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[quote author=apprentist post=135462000]Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

My brother, I understand your case. Please give yourself a re-orientation about s*x in marriage. The foundation of your relationship was strongly built on it and that is not sustainable enough. Your wife is going quite a lot and needs your understanding. It seems you're less busy than she is hence your strong energy and inclination to sex. She is trying to cope with daily stress, when she wasn't doing the job, you guys had your time together. She is not cheating on you, neither is she finding the new life easy. If you don't get your mind more productively engage, you may end up sleeping with the housemaid to satisfy this unquenchable quest for sex. If you stop her from working, is your finance healthy enough to sustain the family knowing the challenges around businesses now? Sit with her, and engage on various options peculiar to your home that will work so that both of you will take ownership of the effect. Alternatively, if housemaid option is okay, let it be close family relation. This is an increased cost as well.

[quote author=Edygrin post=133421193]The Port Harcourt Refining Company (PHRC) has resumed trucking out of Motor Spirit (PMS), also known as petrol, after a one-week halt in operations.


Fake and fraud cannot be sustained. The operations of the PHRC appears to be stage-managed. Realities will catch up with the manipulations.

This guy is too low in the mind and reasoning. We have technical institutions that are not functioning optimally. Must we condescend this way to the message? Indians that are gradually dominating the industrial space, did they all go to university? The person talking, how many of his children are brick-layers. Abeg

You obviously have very poor understanding and knowledge about how society works or is stratified.

I will let you ride on the coattails of a comment I made earlier to a similar statement made...

Three things are evident from your question.

1. You obviously don't understand metonymy/synecdoche, so I can excuse your inability to comprehend even though the my reference to 'technical' work force should have given you an idea that the matter relates to blue collar jobs in general which leads me to the next point.

2. You seem not to know that blue collar jobs are the backbone of industrialisation. No matter how many tertiary degrees you have, no matter how many innovations you can come up with, you need people who can put in sweat and blood to do the 'dirty' jobs. People with technical know-how and special skill sets. Those people whom you take for granted which brings me to my third point.

3. You come across as one of those who raise thier noses against honest Labour. You see a bricklayer or mechanic and see the person as sub-human. You think they contribute nothing to the economy.[/quote]

Go and tell that to your grandchildren. Tell them to become bricklayers, mechanics and carpenters.

You have your son as Edo state commissioner of Health, if he was a bricklayer, would he be a commissioner?

Well said, don't mind those lunatics who are looking for the low minds to deceive. They send their children abroad, and discourage others so that they will remain at the top with their generations. Talking from both sides of the mouths. I don't blame them. Somebody here will start ing them. To what extent has he or his likes promoted technical education?

ebubeson:
There are many lessons, opinions, assumptions you may have had from the Equatorial Guinea scandal... You can give yours..

But with what happened, on a sample space, many married women may be living in adultery. So in a place like Nigeria, some of the married women you see around, in your neighbourhood, in your office or maybe religious centres etc, may be living in adultery...

Now assuming, camera was taken for married women in Nigeria, will the case be worse or less?

We have good women in Nigeria.

BIG LESSON- YOUR SECRET LIFE AND ADDICTIONS WILL ONE DAY EXPOSE YOU. SECONDLY, AS YOU CLIMB ON THE LADDER OF SUCCESS AND PROMINENCE, WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES.

OkoAmarashy:


NCNC or AD
Peter Obi is a greedy, selfish and shortsighted idiot and his stupidity has made Otti start looking for an alternative political platform.

This is the kind of abusive words common in Nigeria to express frustration always. Even the "educated" are not left out. Please be civil and professional if at all you're one.

APOPTOSIS:
U Ladies caused it and you gonna fix it.
Men were marrying as much as their power could carry but you ladies discouraged and hauled insults on same men making you wives. Men never complained. Some went for 1, some went for 2, others went for as much as 3 and 4. Rather than encouraging these men, you turned around to bemoan and demean them. Now it has started happening.
Men are now fed up and have realized they can gain everything from platonic relationship without getting married to same girl. Which is better now...?

Europe is phuckt. America is more phuckt. No one gives a damn about marriage any longer. This is for those thinking JaPa would help. Pandemic of Baby MaMa everywhere in diaspora which I find repulsive. We are not reptiles for godsake.
Now ladies carry gadgets up and down yet that natural ordained curdling that comes with warmth, and affection is never there. I overhead a young lady saying she would rather remain a sidechic than be a 2nd wife. I said "Amen" to her prayers.
Is Regina Daniels not happily married now?
Same Girl that was insulted and called names.

Your opinion lacks moral values, and failed to make valid point to establish your personal position. When you write, do your best to silent your emotions which are subjective

Intentional evil strategy to distract and destabilize/weaken the force of major opposition. Wike has never masterminded anything good. He will pay for all his deeds against humanity.

Wisdomkosi:

https://politicsnigeria.com/southeast-governors-have-sacrificed-nnamdi-kanu-for-2027-ohanaeze-ndigbo-laments/

You are so daft to commend Justice Binta Nyako for stepping aside. She has just accomplished her mission and agreement with the former president and preparing to handover to new president's preferred Judge to continue.

