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We are here now praising the op for the love she rendered to a TOTAL stranger. And I ask myself how many of u all here would do the same? (Myself inclusive). This is a wake-up call for us ALL. Please do not hesitate to lend a hand to those in need. And as you do so, God will bless you immeasurably.

*****still following this thread; it's so encouraging seeing this man waxing stronger and
stronger by the day****

God is your strength Serubawon. It is well with you.

Lovemee:

Hello,

pls go over to CSL (that is City Securities owned by FCMB).

Armyofone, tnks, I ll watch out for that.

Sagamite,
there are times when a child tells you lie, u know really it's a lie, u either ignore it once or correct them immediately.  Later on you remind them of that thing they have lied to you about and you caution them on it and to desist from such.  I have two lovely daughters and am praying God gives me the wisdom to continue in training them in the right way.  I am not a tough disciplinarian as such.  However, I use a combination of method in child upbringing. 
The reason for the flogging isn't because of the use of a roll on.  If you tell your child that if she tells you the truth you will spare the rod; and she/he continues to lie even while the rod is in front of her. what will you do at that point in time?

dayokanu:

Who would now flog you for the part in bold?

DK, u no serious ooo na my fast finger. it wont contue or continuous?

CC, thanks anyway. No hard feelings at all. I just couldnt take it at that time the extent she had gone in lieing.
This is actually the first time I had flogged her real hard. I usually use the dialogue method. But what actually got me angry was that when I insisted that if she tells me she did use it that I wouldnt flog but she didnt. It's not actually that my neighbours rushed and stopped me.
This happened while we were at the basement. The most wonderful part of it is that we made up immediately. I told her the reason for the flogging. not for using the roll on but for the denial. I appreciate you.

I flog shege comot my 6 yr daughter body d oda day. The first time I have really given her a thorough flogging. Who born her to lie to me?
My little neice perceived from her armpit d smell of a roll-on and quickly reported. I gently asked her. Did you use my roll on? "No mummy, I didnt. Say the truth or I will flog you. This girl refused. see me see trouble. Oya raise your hands, let me see. Hmm, see the smell. Even at that she refused telling the truth that she had gone to my room and applied it. I was so irritated by her continours denial. I couldnt hold myself.
The flogging was so much sha. na my neighbours come save am. I can not tolerate lies from children.

that's d problem. they never stop once they start
will advise you to stick to your decision anyway, two wrongs dont make right.
but if you cant cope with it, then divorce him.

i remmba whn i was abt 4 yrs or so.  back in the village sha.  i remmba being in the middle of this two of our uncles fighting.  i sighted my mum from a distance and she was expressing this kind of feelings (though she was talking but i just could not make out what she was saying, because of the noise everywhere).  But it was something like this:  if i catch you there eeehnnn, u will explain to me what a little child like you is doing in the midst of two adults fighting.  I needed no fortune teller to tell me wht awaited me that day.  And off I ran before one blow or a hand would drag my little head out of the wrestling ground .  hahahhaaa, each time i rmmba this i see the face of my mother then. horrified look

@ poster
My prayer is that u r still alife to tell ur story.
God in His infinite mercy will grant u protection and make a way of excape for u.

And u this U.S.EL.E.S.S man who calls himself the husband, hmmm, if u happen to be reading this thread, if u dont repent of ur sins and from all
these violent acts perpetrated against this innocent girl, only God will pay u back in ur own coin. A day of reckoning shall soon come.

I dont even know the one I'd prefer
but come o, wether we like it or not, they still (secretly or openly) dey hammer outside
perhaps e go berra make d 's.t.u.p.id' man bring another wife sef, make we rest

@ poster

pls next time u come online state your location.  Who knows? help could come to u from our Nls out there.

flak:


a step further, lets assume i have forgiven him for the physical abuse and if i agree not to work, i should then fold my arms and wait for the day one of his prophets will tell him to chase me out of the house for allegedly causing his job loss ,just asking?

show more love to someone who told him mum, not me, that until i accept to do a deliverance from the spiritual husband, he is not going to have any sexual relations with me anymore, cos he doesn't want an assumed spiritual husband to kill him or stop his progress. the mum came to me appealing that i should do whatever he says for peace to reign. after 5 years of nothing of that nature. maybe if outsiders forsook me ,it will feel a lot more better, just thinking aloud

of course u v foriven him for the physical abuse, cos that's not the reason for this thread. i think it's 'cos of the no work issue and perhaps going thru deliverance from spiritual husband. hmmm, has he been able to keep to his word, as in not having any sexual relations with u? or did u go thru with it (the deliverance)?

@ mutter

u strong o  I have been inspired by your post.  God has really wiped away all your tears. And my prayer is that He will continue to crown your marriage with His love everyday IJN.  God bless.

so sorry to learn of the loss of your baby.  Please take heart and be strong.
I gave birth the first time thru cs, and the second, I was so foolish to believe the quack midwives that it could be without a cs.  it was a still-birth.
lemme not agonise you with the details.  after this, i took in the 2nd month and gave birth through cs delivery by good and well trained doctors and surgeons. 
we have our lessons learnt.  God gave me the strenght to bear the loss of dt baby.  And it is my prayer that he will equally give you and your wife the same strenght to go thru it all.

