NewStats: 3,264,711 , 8,184,479 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 07:05 AM 6t5n4q

I feel bad for the kids involved in this mess. SMH. Tomorrow they will say they stay for the children. Are you screwing a boyfriend for the children too. Open marriage indeed. What pains me more is that agiboma has even entertained having other children with this man. Agiboma has not seen anything yet. Wait until you start cheating on him too. That is when you will really know that you married a devil.

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Wow, What a post. hmmmm

Tell me about it

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hahahaaaaaaaa, My Own Husband go chop your food, chop you and still beef you. lol. One day i asked him how can you be beefing me and still be eating and licking plate, he said why will i choose to make life difficult for myself? I pay for the food, why willl i go and pay extra again outside, what silly point am i proving?

Correct man.

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Remind me pls. If my husband is a lazy draft playing womanising lay about drunk please advice me on what to do.

Simple. Just stay in the marriage but run around town and screw anything that pays attention to you. That way he will wake up

Amen o

I hope you mean his temperature is hot

DrummaBoy:

Thank you Virick for that inciteful piece. I also thank everyone who made a contribution. My wife and I had wondered. I can't wait to show her the responses on this thread.
I do I agree with Virick on the ability of to see beyond what Adults see. When I come back from the office, and I have missed her so much. I want to go and play with her, but my wife insists I should take a bath. By the time I am through and I want to pick her up, she is sleeping. But If I wait a minute or two around her pram, she begins to move and if I wait long enough she actually awakens (to the annoyance of my wife, who has to breastfeed again). I would happily carry her and rock her till she returns to sleep or till Wify have to feed her again. Even when she was in the womb, when I return from the office, my wife says she begins to jump and somehow is excited.
I wonder how one can still help them retain this "supernatural" ability and not "indoctrinate" them totally.

Thank you again everyone. Your contributions has been so helpful. And for those who said so, I am very happy to be a father. @35yrs, having my first child now is a blessing I do not take for granted at all.

Your wife should hurry up and have a boy because it seems that your daughter is trying to overthrow her. We no go gree

agiboma:

Has she clearly explained her reason's for not taking the kids to school? There seems to be more to this story, that you have not disclosed to us. Does your wife understand the value of education?

There is nobody in Nigeria that does not ultimately have the mentality that education is the key. Unless their father founded boko haram. Even the most impoverished people that live in remote villages want their children to go to school. It just does not make sense

Has she displayed any mental illness in the past? This is not normal behavior. If she cannot get the children to school it is safe to say the kids are probably not eating. There is something more here. Did you pay their fees? Why is she not working? This calls for a drastic solution

Please no comparison. You forgot to mention that there are detours for miles ahead letting you know. Most times you have options of alternate routes. It is not for weddings and naming ceremonies and nonsense like that. The ones in Nigeria are just shameless. I just had this discussion with some Deltans and their attitude to Uduaghan blocking the roads for his daughters wedding was "if a common commissioner can do it then Uduaghan should be allowed to do whatever he wants". Meanwhile they sit in America enjoying the benefits of not having people like that in power

chaircover:

Its because her food isn't sweet

By the time I cook efo equsi elemi meje and my soup pot contains panla and orishirishi bokoto et al and I make him amala to fele and the aroma alone is just killing him, he will be sprinting all the way to the dining room & the rest of the "misunderstanding" will be resolved in the bedroom

3 weeks ke!!! does that also mean no kini for 3 weeks and yet we are sleeping on the same bed!!! some people get liver o!

Dey dia. Who says no kini. He probably has no problem climbing her. It is the food he wants to make yanga with. He probably stole one piece of meat from the soup when she wasn't looking then cleaned his mouth

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You can forward to 2:00

This is how my former principal in Nigeria thought of us. When I ed the school everybody still talked about Mrs. Iweze and her spirit was in the air for a while. I saw things change a lot over the years but it was still a great school till I left it. When I see how much pride she had in the students and the school it makes me want to cry. Not that our students today don't have a responsibility but when you do not have teachers who have faith in you then what gives you that push. Educators today are just for the most part not fit for that responsibilty. I think we need to bring this spirit back.

Feminist is now an insult. It really irritates me when a woman with a strong opinion is considered a feminist for all the wronf reasons. It annoys me more when it comes from a woman.

She should buy him a gift card to mcdonalds. Nonsense. Imagine cooking the food and setting on the table and he refuses to eat it. Hmm. She should try force feeding him. It always goes down faster that way

^^^

stillwater:

Things like this turn sane people into raving lunatics. Whatever you decide to do, do it for your peace of mind. Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured. I see you wrote Christ said we should forgive, but do you know if you remain in that marriage with bitterness and resentment, you will not make heaven o. If leaving would give you peace of mind, please find that peace. If you are long suffering, by all means stay there. But I'd advice you start putting your finances together in case of anything. Obviously he doesn't respect, so who's to say you won't be kicked out one day if you stay.