Ok

Dhebie19:


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See how Baba Iyabo dey talk like say the rot and mess we are experiencing today didn't start with him.

He's talking about Nigeria putting all her eggs in one basket. Lol. What did he do to diversify our economy as a military head of state and the first and a two-term president after 1999? The man even pushed a third term agenda.

Didn't everyone of them since 1960 abandon agriculture and chase after oil money?

"I believe we made a very, very deadly mistake" - No sir, I believe YOU made a very, very deadly mistake.

When you invited Shell and they told you about the corruption ruining our refineries, sir, what did you do with the power given to you by the people to crush the cabal and rot in our oil industry? You were president for 8 years, what did you do to put the interest of the people as priority? What efforts did you make to change the trajectory of the NNPC for the benefit of the common Nigerians?

What was OBJ's stride in our gas sector? What policies and reforms did he introduce to the gas industry? What were his implementations? Didn't he flare our gas too?

OBJ is saying shit, with all due respect. This is the person some idiots are rallying around because the man they hate so much became president.

Tinubu's bad policies implementions aside, at least for the first time since 1960, we have a brave president who has the political will, muscle, and clout to repurpose our economy. And if he and the APC had allowed GEJ the weakling remove the subsidy in 2011, we would have moved past this pain - Tinubu has a share of this blame too.

There's no going back from here, inshallah. The economy must be rejigged, no matter how pain and strenuous the process may be. History will Tinubu for not taking the easy route of padding our economy.

Edit: Some idiots are quoting me to say trash. The truth is bitter, so deal with it. Some were saying shit about good economy under OBJ. Lol, even a retard could run our economy like he did because of the oil boom. Go and check how much Nigeria earned with crude oil sales between 1999 and 2006. Then compare with next successive governments.

The crazy oil money during that time was one of the reason they all abandoned other critical areas of the economy for oil. They took the easy way and we are suffering it today. They didn't foresee that the oil mania will end, or perhaps, they saw but didn't care because they knew they won't be the ones to deal with the problem. Nigerians just don't think, that's the issue. So far any 10 IQ president can subsidize their PMS and dollars, they think all is well and won't give a f*uck about their own future or that of the next generation.

All you want is government handouts in the form subsidies then you later cry that the country is retrogressing in economic and infrastructural development. One idiot even asked me to mention one third world country that isn't subsidizing their citizens. Oponu, must Nigeria remain a third world country for life, even after 60 years since independence? This is the kind of imbeciles that sell all they have and secure loans to japa to sane countries where nothing is free. Ode!

The country using 96% of our revenue to service loan; shouldn't that be a concern for any right thinking citizen? Instead of asking past governments how and why we got to this point, the average Nigeria won't so far you give them subsidies as if they are orphans. And before you say dogshit, OBJ didn't have to borrow because of massive oil revenue. We started borrowing after the oil boom was over. And mind you, we shouldn't have borrowed to the extent where almost all our revenue is used to service loans if OBJ diversified our economy from the start with the massive influx of income Nigeria earned during his time. He should have been the person to lay our economic blueprint and like I've said, he took the easy route and avoided the hard work.

What happens to your business when 100% of the money you make per month is used to repay loans and the situation is even worse that you are still sourcing for more loans to make your business stay afloat? If you can't answer that, keep shut whenever the Nigeria economy is being discussed.

We are a nation with a f*cking 200M population that can't feed herself, zero agriculture, terrible gas economy, no other viable economy sector, zero manufacturing or production; just subsidies, vibes and inshallah plus crazy level of importation, and you, OBJ, is now complaining that our youths are redundant. Thunder fire you, sir.

You are very biased, subjective and unprofessional in your submission. You failed to respond to key issues raised in the news but chose to vet your accumulated anger thereby derailing from subject. Failure to recognize few laudable strides of OBJ's istration is a discredit to your article. Again,your advocacy for the current istration is not in doubt, hence your possible reason to closed-minded review of the BAT's istration. One of the conditions for borrowing foreign loans from some institutions is the absence of any form of subsidy in national economy. The announcement of fuel removal and it's immediate implementation was suggestive to the aforementioned and readiness for massive borrowings to recurrent expenditure. Without looking at the intentions for the pursuits of all subsidy removal, right thinking mind will ask fundamental questions like, what and where are the phases of structures put in place to cushion the effect of subsidy removal and ensure fuel availability and affordability. None of these was done, and the body language prior to the protest wasn't ive to the functionality of local refineries. I celebrate the political will of BAT to remove fuel subsidy, and also condemn in strongest possible the zero political wills to encourage local production of fuel. Issuance of mere statement to sell crude to Dangote without backing same with executive order for NNPC to act is an unforgivable political deception. Aside OBJ's flaws, he stand tall in key areas. Let's BAT drop sustainable and economic driven legacies, and stop this dashing of monies which doesn't build the economy.

Ok sir. Noted!

NOISE

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