lift, she relax on top, making it heavier.

In the future, you can do anniversary instead, to me, which is more honourable.

Anniversary shows the depth and strength of your union, and how long you guys have come. Its proves that your relationship have withstood the test of time, unlike wedding which in a year time, marriage might end, and you spend so much going in debt.

Zion86:
Thanks for the update, I really appreciate it,
but do you think one can really succeed in Serbia with that 500 euro by paying bill and all that and also is there no room to improve such pay, I guess there must be ways to do it even if it will take some time.

Meanwhile do you think is somewhere you can really live a decent life and feel comfortable with all what life will present., am saying this because on as much we need money, we also know money is not everything, basic Amenities, security, good health e.t.c is still important and lastly do you think is very easy to get their visa compared to others.

Waiting to get more information and details about my above questions., thank man.

Serbia is a country where you will feel even more comfortable than the west if you have money. But to make even than 500 euros can be hard, unless you have a business.

It will even be harder as a foreigner who dont speak the language, unless you work in international companies that hired you as an expert. If this is your situation, then welcome.

Serbia has the same sweetness like Africa, where the people are warm at heart, welcoming, great food, and super extroverted. Serbs will touch you alot while they talk, and can invite you into their house same day they met you.

Belgrade is the party capital of Europe. Its a very fun place if you have money.

Lots of westerners are actually moving to Serbia, since serbs enjoy true freedom compare to the woke west. Just googel youtube about moving to Serbia, and you can get an idea what people are saying.

Serbs are the most patriotic people I have seen. They love their flag, their music, and their food. You can go to clubs and when the DJ play their traditional music, everyone start singing happily and dancing, especially if its live band.

But like most non-western countries, lots of Serbians are still plagued with the idea that their country is not good, and they have to move to the west to make it.

But those that moved always longed for home, and many indeed to move back if they have lots of money and for families.

Stayingalive:

If my prick will not stand why would she be referred mtchew. You made good point though

That was clearly a humour, but normally, your preek suppose stand.

The point I was trying to is that any woman that is arranged for you may not be a product of your fantasy, but she will most likely be good to you.

Most young people are not suitable to choose partners themselves. Young people usually choose partners base on wrong things such as spec, attractions, and lack the experience your parents or uncle have with marriage and how to make it work.

I am not saying all arrange marriages works, all I am saying is that if you compare different method of finding a wife, arranged marriage so far is the best, and the historical date are there to prove it.

Mind you, arrange marriage is not the same thing s forced marriage. With arrange marriage, you can always say no, and ask for more girls to be matched with you.

I have visited Serbia and lived there for two months years back, what exactly do you want to know?

Generally, the country is not in the schengen zone, in the EU, and they do not use Euro, despite being in Europe and shares land borders with countries that are in the EU, in the schengen and uses Euro.

Outside Belgrade and Novi-Sad, there is really not much going on inland in of development.

The people are the most beautiful part of the country. Their hospitality, and you will feel right at home especially if you make effort to speak Serbian.

They are very pro-Russian, pro-China, and anti-Nato.

In all Eu countries I have been to, Serbian women are the top three in of beauty. Their men are very masculine, tall like goliath, and very sporty. Serbia is one of the countries with the tallest people in the world.

You will hardly find a racist there. Serbia is a country I felt absolutely good in as an African. They eat lots of meat, so if you are a vegetarian, you will suffer. If you like meat, then welcome.

Dont talk about Kosovo being an independent country, thats a redline you must not cross. You can be lynched on the street if you say that. Like seriously, they will hate you and the police will ignore you if you report.

Kosovo is a very soft spot in their heart, since Nato bombed Serbia in 1999 and gave Kosovo independence, while building America's largest military base in their territory (Bondsteel base).

I stayed there for just two months, but I made lots of friends I still keep in touch with till date. They are like Russians in a sense that they value real friendship, not the on-the-surface, fake and artificial friendship that is common elsewhere.

It is not a place to hustle though, they are broke. Not Nigerian broke, but broke in a European sense. Lots of people still earn less than 500 euros monthly, and I am being generous with that amount.

But if you want to have a simple life, work and live like a decent, law-abiding human being, its a good place.

If it truly happened, then my rational guess is because the husband can foresee that his wife will loose respect for him, and unnecessary fight here and there will be a regular occurence, since women naturally find it hard to submit to a man they earn more than.

Because their level of achievement or where they want to be does not match their age.

An older woman dont like that question because she instinctively knows that you are calculating her age against her situation, even if you are not doing that.

For men, if they are broke at a certain age, they do not like that question.

The best fulfilment is ''grass to grace'', not ''grace to grace'', or God forbid, Grace to grass.

“I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have ed through life without an opponent—no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you.”

