NewStats: 3,259,774 , 8,170,887 topics. Date: Monday, 26 May 2025 at 12:26 AM 1742f

Eyitayo29:
Please, I need experienced men in long-term happy (not enduring) marriages to share their experiences and provide a blueprint on how to successfully select a good wife and how to be a good husband/father. I need this NOW more than ever please.

I have a strong feeling I know you outside nairaland

SpiritualWealth:


The New Journey Begins!

Yes

Time for Glory!

End of training.

Unfortunately, women who have both virtues prominently are very rare, In fact, almost not existent. One virtue usually supercedes while the other is recessive and that's fair

It's the man's duty to build up the lagging part of her and cut down the excesses. If she has it all sef, you suppose fear as a man.

You just touched an area women don't agree they're at fault o. While in the flow of the relationship or in forming hard-to-get stage, the man is seriously busy watching and hearing things from and about her that has made him know this is not a person he can spend the rest of his life with, not his kind of dream wife but all the money he's spent on her can't go in vain, he has to open the torchlight at least once and shut out

GanagiBitrus:
The man just reduced his life span by 3x10 years.

On the contrary, men who have more wives live longer and don't have prostate enlargement in their later years by recent research

He's my mentor.

An adage says if a child is wise to die, an adult will be wise to bury her swiftly.

The solution is inherent, it's a matter of how smart the man is. The solution is deception.
Promise her marriage and look as real as a super serious dude. Before her brain awakens to the reality, you're long gone on another kpekus bearer.

There's a group of 2 married men with kids each, who contributed to rent a room and parlour self contain in this Lagos, each bringing his side chick there at intervals of one week after each other.. like turn-by-turn, one week on, one week off, calling them their fiancees pretending to be singles. So the girls thought they've found would-be husbands. The girls do not know each other and never met each other.

One acted as the landlord for the other. The other one who acted tenant kept complaining that his rent will soon finish, he's broke and the landlord is pestering him, the girl as a future wife, helped with over half of the rent and the guy bleeped her pvssy within that 2 years terribly.

The other guy who's the landlord did the same to his side chick acting as the tenant calling the other guy his landlord. That one's girl paid all the rent as working class wife material. After 2 years of intense bleeping, they changed apartment and got new girls. A real life story narrated by one of the victim girls who called on an abuse report program on radio.

In every Nigerian problem, there's a Nigerian solution so men should wise up

May their souls rest in peace

Is she still married to the husband?

Oga calm down and stop concluding on the surface. Are you married? There's more to that lack of planning beyond using separate rooms.

I used to superficially blame couples who don't use same room before I married too. But now I can categorically tell you as a married man that there are a lot of reasons couples use different rooms some of which include health issues among others though me I don't

Being in separate rooms does not stop them from planning together if they're at peace with each other. Some couples use different rooms and they're united still. So it depends on why they're are using different rooms. In this case there's more to their separation. They have a strong quarrel between them left unsettled.

BBL originated from there and took it's name from there

Lamanii22:



Oh really? What happened to your bio which says 'You love peace but not without justice' hmm

Are you educated? Please re-read my post. I ed justice clearly.

Perhaps you dropped out of school

DJ Kulet was heard telling Mummy Favour that Emmanuel had been having sex with her daughter for months. The victim was heard corroborating what DJ Kulet said.

Does dj kulet have a child before marriage? If so then they are birds of same feather. With her kind of job sef, I doubt if they'll be attracted to disciplined men. It's good she separated but she shouldn't have blasted it openly this way. Silent walk away is just best to protect her daughter's self image.

He's conversant with ogun state especially. He should extend the love to other Nigerian zones too. He'll soon bag a chieftaincy title in ogun state and I hope the UK divorce syndrome won't default this his Nigerian glory

Hope you're romantic. I only roll with romantics

Carndidlaydid:
Only broke men won't like the chat...

