NewStats: 3,263,500 , 8,180,358 topics. Date: Friday, 06 June 2025 at 09:46 AM 5l1g4a

schumastic:


you love him, he loves you, he messed up, u broke up, he moved forward, you want him back, he found someone else, he loves her, she loves him also,you think she is a rebound and want our advice.

there is still one more puzzle left unsolved ( you kept aside, the fact you are seeing someone else or is it not necessary or you don't want us to know you dated or still dating someone else) if you answer that ?, then i can give you the advice you seek but until then, you seem confuse and don't know what you want.

Am not dating anybody and I didn't leave him because of another guy... He did something annoying and we had issues

I've been dating this guy for 3yrs...and we have been friends for 5yrs...late last year we had issues because of something he did dat really annoyed me and I broke up with him... I only broke up because I wanted him to prove he really loves me... But I later realized I made a mistake and I wanted him back.. I tried apologizing to him but he already started dating someone new after a month... He told me he still loves me and I know he does but he doesn't want to break up with with the other girl.. He really likes the other gal too... We are still friends and he has been dating dis gal for 9months now... I still love him and am still trying to win him back to me over this 9months... Is this other gal just a rebound galfriend? Should I continue fighting for our love?? should I just move on with my life?? Thanks for ur advice

Heartbreak can kill self esteem... Like you aren't good enough... Gosh I hate it...

Talk to your boyfriend and explain things to him... Tell him how u feel..

Boring thread.. Am off to church

Gosh!! I so hate romance section.... Filled up with foolish annoying kids... Mtcheew

Thanks all for your advices... I guess I was just too scared of being dumped later dats y I asked him dat question... am still young and have other things to focus on.. So I'll just focus on my life and forget about this relationship stuff for now.. .. I really appreciate all ur advices

bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
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Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

thanks alot. .. I appreciate

Mindfulness:
@Myhonor

For how long have you guys been together?

6months

jashar:
Nne.... why are you rushing the stages of your life?
@21. Biko, focus on your life and develop your self as much as you can.
Discover yourself 1st before one man will come and complicate your life (albeit in a good way ).

Oh yeah most importantly. Stop pre-marital sex.

thanks alot

sunnydayasaba:




Go and read your book, At 21 you talking abt future plans, Get a gud grade, graduate and let successful men come running after you. Your not in love yet, your just in lust. Open ur eyes and think with your brain. All you should need from any man now is FRIENDSHIP without any commitment or string attached not some fuckmate.


You can't determine who your future husband will be now, So face your studies so you can determine your grades

thanks for the advice

I used to ire introverts and I dated one but d problem with him is dat he is just too plain.. Sometimes he gets angry for no reason and just wants to be alone... I asked him if I got pregnant for him wat was he gonna do.. But he said he was gonna deny it since we're both students... anytime am very angry wen we're talking on phone, all he does is keep quiet while I talk den I'll ask if he is still there and his response will be yes or OK...he loves sleeping alot.. Loves reading novels.. he is also intelligent.. Prefare being indoors... ppl mistake him for a snub but he isn't.. he told him am expecting too much from him dat he is scared of disappointing me.. asked him if he has future plans for me he said he hasn't tot about such things b4...m thinking of breaking up with him bcus I feel he isn't ready to be in a relationship.. . I know he loves me and I love him too but he is just weird sometimes

Hello landers... I just created the thread because am confused... I started dating dis introvert because I thought dey were d best in relationships... My date is very calm, gentle, a gud cook and very intelligent.. He is actually a medical student in his finals... He is a kul guy but he has some annoying flaws.. He is kinda strange.. There are times he just gets angry for no reason.. This has happened like twice now.... After some time I asked him y he behaves like dat and he told me dat happens to him ever since he was young, dat he just gets angry and won't be in the mood to talk to anyone... He apologized so I 4gave him.. There was a time he dreamt I was pregnant so we both laughed about it den I asked wat if I get pregnant wat is he going to do... All he said was dat he was going to deny the pregnancy. .. I asked if he was serious he said yes and he was being honest with me(don't even know if he was still joking) so I just forgot about that issue... So there was a time we were discussing and I asked him wats going to happen to us after we graduate becus we both stay in different states.. I stay in delta and he stays in ph but we both attend the same sch.. After asking him dat he said he hasn't tot about it but it was gonna be difficult for him to be in a long relationship because we wud barely see each other.. I told him not to worry becus my sis is still around in ph but he was saying he might do his housemanship in lag or abuja and probably be staying with his uncles making it difficult to accommodate me.. I was disappointed with his response tho, so I asked him if he even has future plans for me dat he should tell me now instead of wasting my time... He told me he loves me but he hasn't really tot about dat... He said I was expecting too much from him and he is scared of disappointing me later in d future... He later told me he was going to think about everything and give me a response nextweek....d problem is dat I feel i acted too desperate by asking if he has future plans for me bcus am still young just 21 and he is 24.. . But I just wanted to be sure I wasn't wasting my time with him.... Sometimes I just feel like breaking up with him but I can't bcus I really love him.. I still have mature suitors asking me out but am scared because I think dey just want to have sex and I don't wanna be jumping from one relationship to another.... But dis my bf has not even made future plans for both of us ... So please i need mature advice on what to do dats y I posted it on this section....Thanks all.. .

Most ladies won't agree on dis same day marriage... but as a young lady who understands things are hard these days.. I'll prefare to do my trad and white wedding same day to save expenses,, den I'll use the remaining money for an unforgettable honeymoon but if hubby wants it separately den no problem...

Lol.. .. End time bleaching...

THOSE HERDSMEN MUST GO!!! !!

That girl on green is looking. .. ..

She's right tho... Igbo guys are da bomb...
# proudly igbo...

Maxi112:
lolz


we need to talk privately abt it!


I'm not rooting for anybody for now...

come and route for ladyjul... she gat wat it takes. ... nairaland.unblockandhide.com/ladyjul

Dats something dat cannot happen... Chai... It's impossible abeg.. . I nor won think am...

Please u guys should vote for ladyjul.... she's pretty and she gat wat it takes to be a queen....
Ladyjul where are you

#teamladyjul

Hmmmm.... Just observing... . I think dat ladyjul gal