NewStats: 3,265,210 , 8,186,015 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 09:11 PM 4c3d33

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this ).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they ed me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

I believe before marrying her u never see beyond maybe her beauty, elegance etc and u never discuss and ask important questions with her ... Was she working when u are dating, is she financially disciplined, what is her perspective to goal and means of achieving them ....
Men ask questions
Is better now to divorce and correct ur mistake when is still better not when u are totally financially down

I don't like the word force ... Y ... If u are not interested bin the marriage y doing it ...y spending so much on dowry and other things ... U will have tell to abort it or give birth outside... Also u have right to shout on them for the bills ... U have right to reject their bill ..u have right to tell them u met her no virgin ... So Bros u can divorce her in peace ...rather than wasting ur time and hers...

Is it everywoman that is poor ....so dirtiness no fit make them go .....

Zonefree:
I doubt she'd end the marriage if the husband is a billionaire.

A woman will start to notice your bad behaviour the moment your source of income diminishes.

As long as you have the resources to maintain a woman's extravagant lifestyle till eternity, she can never find fault in you. You can even impregnate her sister or mother, and she'll still be with you.

COFFINSELLER:


https://saharareporters.com/2024/07/29/how-apc-leaders-deceived-over-400-women-promise-palliative-rice-took-pictures-them-abuja

they pack hausa women mostly in my area ....with bus and leave them to find their way home they were told to come and collect rice ....Kai those women suffered

Kobojunkiee:
You think cheating on him is the only solution in this situation that is why I asked if you are even a human being at all.

thank u for these ....she thought is about cheating ...u are talking about a ddrug addict here that is violent .... beating u and Las Las na good man what is there definition of A GOOD MAN ... She stated changing him ....did that man ask for help ....has he realized he needs help .... Madam have u thought about your life and that of the children .... someone on drugs ..what if he rapes ur kids ...what he stabbed them ... U are covering for him ...u did not report to ur family ...for how long ..... covering him up so as his children not to know...but ma believe me they will grow and see it but get ready make one of ur children no dey on drugs or abused by their father ..... U love a man more than ur life and that of children .....

ivandragon:
There is an anti-protest ' protest going on in Abuja...

Now they have done thiers peacefully, I hope they will allow others do thiers peacefully too.

this na lie ....for my area they told them that they want share rice for them and they brought bus to pack the hausa women....and lastly they were not aware say na campaign and also ....they suffered them ...no rice ...no money ....they did not transport them back home.

Zonefree:

There's no good and faithful woman again! Women are God's punishment to the world.

those that mean there is no good man and all man are evil what about our sisters ......not all women are bad ....are all our mothers bad...are they God's punishment to the word .... Are they not good and not faithful..... The issue of bastard children never started from these our generation it has started from our forefathers ....na media bring am out rampantly and alots were covered and kept secret....shalom

Is virginity criteria for not cheating....
Is virginity applied to only women ...what about men....if u are so bittered with pple u have dates kindly forgive and have a great perspective to things biko .....those factors listed above are they wrong .....let's be so cere and real with happenings of wife .....the Virgin ladies or women dey marry still cheats.....all cheating partner no get excuse u fit waka commot....thanks ....note sir u are right to ur opinion

BodyCount:
No reason except the fact that!

YOU MARRIED A WHÓRE !!!

A GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT ALREADY WILL HARDLY GIVE YOU LOYALTY AND FIDELITY, IMAGINE NOW MARRYING A GIVE WITH
+10 BODYCOUNT
A GIRL WITH MANY EX
A GIRL THAT HAS BEEN ED AROUND
A GIRL THAT HAVE EVEN DATED MARRIED MEN
A GIRL THAT HAS DONE SEVERAL ABORTIONS
ALL THESE ATTRIBUTES ARE JUST WHAT AN AVERAGE MORE THAN GIRL POSSESS. AND I MEAN IT WHEN I SAY AVERAGE.
IRRESPECTIVE OF CLASS AND RELIGION.

We live in a generation of WHÓRES, failed parents, useless and good-for-nothing girls. Most took this pattern from their irresponsible mothers because if not, WHY DOESN'T IT SEEM LIKE OLD FASHIONED TI INSTILL MORALS INTO CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY GIRLS THESE DAYS?

HOW MANY MOTHERS RAISE THEIR GIRLS TO MARRY AS VIRGINS TODAY?


If she's not a virgin
If she has multiple ex
If you don't know her true BODYCOUNT etc and you marry her, SHE'LL MOST LIKELY CHEAT ON YOU.

SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T RESPECT HERSELF TO THE EXTENT OF SPREADING LEGS FOR MULTIPLE MEN CAN NEVER RESPECT YOU AS HER HUSBAND.

IF YOU THINK YOU'RE SPECIAL, THEN YOU'RE JUST A DELUDED FO0L.

Y is this so hard.....sir communication is important including issues like this irrespective of either is ur family or her family ....u and her and the baby is now immediate family every other family becomes extended .... U less u know the type of woman u marry that she would not reason and understand with u .... As at now ....call her and tell her that everyone needs to go including her mum ....if she is not ready. Bros don't drop money for food it was ur family coming like that she will have discuss or fight u.... That y make we get partner wey we fit talk with irrespective of wetin he be

Is it not time for ur dad to confess these tonur mum cuz u can't.keep her in darkness and call it love .....he never wanted to tell u is because u caught him and question him ....guy he needs to confess biko at least make she dey aware ...to forgive him na her choice .... keeping silent on these and she later find out bongo good oooo

Frost124:
Good day nairalanders, thank God this site is a faceless forum... Few weeks ago my dad told me he is HIV positive, when he told me I was disappointed but I made sure I didn't show it and I encouraged him... Him and my mother has been sick for a while and I certainly know he has transferred it to my mum.... My dad was very promiscuous when he was younger even after he married my mom he was still promiscuous. I am the only child and I have been footing the bills for their medical cares I am just 26 years old and I have spent so much and there is more spending still to come.... My father only told me, my mother is not aware of her health status all she thinks it's just a normal sickness happening to her. I have no one to talk to, I don't trust any friends because I believe when I tell them, they will certainly spread the news and you know the stigmatization against HIV patients, it's not good... I am frustrated, depressed and financially drained, sometimes I stay in my room and cry.... To avoid thinking, sometimes I just drink some alcohol... This issue has been in my heart for several weeks I just had to put it on Nairaland to ease my pain. My father just called me today that my mom has been itted to the hospital, she was too weak to even walk.... Another spending and I am running out of cash, don't know what to do anymore. It wouldn't be this severe if they found out earlier, it's almost late. May God help me and my parents.

Hmmm may their soul rest in peace .....the girls choose the parts of hookup ...every choices with is own consequences ....it is bad .....but the parents of nowadays are also factors contributing to this .....u tell ur first daughter to cater for her siblings while u know she is not working calling her Ada to carry and fend for the family y ..... So much pressure on their children either male or female .....lots of them cater for both mama and papa .... sending their siblings to sch ....y is their responsibility .....aside from greediness, and societal pressure .... FAMILY PRESSURE ITSELF IS NOW THE FOUNDATIONAL CAUSE ....

Smartcitizen:
Oti is the best,

Dapo Abiodun is an idiot.

That guy na real useless being

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Na celebration of joy ... mostly dey kill pple ...make we dey reason as we dey celebrate



Ayo lopayan