Don't ever pray not to get it right with marriage and pregnancy like this o

South African men are fools. Little wonder their girls crave Nigerian men

lovediehatelive:


Check the original post

He modified it later. He did not include it before

lovediehatelive:


Nope

Which country then?

China.

Always Asians first

Gbas gbos for who no look face.

OR

Do anyhow, see anyhow!

That woman is an example of women who enter marriage without knowing what marriage really means and entails.

It's a married woman's duty to set boundaries and know when to set them, not the man's duty on her behalf. If she doesn't know that, she should cover her face in shame.

It's not new with women. You learn only in the hard way. The huge difference between a man and a woman. Men tend to learn before it's late and problematic

I'll view it at a region. I can't wait to hear the prophecies for next year

He's not against the wedding. He's only saying he as the head of a denomination, pple read a million meaning to see him attending such weddings and it has raised criticisms. It's like being the captain or coach of a team and wearing the jersey of another team. His not attending does not mean he's against it.

Nnamdipapa:


Patience is never a virtue and we were deceived. You have to rush your goals on life in other to achieve them.

Patience is a virtue and it's a great virtue as a matter of fact among other virtues. It's knowing the right time and way to apply it that matters

There's no appease needed for anything. You only miss her and that's normal for a person in love. Get on your feet and forge ahead, challenges lie ahead, prepare to overcome them triumphantly.

They've been married for two years. So I guess they must have discussed their allergies. Perhaps she didn't take it seriously until now.

If they're compatible in other areas except this, then the lady just need a little extra effort to keep it working. First off, she should start thinking of her own business that she would do which should not be a fish business knowing the kind of hubby she has. She can still be helping her aunt for the mean time.

But while helping her aunt, she can find out as she relates with her guy if fish is a business she can continue with, it is very possible to be super meticulous with body smell. Once she's done with helping her aunt, she's not supposed to go to her guy's place straight-away. she needs to go shower using hot water and a good soap and a really good deodorant before going to his place. It would cost money though.

So what I see here is that she's not been able to switch between her job smell and pretty lady's smell. If she's disciplined in that area, she will be able to keep her man and the business successfully. She should learn from mechanics and bricklayers. When you see a light-skinned mechanic dress up going for outings, except you're told, you won't know he's the one.

First I don't know why these comments above quote the entirely long post instead of just replying..

Op you're puting the cart before the horse. You should have discussed the condition of your house with your niece before she comes in. After she moved in, you should have also discussed the matter with your hubby before suggesting she comes to use your bathroom.

Discuss with your hubby to negotiate with the landlord's son that you just want to put a hole down the toilet floor at the back beside the WC and you'll pay the plumber for the pipe that will be used outside and maybe you can share the payment for his services. You don't need a shower pipe n vent inside the bathroom, what you only need is where the bath water can flow through to the sewage tank. Anyone using the bathroom will bathe from bucket.

If you're waiting for the landlord to bear all the expenses despite the cheap rent, you will not get anything done. If you and ur husband can bear the cost alone sef, it'll make it faster. All you need is permission from the landlord. That's all

Lol. This quote and response is funny to me.

The little things that should matter in a relationship means nothing to them and they lack respect...like oga abeg leave me, talk better, do make you go, na you sabi, oga I no dey for all those ones abeg...etc kind of attitude. Like I've been there, there's nothing special in it...blabla. They won't say it, but it'll reflect in their character. It's now left for you to be sensitive enough to know.

A woman catering for a child and a young lady who has never had a child do not have same romance instinct. The single mother with a child will only think of romance or respect when there's a lot of money she stands to gain. A breadwinner woman is not a romantic woman. That's why you'd notice their rudeness to customers in markets as sellers. A lot of them have mouths to feed and fees to pay without any husband's and that's why they're selling and working so you can't price their stuff and expect customer care.

Like they suddenly enter into maturity by force when they give birth outside wedlock and realize there's no helper anywhere to carry their cross for them. Their eyes suddenly opens ffiaam! Na woman weh no get any dependant dey dey respectful and romantic for relationship.