The line above is from Seneca, an ancient greek philosopher. It encapsulates the deep fulfilment you feel when you have proven yourself and accomplished something beyond your imaginations.

If you see entitled people, in most cases, they have never being through the fire, hence, they dont appreciate the bread you give them, and rebuke you for giving them bread instead of gold which they think they deserve.

I know lots of people born into wealth, and one thing many suffers from is lack of meaning in life. Their parents have worked everything and they grew up with a silver spoon.

Hedonism becomes a substitute for fulfilment, and depression lurks at the door.

Yes you can.

When I see those ''miss universe'', or ''miss Africa'', I always said to myself that if I stand on a bridge at Oshodi market, I will count dozens of girls that are way beautiful than them in an hour.

Being a model doesnt mean one has to be exceptional in looks.

Especially when these models uses all kinds of filter, are under heavy diet, heavy makeups, and some look too thin. If you do all these dieting and stuff, you can easily look like a model.

Almost everyone can naturalize themselves into looking beautiful if they are intentional about it.

dominique:
Requirements for Nigerian citizenship aee way more stricter than for American citizenship

And that is how it should be.

Underdeveloped countries cant afford to have easy path to citizenship, because the security risk, and also the local population who needs emancipation are so much.

I blame the groom.

His bride cant possibly dress like this and he continues to wed her.

Every lady believe in their own exceptionalism.

They believe it is other women that will marry the poor men, not them.

Until they get older, and realise that poverty is not a respecter for anybody. The poverty their parents cant defeat is also hard for her and her man to defeat.

Then they settle

olutund:


meanwhile, only those who have experienced her, know what she is capable of, or has done in the past?

in this case, won't you be falling into the same trap you were trying to avoid by choosing through referrals??

How about dating multiple women, and keep spinning plates until you find the one whose characteristics or integrity makes you want to settle down? I would like to learn

Your strategy is also the reason for the dwindling amount of wife materials.

You cant be sleeping around with other men's future wife, without expecting another men to be doing it to your future wife.

olutund:



Nicely put.... However, can a referee truly know a girl thoroughly?

For example, a descent girl in the neighbourhood who lives a different lifestyle while in school
but composes herself when back home.

The more people that knows her, the better for you.

How arrange marriage works is when your grandma refer you to the grand daughter of her friend who grew up in the neighbourhood there with her. Your uncle, grandpa, village people all know her.

They knew when she was born, the school she went to, if she is stubborn and hang with boys in corners at night, etc etc.

The likelihood for such girl to turn out bad is very low. Extremely low.

It is about probability, not absolute. So its up to you to increase your chances of marrying a good woman, and arranged marriage so far is the best.

emmaodet:


You are right but this generation think it is archaic and backward yet we have seen how disastrous their choices are.
I married my wife based on family connection and matchmaking and I have rest of mind.
It would have been disastrous for me if I had picked myself then because 9 months out of a year, I was always at work and won't be able to even date well

Yes, arranged marriage is good for men that work offshores, or men that lives abroad.

Of all the broken marriages that I knew of with Diasporeans who imported their spouse, their relationship either started online, or they met somewhere and just kicked it off.

There was no thorough background checks from those who knew her from when she was little. This is how lots of men marry problems without knowing.

Gerrard59:

People have been so indoctrinated to see ev.il in China and Russia, whereas their presence and standing, especially China's economic juggernaut, is why everyone never turn sl.ave. Sha, I was once like them, so I can understand.

So Assad dey China? I thought he moved with his family to Russia? But how he fell so easily?

Assad visited China for few days in Sept 2023. His visit happened before the crisis that had him fled to Russia.

The best way to get a wife is through referral (AKA arranged marriage).

Let someone you know, that you trust, and have your best interest at heart help you search for a wife. If you choose a wife yourself, you are more likely to choose base on wrong reasons.

A woman that you find attractive can easily as a good wife. Especially when she knows you want a wife, and she may act as a camouflage of a good wife-to-be.

With referral, there is something called ''third-party ability''.The referral has a sense of ability to the outcome of your union, and it is in his best interest for the the relationship to work.

Also, referrers can see things objectively, they know you, and your potential wife, and can vouch for the suitability of both parties. A referrers will not look for a wife through social media for you.

It most likely will be a girl they have known for long, and everyone knows who she is. So you will have no fear if you are marrying a repentant public property. Referral by design will filter the rubbishes out.

The area that you might have to compromise on is on attraction, because a referred wife might not make your preek stand

But in the end, we will all settle. It is up to you if you want a beautiful marriage, or a warzone because you married a lady with a big behind.

Why is your wife chatting with him in the first place? How did he got your wife's number? And lastly, why are you here on nairaland asking us, when your wife should be the one asking us ?

The very fact that you took it as your job to sort this out, instead of your wife knowing that she is crossing a very dangerous line, goes to show the kind of man that you are.