ROTFLMAO

taryour:

@chaircover,u are very right,

Its not so easy leaving ones spouse as we people think expecialy when one still LOVES the other and kids are also involed,u dont consider yourself alone but also your kids,the aftermath of such experince is very terrible,it affects their studies and social life,some kids dont even forgive thier parents and some females children grow up to tink all men are the same. Am sure if we ask single parents of their experience after leavin their spouse,90% of them do not have good stories to tell.marriage is not a bed of roses so is divorse. Am also sure most us here grew up knowing our parents lived together as one, am not saying either of our parents cheated at one time but the truth is they will never tell thier kids.
Have we also given it a thought of if the man is being jazzed? Yes its possible cause this is Nigeria. This case needs God intervention.

Nobody jazzed him. He went of his own free will. I wonder what excuse all the serial cheaters who are not NIgerians will have to give. Jazz ko jazz ni

How long ago did she previously need psychiatric intervention. How are you sure that this might not be post partum psychosis

I think you check out of a marriage after you have done ALL that you could do. I don't think that the poster has done ALL. I feel shehas been lazy about her marriage. Not saying the husband is not a lying cheating whatchumacallit but she also dropped th ball. First of all when she founf out that the woman worked in the office the only reasonable thing was for her to be fired. She did not insist on that and chose to "forgive". She basically told the man right there that she was a fool. I cannot even disagree. If you do not know what forgive means stop throwing the owrd around. Obviously that made her go crazy because she has been obsessively checking his phone and stalking her own husband meanwhile he has a 2nd wife outside that was keeping his bed warm when she disappeared for 4 months and went to another country. She needs to stay and at least show that she has some sense. I am not saying that she should keep having sex with him but she gave him the go ahead to keep sleeping with this girl. I have a feeling that this girl will always be around. It would have even been better if it were different women.One woman for 3 years and you the no so smart wife would wave to him in the morning and probably even tell him to greet your mate for you when he reaches work. Hmm.

feminine A:

If your wife gives birth through natural birth and she is well stiched up (good stiches last heal within 5 days)she can Be Intimate a week later after birth if she is ready. However if she is not be considerate however the woman shld also be considerate don't deprive ur man attention n then sex

Waiting 6 weeks is not inconsiderate. it is inconsiderate for the man to put pressure on her even if it has been two weeks. How can you say after 5 days. That is just not right. If I cut you with a knife and it is stitched up would you offer for me to hit you on it continuosly because you got good stitches just after 5 days. Lets be real. Many women are ready before the 6 weeks period emotionally but don't let lack of discipline lead to complications that might make your waiting even longer. Your insides have to heal. The outside also has to heal. Even after 6 weeks with my first we had to be still be gentle. I was still sore but I had healed. I obviously don't agree that a couple should wait months and even worse until the baby is weaned. Just ridiculous but I think saying that every woman is ready to physically do it after one week might be irresponsible. Most women are not physically ready even when they need/want to have sex

There is not one vehicle there that you can call an investment.

LOL. Months ke. For the most part women can have sex after 6 weeks. Months is just ridiculous. Where did you hear that

Will try the food processor

Innovative

How does hell no sound

queensmith:

A banker wife and a jobless husband? The rest doesnt even need to be read. The answer is a big fat NO!

Try to read the whole story first

What company makes them. i think National made the one we had when I was kid. I am in the US

That's usually what happens. Most men are like putty when it comes to their new born babies

I am sorry but I cannot relate because it was the exact opposite for me. My dad was strict but never really spanked us. My mom was the terrorist and my dad always called her out on it. In her eye my dad just wanted to spoil us but in my dads eye we did not need to be beaten. If all the father only does is come in when it is time for discipline then he will look like the bad guy. If he is also involved in other things with the child then he will have the balance he wants. Children themselves can be very manipulative but I hightly doubt that a child that loves baseball and daddy takes him every saturday and they have fun together will think daddy is a monster. He still knows that daddy will not take any mess but there will be no question that when he gets disciplined by daddy it is because he did something wrong not because daddy is always picking on the child

Not only did he dismiss the fact that she is caring for the baby all day he also dismissed her real work which is whatever business. As if running a business is not legitimate work. You cannot say you will pamper your wife but yet sleep through the night when she has a job (yes her business is a job) and a new born all day. Lets be real here. I was loving the response until that part

If you find out please let me know. I honestly don't think they make them anymore

Na wa oh. So if I open a business in Nigeria I will have to schedule firing squad every friday. Ridiculous to say the least. I will take my employees out for free lunch because all of a sudden I appreciate them more. The bosses even seem worse that the regular staff. Imagine usine a phone and dropping it on the table. hia.


I hate when people lick their fingers and then page a book. It irritates me. From the way they fix their lips and get the spit to when they rub it on the page. Just gross in my opinion. It is even worse when the book is not yours. Thank God for Kindle

Paying off a girlfriend/boyfriends debt is never a good idea. It does not matter if it is for a productive reason or not. If you guys get married then that is something else. Even after marriage you still have to draw the line somewhere.