For advise on time to try again, you can channel your post/enquiry to the medical section.  I believe a gyno wld give you the best advise you need.

We bless the name of our God.
Baba Goddey 22222222222 mch!

I have followed this thread from the beginning and I am being compelled to make my own contribution.

I am one of those that advocate for women to be financially independent in marriages, in case of the unforseen.
I happened to meet a woman four days ago who had devorced recently.  And I asked her "what made you to say enough is enough?  And she said the ex was always abusing her (physically) and the last one that broke the carmel's back was disowing her last baby - 4 months old baby.  Mind you this is the third child.  And do you know something? He does not send money for the upkeep of these children.  He is in a good paid employment o.  Even when the marriage was still on, she receives N15,000 monthly upkeep from him.  Now she is fighting tooth and nail to get a job so she can take care of her girls.
@ poster
if u find it difficult to make up your mind on the issue of leaving at the moment, it is time for you to table these issues to your family.  You cant do it alone.  You have tried the best you could, but it didnt work out.  For how long?  Your husband needs to be put on check.  Also, since he does not want you to work, he should give u some capital to start up a business or something you are capable of.
Goodluck.

Congratulation on your safe delivery.  Greet your baby with a  for me.

God bless her o.  Am a mother too with two lovely baby girls.  5+ and 1+ in age.

Tell us

Just to say that I have learnt a lot from this post.  
From personality traits of individuals to what have u.

But in all one thing is paramount -  "Do unto others what you want them do unto you"
and "To each his own".

Just to say that I have learnt a lot from this post.  
From personality threats of individuals to what have u.

But in all one thing is paramount -  "Do unto others what you want them do unto you"
and "To each his own".

Just to say that I have learnt a lot from this post.  
From personality traits of individuals to what have u.

But in all one thing is paramount -  "Do unto others what you want them do unto you"
and "to each his own".

Just to say that I have learnt a lot from this post.  From personality traits of individuals to what have u.

But in all one thing is paramount -  "Do unto others what you want them do unto you" and "to each his own".

Hello Doc,

Please I need your help urgently!

My baby is a year and half old. Recently we noticed that she has this bad odour from her nose.

It's so bad when u smell the mucus that comes out from her nose.

Please your advise is urgently needed 'cos we are so worried about it. Some nasal test had been conducted (milk nasal test) and no infection
was found. But the smell is still there.

Thank you.

mutter:

she has taken the right decision for herself in her circumstances.
Let`s pray for her, that the man will sober with age.

hahahahaahhaha, MUTTTERRRRR

I cant believe am actually laughing with this ur last statement!

Thank u all so much. I really do appreciate.
I feel encouraged and uplifted by your comments.

God bless u all for me in NL.

NB: Right now, I have come to realise that I can live without him (even being in the same house), cost I cant afford to spend money on another accommodation, that is if I decide to seperate. 'cos I am building a house already, so this will not pay me at all. In the meantime, I am praying that God gives me the strength to bear all this and still find happiness.

Thank you all once again and may God meet u all at the point of your needs IJN. Amen.

I have been married to my husband for 5 years.  I married him when we had nothing.  In fact I can still bet it was for love.  We have had our moments of happiness and sadness.  It has not been a bed of roses.  However, through thick and thin, we have sticked to each other.  I know he loves me or loved me?  Can love be so cruel?  Or does it fade?  We courted for long too before we got married.  And I knew he likes women too just like every other man.  But I didnt know he could go to the extent of bringing a woman to the house.  I am a working class mother with two children and he is a business man.  He had done this before and after several pleading and talking by his parent and sibling, we made peace with each other.  Here again, it has happened.  Please my fellow women and honourable men out here, help me.

mutter:

jennykadry, I wonder just how young you are to give such advice because it sounds like the advice of a kid. Sorry no offence meant.
@ poster. This man is already your husband legally so the church wedding has nothing to do with a display of his love but is more like a religious obligation, the seeking of Gods blessing for the marriage.
When you saw how devastated your husband was you should have stood by him and felt his pain and been a bit more sensitive to his needs.
All you were interested in is ,"the show must go on". I don`t blame you because you were thinking of the costs. Well this is all part of our attitude in Nigeria of always celebrating the big way. traditional, then court then church. There must be a way of bringing them all together to save costs. A young couple should be more interested in having money to build up a new home and not feeding the whole world at a wedding function. 
Marriage is about tolerance and compromise you need to learn that and it takes time. If you had stood to your husband  the guests would have reacted differently and it would not have been a public disagreement but a called of wedding. I think you need to apologise to your husband too. You hurt him more.
The slap was out of provocation and pain and so can easily be excused. I hope he has not done this before though.
You need to be careful not to let this situation arise again because it might became a habit and then the beating could became more intensive.

Good Talk!

Wowwwww, some sort of good news sha!

I took a second look at the pix. This baby sure has some resemblance with the family.

Common, take a look

Congratulation! Cutieeee baby u v got there!

Blow her kisses for me

Hello Dr. Kathy,

Thanks very much. I am so grateful!

Dear Dr. Kathy,

Thanks very much. God bless you!